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I'm always afraid someone will die
20/f
As the title says I'm always afraid that someone close to me will die. Whenever my boyfriends phone is off or he isn't answering I imagine him being in a terrible accident. Whenever he's late I think the same thing. Or I think he just dropped dead. The same thing goes for my mom when she doesn't answer the phone. I don't know what's wrong with me. I've never had anyone close to me die or anything like that. I've never lost someone I love before so why is this always happening? Right now my boyfriends phone is off and it's probably because his battery is dead. He should be home by now but he's not which probably means that he just had to stay a little longer at work. But I'm still sitting here with an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach that something terrible happened. I actually thought about what I would say at his funeral. What can I do about this, it's driving me crazy :(
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Like the others said, you need to find ways to occupy your mind.
I'm not gonna lie, I do sometimes imagine someone I love in some sort of accident or just died. I don't do it every time they don't answer me though. Like you said, you even thought about what you would say at his funeral. I've listened to music that had to do with someone that they love passed away and I'll go through a ridiculous long day dream about the whole funeral and such.
I think you're thinking about it a lot because it never happened to you and we all hear about these kinds of things quite often.
I've thought about it a little more since I had gotten a call that my dad was in the hospital because of some freak accident and he might not make it.
So as someone who can say they've been where you're at, you just need to occupy your mind and make sure you tell everyone you love them while you still can.
If for some reason, you just can't stop thinking about things like this, like Zane said, you should seek therapy, especially if it's driving you insane.
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Ok, here we go:
As a 16 year old girl who faces negativity from her own family every day, I can tell you that you need to find a way to remind yourself that you aren't helping the situation. If you keep dwelling on something as horrible and traumatic as that, you might actually make it happen eventually. (the movie/book "The Secret" will thoroughly explain this for you) Then you'll feel horrible. So you need to train yourself to focus on positive things. Like the fact that you're close with your mother and that you have a boyfriend to come home to. Focus ENDLESSLY on the positive thoughts. Every morning, make a decision that there is nothing in existence on this beautiful earth that could possibly happen to you today to bring you down. Because you're alive and healthy enough to breathe and type. (I can't exactly assume the rest LOL) in fact, you should print out those words and put them somewhere where you'll see them every day, like your bathroom or refrigerator. Actually, if you want you could even frame these words and make them all pretty. I'm asking you to do all of this because if you keep going on like this, you might just make it happen. Don't let the thought of that scare you, either. Just know it and act on it.
I wish you the best of luck.
Have only happy days :)
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Look, being worried about those close to you is very normal. You just need to find ways to not dwell on the subject. Find something to do that will occupy your mind. and Before you know it he'll be home. And after a while you'll get more comfortable not dwelling on the dark and gloomy. Things like that are out of your hands anyway. So the answer is, in a nut shell, is to train yourself not to worry. When those thoughts pop in there, just change the subject. Enjoy your wonderful life, Don't waste it worrying. Hope I've helped!
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It's a form of anxiety, I have been there also.
Anxiety causes us to worry, panic and stress. I would suggest talking to a doctor or a therapist to help you cope.
Best wishes
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