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I've stayed here so that I can share the knowledge I do have. I know I'm not changing the world but I do hope that I spark others to open their eyes.
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I only get my period once a year. I know that i need to see a gyno, I already made an appointment but what are your thoughts on the chances of me getting pregnant from having sex with a condom/pulling out/ period once a year? (link)
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Just because your body doesn't regularly shed your uterine lining in the form of a menstrual period doesn't mean you don't ovulate / release an egg. Your doctor will be able to give you a better answer to why your body doesn't do what it naturally should be doing every month, but this could be anything from hormone-related to a problem in ovulating. We don't know so we can't say if you can or can't get pregnant despite your lack of periods.
It takes one, ONE, sperm to get you pregnant. A full ejaculation can contain as many as 100 million sperm at a time. Only one needs to reach an egg. Only one.
There is absolutely no way of giving you a fairly accurate guesstimate.
If you have sex, you're at risk of becoming pregnant.
If you have sex without protection then you are at a high risk of becoming pregnant.
There are actually girls who have never menstruated, who engaged in sex, and who ended up getting pregnant before they even saw blood. You never, ever, know if or when you body ovulates without doing proper tests each month.
The pull out method is estimated to be somewhere between 15% and 27% in a failure rate. Condoms are something like 8% to 12% failure rate. Take that however you'd like. Using both methods is always better than just using one, but there is always still a failure rate.
Approximately 1 million American teenage girls still get pregnant each year. Eight out of ten are unplanned pregnancies.
Your risk if your choice. We can't put a percentage on it. We can't give you decent odds on if you will or will not become pregnant from having sex. There's too many factors to take into account. All you really should care about is that sex naturally makes babies and if you have sex then you are putting yourself at a risk of becoming pregnant.
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what are some of the dangers of giving/getting a blowjobs??? (link)
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Serious risks of engaging in oral sex with a man or a woman include:
1. Herpes is probably the biggest STD risk during oral sex. Both strains of herpes can live in the mouth or the genitals, and particularly during outbreaks (cold sores, herpes lesions) can be passed from one place to the other. More than 50% of a random group of people will have antibodies to the virus (indicating some level of infection). Genital herpes is complicated and uncomfortable. Herpes can be passed on even if no sores are present.
2. Chlamydia and gonorrhea can infect your throat, showing strep like symptoms. These can also infect the eye; eye infections can have serious consequences. Roughly, 80% of women who have chlamydia have no symptoms and it can prevent them from ever having children.
3. HIV can be passed through unprotected oral sex. The infected semen/precum or vaginal fluid must enter the body through a cut or sore in the mouth or esophagus. You may not even be aware you have a cut in your mouth or throat. Some people take up to 10 years to show that they have contracted HIV/AIDS.
4. HPV can be passed during oral sex. HPV has been found on vocal chords. There is no test to find out if a man has HPV and men usually show no symptoms.
5. Syphilis can be passed similar to HIV. Signs and symptoms are indistinguishable from those of other diseases so some people go a long time without knowing they have it. Mothers can pass this onto their babies without knowing it.
6. Hepatitis A is also a risk, but usually only oral-anal contact. Hep A is not a chronic condition like Hep B and C, but can make a person quite sick several weeks.
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I recently found out that my current roommate, who is one of my best friends, is a pathological liar. Basically, she has been manipulating me for the past year, causing me to feel responsible for an attempted suicide (which never happened) because I didn't pick up the phone when i needed to talk. She also told me things about my friends that has definitely altered my relationships with them and the way i see them, that her mother was dying (she actually let me believe she was dead on multiple occasions), and made up a sexual assault, just to name a few of the lies. She is currently getting the help from psychologists and therapists that she needs, but i'm still trying to sort out my life. In order to do that, i began confiding in a close friend about the situation, but the stories are so far-fetched that i don't think he believes ME. It understandably seems strange to him that I wouldn't have picked up on any of this throughout the course of the year, and many of the other stories I told him are crazier than the ones above. What can i do to prove to him that I'm being honest? (link)
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While it is wonderful to confide in a friend about the things have been happening in your life, you seriously need to talk with a therapist at this point.
Telling your friend your problems can help release those frustrated feelings. It's great to get it all off of your chest, but, as you are seeing, sometimes life is a little more twisted than one person can understand (if they haven't lived it).
Proving to him your honesty is probably not really going to happen. The harder you try to prove what you're saying is real, the more it may seem like you're trying to fabricate the truth. It can actually backfire pretty badly. Sometimes friends don't need to know absolutely everything that has happened.
A therapist can help you sort out these feelings and emotions that have spurred from your mentally ill roommate. It isn't your roommate's fault that they have a mental disorder that they cannot control, but it may have caused you to suffer from some issues yourself, including post traumatic stress disorder (or PTSD).
I do urge you to move out of the roommate situation as soon as humanly possible. This particular person needs help, and is thankfully getting the appropriate help, but you need to step away to avoid further psychological damage to yourself. Your roommate has absolutely no obligation to continue getting well, and, thus, may choose to discontinue therapy and treatment at any time--leaving you open and vulnerable to "attack" again.
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why is saying "I rate 5's!" or "I rate high!" not allowed? it encourages people to answer the question, so why would your question get deleted? (link)
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Saying you rate 5s encourages people to reply with an answer, yes, but it also encourages people to reply with ANY answer for an easy high score. It's kind-of a two-way street.
You say:
I have this super duper important question and I'm asking Advicenators for a good answer. I'll rate everyone who answers a really high score!
They say:
Quick, dumb answer to receive high score.
Then, if you catch on that they don't really try to answer your question and are just posting nonsense so you'll rate them "high" you might decide to give them a lower rating (much deserved). They file an abuse report to complain about a low rating after you said you'd rate them well. You file an abuse report to complain that they are practically spamming your questions. It's twice as much work for moderators to deal with then, and SOMEBODY isn't going to be pleased when the decision is made.
So, basically, you're just creating unnecessary drama by not following the simple rule! :)
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Are girls interested in getting that belly button poked or licked or played on? (link)
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There are lots of women who have this sort of navel fetish. It's, typically, referred to as belly button lovers, umbiliphilia, or just navel fetishism.
Remember, everyone is different and that isn't necessarily a bad thing. Some people like this sort of play while others are uncomfortable participating in it.
There are loads of bellybutton fetish videos on YouTube and other free, safe websites that you may indulge in your fetish in and meet like-minded people who also enjoy such things. I am sure you could watch other women pushing objects into their belly buttons very easily with a few Google searches.
When you're seeking a long-term partner that is interested in your particular fetish then you need to weigh consequences on how you want to go about seeking. If you seek a person solely because they enjoy the same fetish(es) as you then your relationship may be purely sexual and burn out quickly. If you find a nice, attractive woman, get to know her well, and then divulge your secret love for bellybuttons then she may be more open to it than if you had just walked up to her and ask.
What I'm saying is, if you are currently single and seeking then maybe it's best to enjoy the fetish alone for awhile through fantasies, videos, and safe images. Then, once a relationships grows and you two are more comfortable you can suggest these sorts of activities.
The answer to your question is really not black or white. It's yes, no, maybe, sometimes, etc.
Some women love it.
Some women think it's alright or so-so.
Some women dislike it but will tolerate it.
Some women hate it.
Some women are open to it but aren't sure either way if they like or dislike it.
