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Brother going to college :(
14/f
My brother and I have always been very close. We have a great time together and he is my best friend. He is going to be a sophomore in college this year. I survived him being gone when he was a freshman because I found I didn't think about him much when I was busy. However, he is leaving tomorrow and I am so so so sad. I always cry when he leaves to go back after breaks and stuff. I am crying right now because I am going to miss him so much. Any tips on how to not feel so depressed? I start high school in two days so that should help a little, but I am still so sad :(
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I'm having a similar problem as all of my friends go seperate ways for college. What we are trying to do is to set up a pen pal system where we can send cards and letters throughout the semester. You can always call or email but having him as a pen pal would be a just you and him thing. Then you coud have a touchable piece of him to see when he isn't home.
As for depression..Just remember that he probably misses you just as much. And he is always just a phonecall or text away if you need him right then.
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Well, just hang out with him right now as much as possible and don't focus on him leaving yet. When it does come, just remember that you have tons of ways to stay in touch with him -- phone, facebook, email, letters, skype -- and let him know that you want to keep in touch with him. You can also remember to visit him so that you don't feel so unconnected to him. It will be hard and I know this because me and my brother went through the same thing, but it was me leaving and I went to school across the country. It's hard but doable and as long as you focus on keeping in touch, you can do it.
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Have you talked to your brother about this? Or your parents?
I feel like this whenever my sister comes and visits. Nothing bad, just love. But when she was going to college I found it helped some to write her letters (you may prefer emails) and send her care packages. Like a box with food or cookies in it, maybe bring the rest of the family in on this as postage can be pricey. Otherwise maybe use IM or a webcam to talk to him? Set a scheduled time and stick to it.
Hopefully that helps a bit. Otherwise there's not much you can do, they get really busy during college & sometimes you do feel a little bit left behind which is natural because you ARE left behind. But that doesn't change who they are and the fact that they love you dearly. You gotta hold to that.
Ah. I think I'm gonna go and pen a letter to my sister now.
Take care!
Jaelle
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