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My roommate is a pathological liar
I recently found out that my current roommate, who is one of my best friends, is a pathological liar. Basically, she has been manipulating me for the past year, causing me to feel responsible for an attempted suicide (which never happened) because I didn't pick up the phone when i needed to talk. She also told me things about my friends that has definitely altered my relationships with them and the way i see them, that her mother was dying (she actually let me believe she was dead on multiple occasions), and made up a sexual assault, just to name a few of the lies. She is currently getting the help from psychologists and therapists that she needs, but i'm still trying to sort out my life. In order to do that, i began confiding in a close friend about the situation, but the stories are so far-fetched that i don't think he believes ME. It understandably seems strange to him that I wouldn't have picked up on any of this throughout the course of the year, and many of the other stories I told him are crazier than the ones above. What can i do to prove to him that I'm being honest?
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While it is wonderful to confide in a friend about the things have been happening in your life, you seriously need to talk with a therapist at this point.
Telling your friend your problems can help release those frustrated feelings. It's great to get it all off of your chest, but, as you are seeing, sometimes life is a little more twisted than one person can understand (if they haven't lived it).
Proving to him your honesty is probably not really going to happen. The harder you try to prove what you're saying is real, the more it may seem like you're trying to fabricate the truth. It can actually backfire pretty badly. Sometimes friends don't need to know absolutely everything that has happened.
A therapist can help you sort out these feelings and emotions that have spurred from your mentally ill roommate. It isn't your roommate's fault that they have a mental disorder that they cannot control, but it may have caused you to suffer from some issues yourself, including post traumatic stress disorder (or PTSD).
I do urge you to move out of the roommate situation as soon as humanly possible. This particular person needs help, and is thankfully getting the appropriate help, but you need to step away to avoid further psychological damage to yourself. Your roommate has absolutely no obligation to continue getting well, and, thus, may choose to discontinue therapy and treatment at any time--leaving you open and vulnerable to "attack" again.
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i know people who make up crazy lies like that. I was to good to believe them at first. i was confused. and i didnt help my life and all if your friend doesnt believe you he isnt a very good friend. your friend that lies needs your help.. if she starts losing friends because of her problem she will follow depression and who knows what will happen. just be there for her. help her learn that lieing ruins lots of things. let her know you will stick by her while she sees these doctors to help her.
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what a total biatch!!!how dare she..i reaallly dislike people like that!!shes a cruel bitch! i hope your moving out because its going to take a really long time before she gets better.
to be honest your friend should naturally trust in you. you shouldnt have to believeprove that your honest to him.
Dont worry i would of believe that cow too (sorry if shes still your friend)
what id do is talk to him. just tell him whats on your mind, be like "do you trust me? do you think im lying about the things i tell you?because for some reason i have a feeling that your not believing the things im saying. yes they maybe over the top but i am saying the truth. i would never lie about things like this and my imagintaion isnt wild enough to come up these sort of stories. i know that the stuff she told me was over the top but i didnt dare to question her because in my heart i thought she was an honest person. she was ment to be my best friend so i believed in her. I mean if someone told your theyr mom died would you accuse them of lying? Please put yourself in my position because i dont want to feel as if you think im a liar because im nothing like that girl."
Say something like that just let it all out
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