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whats the best way to do eye make up for a 16/f with brown eyes, almond eye shape... im hispanic and irish if that helps? lol thank you! (link)
It's important that when you wear make-up that it looks natural. If you smear so much goo on you, you can really look like a clown. To be honest, I've never met a good guy that liked a girl that wore a lot of make-up.

To make eyes appear larger, but still make it look completely natural, you really shouldn't rim your entire eye with eyeliner like a lot of teens are doing now. I have a friend that does this and, really, it makes her look like trailer trash. Believe it or not, it makes them look smaller with a bit bunch of black gunk around them.

I have brown eyes as well and when I wear make-up I tend to follow this site's advice (which I just found, but it pretty much explains what I do):

http://www.ehow.com/how_2264_make-eyes-look.html

When you apply the light shade make sure to go from the inside of your lid and then slightly outward. A shimmery cream (nothing big, bright, and unnatural) is good for this because it will catch the light. I like to dab a bit in the corner of the inside of my eyes.

I've read that most Hispanics have an olive or even yellowish undertone.

Most of what I'm reading for olive skin tone and brown eyes is that the eye shimmers look best. Like, the shimmer nude colors or even goldish shimmers.
Also, a very soft green (not bright and use a little amount), soft pink, and even amber.

I hope you find a method that looks good on you and natural at the same time.


i have eyes that people usually comment on as being "big, brown and soulful". how can i make them seem bigger and more "soulful" with makeup?! thanks! (link)
It's important that when you wear make-up that it looks natural. If you smear so much goo on you, you can really look like a clown. To be honest, I've never met a good guy that liked a girl that wore a lot of make-up.

To make eyes appear larger, but still make it look completely natural, you really shouldn't rim your entire eye with eyeliner as it's suggested below. I have a friend that does this and, really, it makes her look like trailer trash. Believe it or not, it makes them look smaller with a bit bunch of black gunk around them.

I have brown eyes as well and when I wear make-up I tend to follow this site's advice (which I just found, but it pretty much explains what I do):

http://www.ehow.com/how_2264_make-eyes-look.html

When you apply the light shade make sure to go from the inside of your lid and then slightly outward. A shimmery, creamy white (nothing big and bright and unnatural) is good for this because it will catch the light there. I like to dab a bit in the corner of the inside of my eyes.

I hope you find a method that looks good on you and natural at the same time.



I just broke up 3 months ago with my bf ,we had been dating for about 4 years .It was a chaos in our relationship because his parents always had something to say in our relationship and he allowed them to, ques he wasn't mature enough for me ,..so we broke up...(let's call him mr.kel)

6 years ago I had another boyfriend ,(lets's call him mr.right )
He was my first love ,my first everything ..I never really got over him and we never even broke up,..I had to move to another land and ques we lost contact and he even got kids ,We both kept moving forward with our lifes but. Last year (december)I went back to my island and we met again,and it was like love at first sight again ,(by that time I already broke up with mr.kell) we went out and it was fun and I loved every minute of it ,seems like my life made sence again .
Well than I had to come back and I left him there again ,..I was happy I saw him but at the same time I had like a weird feeling ,like I thought that this was not meant to be beacause he has his life and kids and stuff ,so I gave up every hope of me and him being back toghether and I came back with a broken heart...

Last month he called me and tell me that he didn't want to tell me the truth while I was over there because I was on vacation and he didn't want to ruin it .
He told me that he was unhappy and that his life is a living hell and that sometimes he even thinks in putting an end to his life(this I know for shure)
I was shocked,.....since then we talk to each other every single day and I'm convince that I meant or still mean something to him....
Last week he told me that he is giving everthing up to come and live with me ,....
People help ,....it supose to make me happy but instead I'm really afraid that he might be using me ....what can I do to make shure he's not using me......I just got out of a tragic relationship I don't want to screw things up again,........But on the other side I really want to have him back .....

HELPPPPPPPPP
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Don't you find it the least bit odd that he tells you how awful and suicidal he is and then suddenly make plans to LIVE with you?

This is a red flag.

I was once with a guy, let's refer to him as M, who told me he was suicidal. M was my first as well and I felt a strong attachment to M.

Everything was great with M in the beginning. He acted as if I were very important to him. I felt nice talking to him for hours, it was like he gave meaning to my life for awhile.

He seemed to be nice and kind. He had a good sense of humor, an upbeat spirit, and our relationship felt great. Nothing seemed to be amiss.

Then things went sour.

M seemed to change one day and told me things he had "never told anyone else" about himself. Most of these things had to do with his depression. He totally didn't seem like that when I was with him though.

M liked to play games after that but I was too naive to realize this. You see, I was told the same thing you were, "I'm really depressed and sad with my life. You'll make everything right..." but later to find out things like that thrown into my face.

Any time that M and I had a disagreement, he threw his "suicidal" feelings into my face. He told me that if I tried to leave, he'd kill himself and blame it all on me.