And some women would be open to trying it but have no current knowledge of such things so they can't even give an opinion yet.
It's really like any other fetish. It's not for everyone, but some people really enjoy it. Focus on making sturdier relationships before dropping "the bomb" and asking for such things--unless you only want a sexual partner who will stimulate you. Like any other fetish, some people will look at you like you're a hideous freak when they find out and others will form a bright smile and say, "That sounds fun!"
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Im going to be honest. I have herpes. I got it when I was younger and I had sex with some girls i shouldnt have. So me and my girl have been together for a year. She goes down on me sometimes and gives me head. She knows about the herpes I got and shes seen my sores when I get a outbreak. Two days ago she comes to me and is freaking out cause shes got a coldsore on her mouth and never got one before and read it was herpes. Sooo did she catch herpes from me when she went down on me? I never had a coldsore either though. (link)
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Yes, she has herpes.
Whether she caught it from you or not is not something that can be determined. Herpes is remarkable in that it doesn't show every single month or year. Sometimes people can go 10 or more years without an outbreak. Other times people have an outbreak every month. It varies.
I can tell you that if she went down on you while you had an outbreak then she probably caught it then. You are at your most contagious a week and 1/2 before your outbreak, the entire time you have a sore present, and a full 2 weeks after the sore has healed and gone. If you have frequent outbreaks then, obviously, you're very contagious.
There are two major strains of herpes. They're called HSV-1 and HSV-2.
HSV-1 usually appears on the mouth lips, nostrils, and eyes. It can spread anywhere though, including your genitals. HSV-1 is commonly referred to as oral herpes since it usually appears on the oral cavity.
HSV-2 usually appears on the genitals. It, too, can spread anywhere though, including your face. HSV-2 is commonly referred to as genital herpes since it usually appears on or around the genitals.
You can spread HSV-2 from the genitals to the mouth.
You can spread HSV-1 from the mouth to the genitals.
Your girlfriend may want to go to a clinic and get the sore swabbed and scraped to see if it's HSV-1 or HSV-2 strain. It could make the difference in her outbreaks. HSV-2 is usually worse in the outbreak department than HSV-1. Getting it checked out by a doctor may also open the door for you both to get some treatment to reduce the outbreaks and the discomfort they cause.
Herpes is not curable.
Just remember that she can spread it from her mouth to yours now. If it spreads to your mouth and you engage in oral sex with her then you can spread it to her genitals. This disease can spread all over the body, and you can actually die from it in severe cases so make sure you wash up well and tend to your body when needed.
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Everybody knows about the Miley Cyrus getting high thing I'm sure. I read she wasn't smoking pot but that it was something LEGAL in California called salvia and it does some of the same stuff weed does. I was wondering what it is exactly? is it grass too? and is it really legal like everybody says to smoke it? (link)
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Salvia is illegal in many United States places, actually:
Delaware
Florida
Illinois
Kansas
Mississippi
Missouri
Nebraska
North Dakota
Ohio
Oklahoma
South Dakota
Virginia
In the following states, Salvia is only legal if it is not used for human consumption:
Louisiana
North Carolina (beginning December 1, 2009)
Tennessee
In the following U.S. states, it is illegal for minors to use salvia (and, in some cases, possess it):
California
Maine (possession by minors also illegal)
In regards to other countries, salvia is prohibited and illegal in:
Australia
Belgium
Croatia
Denmark
Germany
Italy
Japan
Latvia
Lithuania
Poland
South Korea
Sweden
In the following countries, it is legal to have salvia in your possession but not legal to sell it:
Spain
Russia
The following countries view salvia as a medicinal herb and they require a doctor's prescription to have salvia in your possession and to purchase it:
Estonia
Finland
Iceland
Norway
In many ways, salvia is similar to marijuana. Salvia is a psychoactive herb which can induce dissociative effects. After ingestion, the effects produced may include things like: odd sensations and feelings of motion, hallucinations, mentally believing and physically feeling a "merge" with or "becoming of" surrounding objects, the perception of being in several locations at once, increased sweating, impaired coordination, or even dysphoria (depression-like state). Although salvia is not physically addictive (only about 1.2% of users become addicted and experience strong cravings), a user (regular or otherwise) may mentally become overly desiring of using. It may also be considered a "gateway" drug.
There are risks with in inhaling any kind and all smoke. Smoking decreases the amount of oxygen that is present in your body. This can cause many things from lightheadedness, to shortness of breath, and even birth defects if you are pregnant. This decreased level of oxygenated blood may also be linked to the formation of cancer, cancerous cells, and tumors.
Personally, I wouldn't mess with it.
That's just me though.
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Is tanning once in awhile during winter good for you? A lot of tanning salons say it is because we need vitamin e. I dont mean going like every day just like once a month or something. My mom says it makes her skin look better and makes her feel better and I want to try it but i dont want to do myself a disservice in the long run. If it is good for you, how often is okay before it becomes harmful? (link)
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You're thinking of Vitamin D and not Vitamin E.
Vitamin D is something the body produces from the skin after exposure to ultraviolet B light from the sun. The rays that our skin produces vitamin D from are called UVB rays. Vitamin D regulates calcium metabolism, the immune system, insulin secretion, blood pressure, and more.
Vitamin E is something you get from foods like seeds, nuts, and green leafy vegetables.
Unfortunately, there is an old myth that tanning beds help the body to produce vitamin D just like the sun's rays do. The truth is, tanning beds don't help the body to produce vitamins like the sun does at all. Tanning salon tanning beds emit about 95% UVA rays, leaving only 5% as UVB rays that our skin can use to produce healthy vitamins. The reason for this is because more UVA rays means less of a burn to the skin and more of a golden tan.
UVA rays are linked to a few negative things, such as destroying vitamin A within the skin, damaging collagen, and the contribution to cancerous cells.
UVB rays are something our body can use positively to help us stay healthier; however, too much of a good thing can cause a few negative side-effects (such as burning). UVB ray exposure can also treat illnesses such as psoriasis, vitiligo, eczema, and other skin conditions.
UVA rays aren't really needed for health, but, rather, only for those people who feel beauty is tanned skin.
Right now, researches say that even using a tanning bed about 10 times a year can cause people to be 7 times more likely to develop malignant melanoma. The risk of melanoma was increased by 300% for those using tanning beds occasionally and by 800% for those using tanning beds more than 10 times a year. Malignant melanoma is the deadliest form of skin cancer.
The CDC (Centers for Disease Control) report that tanning beds also cause serious eye problems including conjunctivitis, corneal infections and retinal damage.
People report feeling better after tanning for the basic reason. More people report feeling better in the winter after tanning. Unfortunately, a lot of it just has to do with them feeling nice and warm for awhile while under the heat from the lamps. People mistaken this pleasurable feeling for something more healthy, and have contributed it to the increased production of vitamin D from the light. As we just went over, there isn't enough vitamin D assisting light produced by the tanning beds to merit such a thing. Unfortunately, it's one of those things you can say: it's all in their heads.
I found this particular link that had a few interesting facts (which I will quote below):
http://safetan.com.au/tanning/tanningbeds.html
"People who use tanning beds are 2.5 times more likely to develop squamous cell carcinoma and 1.5 times more likely to develop basal cell carcinoma."
"First exposure to tanning beds in youth increases melanoma risk by 75 percent."
