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I came to this site for advice about a man and love. That very question turned my entire world around and I have had my eyes opened to things I never noticed before.

I've stayed here so that I can share the knowledge I do have. I know I'm not changing the world but I do hope that I spark others to open their eyes.

"The only thing to do with good advice is pass it on. It is never any use to oneself." - Oscar Wilde

So, if you learn something from what I say then repeat it to someone else who can use it.

I hope that if you see an answer of mine that you enjoy it will inspire you to go out of your way to give good, solid information. Provide links for further information, detail your responses, encourage people to seek out professionals when it's needed, and stop sugar-coating responses and just say the truth.

I hope that even if you absolutely hate my answer that it'll kick start your brain. Hopefully you'll begin taking your time to respond instead of hurried answers that are useless to an already confused person.

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on." - Robert Frost
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Thank you for telling me about tampons! i came back to ask about what to do for my friend who has cancer "down there" and is going to lose her parts and not have babies. :( and i looked you up to THANK YOU for telling me about cups which is what I use now and if it wasnt for you then tampons coulda made me have cancer too!

Just came back to delete all my questions and I forgot to thank you for telling me to get checked out! It was really bad, like herpes bad! some time we did it before he gave it to me then the time i asked about it and you answered i was having an 'outbreak' in my vagina and that is hwy i was in SO MUCH PAIN! You were right. Huge mistake and I feel SO stupid!

Thanks for your answer :)

I just visited a dermatologist, and she told me it was not rejecting and gave me cream for it. And when you say "Congratulations" it gives off a sarcastic/bitchy vibe from you.

THis advice was amazing! Peeps has definately done a LOT of research, and knows what is going on. I wish I could give more than a five, because Peeps deserves maybe a six or seven. Thank you so much for the advice!

Thank you, I am going to try some of your suggestions :)

thank you for your advice. That i know of she hasnt smoked in 2 weeks. I told her that its ok that she messes up and smokes but that she has to tell me. Yes i hate what she was doing to herself by doing that but the bigger problem was the lieing. If i catch her doing it again without telling me it would be a 3rd time, i dont think i can do it anymore if that happens. what do you think i should do if she keeps lieing?

WOW i really didn't expect to hear this. But I see where I went wrong now. And why he left.

Rating changed by Admin: Thank you very much for your replay.... well i saw more then 5 Dr. with my boyfriend, and all tell us the same that we are ok and to keep trying... about the ovulation tests yes i have i will start my 3th month..(not 6 months) i will do it every month.. and about Dr to give me some to help my body...NO that is what he say because i am only 28 i should not take it...so that only think what i can do is keep hoping and praying!! :-) we want so bad a baby that i tink we stress to much i think we need to relax and just stop thinking about it! :-)

I AM trying to respond to him, but everything he outlined and the message he sent, honestly frightened me a little. It was very vicious and really cruel accusations of things I couldn’t have done. (I’ve checked yearbooks, he’s accuses me of in charge of clubs during events when I was a junior. Mentions having a hair colour I never had). I'm trying to sympathize with him and I'm happy to apologize for calling him names, but that’s the most I did (and it happened during the time when he liked to flush my belongings down the toilet and tell me my name was a dog’s name and went around barking and throwing dog treats at me... So it's not as though he was angelic in the way he treated me.) I didn't say I wasn't bullied. I was - and this very guy was responsible for some of it - albeit not the worst of it. I do sympathize and want to acknowledge him, but his message was just so accusatory and so completely wrong I'm not sure how to start.

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The same thing happened to me that happened to the woman you know. Thank you for your advice and thank you for being kind.

I agree with the abortion thing, I personally would never even think of having one, i still havent figured whats going on with me but I really like what you had to say. :)

Thanks, I didn't mean to offend the other advicenators, really. They just didn't answer my direct question. I won't cut off all communication, but I definitely will clear it up like you said, I'll even use your words. It's greatly appreciated.

thanks, obviously not what i wanted to hear but thanks alot for being honest that's what i need. and also, how did you know what my previous questions were?

I know you are trying to help and I thank you for that but the reason I can't get past this is that I was 6 months pregnant when I got my first stretch mark and I didn't want any more so I did "things" so my baby would STOP MAKING ME UGLY, but now i really want a baby again and I wonder if I made a mistake? But if I got another stretch mark I would probably do this again so what do I do?

