Member Since: November 23, 2012
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Last Update: December 10, 2013
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I am a 15 year old girl who recently got dumped. For 3 days straight I didn't eat and all I did was cry at random times of the day. I'm better now and I'm not in hysteria like I was before but Im lonely especially at lunch. None of my friends have the same lunchtime as me except for my ex who I used to eat lunch with and a few others who I can never find. I've gotten used to it and now in trying to get over him. You see we have the same class after lunch and he only talks to me when he needs something like my phone or paper. Today we were completing a study guide and I was about to finish when he asked to copy. I gave it to him and was so happy when he thanked me. Thinking about it now makes me feel pathetic. I'm not over him obviously. I can't help but want to help him out when he needs it even if he treats me like a stranger the rest if the time. Do you think this is beacause I need human interaction since I have no one to talk to during a time I should be or that deep inside I'm just desperate to be taken back? This whole thing makes me feel like an idiot. (link)
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First of all(and I know you've heard it a zillion times) but time and distance is the only cure for heart ache. 2nd of all, if you ever want him back you cant constantly be there for him. if he knows he can come back anytime he wants, whats to stop him from doing whatever he wants? he'll be thinking " it doesn't matter, she'll take me back". so step one for you girl is self confidence. even if you don't have much at this time you cant let him know that. get some distance from him, make a new friend or two,(preferably a guy or two), smile, laugh, even if you have to pretend at first. then when he see's you you'll look completely awesome without him in your life. and when you barely pay any attention to him, and you're NOT GIVING HIM EVERYTHING HE ASKS YOU FOR! he'll be green with envy. it may take a bit but he'll want you back. ofcourse you may not want him then. after all you have a right to an awesome life too ya know. you might just realize you really are having more fun without him. anyways i wish you all the best. hope I've helped
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20/f
As the title says I'm always afraid that someone close to me will die. Whenever my boyfriends phone is off or he isn't answering I imagine him being in a terrible accident. Whenever he's late I think the same thing. Or I think he just dropped dead. The same thing goes for my mom when she doesn't answer the phone. I don't know what's wrong with me. I've never had anyone close to me die or anything like that. I've never lost someone I love before so why is this always happening? Right now my boyfriends phone is off and it's probably because his battery is dead. He should be home by now but he's not which probably means that he just had to stay a little longer at work. But I'm still sitting here with an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach that something terrible happened. I actually thought about what I would say at his funeral. What can I do about this, it's driving me crazy :( (link)
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Look, being worried about those close to you is very normal. You just need to find ways to not dwell on the subject. Find something to do that will occupy your mind. and Before you know it he'll be home. And after a while you'll get more comfortable not dwelling on the dark and gloomy. Things like that are out of your hands anyway. So the answer is, in a nut shell, is to train yourself not to worry. When those thoughts pop in there, just change the subject. Enjoy your wonderful life, Don't waste it worrying. Hope I've helped!
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16/f
So hey. I sometimes like to assume the roles of imaginary people, usually men older than me, and talk to people who aren't there. I do this only when I'm alone. My favorite characters have relationships and backstories and all that. I'm always aware I'm doing it and it's not involuntary or anything, though sometimes I'll see through the perspective of one of the characters or feel their emotions, or wonder how they would handle a situation or sometimes go to them for conversation or advice. Am I insane? I'm pretty sure this isn't a normal activity all the hip kids are doing (link)
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I don't think you're nuts at all. I think you need to channel it differently though. Like through writing and stories, or acting. Just try and develop these charactors a bit more, then try putting it to paper. I believe you may even amaze yourself. I think there's something really special in you somewhere, just let it out. After all, what would the world be like if Stephen King had just thought he was nuts and saw a shrink! So you get to work and bring us something amazing. We're all waiting.
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How does one pick up d pieces of her life after being dealt a horrible blow?How does she get rid of the naggin thoughts of ending her life? (link)
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Losing someone you trully love is alot like having someone die. Your life has changed and you must go through a mourning period in much the same way. You will experience Denial about things left behind, Anger(which may last a while) just don't let it control you. Fear of what is to come, and the constant feeling of giving up. But keep in mind these are normal feelings. You're not the onlyone who has gone through this. There are alot of people who have beet this(including me). And so will you! You just hang in there a while longer and you"ll see a difference.
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1. Boyfriend made plans to go play turkey ball. Comes back and starts talking about how he felt like a loser since all the guys had their girlfriends there playing too. Then he accuses me of not wanting to go with him when he has never asked me to come even in the past years.
2. He called a couple times while I was getting ready to leave the house for a family thanksgiving lunch. The texts he sends me say "I know you are at lunch with a guy. I can act just like you if I want."
3. Him: you never talk about guys around me babe.
Me: yea because if I tell you how guys hit on me, you are going to try and turn the whole thing around on me.
Him:you so you hide stuff from me.
Me:yea well im not hiding anything that you're thinking from you, but I haven't told you every instance where guys have hit on me because of how you react.
4. He always accuses me of sleeping with my coworker, whom I supposedly flirt with? Im not allowed to talk to my male coworkers. Or just sleeping with other guys.
5. He doesn't see what I have contributed to the relationship. He said me taking him to the nba game or taking him to eat for his birthday doesn't. Mean anything.
What do I do. Two and a half years together..
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First off Thanksgiving is a day set aside to be with your loved ones and to be thankful for all you have. Turkey ball sounds to me like another excuse to not be with loved ones and to not be thankful. Perhaps he should be thankful for you ok. Why aren't you upset that he didn't go with you? Listen up, all jealousy, especially mean verbal jealousy is a meens of control. It's only intent is to try to make you feel bad or ad a complex to keep you in one spot. You have as much right to a life as anyone else. If I were you I'd atleast consider giving him a choice. Either shape up and be in a big person relationship or ship out and enjoy Turkey ball.
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