Hello..it's been a long time.I start this 6 years ago.. i'm now 23 years old,and working as a babysitter.I may not fit to be Advicenators,but I give my best to you all.I play games,reads manga and also i'm an Author at Wattpad. i'm a still a shy person obviously,hehe..but you can chat or talk to me freely,i'll be listening.
E-mail: Lesterveq@gmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Malaysia
Age: 23
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Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills). (link)
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Without know your age,i really don't know how to give you any advice.You have seen the psychiatrist,and she does not help you.So,the only advice i can give you is, before you suicide yourself think about your family,your parents,all of your friends or people around you who loves you.you are a strong person,you have suffered from OCD ,moved from place to place but you still alive until now.You have face so many things on your life,you can't gave up your life now.
But i have no power to stop you,i only can give you advice.Your choice is in your hand.And i want you to know that there is a lot of people who will miss you.
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I've never been close with my dad, ever. We've always argued. It's probably because we're so similar. I got my anxiety and depression from him, so I guess that's probably because I take my anger out on him aswell.
We argue literally every day. 98% of the time is something negative. I do admit that I call him stupid, annoying, etc. out of anger (I have anger issues). He'll always say that I'm rude, annoying, even sometimes say I'm a bitch (Or that I'm acting like one). It doesn't get physical obviously. Usually I just get mad, go to my room, and slam my door. I am in my room 99.8% of the time. He just makes me so mad. He has a short fuse too. Even asking him a question will make him burst into flames. It's ridiculous. If I ever try to talk about it or say "You need to stop that" or whatever, it just gets awkward and he gets annoyed over it and blames it on me. I always raise my voice and it just gets bad. I don't know how to stop this without getting help or talking to him. Should I go awhile not talking to him? (link)
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Hello,to stop fighting with your dad,first you must control your anxiety and depression.To do that,you have to go out from your house,like hangout with your friend or do a lot of outdoor activity.Also,you can go to the place, that make you feel better and not just think about your father.My advice isn't much,but if you do this everyday you will feel much better than sit in your room 99.8% of the time.
But,someday you will have to face your father and talk to him.Even, he call you rude,annoying and bitch,deep in his heart he loves you and so you.I also have anger issue and i always argue with my mother and my twin.But when i hangout with my friends a lot, do more outdoor activity and travel to place i want to go so much,my anger issue is become less cause i know if i don't get rid with it i will lose everything.I am sorry,if all of this hurt your feelings.
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I've been chatting to two girls over the last few months and a few days ago without realising i asked one out on a date(also going to prom with her)but this other girl i talk to nearly everyday about anything & everything We've got loads of inside jokes(being married with kids) and i think about her loads. I really wanna know which one i like so i can try a move forwards with one of them. Can anyone help? If anyone needs some more information feel free to ask (link)
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Hello there...i think you like the other girl cause you talk to her about anything&everything.You talk to her about anything and everything cause you like her so much and want her to know anything and everything....
I want to ask you something.When you with the other girl that you talk nearly everyday,is she make's you comfortable to talk anything and everything....And is she happy when she's with you...
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Hey everyone, I'm new here. I'm in a really confusing situation with my girlfriend. We've been dating for 3 years and I've always felt and so has she, that we've had an amazing relationship. But a few days before Christmas, she said she didn't want to be with me. I asked her why, she said she didn't know. I pressed her a bit and she said she felt like she loved me but wasn't in love with me. I don't know what to make of that. So I let it be, we broke up, didn't see each other until a couple days ago. We had been keeping in contact through text, but not on a regular basis.
When we met up, she said that she needed to know how to be happy by herself before she could be happy in a relationship. She said that she doesn't want to depend on me for her happiness and she doesn't want to form attachments with people. At the same time, she said that she can't imagine another guy who would treat her the way that I do and that no other guy would ever compare. She also said that she still pictures herself being married with me. I asked her if she loved me like a brother, and she exclaimed "god no, don't ever say that again." Then I asked if she wasn't physically attracted to me anymore, and she said she even after three years, I still find you so hot that I can't maintain eye contact with you because it's intimidating.
I even put all the stuff that she's gotten me, every little memento from our relationship into a bag. I brought it with me, I showed it to her and I asked her to go throw it out in a dumpster if she truly wanted to end the relationship. She told me to do that instead. I said no. She asked why and I said because it means too much to me. Then I asked her the same, and she wouldn't respond.