I also found this interesting tidbit:
Tanning beds are now considered to be in the highest cancer risk category by the International Agency for Research on Cancer (IARC). It was concluded that tanning beds increase the risk of deadly melanoma skin cancer by 75 percent for people who begin using them before age 30.
The American Cancer Society (ACS) states that tanning bed use "is dangerous to your health and should be avoided."
As for it being safe, that's up to you to decide now that you have the facts. An increased risk of cancer by such a huge percentage is something I wouldn't take. You also have to consider that some of those facts are based on someone using a tanning bed about 10 times a year. That's LESS than once a month. Dangerous much?
The American Cancer Society, the Centers for Disease Control, and the International Agency for Research on Cancer all say that tanning, even every once in awhile in the winter, is NOT safe, good, or beneficial to your body.
If you think having tanned skin is a good reason to increase your risk of cancer then that's your decision.
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You had answered a question that I asked and you very helpful! I had said how I stopped taking birth control last month and might be pregnant. I stopped taking the pill at the end of November, which was at the end of my period. I didn't start the new pack. I had sex a couple days afterward, and then I also had sex last weekend. I have been off the pill a full month now. I was supposed to start my period Sunday, and now it's Thursday and I still haven't. Could that be because I quit taking the pill? I mean, I should still be on track. Could I be pregnant? (link)
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You very well could have gotten pregnant. I don't mean to frighten you, but there are some good chances you may soon be a mother to be. On the other hand, there are some factors to take into account as to other reasons your period may not be on time.
Stress can delay your period though, and being a few days late after discontinuing birth control pills is nothing to worry about just yet.
Give your body another week to two weeks before panicking over the possibility of pregnancy. Stress coupled with the fact that there are hormonal changes (from you discontinuing the pill for the month) can cause the period to be late.
Just relax for now. If you don't get your period after a full week of waiting then take a home pregnancy test. If it says negative and your period still doesn't arrive then take another one when the period is about 2 weeks late. If you go any longer than that you should see your doctor and explain what has happened so that he can check into what may have went wrong with your cycle and administer a blood pregnancy test for more accurate results.
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I know that prenut can make a girl pregnant, but my question is-
My boyfriend is 17, and he is still a virgin. Im 18, and I've had sex with two guys. Well tonight, things got a little hot and heavy, and he asked if he could just stick it in, just so he could see what it feels like. So I let him. He didn't have a condom on, but he moved it in and out three times, and than pulled out because he thought he was starting to build up cum. He really only had it in for two minutes top. It was very quick. Im a little nervous he might have pre-nutted in me; but my friends are saying I have nothing to worry about because it wasn't long enough? I know it doens't take long to get pregnant, and I know I can off of pre-nut; I always use a condom, but this time I didn't because he just wanted to stick it in for a second.
Do you think Im pregnant?
*He said before he stuck it back in, he felt the top of it to make sure no pre-nut was there, and he said he didn't feel anything, and he knows 100% he didn't cum in me.
Please give me your opinions on if I could possibly be pregnant, and what the chances of me being pregnant are. Thanks! (link)
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Just to correct the user below, the average failure rate for the pull-out method is actually about 27%:
http://www.contracept.org/withdrawal.php
This percentage is for, again, the pull-out method. This means the penis is pulled out right before the man ejaculates--not when pre-ejaculatory fluid (precum; prenut) is expelled. Pre-ejaculate cannot be felt and the man has no idea when it may be released from the penis so he has no control of when to remove his penis from the vagina to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.
There are a lot of things that fail with the pull-out method other than the pre-ejaculatory factor, such as pulling the penis out even slightly "too late" or engaging in re-entry of the uncovered penis after intercourse is complete. Because of this, the percentage can definitely vary based on the particular act.
So, moving on from that since you didn't truly engage in the pull-out method and there was no ejaculation to occur; thus, the 27% relates nothing to this situation.
For starters, your boyfriend, no matter how wise he may be, wouldn't know if he released precum inside of you when he thrusted those few times. Think about this:
The vagina is wet and fairly snug around a penis.
As the penis enters and exists, it rubs the head and shaft against the vaginal walls.
So, technically, he could thrust in and release a little precum, and as he is pulling it out, it can rub off against your vaginal walls. With each thrust, it could rub more of it off of his penis tip and into your vagina.
So, unfortunately, your boyfriend has no idea if he released precum, even if he wants to believe he'd know. Precum doesn't just squirt out and that's that. It's slowly released so it isn't really felt, and since your vagina is moist he wouldn't be able to tell vagina-moisture from a light release of precum on his penis.
He may "know" 100% but there's no way in Hell he could ACTUALLY know.
So, yes, you can get pregnant from precum. While a full ejaculation can contain as many as 100 million sperm at a time, the sperm count within pre-ejaculate can be as many as a few million. It takes one to get your pregnant.
Trickier than that, sometimes precum contains more sperm than others. Sometimes there isn't even sperm released in the precum fluid. There is no good way to tell. It's suggested that if your partner had ejaculated earlier in the day then the chances of sperm being released into the pre-ejaculatory fluid is greater. It's also said that the man urinates between that ejaculation and the next time he pre-cums that there is a greatly reduced chance the precum contains many sperm.
There is no way to tell what the likelihood of you being pregnant is. We aren't really even able to estimate if your boyfriend released precum, how much he may have released in three thrusts, and how much, if any, sperm was contained in that possibly released fluid.
I can tell you that one thrust is enough to get pregnant by if precum is expelled that contains sperm. Just because sex lasts for a very short period of time doesn't mean there's no possibility of getting pregnant. Alternatively, there is a greatly reduced chance you could get pregnant from this one occurrence.
As for the : do you think I'm pregnant? part.
Nobody gets pregnant right away.
Fertilization can occur up to 7 days after the intercourse act. After fertilization occurs the egg multiplies for another 3 to 7 days before attaching to the uterine wall. From there it will take another 7 to 14 days before enough hCG is produced to show an accurate reading on a home pregnancy test. So, while you may not be pregnant now, tomorrow, or even 3 days later, it doesn't mean you won't become pregnant from this particular encounter. See what I'm saying?
It can literally take weeks to get "pregnant" from one sexual act.
So, are you pregnant right now? No.
Will you be pregnant in two weeks? It's possible, but the odds are much lower than if the sexual act had been completed by ejaculation.
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I am serious. I am so tired of having to go out of my way and spend so much time cleaning the inside shower walls and doors every two weeks or a month. And if I wait one month before I decide to clean the shower walls it takes much longer and more physical effort to clean them. And then, when I decide to clean them, I have to get a mild brush, then presoak the shower walls and the inside surface of the glass doors by spraying water on them. Then, I throw the powder cleaner on the walls or spray the shower surface cleaner on the walls and then lightly scrub all the services which includes the three walls, both inside surfaces of the glass sliding doors and the chrome and aluminum frame surfaces. Then, I have to step out side onto the carpet with soap on my feet or shoes. But, I'll have to lay out a towel so that I can wipe my feet or shoes on. Then, I fumble around with the shower head trying to make it rinse all the soap off all the walls, which it won't. So, I have to take a cup or a bucket and splash water up on the walls and the inside surfaces of the two shower glass doors. Then, I play water hockey on the shower floor trying to spray or shoot all the soap residue down the drain. And of course, I as well as most everyone else, realize all the effort being put into having to properly clean the inside of the shower. But, wait! The shower cleaning job is not finished because I have to get in there with a clean dry towel and wipe down the walls, glass doors and all the chrome faucets and aluminum frame around the doors. Okay, the 30 minute shower cleaning with all of the physical effort and a some aggravation is over. And then before you know it two or three weeks have passed and it's time again for that 30 minute monotonous, ridiculous cleaning routine AGAIN! Please tell me what I can do so I never have to do that again yet, still be able to take a shower every day in the same shower! (link)
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Is it possible for you to make a switch from bar soap to a liquid soap or "body wash" or shower gel, as they call it? A lot of people find that soap scum is dramatically reduced when they throw out the bars and go for something bottled when they bathe or shower.
