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being bullied/ bully?
13,f
My 'friends' are really mean to me lately, patricularly two guys. Granted, one is my ex and I turned down the other, but they're both really very mean to me. They call me things such as sl-t, b-tch, and lesbian (obviously I'm not, I dated one of them, though I do have a pixie cut) every day, usually in my homeroom, where they both sit next to me. I try talking to my best friend (who is dating my ex) but she tells me its my fault. I tried talking to them today at our lunch table, and I called them mean, and they acted shocked and told me I'm the mean one, and everyone agreed (I almost started crying ), except for my best guy friend, who told them to shut up (love him). ...
The thing is, is that I /can/ be really mean. But I don't try to, really. I have bipolar disorder, and have struggled with depression since I was little, and anorexia at home and bulimia at school (I'm a mess). I think I'm pretty sometimes, though, so when they call me ugly I'm not too annoyed. It's just when they say I'm mean. I want to explain why and say that I'm sorry, but I obviously can't :( How do I deal with this? Because even though I hate them, I would die for them. (And yes, I do therapy, and blah blah blah, etcetera).
other info-
I'm NOT a sl-t, because I've never even held hands with a guy, let alone kiss one, and I havn't had a boyfriend for two years. The guy I kindof turned down tells me that I'm really desparate, but I never even speak to guys, I'm so insecure!!
Can you guys and gals and men and women please help me with this whole problem?
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You have to be brave to tell them..and just ignore what they say about you,i am sure they will forget it..if they say all the stuff to you,why do you would die for them.seriously you dont have to be friend to them cause if they say like that,they are not friend...
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They're not friends.
The thing is, you don't act one way just because someone acts that way to you.
I knew a girl in high school who was in our group of friends. She was mean even if she didn't mean to be. I didn't really care for her, but I wasn't going to act like that right back. It just makes you just as bad as they are.
No one deserves to be called names, especially by people who you consider your friends. If they do that, they aren't your real friends.
Your best friend is wrong by saying it's your fault.
So the best thing to do in this situation is talk. You're bipolar, but obviously you can't go around being mean to people and then using it as your excuse. I know your not trying to do that, but I do know some people who do. Anyways, it's going to be extra hard for you because of this disorder. You need to work ten times harder at treating people right. They'll never understand because they're not going through it. So you're going to have to try really hard to do this.
This is what you need to do, you need to go apologize to these guys. Tell them you know you're mean sometimes, you never meant to hurt them, and you're sorry. Obviously, they should also be apologizing but I doubt that will happen since they think it's justified. So after that, don't hang out with them anymore. You don't need people in your life who talk to you that way and make you upset. Find friends who treat you right.
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Okay well obviously you need to check your choice in friens.. like seriously. but i also do have the same problems. I love my firends but they call me mean when i didnt do shit. There are 2 things you can really do here..
1) talk to each one alone. So they dont have to act cool infront of eachother. ( fake bitches)
2) take a break from them.. really cause then theyll be like wered she go and then come running back too you.
from my experience i chose the second one cause the first one wasnt working, and then they all came running back.
Also you shouldnt be a shamed of your bipolar disorder believe me everybody has it but they just dont realize it too..and when they call you a slut be like you know i would care if i care about you.. but i dont so there and then ust walk away cause there not worth your time.
and i bet your soo funny and preety that many other people would want to hang out with you ]
well goodluck.. if you need anymore advice im here.<3
Sincerely,
Nobody :)
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