She was always open with me about everything, even though I may not have been, and the trust, love, attention, fun and everything was there. She wasn't the most confident girl when I met her, but over the course of our relationship she's become a lot more comfortable with who she is. I'm not trying to brag, but I have a feeling it has a lot to do with. I've always been supportive of her, I've showered her with little gifts and small cheesy things like little love letters that she adores. I did all of that to show that she means the world to me. Then when we met, she said that she felt like she couldn't compare to me. She felt that I did too much for and she did so little. But I assured her that she never made me question her love for me. Not even once.
We're meeting up again at the end of the month to see where we stand. What do you guys think? I'm just in search of a little hope that she's just really confused and she'll understand that and we'll work through this. (link)
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Hi there,i understand what your problem is.I think both of you can go through it.Maybe your girlfriend needed some time to think over it.And i think,you should give her some more time to think over it.
It's been 3 years you were together.And you do a lot of things for her and you even change her life.I am sure that, she will understand.You have done a lot of thing for her,i am sure she will not just forget you.Cause when she with you,you makes her comfortable with who he is.
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How do I know if a guy likes me? I'm in 8th grade & 13 years old. (link)
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Hello there,you will know the guy likes you if she always support you when you in trouble and always asked how are you,or doing things to make you like him.And if you still not sure,if she likes you or not,asked him.
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I'm from the Philippines and I'm 13. Sorry If I have some grammatical errors.Sometimes in school I just feel like I'm no one. No one ever talks to me unless it's really important. I can't understand. I tried my best for them to notice me, but they don't. I have a few friends, but I they aren't just the friends that can really 'understand' me.
So let me describe myself. I'm pretty (others say) but I'm short and chubby, I can draw well (one of the best in my class I think), I can play the guitar and piano,and I'm an honor student. I think I have a good attitude, but sometimes I'm just shy. I also love books and I'm in different 'fandoms' like I'm a Directioner, a Swiftie, and fans of fiction books like Harry Potter and Percy Jackson. I'm really not the girly girl, I don't like girly fashion like others do.
I just can't understand. Are they avoiding me because I'm shy? Or is it because I'm chubby? Or because I don't like fashion?
I also hate it when they compare me to my sister. She's a year older than me and she's pretty to. We are exactly the same except I'm into fandoms and books and she's into girly things and love stories. I can say she's kinda popular in our school and my classmates adore her. I can't understand why they don't act like that when it comes to me. Not that I'm jealous, but sometimes they don't treat me as me. When others see me they're all like "You're Anna's(not her real name) sister right?"
I tried to be into these girly things, love, etc. But I just can't. I don't really like those stuff.
Sorry if this is kind of confusing. >.< So what can I do to have friends? To make them notice me as I am? Should I change? Please. I need advice. (link)
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Hello there,i think you should change, a bit.I know you don't like a girly fashion,but you should try maybe you will like it.You're pretty,intelligent and smart,if you change to a girly fashion,they will notice you.If you like books like Harry potter and Percy Jackson you can still go on with it,it's a good books.I like it too.
I don't know if this will help you,i can only give an advice,it's up to you what you gonna do.
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Do other people see my username when I'm logged in and I ask a question? (link)
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no,we don't see your username.
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Hey everyone :)
I'm sorry if I offend you in any way in this question.
I started to think it would be amazingly problem solving if the world did end on December 21.
Now there's something you all need to know before you answer this, angrily.
I'm a very happy person, I love my family, I love everyone. I just see my life, & everyone's life, as pointless. Everything I care about, everyone I love, is not permanent. Everything dies, nothing lasts forever. So I don't see the point in caring so much about a life that is so unimportant as the ones we lead. This is something that really worries me at times. I feel like my thoughts are very negative, me being the happy, very grateful & thankful person that I am. My own thoughts confuse me sometimes, though.
I think that with all of these people I see on Facebook with completely naked pictures & people saying they hate their parents, bath salts, babies with iPhones, people who don't say I love you to their parents because its "embarrassing", crimes committed every day that involve deaths, people with no confidence, peer pressure, jealousy, addiction, teen pregnancy, rape, shooting in a theatre, shooting of children that could be the next president one day, & just
negativity in general.