Thankyouu!!

She has to wait till the day after to wash out her mouth so she doesn't hurt the wound or something like that. Thanks for the ideas :)

Yeah, I've read a lot about that and scarring isn't that big of a deal for me I dont care much it looks nasty but what ever it would heal with time. Infections worry me more, I sleep mouth up so I'd hope that, that would be a plus. Snagging it on clothes would hurt, I snagged my septum once on a shirt ouch, but since then always been careful. I do want them! No matter what if they reject quickly, well sucks. :( I was thinking about getting the 'dermals. Reviews have been good, and my sister had 'dermals done for her sternum, they took pretty well. She's telling me to get them, I'm just worried about it rejecting and having to get them cut out. But since the risk of rejection is lower than with the surfacebar....yeah, might go for it. Budget? If I was worrying about a budget I'd probably have my cousin do it in his damp dark basement. Terrible, anyways. I'm saving up, I want a legit job done. Thank you very much for your views and information! :)

thanks!

thanks so much. miscarriages was a thought, but i doubt i've had 4 miscarriages at such a young age, even if i am active. but thanks again for your advice, i'm definitely headed to the doctor soon

Thanks alot i really appreciate your help!

This is the single best piece of imformation/help that iv gotten out of everyone and every site iv looked at. thank you, and i was wondering if maybe you could help me further? my emails: Nerd_Cake@Yahoo.com

i really appreciate this. i wasn't going to use a lubricant such as soap, like people have suggested. these are fantastic suggestions and i only wish i had them for the pervious gauging. thank you so much.

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Thanks!:))

Thank you x100000

Thank you so much for your time and effort! Do you have any advice on what I should do? I mean, that was my first time without a condom, and I know I can get pregnant off of pre-nut, but is there anything I could do to prevent myself from being pregnant, like the morning after pill? or any other kinds of medications.

I just wanted to say thanks,that was well spoken. I guess its just I have a hard time asking for help. Yes I have struggled throughout life from birth. I asked my government for help once in my life that was in 1978 when I got 3 fingers cut off. I got one weeks worth of food stamps and never asked for anything else.. I was drawing $420 a month workmans comp and my rent was $400 a month. So I ended up moving in with with my childhood molester and getting that one weeks worth of food stamps. Yes I had to do what I had to do. I hated living there as he used me sexually then to. But a man has to do what a man has to do. I had no where else to turn.. LONG story. I am writing a book about my life as of a few weks ago. Everyone says it will be a good seller. I guess it comes from my childhood,I dreaded having to ask my dad for money or anything. I never knew if I would get the hell beat out of my or he would say yes. Anyway I am hanging in there,been here before many times,got both my ankles and left leg broke at the same time in 1975,in back brace for 1 year do to auto accident with broke back and punchured,damit I actually died on that one but the prick revived me,My loss. got 3 fingers cut off in 1978,broke right hand in 1981, came down with spinal meninjitis in 1995 was in coma 3 days,that one also should have killed me but again here I am.In 2005 was in fight with a empoyee at work ,he was on crack and attacked me,got my neck and lower back hurt,2008 was in auto accident and got same back reinjured and neck.. I have been told God is testing me,ha ,let the test be done. I can't take no more,body is beaten down and age is starting to kick in. NOW can you understand I need relief.My body can't take much more. Believe me I am fighting but there has to be a end somewhere even if it is to say I can't take no more I'm outa here. I have found no purpose for me here but taking up oxygen and space. Think how much money it would save the tax payers. I went to the hospital a couple months ago because I was having severe chest pains,they ran 2 tests and said they didn't see nothing wrong,they wanted to do one more test on me and I told the doc not to worry as I cannot pay the bill and the tax payer will have to pick up the tab. I have done for me the best I can all my life and what I have I have worked very hard for and I have very little,but I am a survivor. They say you have to get through hell just to get to heaven,I am living in it now and ready to see the good man above reach down and pull me out and say your punishment is up. Again very well spoken and I think you are a very good speaker and tell it like it is. I called suicide hotline last night and they were out of dallas and said there was nothing they could do to help as I live in east tx,but refered me to call emergency 211 so I did and the number could not be reached for some reason. I laughed my butt off. So much for help its an emergency number and I can't get thruogh. Tryed applying online for foodstamps and it kept having me to do these serveys for different products and I got fustrated and said the hell with it. Now I have to find a ride and go sit for several hours and have to sit down and ask for assistance and I have no way of getting around,remember I have a very hard time asking anyone for anything,I wil do without a lot before I ask.. I wish you the best. I will go one day with my help or the lords help and I cannot wait!!!