In addition to going liquid-y, using more organic, natural products while showering also helps to reduce the amount of soap scum buildup, for whatever reason. Organic shampoos, soaps, and cleaning products all the way! :) I can even give a few recommendations, if you'd like, or you could just browse through online websites like VitaCost to see what natural products you find that sound like something good to try.
The Rain-X idea is something I've read about before. An alternative solution, which I have heard works even better for some people, is to use lemon oil, produced as furniture treatment/conditioner/polish. Just make sure not to get any of it on the floor of the shower or you might slip!
I did read once that a woman was so tired of having built-up soap scum. She tried everything to try to cut it down, but she had a lot of family members and it seemed to build up so quickly. So, she decided to wipe out the tub with her used towel every day after she bathed. She had the rest of her family do the same--wipe out the tub with their towel after everything was done. She said she got to lengthen the time it took between scrubbings, and noticed that soap scum was almost non-existent when it came time to clean it down. I've also read of other people keeping a microfiber cloth around for after showering, wiping out the shower, and seeing some great, long-term results.
There are also some after-shower things you can spray in the tub to help reduce the amount of soap scum that accumulates. This includes some sort of Scrubbing Bubbles automatic shower cleaning that is now available on the market. I have no personal use of these so I have no knowledge on how well these sorts of things work. I would assume that it would be cheaper, and MUCH better, if you sprayed down the walls of the shower stall with a 75/25 solution of vinegar and water. It's remarkable how many germs vinegar kills, and how easily it helps to remove stuck-on grime when it comes time to do it. I suppose if you sprayed your shower with the vinegar water after showering then it would be much harder for soap scum to accumulate, too. The only problem with vinegar is that if you allow too much of it to set on the caulking then it will slowly eat it away from the acidity.
I've also heard of people mixing a 50/50 solution of Jet Dry and water in a spray bottle and spraying down the shower after using it.
And, last but not least, someone says they use a 1 to 9 parts [unscented] bleach / water solution after they shower twice a week and it works wonders to help keeps tidy between major cleanings.
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I was told by a herion addict that if I ever tried herion do not drink whisky as it will cause your respertory system to shut down and you will die. Can anyone tell me if this is true?
See I was in a auto accident and my neck is in really bad shape. My vertebre in pushing into my spinal cord and it has it about 80% cut off. I am in pain every minute of my life. This insurance Co USAA Insurance Co. of the person that hit me will not get me the operation I need to correct the problem. its been over 2 years I have had to deal with this pain. I am thinking about ending my life. I cannot work I have no money I am staying with a friend (thank goodness he has a heart) but his wife does not like me and she could tell me any day to get out. I have no family to turn to. The operation I need cost over 100K thats the doctor part and the hospital. The person that hit me has a 300K policy but they are saying it was a previous injury and are fighting it. We went to a mediation dec 1st and they offered 5 thousand dollars,they said they were not ready and needed another 2-3 weeks to look at the MRI and compair it to a MRI i had done in Florida 3 years prior. My doctor says it is not the same injury. But they want their doctors to look at the MRI's and compair them. I am at the point I am ready to end my life. I hear poeple say its a cowards way out.My ass,it takes a lots of guts to end your life. I am sure God will understand my reason or at least I hope he will. I have a son he is 17 but he very seldom calls me and he didn't even call me to wish me a merry X-mas,I tried calling him but always got his voice mail.I feel he doesn't care about me at all. All I want is to get this operation so I can go on with my life,although I will be in a neck brace for 3 months and have no idea how I will support myself. Here is what my intentions are. I want to drink a good bit of whiskey and do what ever it is to make the herion injectable,a very large dose. Then I want to go into the headquarters of USAA and have the needle stuck in my arm and inject it in their main office. But first I want to contact the news media,date line,60 minutes,nightline,ect and also just before I walk into their office I want to call the local news media and tell them where it will happen and to be there asap to get the story as it happens. I want to expose this insurance company to the public for not fulfilling their financial obligation. If I don't have insurance on my automobile I get a ticket a fine and my drivers lisence is suspended,the ticket will say failure to maintain financial responsibility. But since they are a insurance co they don't have to do what they should have to do and get me the medical attention I deserve. Thank goodness they are located in San Antonio and not New York. I live in texas and I hope I can get a ride to San Antonio. I really hate whats going on in this world anyway. Our government is going to cause this country to go belly up. They protect the insurance companies. Between Insurance Co's, Drug co's, oil co's, and banks this country is going to fall to its knees. I don't want to be here when it happens as it will be very nasty and will set off a chain reaction world wide. I just want to go out peacefully. Does anyone know if whisky and herion will do the trick?????...Maybe just maybe if lots of people called this insurance company and gave them grief they might just do what they should do and get me the help I need to get through this ordeal. I am lost right now any don't know what to do. I just filed for disability but you know the routine they will denie me a few times and maybe in a year or two I might get it. I don't have a year or two. I am starving right this moment and close to being on the streets. I've been there many years ago and its not a nice place to be. I would rather be dead!!!!! (link)
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Alright, let's talk this out.
Whiskey and heroin may or may not kill you--just like most suicide methods. Taking too much of anything, especially illegal substances, results in negative side effects. While you can cause the side effects to increase by taking another drug, it wouldn't end in a quick, painless death. You wouldn't just fall to the ground die. If you think about it, whiskey alone can result in death for many individuals. So, your answer is maybe. Just as if you were to ask, "If I drink whiskey will I die?" Maybe. It really depends on a lot of factors, including how much is consumed, your personal health level, your tolerance level, etc.
And, unfortunately, your plan probably wouldn't go as far as you would like. Even heroin addicts have some extreme effects after using. You're likely to feel a buzz within a few minutes after injection into the bloodstream. You probably would be so intoxicated from the initial whiskey consumption with the combined narcotic that you wouldn't recall where you were going anyway. Your goal would never be met--you would just be the guy who "partied too hard" one day if you actually did die from it. Nobody wants to go out like that.
And if anyone, absolutely anyone, witnessed you pass out from the injection, a quick call to 9-1-1 may save your life. When your body shuts down some pretty rough things can happen and you could suffer even more health complications then when you awoke, along with the immediate admission to the psychiatric ward for evaluation and observation.
So, let's throw out the suicide plan and move forward, shall we?
Your local Health & Human Resources Department (Social services; welfare department) can help you eat. I know for a fact, and there's absolutely no excuse to say they won't. If you don't work, you definitely qualify for foodstamps, and while you may feel that's kind of shameful to take right now, it does keep you fed for the month. You simply go in, fill out 10 minutes of paperwork, speak with a case worker, and they hand you an EBT that will have a set limit on it the very next day. Three or four months later you fill out another income form to prove you still qualify for the food card. The maximum allotment for one person is $200 per month, which is probably more than enough for a guy like yourself. $200 worth of food every month for just saying, "Hey...some help, please?" Some places also allow you some cash, too, but it varies based on state and you will need to ask your case worker for that. (For note, they now call "foodstamp" the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) ).
