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Q: 21 year old female. Ive gone through severe depression, to mild, to severe anxiety, to mild, but one thing over the years has gotten terrible and is having a huge effect on me this year. My self-esteem and confidence. It's so bad, i really don't know if it could get any worse. I dont feel like im an ugly person or anything, i mean i am like all other girls and would like to lose weight and what not, but its the person inside me that is suffering. I always think people hate me, or are mad at me, even my own mom. I always worry and think my boyfriend doesnt love me, my friends are annoyed of me. i've caught myself on facebook and twitter trying to put other people down, like a bunch of girls that are 18 getting pregnant, because yes i think they're being irresponsible and putting themselves first not their child, but i guess i try to prove im a good person. I never used to have to do that, or never used to talk badly about anyone. I used to be so social making tons and tons of friends but now i kinda sit inside and just associate with people i already know.


My self-esteem is so bad i cant even make a simple decision, and always always always ask others for their opinion, like for an outfit, how to react to a situation, if what someone said to me was mean or not, i just have no confidence in what i believe at all. Idk if this is from depression and anxiety, or years of holding in emotions and feeling like i didnt relate to others (my best friend commited suicide when i was 15, then i held in still to this day my dad is cheating on my mom, i had depression, and anxiety attacks, and felt like no one would relate and never talked about my problems to anyone.) I realize i am ruining my life and my negative thoughts are probably unrealistic like thinking people hate me. I can't control these thoughts because its like i fear that they're true and it causes anxiety. I need constant reassurance from everyone in my life.

I need advice on how i can improve my self esteem
and i would really like to know a good blog site where i can basicaly have a journal and talk about my day and have people comment.


thank you sooooo much for you help. i really appreciate it =)
Ok I JUST started a blog like this. I want people to share their experiences with myself and others about dealing with anxiety, depression, and becoming a "better self". I want people to comment, post encouragement, and answer questions others have. I do want you to try and not seek approval from others, but you can't change over night so that will come in time. I'm 20 years old and going through a situation much similar to yours. I'm on anxiety meds and I'm on this incredible journey of learning more about myself and becoming what I'm calling a better self. It can be anonymous or public, it's up to you. I'll leave the website below, but you really should see a therapist whether it's a psychologist or psychiatrist- that's also up to you. But absolutely see someone. You need to talk to a professional, not just others in a similar situation (which is also a great idea!!)
My blog: http://anxietyanom.blogspot.com/
also I'm on tumblr and twitter!
http://gadgirl752.tumblr.com/

Q: I'm looking for a website that really helped me with my anxiety... but I forgot the name and I'm freaking out.

It was where anyone with any type of problem could go on and talk to someone one on one anonymously... The people who were giving advice would have to log on, but anyone who needed to talk to someone could just push the button and you'd be talking to someone within a few minutes through a one on one chat room...

I understand that I may not find the exact website, but does anyone know of a website like this? I have an anxiety disorder and it would be nice to just be able to talk to someone when a panic attack wakes me up in the middle of the night...

Not a group chat just... one on one with a person who cares.

Thank you.
I don't know the site you are looking for, but I just started a blog specifically to talk to other people walking with anxiety or for people who want to learn more about anxiety. I would be delighted if you joined my following @ http://gadgirl752.tumblr.com/ and/or my Twitter @GADgirl2

I care about you. You're not alone. I've had 2 panic attacks in my sleep and they are not fun at all :( worse than daytime panic attacks!

Q: hi 13/f ive cut scince i was 11 its an everyday thing for a full year now. i can go a day or two without it and then i cut and it feels so much better and its like i like it and i need it not to be so wonderfly soothing to see blood gushing from my scarred wrists arms and legs and belly. and even to see the scars slowly changing their colors as they fade is enjoyable to me in a sick way.so ya, how do i stop that feeling i get when i am calm for the ine moment when my razor is gliding over my skin and chemicals release and i geuss i like those and all the drugs death and assholes around me are gone. how do i not want to do it so much? i know theres no quick fix but i need something and someone who isnt a phyciatrist my mom or some teen who wont listen.my mom knows and im on antidepressants they make me kinda suicidal and cut even more so yea help me if you can i nedd someone to talk to now
Unfortunately there is no quick fix. Firstly if your antidepressants are causing you to have suicidal thoughts you need to tell your psychiatrist asap so that he/she can find a better medication for you or some other solution. Secondly I'll let you know that I'm seeing a counselor at my college, and going to a psychiatrist for meds for my anxiety. The therapy helps, the meds help a lot, and the people I surround myself with help. There's nothing I can say right this second to convince you to stop or feel magically better, but if you need to talk to someone I can be here to listen. I don't know you, but I care about you and it hurts me to know that you want to hurt yourself. No one should ever feel like that.

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GADgirl
I'm a 20 year old Psych Major walking with anxiety, trying to become a better self and accepting my anxiety.

Get support & help others. Share your questions, tips, experiences, etc.

Follow me on Twitter! https://twitter.com/GADgirl2
Tumblr too! http://gadgirl752.tumblr.com/

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