I'll tell you one thing. When people commit suicide, I don't feel bad at all. In fact, I don't respect the idea of it at all. It's kind of even funny to me. The only people I would cry over taking their own life is a schizophrenic. They all have a good reason to want to die. They're trapped in their own brain. The brain is such an important thing to have control over. It literally summons up everything that ever happens for you (if you're confused, watch the movie "The Secret") and to not have control over it, you're basically as good as dead, anyway
People take things for granted. I would never take my family or my friends, or anyone who wants to be around me in general, AT ALL for granted. My life is too important to me for me to be spending it with hate.
Keep in mind, I want to live my life. I want to be happy as much as possible. But I can't just sit back & not say anything about the very sad & careless things that happen every day, & the crimes committed toward innocent people every day. This is my first attempt at saying something. Feel free to call me names, speak your mind. I want to know what people think.
Is it bad that I feel this way? Am I the only one? Am I wrong?
Any comments/opinions are appreciated.
If in any way, this upsets you, please let me know why.
Thank you for reading :) & have a nice day :D (link)
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Hey there,it's not bad if you feel that way.And you are not the only one who think in that way,i feel it too,but it's wrong.....
You may see your life and your family life is a pointless,but to someone who believe in God.They are really-really appreciate it,cause God have give their chance to live in this beautiful world.
Yes,everything live's in this world will die when the times come's.But When we still alive,we should do something that can make the God think it's not a waste to create us to live in this beautiful world.
And it's not funny,when people feel bad for someone who's taking suicide.Based on my experience to see people taking suicide,when i see they suicide himself i feel bad.I feel bad because,they cannot go on with their life and they think suicide is a way to get out of their problem.
All people in this world want's to be happy as much as possible.But we will not feel happy if we haven't face a sad thing,terrible thing and a challenge in our life.Because the happiness is only come when we face all of it.And you should know the happiness would not come without a courage to face your life that have been given to you.
To wish this world did end in 21 December.When we have a big problem in our life,the only thing we think is we wish this world would end but you know what,after we face the problem and it's end good we will wish this world will never end.Believe me,it's true.
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my bestfriend for years has been distancing herself from me and hanging out with other people. i have tried to join their group but they seem to have too many inside jokes, and don't really want to include me. i don't want to sound needy, but i have only had that one best friend for years and never had the intention of becoming close with anyone else. i don't have anyone to talk to now, or hang out with, i don't even know what to do with myself, now that i have all of this free time. what should i do? :( (link)
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You should go make a new friend.If you have a family,you should go hanging out with them.Like go to picnic or something.
If you really-really dont know what to do,then.You should do more activity like you always do when you have a free a time.
Or, if you have,ambition.You should do something that can make your ambition came true.Its exciting you know..cause its full of travel.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. We're both in our 20s. When we met, we took things slowly but he was always more in favor of a committed relationship. It's not that I didn't like him, in fact, I liked him a lot, but I had just gotten out of a controlling relationship a few months prior and was enjoying my freedom.
Well after a several months of casual dating, we made it official and he has made this past year my happiest one yet. We have had maybe 2 arguments since we met; we agree on almost everything! Seriously, I have been in absolute bliss. We make each other laugh and I've found that what I have with him is what I've always wanted.
However, something lately has bothered me. I got drunk te other night and looked in his phone.. Which is something I'd normally never do- especially since he's never given me the slightest reason to not trust him! But I opened one message and it was from a girl wishing him happy birthday. They made small talk and he said "I wish I could see you." She brushed it off and he never texted her after that. He came in the room and I started crying and asking him if he ever cheated on me or wanted to (again, I was pretty intoxicated) he apologized and said it meant nothing.
I apologized the next day for looking through his phone (he understood and wasn't mad since it was very out of character for me to get jealous over something so small) but I also told him that he needs to watch what he says to other women because even though he may think it means nothing, they probably won't. It makes him look tacky and it makes me look like a fool.
I thought everything was fine until I saw on Facebook today he like this girl's picture. It was a very pretty girl, looked like a professional photo. I wouldn't usually think anything of it except that he rarely even uses Facebook or likes people's pics.. So why now? And why her's? I'm probably over-thinking it but after the recent argument I'm not sure.