You saved me.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! This totally cleared my head. I can't thank-you enough!

thankk uu very much uu helped me alote

thank you very much for your answer... :-)

thanks!

I've been to the Doctor about my cold sore, and its NOT an STD. The doctor said their is a difference between gential herpes and a cold sore. Yes its a form of herpes, but not an STD. Just like when you get warts; doesn't mean you have gential warts either. I've already been checked for STDS eight times in the last 4 years, and I am clean. ( and ive only been checked that much beacuse the doctor said theres no tellin when they will come up), but I've went four years without sex and Im still clean. So thanks again, but its not an STD.

Thanks! Will do. I'll have to call or stop into the local Planned Parenthood since I am home for the holidays and 2000+ miles away from the one I originally went to. Thanks for the suggestion though. :)

Thanks. I got the 10 gallon tank, and while she does miss climbing, this is much safer and better for her. :) Thank you!

thank you this will definatley help calm her down

Rating changed by mod: Dude 1 I'm not beating myself over it 2 way to long an answer for such a simple question 3 you're full of shit

thank you

Thank uu alote this really helpp me !

Thank you!

if there was a 6, i'd rate you that. best advice ever. so useful. thanks girl

Thanks!

thanks, that person below you..i don't even know. like you said, just doesn't know the different between a pregnancy test and a fertility test. but again, thanks for advice that i can actually work with

Thanks but i wanted to know about all STD's not just HPV. I wasnt really even thinking about HPV when i asked that question because i dont consider it a STD. Because it comes at you like cancer. Im thinking more like aids, or Herpes.

Thanks so much. This was actually how I did it provisionally, until I got in doubt. Unfortunately, the paper is actually a pretty technical translation, which ties my hands in regards to changing their meaning/structure. Thanks again though it was very helpful:)

thank you so much =]! could you delete it though, i dont want everyone seeing all the questions i asked.

thank you +5

Thank you so much! You are AWESOME!!

THANKYOU!!!

Well eating, I don't think so at all. But I think it's my medication, I have mulitple heart problems, so I can't excersie all the time but the thing is i have the same medication since late March. I havn't been going out of the house for about 5 days, out of some stress I have but i don't, it's kind of a mystery because sleeping is one thing I LOVE. And I am a major horror movies fan, and they never tend to make problems for me at all. But thanks =]

You're right. I know it in my heart, at least in part of my heart. I love my husband, and I would not love a guy who cheated as a matter of course... thank you, you've actually done what I thought no one could - you've helped me. :)

Thank you.

he says if we have to go to a marriage counsler and not work out our own problems we dont need to be married. I tried talking to him he said if your not happy get your crap and leave then

Thank you sooo much. And yes that's very true, I have an appointment this up coming Tuesday. So I'm a bit anxious, Oh God cancerous lesions...eh anyways thanks and I'll start on those supplements again.

Thanks for the long, detailed, helpful answer. :) I have been reading more of the KJV bible often lately

But i dont feel this is a major concern because i just started and i dont make marks and i dont like break the skin

Thanks! That's what I've been telling people too but they kept on telling me to put lotion / A&D on it. I think I will take your advice instead and just leave it alone :)

Thank you :) only thing is I can't afford salon prices... Xx

Thanks so much you've really given me alot to think about. You really give great advice

thank you so much!

Thanx

thank you for your advice and I end up getting the morning after just to be on the safe side.

Thanks so much!

Thank you :) That was very informative.

you're absolutely right... i knew it was lacking a lot of emotion but i wasn't sure what to add and where. but thank you so much! i'm using a few suggestions throughout the scene

Thank You so Much. My Friend is going to sponsor Me!

