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No contact?
So my ex boyfriend and i were together for over a year. We broke up for 3 months now and ive been trying to pull him back. Hes had major problems lately and i feel like because of how i keep like selfishly constantly askin him to get back with me that it gives him more stress. And due to that and our argument just not that angerily he told me he has no feelings for me anymore because hes so tired of all the problems in his life like fmaily problems and friends provlems.he told me tjat hes been trying to move on and forget about me but my constant texts make it harder for him. I was wonder if the no contact method would really work? Because i feel like if i dont contatc him he will forget me. Please give me advice on what i should do to get him back please.
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You need to let him go, even if you feel the need to stay by his side, he is going through a hard time right now and it is usually best to be alone and away from the world to fix yourself up, from experience I would know that being alone isnt always a bad thing. Right now, you should let him be, and if when he is renewed and he comes to love you again and you still love him, who knows, love works in mysterious ways, it hurts for a second but in the end it makes you stronger. Dont worry about him forgetting you, sometimes one must let go in order to gain something greater and I am talking about you and him.
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You can't make anyone want to get back together with you if they don't want to.
Honestly, if I were you, I'd let him sort through his problems and stop pestering him about getting back together when he clearly does not want to get back together.
Maybe in the future when things are better for him, talk to him and start as friends and see how it goes from there.
You're being disrespectful to him by not listening to what he's telling you.
I know break ups are tough. When me and my boyfriend of two years broke up, I would do the same thing as you. I was so desperate to get back together with him so I do sympathize with you and I understand how crazy it can make you.
I read this blog on break ups when I was going through a hard time and she was ten times more crazy, she jumped over his fence and went to his door with a robe and lingerie on trying to get him back. It gave me a good laugh but it makes you feel like you're not alone. So here's the link to that just in case your interested in it.
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But seriously, just wait it out and don't keep bothering him about it. It'll just push him away even more.
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If you want him back, maybe just be a friend for now. It sounds like he's going through a lot and may just need a friend at the moment. If you make it clear that you are there for him to support him, it will most likely bring you two closer together. In those hard times, he will think about how you were there for him and it may have him see you in a new light that could rekindle the relationship.
He won't think of you as the person who added more stress. Just be there for him now and maybe, just maybe, it will help you guys down the road.
Don't initiate no contact though because then it could seem like you just don't care. And don't send a million messages at once. Just take it slow.
Hope this helped.
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