I was not able to have any friends because of M's growing jealousy. My friends began to grow upset as I made up lies as to why I couldn't meet up with them on our normal routines.

Any move I made that he was even the slightest bit uncomfortable about, he told me how horrid I was and that I was going to be the cause of his suicide. He played his suicide card on me so many times and I never had a clue he even felt that way until that one random day.

I had a college chosen to go off to. I had plans for my future. I was excited and the college was only a few hours away from my hometown. Of course, M was critical and told me I wouldn't be able to do it. When those things didn't work, he went with his suicidal bit again and made me stay.

I realized that he had me pinned. I wasn't able to leave as he was placing his entire life in my hands. He forced me to drop my plans and be a loner. I was miserable.

He was making plans without even thinking of my feelings. He was allowed to have friends and go out with them whenever he wanted.

I look back now and see that him "confessing" his depression to me was step one of his trap. He knew he had built enough bond with me that I would believe it and try to make it better. He played me and I didn't know it for a long time.

In the end, he left me for another woman. He got to choose everything in the relationship and never thought about my needs. He sucked me in and used me for all he could.

He drained me of emotional support for others. He kept me up late at night on the phone telling me he was going to kill himself if I said hi to someone the next day. He kept me unhappy so I was dependent on him for human interaction and companionship.

There is a reason you two broke it off before and didn't attempt to stay in contact.
Ask yourself this one: Why didn't he try to contact you when you had to move if you meant so much to him?

There is a reason he isn't with anyone currently too. There is a reason he has children but no wife. There is a reason the mother of his children didn't want to be with him forever.
Evaluate everything. He may be playing the depression/suicide card on you too.

Personally, I think it's way too soon for him to be moving in with you like that. It'd be something else if he wanted to move CLOSER and find his own job, his own housing, his own vehicle.
I think it's odd he's going to up and leave everything he's built there and live off of what you have while, I'm guessing, he looks for a job.

Talk to him about this. Tell him you're feeling rushed and not courted like a lady. You deserve respect and it's your place to say who moves in with you and who doesn't.

I hope you figure things out.


my friend is 14 and gets her period every 2 weeks. i know she should be irregular but not that irregular, right? please help. thanks! :] (link)
It is normal for girls beginning their periods to be irregular but it is often unhealthy if the cycles are coming too soon.

Her body can quickly be depleted of some vital nutrients and she can become anemic, especially if her periods are also heavy.

Here are a couple of links about anemia, including a bunch of symptoms:

http://www.anemia.org/patients/faq/
http://www.ehow.com/how_5436_know-you-are.html

She really needs to see her doctor about this menstrual situation. Her normal doctor may send her to a gynecologist (just to make sure everything is okay) and may also prescribe her to begin taking iron supplements if he/she feels she is lacking.

I had periods like that when I started too and it was really awful for me since I had less time to go swimming and do things other girls my age were doing.

It turned out that I had a cyst on one of my ovaries and that's why my periods were so out of whack. I had to go to the gynecologist so they could help me set my periods straight.
Without seeing a doctor I wouldn't have known about the cyst and my periods would still be very bad.

I had gone so long letting my body have periods like your friend is having, my body was lacking iron and I developed dark patches under my eyes that were very hard to cover up with make-up and were very embarrassing.

I wish your friend courage on telling her mother about her menstrual cycle problems and requesting to see her doctor about it.


I know this may sound nasty and a wierd question . But in my underwear its like this white kind of thick gooy stuff , iv only noticed it to days in a row . Any idea what it is ?

oh and its like i can pull some off & it feels like a booger . (link)
This sounds like the type of discharge a women gets when she is ovulating. This is a completely normal discharge and probably will last a couple of days.

"Ovulation occurs when a mature egg is released from the ovary, pushed down the fallopian tube, and is available to be fertilized [in the uterus]."

...which was from: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/understandingovulation.html

The discharge probably resembles egg whites sort-of and is quite stretchy (or gooey like a booger as you said). Just so you know, you're high risk getting pregnant at this stage in your cycle.

Discharge is to help cleanse your vagina from bad bacteria (which is being secreted) and to help provide lubrication for sperm to successfully make it to your egg to fertilize it. Every woman has discharge.

Different Discharges:

Before ovulation- There will be a small amount of clear discharge.

Closer to ovulation- Discharge is moist/sticky and is white or lightly cream colored. There is some mucus but it isn't as stretchy as it will be during ovulation.

At ovulation- There will be a lot of discharge at this point. It will be like egg whites and is stretchy. You are most fertile here (high risk pregnancy) and sperm entering your body at this time will be able to survive slightly longer than normal.

After ovulation- Discharge is sticky but not stretchy. Mostly clear and will dwindle back to the "before ovulation" state.

