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How do i get over him and start again?
I am a 15 year old girl who recently got dumped. For 3 days straight I didn't eat and all I did was cry at random times of the day. I'm better now and I'm not in hysteria like I was before but Im lonely especially at lunch. None of my friends have the same lunchtime as me except for my ex who I used to eat lunch with and a few others who I can never find. I've gotten used to it and now in trying to get over him. You see we have the same class after lunch and he only talks to me when he needs something like my phone or paper. Today we were completing a study guide and I was about to finish when he asked to copy. I gave it to him and was so happy when he thanked me. Thinking about it now makes me feel pathetic. I'm not over him obviously. I can't help but want to help him out when he needs it even if he treats me like a stranger the rest if the time. Do you think this is beacause I need human interaction since I have no one to talk to during a time I should be or that deep inside I'm just desperate to be taken back? This whole thing makes me feel like an idiot.
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everyone gets like that. you cant help but wanting to help them and do nice things for people you care about / have any excuse to talk to them or have them give you attention. it is natural. however if you want him to take you seriously and for you to feel better about yourself you need to stop. he broke up with you, dont let him push you around. if he needs paper and you have theres no reason be immature and say no but if he is asking you for things that are actually annoying then your allowed to say no. at least dont go out of your way to help him and dont seem too eager or happy about it.
i dont think it is that you need human interaction. you had a boyfriend and an ex before that and have friends. just because they dont have the same lunch time as you does not make you pathetic.
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You're just lonely, it's completely normal. You just need to give it time.
As for getting over him, that takes time and patience. But you do need to put in the effort. He shouldn't be coming to you in class for help, and it's obviously doing no good to you so just tell him no next time.
Distance helps, but since you have him in a class it's even harder. Don't talk to him and try your best not to look at him.
It sucks being alone at lunch especially after a break up. I'm assuming your lunches are divided because of your 3rd or 4th class? Well if it is, try making friends in those classes and then you can sit with them at lunch.
Just meet new people, make new friends, meet new boys, you'll get over him and you won't feel so alone.
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First of all(and I know you've heard it a zillion times) but time and distance is the only cure for heart ache. 2nd of all, if you ever want him back you cant constantly be there for him. if he knows he can come back anytime he wants, whats to stop him from doing whatever he wants? he'll be thinking " it doesn't matter, she'll take me back". so step one for you girl is self confidence. even if you don't have much at this time you cant let him know that. get some distance from him, make a new friend or two,(preferably a guy or two), smile, laugh, even if you have to pretend at first. then when he see's you you'll look completely awesome without him in your life. and when you barely pay any attention to him, and you're NOT GIVING HIM EVERYTHING HE ASKS YOU FOR! he'll be green with envy. it may take a bit but he'll want you back. ofcourse you may not want him then. after all you have a right to an awesome life too ya know. you might just realize you really are having more fun without him. anyways i wish you all the best. hope I've helped
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