Health & Human Resources Departments in Texas:
http://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&channel=s&hl=en&source=hp&q=williamson%2C+wv+welfare&btnG=Google+Search#q=texas+Health+%26+Human+Resources+Department&hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&channel=s&prmd=ivns&source=lnms&tbs=plcs:1&ei=QkUbTZzFHoaWsgPgz8XLCg&sa=X&oi=mode_link&ct=mode&sqi=2&ved=0CBAQ_AU&prmdo=1&fp=83f87efc6f926f13
In addition, health & human resources may be able to help you pay on some of your medical bills. I know they've helped my dad, who NOW has social security disability benefits. I know they help a lot of low-income and no-income people who need medical care, or have recently received it, and have no way of paying--I think it's based on your personal income so it varies how much they can help. It doesn't hurt to ask.
If you go to the ER in extreme pain, complaining that the pain just won't end, they have to do something. They, legally, cannot turn you away even if you can't for a penny of the treatment they administer. While they may or may not go through with a surgery, they would give you pain medication to help you reduce the symptoms--and many times they will let you put the first prescription directly on the hospital bill for you to pay when you pay for the bill. From there you can ask to speak with someone from the bill department, explain that you have no income, and they can get you help from their "hardships" funds to pay for or reduce your costs.
As for a place to stay, visit your local housing authority. Explain your situation: you're waiting for your disability case to go through, you're on low-income assistance with the Health & Human Resources Department, and you don't have a place to live. I've watched this happen with my own eyes (my aunts work for the housing authority in another location). They can get you into an apartment, free of rent and basic utilities paid for, if they have an open space for you. You fill out, again, 10 minutes of paperwork, talk with your case worker, and they typically move you right in the same day if they have something open. If nothing is open then you can give them a phone number where to reach you and as soon as something comes available they will contact you.
Texas Housing Authorities:
http://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&channel=s&hl=en&source=hp&q=williamson%2C+wv+welfare&btnG=Google+Search#sclient=psy&hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US%3Aofficial&channel=s&prmdo=1&tbs=plcs:1&q=texas+housing+authorities&aq=f&aqi=g1g-v1&aql=&oq=&gs_rfai=&pbx=1&prmdo=1&fp=83f87efc6f926f13
If possible, you could even buy a little prepaid telephone (I suggest NET10 for REALLY low fees) and throw the minimum time amount on it (usually $20, but when you buy a brand-new phone it is usually $30 for the phone with free 300 minutes on NET10). That way you have a way of them reaching you at all times. I've also heard that even the $14 NET10 phones come with free 300 minutes, even when not advertised, when you activate them (free "gift"). I believe this is the (basic) phone I purchased for $30 that came with the free 300 minutes, for sure:
http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/net-10-phone/ID=prod6005125-product
As for getting rides to the above places, hitchhike if you have to. Ask your friend if they can run you downtown so you can see these offices and speak with someone. Tell them you're motivated to make changes, you appreciate the help they've given you, and you know it's time to move forward with life.
If you don't speak up then nobody will hear you. Reach out. Tell people you need help. Don't be afraid to say it. Asking for help is not degrading like everyone makes it sound. You need help and people are willing to help you. You just have to let them know.
Talk with the local Salvation Army, the local churches (many pastors will drive you to shelters, missions, etc. if you ask), shelters, missions, foodbanks, etc. Anything where they serve the public and provide free assistance is a place where you need to contact.
Listing of Texas homeless shelters, based on city (ignore the massive amounts of Google Adsense Ads when you select a location):
http://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/texas.html
Soup Kitchens in Texas:
http://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/foodbanks/TXfoodbanks.html
Food Banks in Texas (just scroll down and there are 18 listings from 4 pages of results):
http://feedingamerica.org/foodbank-results.aspx?state=TX
Food pantries in Texas:
http://www.foodpantries.org/st/texas
Free food in Texas:
http://www.freefood.org/s/texas
Free cell phones and minutes:
https://www.safelinkwireless.com/EnrollmentPublic/home.aspx
Missions of Mercy (may help by provided free clinic visits or low-cost prescriptions):
http://www.amissionofmercy.org/texas/services.asp
& their Texas locations:
http://www.amissionofmercy.org/texas/locateaclinic.asp
And this HUD site in Texas lists a bit of addition helpful links:
http://www.hud.gov/local/index.cfm?state=tx&topic=homeless
And here is a Health Care benefits page for Texas (you can apply for foodstamps/SNAP, etc. online from this website):
https://www.yourtexasbenefits.com/ssp/SSPHome/ssphome.jsp
Suicide is, most definitely, not your answer. If you don't fight the system and stand up for yourself then nobody else will, unfortunately. Even if you went through with the plan you mention, it's likely that the TRUTH wouldn't really come out, and, if it did, it would be downplayed and forgotten about. If you keep fighting, they can't forget about you. If you keep on their tails, asking for help, then you keep the fight for what America SHOULD BE going.
The U.S. really is in for a big surprise. We both know it. There are hard times coming, but a lot of people who DO have their eyes open to the truth will be able to get through it. We need people in this world like you, who has open eyes to what the government has done to us. We need people who are fighters. We need people who know what's really going on with health-care. We need you around.
Don't give up hope. It's not too late. It isn't hopeless. I know how you feel and I know that you can make it through this if you keep up the good fight.
Keep your mind. Don't down the whiskey and inject the heroin. Live each day knowing that you are truly alive. You don't buy into the BS media. You know the truth and you have the power to spread it, educate others, and improve this situation--if you stay around.
I've been low myself, in many ways you describe. There will always be ups and downs. Remind yourself that this is just a down, and you have to bring yourself back up and change things around. Death doesn't get that done. Death is an end. You have so much to give, so much you can help with, and so much you offer from just being around. Stay in the game and keep pushing forward.
Speak out for help.
Push for it.
Demand it.
Don't let the government sweep you under the rug any more. You need help, you deserve it, and you're owed it.
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I am 4 mo. pregnant and the babies daddy left me penniless, homeless, and with out a car. I am about to be homeless in a few days and the sad part is I'm not a bad person. I don't do drugs and I don't drink and violence of any kind is just not in my nature. I love this child and its not even born yet. I live in the country and there are no homeless shelters anywhere near. I have no friends and family and will do anything to keep and raise my baby. Please help me what should I do. This child deserves its mother.
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If there are no homeless shelters around your location then see your local welfare department and housing authority. Many, many times they will have an open apartment that they can get you in almost immediately after some very quick paperwork is started.
I understand "living in the country" but you're going to have to find a ride to the welfare department. Asking for help is not degrading like everyone makes it sound. You need help and people are willing to help you. You just have to let them know.
If you have access to a telephone, and I assume you do since you have access to a computer, then make a phone call to your local welfare department and housing authority locations. Tell them that you're 4 months pregnant, you don't have a place to live, and you're desperate for help. It sounds like a long shot, but sometimes these people will actually come and get you from the kindness of their heart if you just say, "I'm stuck where I am, I have no way of getting there, could you please, please, please help me get there so I could fill out paperwork? I would be eternally grateful for anything you could do for me."
