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Is he being unfair?
1. Boyfriend made plans to go play turkey ball. Comes back and starts talking about how he felt like a loser since all the guys had their girlfriends there playing too. Then he accuses me of not wanting to go with him when he has never asked me to come even in the past years.
2. He called a couple times while I was getting ready to leave the house for a family thanksgiving lunch. The texts he sends me say "I know you are at lunch with a guy. I can act just like you if I want."
3. Him: you never talk about guys around me babe.
Me: yea because if I tell you how guys hit on me, you are going to try and turn the whole thing around on me.
Him:you so you hide stuff from me.
Me:yea well im not hiding anything that you're thinking from you, but I haven't told you every instance where guys have hit on me because of how you react.
4. He always accuses me of sleeping with my coworker, whom I supposedly flirt with? Im not allowed to talk to my male coworkers. Or just sleeping with other guys.
5. He doesn't see what I have contributed to the relationship. He said me taking him to the nba game or taking him to eat for his birthday doesn't. Mean anything.
What do I do. Two and a half years together..
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First off Thanksgiving is a day set aside to be with your loved ones and to be thankful for all you have. Turkey ball sounds to me like another excuse to not be with loved ones and to not be thankful. Perhaps he should be thankful for you ok. Why aren't you upset that he didn't go with you? Listen up, all jealousy, especially mean verbal jealousy is a meens of control. It's only intent is to try to make you feel bad or ad a complex to keep you in one spot. You have as much right to a life as anyone else. If I were you I'd atleast consider giving him a choice. Either shape up and be in a big person relationship or ship out and enjoy Turkey ball.
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Two and a half years is long a time. Have you ever.wondered why he's like that? He's insecure about himself and he feels your out of he's league . Its been two yrs you show him.that you love him by hanging out and etc. At this point you've did your best but I feel you will be better without him. He should trust in you and not.accuse you. Yes he is being unfair its better to be by yourself than to be with someone who always.makes you feel like your doing something wrong.
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More important question:
Do you feel happy and respected in this relationship?
It doesn't sound like you do. I certainly wouldn't. I'd feel disrespected, demeaned and like I was being manipulated and controlled.
Sometimes we end up waiting for someone to do something sooo bad that it seems like a 'good enough' reason to end the relationship.
Don't do that. You don't have to wait for him to be truly reprehensible to decide this just isn't working for you. He doesn't have to be totally horrible to not be good enough for you.
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First off they always say when a partner is accusing you off cheating or dishonesty it's usually because they are the guilty ones. Only you know what your heart is feeling. If your not happy don't stay! you sound like a great person and like you deserve better! :)
It's your choice!
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