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why is he still putting stuff?
My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago. He seemed like he regretted it afterwards, he made the decision quite abruptly and didn't actually think it through.
We spoke here and there a while afterwards but then I cut contact. He still text me now and then saying he still loved me, missed me etc. I asked him whether that meant he wanted to get back together and he said he wasn't sure.
I haven't spoken to him for over a month, but I do check his facebook (bad I know) and he puts lyrics to our favourite songs all of the time. I know he isn't seeing anyone else and he always puts things like I wanna make you mine..or lyrics to songs we used to sing to eachother. Does this just mean he misses me?
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I believe so. Every ex boyfriend misses their girl it's just hard for them to show it. Maybe he's just afraid of committing with you. He might still love you and never think of you any different. Just give him more time because it's only been a month imagine what would happen 2 months or 3? He could be crawling back to you. I know you miss him. But that's part of breaking up. You always miss the other person no matter how long you dated because they were special to you. Also he might not know that you miss him or love him because you didn't mention that in your problem. Just give him another month and see what happens time changes everything.
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He might still miss you or he might be posting lyrics about another girl he might like. You might be looking too into it but really, no one knows but him.
It's also really good that you did cut contact with him. I don't know if you still miss him or not but if you do, you should move on because he doesn't really seem to put much effort in getting back together with you if he wanted to. He might still miss you and everything but maybe not enough to get back together with you.
So there could be many reasons why he's posting lyrics on his facebook and he could still miss you or he might not. Well, just don't over think these kind of things because no one can really tell. Good luck!
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He's gay.
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You may be reading too much into his favorite song lyrics. While it could be really sweet he is posting lyrics that remind him of you, a lot of lyrics in favorite songs are just catchy.
In addition to that, you don't really know where he stands with other girls. He may have a crush on someone else and may be pining over her, even though they aren't a couple or anything. Honestly, you have no idea who he may chat with or text.
I only say you may be reading too deep into lyrics is because he can say he loves and misses you but won't push forward to be with you. There's something that he doesn't want about your relationship, and he, obviously, isn't willing to try and make it work anyway. He may love who you are, or miss being with you, but really hate something huge about the relationship (for many guys this is just "commitment" issues and there isn't anything YOU can do to fix it--it's something he needs to "grow up" for). He sounds pretty torn, to me. Cutting off contact was probably a good decision for you because, at this point, communicating with him would only cause you MORE torment trying to figure out what he's actually thinking.
Break away and move on. I know you may miss him, and may be sad that the relationship didn't work out like you had hoped, but you can't keep dwelling on the past and hope he comes to his sense, turns into prince charming, and makes all the right moves. He, obviously, isn't ready for anything serious with a girl--and may not be truly ready for quite some time. It's sad to say, but it's time to stop hoping that he'll turn around and start thinking more about YOUR future. Wishing that he's secretly sending messages in FaceBook postings of favorite lyrics is only helping to create a fantasy that may never become reality.
I know it's hard to do, but stop breaking your heart and checking in on him often. Move on. Move forward. Move upward. See new people. Go on a few dates, have a few laughs, and meet some great people out there. When, and if, the boy gets ready to settle for a sturdy, committed relationship then he won't beat around the bush about having feelings or that he wants a relationship. He'll know what he wants and he'll be forward with that. Right now he has a lot of growing to do.
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My assumption is yes, but I wouldn't take him back so soon.. He needs to know that rash decisions cause rash consequences.. If he wants you back, he needs to confront you not leave little hints on his Facebook. He's the one that decided he didn't want to be with you anymore. Keep your options open, something better might come along. (:
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