If, for some reason, you can't get hold of the proper places on the phone then try to contact a local church. Many pastors will drive you, without question, to a place where you can stay for the night. Many church leaders know where you could stay for a night or two or where you could get a ride to the appropriate places. If, for some reason, one church can't, or won't, help you figure this sort of thing out right now then try another church. Ask for help.
If you don't speak up then nobody will hear you. Reach out. Tell people you need help. Don't be afraid to say it.
Remember friends and family right now. Give them a call, even if you haven't spoken to them in what seems like forever, and ask if you can stay with them for the next couple of days. Explain the situation. It might be embarrassing but it's better than sleeping outside in the cold. Sometimes you just need to swallow your pride.
If worse comes to worse and nobody can help you right now for some reason, ask a pastor to drive you to the nearest shelter where you can stay for a few days. They tend to know the surrounding areas and where places like this may be located. At least you'll be able to have a warm meal and a place to lay your head until you can get the appropriate help you need.
I once face a situation where I wasn't sure where I was going to sleep for the night. It was pretty scary. I ended up talking with a couple of local cashiers when I checked out through their lines, and with people who were running a pizza place that I stepped into for a bite to eat. They gave me places to call, references of places that might be able to help me, and helped me as much as possible. Kind, caring people who are more than willing to help you, be it driving you some place or letting you stay the night in their spare room, are out there. If you don't let them know that they're needed then they won't ever know to help you.
So, make some phone calls and stop by a few places:
Housing Authority
Welfare Department
Various Churches
Tell them you need help. Explain the situation and what is going on. Once you get some help (a housing situation, food stamps, medical care for the baby, etc.) then you can purchase a prepaid cell-phone and try to work on talking with the unemployment office about getting you some work started, even if it's temporary work. Start from the ground up. You can do it.
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I'm M/15. I have been addicted to porn for a while. It soon escalated to transexual porn. I feel like its making me anti social. I like girls but I don't talk to them as much as I used to. I feel like I'll never get a girlfriend. Stupid dam internet. Every time I finish mastrabating to it, I feel evil & disgraceful, & disgusted with myself. I have been able to go weeks before a relapse. I also realise that when I used to be with a girl, I would never even think about porn. When I do see a girl I know & like, I just say hi & walk on, I used to be able to talk & laugh, but this past year I've turned into a disgusting, lonely bastard with no life. Once I went about 3 weeks by sabotaging my internet connection, BUT ofcourse I relapsed. :( What have I become? Maybe a new year's resolution... (link)
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When anything has become an obsession or an addiction so much that your daily life has been altered and diminished then something needs to happen and change!
First off, YOU are ALLOWING yourself to do these things. You CAN make yourself stop doing this if you honestly put forth the effort. Addiction is hard but the first step is admitting that something is wrong with what you are doing. You are there. The next step is start making changes.
You should throw away all of your porn. THROW IT AWAY. Don't second guess or keep one or two things hidden from yourself. Completely get rid of it. The trash is sitting in the other room, most likely, so go shove your porn items in it and take it out to the trash bin and leave it alone from there. (In addition: This applies to going on your computer and completely deleting all pornographic material your have.) Spend your money on more useful things--even if that means giving people in need your own money, which is called charity (and we know God wants us to give more to others).
In regards to television and movies, watch for the rating beforehand. Do not sit down and put yourself in a situation where you will be seeing sexual contact, which may trigger your addiction. Check out the rating system for television broadcasts:
http://www.tvguidelines.org/
...and for movies:
http://www.filmratings.com/
Alter your lifestyle. If you spent 2 hours online looking at porn, block porn websites and images (child-safety block yourself just to help fight off urges) and try to lessen your time online. If you absolutely MUST be online then do not ALLOW yourself to stray from your work. This means if you need to get a paper done then only do the paper (and don't sign online), and if you need to research information for that paper then ONLY research that information and then disconnect.
If you're getting tempted then get up and take a break and do something to help others (or even pick up your Bible). It may also help to get down on your knees and pray to God, asking Him for strength to fight the urge for the moment and to lead you in the right direction.
Spend the time on God and His will that you had spent looking at porn. Become an active member in a church you believe is doing right. This may be helpful in finding that church:
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=matthew%2025;&version=9;
Spend your time doing these things listed in the Bible. Spend time at soup kitchens helping the hungry, volunteer at shelters, visit the elderly in homes so they're not as lonely (not everyone has visitors and just about everyone has neat stories to tell), read Bible passages to younger children, donate your time to what needs you, and do whatever you can with that time. There are so many things you SHOULD be doing with your time that you are neglecting because of your addiction.
If you STILL feel you need help because you think temptation is still going to get the best of you (which means you are not putting your time to GOOD use) then maybe you should look into some sort of therapy. There are therapy groups for a lots of varieties of addicts (seriously, you can Google up Porn-A-Holics Anonymous or Porn Addicts Anonymous and find some).
Next, you should start right now--not later, not tomorrow, not next week. Get up and make some calls to see see where you would be allowed to volunteer at a couple of nights a week. Find out when visiting hours are at nursing homes and hospitals. Get your information.
Make yourself useful.
Help others the way God wishes we all would.
Picking up the Bible and taking time to read it is also very wonderful so you may want to set aside time each night to read a bit. Any way it is, the time you spend looking at porn needs to be redirected to time you spend doing God's will.
This will be a tough path at first but you will definitely get the hang of it if you hold your ground. Don't give into temptation and disappoint God when he has big plans for you. He wants to see you in the Kingdom of Heaven.
I hope I've helped you kick your addiction; however, it's mostly up to you and how much effort you are willing to putting into discontinuing your previous activities. If you aren't honestly serious about kicking your habit then you aren't going to succeed so when you start this be serious and strict with yourself.
I wish you well and hope to see you answering questions here down the road, helping other people stop with their own porn addictions.
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Is sperm dead when it dries? I get really paranoid about this everytime my boy friend fingers me. I get my period everytime though. I just think its because in this life style we hear about 16 year olds getting pregnant. Im never going to be like that. I never had sex and i will not till i am older. I think that, if he touched himself by accident or before we saw eachother and he fingered me i could get pregnant. I always think that everytime. I know its not true because like i said before i get my period everytime. I get really paranoid when i dont have my period because i always get thouhts in my head and it really annoys me. Can you please help me and tell me what to think about this situation? I may sound wack but i am just wondering. Please HELP! I am a 14.
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Just to kill off any upcoming rumor that may be posted: Sperm does NOT die when it hits air or oxygen.
However, when ejaculatory fluids dry, completely, then the sperm has died. Sperm cannot function in dry environment. There is an old myth that goes around saying that sperm can be reactivated, or come back to life, after it's dried if you moisten it with any fluid. This is NOT true. Dead sperm are dead. Completely dried sperm are dead, and even if you were to catch one or two that are just barely still alive, they would probably be fairly immobile if they were at the point of dry. Human sperm are actually fairly fragile creatures.
While a scientist in a laboratory setting can extract the DNA within the dead sperm cell and combine it with the DNA within an ovum (egg) to multiply, grow, and form life...it takes some pretty sophisticated equipment to achieve such results successfully.