My boyfriend has expressed to me that I am the one he wants to marry and all signs have pointed to that conclusion. Am I over-analyzing too much? Because I feel like he is losing sight of what he already has and is being careless. I feel like I'm crazy for even obsessing over this but I also don't know if there's something I should be doing to make him realize that I'm not replaceable. I need another perspective! (link)
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Hello there,i think you talk to her.And discuss with him.Maybe she losing sight and everything she has,has being careless because have to take care of everything for your wedding.If you want to make him realize that you are replaceable,then you should do something that can atract her attention and go out with her, like go to picnic,beach,and other...
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I'm in love with a girl who just told me she had a crush on a guy. She found out some people at my school were bullying me, but it wasn't for being a lesbian, she doesn't know i am, but their bullying did lead to some serious problems... self harm and starvation. I used to eat one bowl of veggies a week, just plain boiled, and overdose on coffee at all other times. I go to a boarding school, so no one cares, but now that i am back, my friend here is noticing, but i'm afraid if i admit it to her, i might let the fact that i like her slip. I've told her everything else, and she was there for me when my family wasn't when one of my friends killed himself. Should i open up to her, because that would really help me? or should i leave it, because she might find out the i like her? (link)
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I think you should open up to her...its not a crime to like someone.And if that can help you,you should open up.If you tell her about you,i think she will understand.And both you can become a best friend..brave yourself.
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What is the name of sllping pil (link)
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Hello, there..i dont know the name of sleeping pill..but why do you want to die.If you are not happy with your life,then do something that can make you happy.Have you think about your family before you say you want to die.
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I'm a 13 year old nerd girl, and I need to know how to get a nerd boy to like me, or at least how to tell them I like them. (link)
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know what the boy hobbie,what type of girl she like,and anything about him.And then,try to get her attention...if you get her attention,then say that you like him..
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My sister says I have irrational fears. (4 phobias, and 13 fears) I would like to go to the school counsellor about them but I (unfortunately) am too scared. Like, I don't want to waste her time or interrupt her. What do counsellors talk to you about? What do they do to help you? Does anyone have answers to these questions? All advice appreciated. :) (link)
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Dont be too scared..talk to counsellors about your problem and she will try to give you some advice that can help you..dont worry about wasting the counsellors time,the counsellors job is to help people and hear their problem and give they advice that can help them through their problem..
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this girl said i was mean after making a playful comment to her which kinda came out wrong... lol. what should i say to her if she ever brings up me being mean again without sounding like a bitch. thanks (link)
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said i am sorry..and explain to her that you not mean to..
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My 'friends' are really mean to me lately, patricularly two guys. Granted, one is my ex and I turned down the other, but they're both really very mean to me. They call me things such as sl-t, b-tch, and lesbian (obviously I'm not, I dated one of them, though I do have a pixie cut) every day, usually in my homeroom, where they both sit next to me. I try talking to my best friend (who is dating my ex) but she tells me its my fault. I tried talking to them today at our lunch table, and I called them mean, and they acted shocked and told me I'm the mean one, and everyone agreed (I almost started crying ), except for my best guy friend, who told them to shut up (love him). ...
The thing is, is that I /can/ be really mean. But I don't try to, really. I have bipolar disorder, and have struggled with depression since I was little, and anorexia at home and bulimia at school (I'm a mess). I think I'm pretty sometimes, though, so when they call me ugly I'm not too annoyed. It's just when they say I'm mean. I want to explain why and say that I'm sorry, but I obviously can't :( How do I deal with this? Because even though I hate them, I would die for them. (And yes, I do therapy, and blah blah blah, etcetera).
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I'm NOT a sl-t, because I've never even held hands with a guy, let alone kiss one, and I havn't had a boyfriend for two years. The guy I kindof turned down tells me that I'm really desparate, but I never even speak to guys, I'm so insecure!!
Can you guys and gals and men and women please help me with this whole problem? (link)
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You have to be brave to tell them..and just ignore what they say about you,i am sure they will forget it..if they say all the stuff to you,why do you would die for them.seriously you dont have to be friend to them cause if they say like that,they are not friend...
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I am feelng very bad this days.. Noone understands me.. I hate my family... I want freedom.. I don't have any friend... My life is a waste... Plz someone help me... (link)
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Your life is not a waste..if you feel very bad,then find something that can make you happy..Dont hate your family,they love you..if you want them understand you,you have to talk to them what you want,and discuss with them your problem,so they can understand you..
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