Thank you! I appreciate that you went to the trouble of helping me out!

thank you SO much for going so in to detail ! i really appreciate it.

thank you so much (:

I appreciate the feedback and will do as recommended. Every bit helps in my book. :)

thank you :D:D i will do this :3

Hahah! What a well thought-out answer. Thank you very much :3. Logic seem to be pointing me towards simply admitting my crush. I'm giving myself a time-range. If he doesn't ask me out in 2 weeks, then I will ask him out :D! YAY!

thanks a lot i couldn't find that on the apple webpage at all i really appreciate it now i can make my 125$ paperweight back into something useful again

Thank you very much. It doesn't hurt at all but if this is something that can be corrected I'd love it to be!

I never thought of it like that, thank you a lot.

wow.. Thanks!

Thanks for the advice! I'll definitely try that!

Thank you very much for your detailed answer ill remember it for the next 6 months

thank you!

Thank you so much :) I have a good few of them that you mentioned but no where near even to half of what you mentioned lol :)

yes I know all that,but I couldn't list all those things,the question would be too long.I do like to do a lot of the things you listed,and possess a lot of good traits you listed,but it wouldn't fit into the question :)

I am truely thankful!

I don't have to always have it my way, we always do what she wants. I understand what your saying, but its just that she wants to hangout at her house, and she'll sit on her laptop, most of the time. And when we're with our friends she'll either ignore me or she's rude. I don't think when she says she doesn't know what time she wants to hangout that she's leaving it up to me, because she takes a really long time to get ready and on top of that i have to wait for her, so i don't think it's fair. I am not condemning her for her beliefs but she thinks that her beliefs are right. Like that movie for example, i had to watch it because it was already overdue. And now that she's become Christian she thinks everything is bad. I mean so what if there bad words? what movies doesn't have that? And besides just because she thinks its bad that doesn't give her the right to tell me not to watch it since it's my house. And maybe to her it's sinful to watch these movies and i don't know if it truly is, but in my opinion i think that it isn't and she shouldn't make a big deal out of it. As for the part where i can't accept her. I have accepted her. I know people change and everything and it's difficult to except,but i don't think it's her job to tell me what's right or what's wrong based on what she believes in. That's what i have problem with, and i feel like with that she's pressuring me to believe in Christ. She even texted me and asked me if i was mad at her and i said no, but then i told her how i felt and she was like well your always saying im wrong or whatever, and that we're both equally guilty, but i don't fell like i am because i usually don't try to be mean to her unless she's rude, and i feel like she's out of line. but thanks for the advice, you've really opened my eyes.

Unless the one answering the question is being abusive, do not rate them a 1. rating hanged by L2 moderator. ------------ lol i am not over reacting. she behaves strangely along with the other kids. but anyways this is a place to give advice not criticize and tell people they're wrong and that they are over reacting. it's not healthy when someone goes around telling other people that what they believe in is wrong and they should have the same beliefs as the person.

Thanks!

Lol, thank youuu. (:

thankyou so much i appreciate it!

thank you so much for all the effort. I truely appreciate it. I also added more information. The link is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ExWsVFJlFo&ob=av2e and the watch should be about 1:18 (the time) thanks. -Mariah

Thank you :)

thanks (=

thank you!

I have been driving legally for over two years already and the doctors say I am fine to drive even now. Also, yes I have my own money to buy a vehicle. I just think that sometimes, people can care too much

Yeah your like on the right path and those are like the knockoffs of them sort of thing? They were like shirts that were super expensive. But thanks!

Thank you (:

Oh my gosh thank you so much. I will definitely try the alkaline foods and see if it helps. Thank you thank you thank you!!!

thanks

Such a detailed answer. Thank you so much. Seems like the reason non hormonal methods aren't as popular is because they all seem like a huge hassle. I guess I'll be sticking to condoms, the pill, and the pull out method (all used together).

Rating changed by moderator: 1 ratings are for abuse only. This is obviously not abuse. Original: ok I was just tryin to keep the question brief. I've talked with him numerous times, and last time when he never made an effort, I finally left. I just wanted advice on when to walk away or pointers on how to get the spark back not about how you think I'm not an adult. Thanks for the friendly advice, you sound a little bitter.

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