If you have any concerns still, just have your boyfriend wash his hands before you two have play-time. As a matter of fact, he should always wash his hands before coming in contact with your vagina. Did you know that both major strains of herpes and some HPV strains can actually live under the fingernails and can be spread through unwashed hands? Always wash your hands! :)
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I am 15 years old, and my boyfriend and i had oral sex. i got some of the semen on my hand and i didn't wash my hand and we continued to hang out. he fingered me earlier that day but as we continued out hang out after i gave him head i could feel myself bleeding. i wondered if mhe popped my cherry so i went to the upstairs bathroom, stuck my fingers in and out to see if they were bloody.. i then realized what i had done. I forgot how much sperm i got on my hand and I heard that sperm can stay alive from 30 minutes to 5 5hours even if dried up. my boyfriend flipped out and he wants me to take Plan B. What are the side effects of Plan B? Could it kill me? i'm only fifteen years old and i've only ever gotten my period twice in my life. Once for a whole week jan 09 & another time a whole year later in jan 10! my mom told me that she was irregular when she was younger but that didnt mean that she would have trouble having children. she said that she had no problem getting pregnant which should mean that i;m the same way/: if i take the pill tomorrow in the a.m. should i be ok? could it kill me? could the pill hurt me in any way? answer asap please, thank you (link)
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Typical side effects of Plan B (if they don't go away after 1 to 2 days, you should seek medical care):
- Nausean
- Abdominal pain
- Fatigue
- Headaches
- A heavier menstrual period
- A lighter menstrual period
- Dizziness
- Breast tenderness
- Vomiting
- Diarrhea
- Fluid retention
- Irregular bleeding
Serious effects of taking the Plan B:
- Vomiting within one hour of taking a Plan B tablet (you may have vomited up the tablet)
- Signs of an ectopic pregnancy (a "tubal" pregnancy), such as severe abdominal pain (stomach pain)
- Signs of an allergic reaction, including an unexplained rash, hives, itching, unexplained swelling, wheezing, or difficulty breathing or swallowing.
Other things to look out for (seek immediate medical assistance if you experience any of the following):
Abdominal pains (severe)
Chest pain or shortness of breath
Headaches (severe)
Eye problems, such as blurred vision
Severe leg or arm pain or numbness
I think you may find the following link particularly helpful:
http://www.morningafterpill.org/is-emergency-contraception-saf.html
"If one reads the patient information package insert for regular hormonal birth control (remember, emergency contraception is a mega-dose of the regular birth control pill), one will find that the side effects of hormonal contraceptives include:
Head/Brain
* Cerebral hemorrhage (bleeding into the cranial cavity)
* Cerebral thrombosis (blood clot that drains blood from the brain)
* Melasma, which may persist (skin discoloration; usually dark, irregular patches)
* Migraine
* Headache
* Dizziness
Eyes
* Retinal thrombosis (blockage of the central retinal vein that carries blood away from the eye)
* Change in corneal curvature (steepening of the cornea)
Heart/Blood
* Thrombophlebitis and venous thrombosis with or without embolism (blood clots in the veins)
* Mesenteric thrombosis (blood clot in the major veins that drain blood from the intestine)
* Hemorrhagic eruption (bleeding eruption)
* Arterial thromboembolism (blood clots in the heart)
* Pulmonary embolism (arterial blockage, usually from a blood clot, that cuts off one lung's blood supply)
* Myocardial infarction (heart attack)
* Budd-Chiari Syndrome (closing of the veins that carry deoxygenated blood from the lower half of the body into the heart)
* Hemolytic uremic syndrome (kidney failure and low platelet count in the blood)"
And, yes, unfortunately, there are cases where the morning after pill was responsible for the death of the mother-to-be, the most famous being a young girl named Holly Patterson. Most of the death cases are from women taking the abortion pill though, but the morning after pill can cause things like life-threatening blood clots (however, so can birth control pills):
http://www.lifeissues.net/writers/mos/mos_31pillcankill.html
This site:
http://familypolicy.net/papers/morning-after-pill
...also has some interesting notes:
"Since serious side effects don't always immediately manifest themselves after taking pharmaceutical drugs, a high-dosage chemical drug like the MAP should not be used. In other words, just because women don't immediately die after taking the MAP doesn't validate the claim that the MAP is safe. It is not known whether the large amounts of chemicals in the MAP cause permanent damage to a woman's fertility or cause certain diseases such as cancer to develop over time. Even though the MAP cannot abort a baby that has already been implanted in the uterus, the effect of the MAP's dangerously large dosage of hormones on that baby are not yet known. The over-the-counter status of Plan B, a popular 'emergency contraceptive' pill, communicates the false impression to women that the pill is safe to use, even on a regular basis, as if it were as harmless as cough medicine. The fact is, to date, there is no scientific study proving the maximum safe dosage for levornorgestrel, the active chemical in Plan B."
Once sperm has dried, it typically is no longer alive. There is an old myth that if you moisten dried sperm then it will come back to life. That isn't how things work though. The sperm are alive in the ejaculatory fluid, but once it has completely dried then they can no longer function.
If the sperm was completely dry then it was completely dead.
If your hands were moistened from the ejaculatory fluids then you could have shoved a few live sperm into your vagina. It does only take one sperm to get you pregnant.
It's your choice if you think you're at such a high risk that you'd like to take Plan B. You're at a lower risk at becoming pregnant since the ejaculation didn't occur within you; but, you are still at a risk of pregnancy if you inserted spermy fingers into you. The risk is lower, but it's still there then. It's up to you if you want to take the Plan B anyway.
For note, you need to see your doctor about your irregular periods. I know you probably don't want to, but it's gone on far too long. Being THIS irregular usually means that there is something wrong, and if you haven't been checked out by a doctor then your case may be entirely different from your mother's, unfortunately. The period should regular within one year and it's not even been close to regular for you so you definitely need to get checked out.
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago. He seemed like he regretted it afterwards, he made the decision quite abruptly and didn't actually think it through.
We spoke here and there a while afterwards but then I cut contact. He still text me now and then saying he still loved me, missed me etc. I asked him whether that meant he wanted to get back together and he said he wasn't sure.
I haven't spoken to him for over a month, but I do check his facebook (bad I know) and he puts lyrics to our favourite songs all of the time. I know he isn't seeing anyone else and he always puts things like I wanna make you mine..or lyrics to songs we used to sing to eachother. Does this just mean he misses me? (link)
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You may be reading too much into his favorite song lyrics. While it could be really sweet he is posting lyrics that remind him of you, a lot of lyrics in favorite songs are just catchy.
In addition to that, you don't really know where he stands with other girls. He may have a crush on someone else and may be pining over her, even though they aren't a couple or anything. Honestly, you have no idea who he may chat with or text.
I only say you may be reading too deep into lyrics is because he can say he loves and misses you but won't push forward to be with you. There's something that he doesn't want about your relationship, and he, obviously, isn't willing to try and make it work anyway. He may love who you are, or miss being with you, but really hate something huge about the relationship (for many guys this is just "commitment" issues and there isn't anything YOU can do to fix it--it's something he needs to "grow up" for). He sounds pretty torn, to me. Cutting off contact was probably a good decision for you because, at this point, communicating with him would only cause you MORE torment trying to figure out what he's actually thinking.
