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Help me, I have no friends!
There's this girl at my school and she's the most evil person on earth. She should be two grades ahead of us, but she's stayed back a few times. But anyways she bullies me because she thinks I'm ugly and weird. I'll admit that I'm not the prettiest person in the world, but that's no reason for her to tease me because she has problems too, she has a tooth in her mouth that's growing in the wrong spot.
She's super popular, everyone pretends that they like her which means they have to hate me, but everyone is secretly scared of her. She wears skimpy clothes, and I wish I could tell her how stupid she looks. The thing with me is that I have oily, greasy hair that always tangles up and is only about 3 inches long, so I have extensions, and I hate having to lie about my hair constantly. No, I do not have any kind of
disease. My hair just hates me. Anyways, I have a face full of disgusting pus-filled zits, braces, and I have a noticeable curve in my spine which meant I had to get a back brace, meaning that I can't move around that well, so I look like a zombie. The guy I like is nice to me just because he pities me, and can't do anything about this girl. I really hate my life.
Help me...
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Okay, if you know that no one really likes her, next time shes mean to you, just go off on her. Tell her how rude she is, and just tell her eveything that you think about her. Good luck (:
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When I intially selected to respond based on the title of your submission, I thought it may have had something to do with something about yourself or the people around you that you were unable to completely get over. However, your situation had some depth (as per all situations)
I could tell that you have a great sense of humor as well as other characteristics that enhance your appeal outside of your appearance. I'm unable to confirm your age from this paragraph except only to assume that you may be a teenager in high school.
By your story, you already confirmed that in order to be "popular" that you do not need outside beauty, just something "in trend" per say. (re: skimpy clothes, snaggle-tooth qualities, and the abilty to prove how "evil" one can be) As you've already stated.. "she has problems too". Even though, you made a comedical remark about her tooth(funny)... as you've grown to notice her, I'm sure you can probably assimilate/access an even longer list of negative attributes in less than a moment's time. As previously suggested, attempt to ignore her AND remove yourself from arenas where she is "comfortable" to confront you. There...lies unseen lines of criminal mischief and bullies...as you can tell one has more dire consequences than the other if you would so decide to report her... Avoid being a victim as much as possible, in theory, that's the definition of being "street smart".
Also, look at her "popularity" from a different perspective. She is not popular by demand, she's popular because she's either really not into her studies/grades or has the inability to accept life "post(high)school". It's SO obvious to everyone else, that her popularity is like a running joke... which IS getting old.
Bullies have an expiration date... in your case (if you should have it continue)... hers is YOUR graduation.
As per your appearance, it will change. Several times probably in life. It happens to almost everyone. When you invest in yourself, you will make the changes.
ZITS?
There are creams galore out there to remove them...
GREASY, TANGLED HAIR?
A great shampoo and conditioner with considerable hair maintenance will effectively change that.
SHORT HAIR?
You already have extentions, keep your hair weaved-up, wigged-up, or braided-up for as long as you like... (not sure by what you meant by lying about your hair though?..)
CURVITURE OF THE SPINE?
Depending on your insurance and/or income, I believe there is a corrective procedure that you can research, review and prepare to undergo (should you decide to)
As For The Guy You Like?
Yeah he may have SOME "pity" for you, however he has the option to ba a complete asshole towards you. It's a positive insight that "YOU'RE" doing something, did something or revealed apart of yourself that he admired about you which influence that positive "nice" reaction from him. YOU don't have to chalk up the good experiences in you life to YOUR "negative" self-imposed appeal. Besides, genetic happenstance...YOU are responsible for YOU too.
As per your title, "you have NO friends" and that may be the/(your view) of the general score...... but (in this case) you only have one enemy... what's acceptable.
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Hey!Just ignore this girl ,act like she does not exist.Try to show your smartness in something else,like in assignments,grades etc.This will improve the situation.
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