Break away and move on. I know you may miss him, and may be sad that the relationship didn't work out like you had hoped, but you can't keep dwelling on the past and hope he comes to his sense, turns into prince charming, and makes all the right moves. He, obviously, isn't ready for anything serious with a girl--and may not be truly ready for quite some time. It's sad to say, but it's time to stop hoping that he'll turn around and start thinking more about YOUR future. Wishing that he's secretly sending messages in FaceBook postings of favorite lyrics is only helping to create a fantasy that may never become reality.
I know it's hard to do, but stop breaking your heart and checking in on him often. Move on. Move forward. Move upward. See new people. Go on a few dates, have a few laughs, and meet some great people out there. When, and if, the boy gets ready to settle for a sturdy, committed relationship then he won't beat around the bush about having feelings or that he wants a relationship. He'll know what he wants and he'll be forward with that. Right now he has a lot of growing to do.
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So im joining the service and lately have been running alot. Idk if its from when i used to smoke but i get alot of mucus in my mouth and im not sure why. It doesnt ususally bother me but it feels like since it got cold that its getting worse. Are there anyways to stop that or will it just gradually stop on its own? Also what are some good foods that have alot of protein in them? (link)
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Sometimes the excess mucus (and thickened mucus) when running is caused by hydration problems. To combat this, you should drink some fresh water an hour or so before your run. Make sure you drink PLENTY. Small sips of water, or a few swishes/spits of water, while you run may also be beneficial for getting clean water directly to the problem areas (mouth/throat) right away.
As you run, the mucus membranes can dry out since so much fluid is being expelled. Make sure you're WELL hydrated. Even when you're tired of having plain water, drink some more ;)
You also could have an allergy that is causing a slight allergic reaction or even a mild asthma problem that has gone unnoticed before. If you keep track of when and where the mucus really starts to act up you may be able to figure out if certain yards, bushes, trees, animals, etc. are causing an issue so that you can avoid those areas or take an over-the-counter anti-allergen before your run.
I also read someplace that it has to do with your toxin build-up within you body. During exercise the body expels a lot of toxins through sweat and saliva. If you have excessive amounts of toxin then your body may be dumping them in your mucus membranes for quick relief while running. In this case, spit it out, of course. There are herbal supplements you can take that help to decrease toxins but you would have to be up for some pretty rough bodily cleanses for those.
See your doctor if the problem prevents you from exercising properly.
Foods high in protein: Beef, turkey, chicken, fish (anchovies, halibut, mackerel, salmon, sardines, tuna), pork, eggs, milk, cottage cheese (cheddar, swiss, muenster), yogurt, cheeses, tofu, soy milk, most beans (black beans, pinto, lentils, garbanzo, kidney, lima, navy, soybeans), peas, peanut butter, almonds, peanuts, cashews, pecans, sunflower seeds, pumpkin seeds, flax, sprouted alfalfa seeds, artichokes, asparagus, avocados, beets, broccoli, cabbage, carrots, cauliflower, celery, corn, cucumber, garlic, endive, mushrooms, mustard greens, dandelion greens, okra, olives, onions, parsley, parsnips, peppers, potatoes, radishes, spinach, squash, sweet potatoes, tomatoes, watermelon, oatmeal, whole wheat pancakes, popcorn, brown rice, rye bread, and whole wheat bread.
In addition to protein consumption, make sure you also take a daily multi-vitamin to make sure you're getting enough of the right vitamins to keep you body happy and healthy.
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Hey so I've been dying my hair for the past 3 years and I have had it professionly dyed blonde, chocolate brown and aburn before. But, every time I dye it, it eventually turns to a brassy gold color or a redish color if I dye it brown. I would like to know why this is and if I should dye my hair a certain color to prevent from turning brassy or a reddish color. Also I would like to know if there are any tricks I can use to make my hair grow faster or/and thicker.
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One reason hair can take on a brassy tone when it's lightened is that the dye is not left on the hair shaft long enough to lift out the color properly. When hair is lightened it goes through various stages before reaching the final blonde shade, and if it's removed too early into the process then the color can leave an orange or reddish tint behind that will show up as more damage is done to the shaft through daily activities and styling after the initial damage (dying) is done.
The other reason you may experience brassy hair after coloring is your hair is too dark for the particular coloring you're using. Standard permanent dyes only lift the hair two to three shades. If your hair is too dark for the dye then it won't lift out the natural color. There are a few things that can be done, such as a progressive lightening or a bleaching, but the hair shaft will end up being severely damaged in the end. Unfortunately, if you want to be a platinum blond but you were born with black hair then you're going to have to give up some of the beautiful luster, be patient while you dye your hair lighter every so often, and be prepared for orange-tint results.
High levels of iron are most frequently found in well water. These iron deposits can add a red, brassy tone to hair when the hair is washed and rinsed. The lighter the hair color, the more the iron deposits may discolor the hair shaft and so as a reddish/orange tint.
There are specific shampoos available to help counteract unwanted brassiness. These shampoos generally have a blue or purple color which is effective in offsetting shades of orange. Some shampoos are made by Zerran,
Aveda, and Clairol:
http://www.amazon.com/Zerran-Shampoo-Color-Shampoo-Brassy-Platinum/dp/B000N2ONOY
http://www.amazon.com/AVEDA-Aveda-BLACK-MALVA-SHAMPOO/dp/B000VZIZBU/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=beauty&qid=1293481375&sr=8-1
http://www.amazon.com/Clairol-Shimmer-Lights-Shampoo-Conditioner/dp/B0045V0JMO/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1293481429&sr=8-4
You could also use a toner. A toner is a semi-permanent dye that deposits color rather than lightens. Since toners have a minimal amount of peroxide, they generally don't damage the hair as much as traditional hair dyes. Choosing a toner with a violet or blue base can help to mask any brassy tones that are present in colored hair. Unfortunately, toners tend to wash out of the hair over several weeks so the brassiness may reappear. Talk with your hairdresser about a good toner for YOU and your dyed hair. It can be tricky to find something suitable for you so talk with a professional about getting a good product that will help.
You can grow your hair faster and thicker by taking care of you body by drinking plenty of water, eating healthy (no junk foods), and taking a good multi-vitamin every single day. Exercise enough, don't tie your hair in hairbands all day (leads to breakage and damage), and moisturize your hair often with natural oils like almond oil. I could give you a whole list of great moisturizing products and techniques that I use for my hair, that use to be very dry. Dry hair is treated just like dyed hair so make sure you conditioner and hydrated as much as possible.
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I am a 14 year old boy and my girlffriend is 1 month younger than me.I started going out with her about 1 month ago,and bought her a 70 dollar neclace for christmas.I am reallyserious about her,because we got alot in common.I wanna know if its to early,and will it look like im begging her if i give her it. (link)
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I would give it a little more time before presenting her with a gift that is so expensive. $70 is spent on pretty special things. When you're 1 month into the relationship, especially at 14, things haven't gotten too serious yet.
Keep the necklace for another few months. It would make a nice gift for your 6 month anniversary, at the earliest.
Right now all you know about her is that you two like a lot of the same things. It's wonderful to share interests. The problem is that you haven't had any ups or downs with her yet. You haven't spent too much time with her just yet.
Give your relationship a little more time, at least 6 months (though, preferably, 1 year) before giving her something so pricey. Once you give it away, it's gone. And once you give her something really expensive, she may begin to expect luxurious gifts at every occasion.
So, don't spoil her just yet ;)
Give the relationship a little time.
Be happy you two are together, share some nice time together, and get to know each other before exchanging $70 presents ;)
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