Also, vaginal infections, medications, and birth control can all change the appearance of your discharge.


ok im sorry and this is embarrassing but i think i have a hemorrhoid but i dont know what to do about it. will it just go away? its been there a while and hurts and itches a bit but nothing too bad. i dont want to tell my mom tho because that would be mortifying. so im hoping it just goes away soon? please tell me what to do and what they do. thanks so much-i will rate! :] (link)
Up your fiber intake. You can buy products such as Benefiber, Metamucil, and ColonPure (from GNC) to help you get more fiber if you're not getting enough from fruits, vegetables, and grains.
Do NOT take laxatives for this though as diarrhea can upset the hemorrhoid further.

Make sure to drink your 8 glasses of water a day to keep hydrated.

Do not push as hard when you go to the bathroom. Pushing hard from constipation and lack of fiber is one of the main causes.

Try not to "hold it in" any longer than absolutely necessary. Go when your body says to. Try to go at least once a day.

Soak in a tub of warm water (no soaps) for about 10 - 15 minutes each day.

Many websites have suggested wiping after you poo with flushable wipes. There are many different kinds like the Kleenex Cottonelle, Charmin Fresh Mates, and Equate brand from Wal-Mart. These websites say it helps to keep the area clean and soothes it a bit.

Here is a little more information about hemorrhoids and it also has some tips to help relieve the pain in the meantime:

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/common/digestive/basics/090.html

There are creams (such as Preparation H) and wipes you can buy for such a thing but personally I'd go see a doctor before doing anything like that just for confirmation. Most hemorrhoids go away in a few days so it's probably best you get checked out by a professional if it's being persistent.

I understand it is embarrassing to tell your mother but be honest. Just tell her you were wiping and it hurt so you wiped again and realized there was a bump there.
Let her know you searched about it online and found it seemed to sound like a hemorrhoid. She'll probably understand (as roughly 50% of all Americans will have them in their lifetime) and make you a doctor's appointment.


This is really embarrassing so please bear with me.
I have had a big bump (the size of a bean) on my butthole for a great while now. When I go poo, it hurts really bad because my poo is kind of big and it irritates the bump. It's hard to wipe myself because of how much it hurts. Also, it started out as a small thing. I do not think it could be any type of herpes since I have never had sex. Sometimes when I go to the bathroom, it even bleeds a little. If anyone knows what this might be, or how I could get rid of it, please help. (link)
It really sounds like a hemorrhoid to me but I'm not a doctor.

A hemorrhoid is like a very irritated bit of vein from your rectum. It can be very painful and can be caused by many things (pregnancy, heavy lifting, constipation). Roughly, 50% of Americans will suffer from having a hemorrhoid in their lifetime.

Up your fiber intake. You can buy products such as Benefiber, Metamucil, and ColonPure (from GNC) to help you get more fiber if you're not getting enough from fruits, vegetables, and grains.
Do NOT take laxatives for this though as diarrhea can upset the hemorrhoid further.

Make sure to drink your 8 glasses of water a day to keep hydrated.

Do not push as hard when you go to the bathroom. Pushing hard from constipation and lack of fiber is one of the main causes.

Try not to "hold it in" any longer than absolutely necessary. Go when your body says to.

Soak in a tub of warm water for about 10 - 15 minutes each day.

Many websites have suggested wiping after you poo with flushable wipes. There are many different kinds like the Kleenex Cottonelle, Charmin Fresh Mates, and Equate brand from Wal-Mart. These websites say it helps to keep the area clean and soothes it a bit.

Here is a little more information about hemorrhoids and it also has some tips to help relieve the pain in the meantime:

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/common/digestive/basics/090.html

There are creams (such as Preparation H) and wipes you can buy for such a thing but personally I'd go see a doctor before doing anything like that just for confirmation. Most hemorrhoids go away in a few days so it's probably best you get checked out by a professional.



my boyfriend has a fairly large penis..we have become sexually active and i always feel bloated. i don't think im pregnant because i am on the pill and haven't missed a pill. why am i so bloated and have abdomen pain after sex? (link)
Actually, pain in your lower abdomen and, in some cases that I've read, bloating after sex can be the first signs of something called endometriosis. Endometriosis affects 1 in 15 women.
Here is a link providing more information about this condition:

http://www.endometriosis.org/endometriosis.html

Here is a link to someone who is experiencing the same issues you are it seems:

http://www.ivillage.co.uk/health/experts/askdoctor/qas/0,,180651_636662,00.html

Your problem also could be IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome). IBS also means cramping/pain and bloating. The pain can sometimes be experienced after sex but usually more frequently than that. Usually this is accompanied by constant diarrhea or constipation (which is the most common cause of bloating, by the way).

If you suspect the problem is constipation then you really need to up your intake of fruits, vegetables, wholegrain cereals and bread, wholewheat pasta, and brown rice and beans. Make sure you're well hydrated (8 glasses of water a day). You can also purchase fiber now such as Benefiber or ColonPure (which they sell at GNC).

Also, the pain could be cysts on ovaries, cervix being bumped too much, the position of entry, or lack of lubricant. I've also read that some women experience this after sex when they have to go poo after and hold it in instead.

You definately want to mention these issues to your doctor on your next visit and let them rule out some things. A doctor is the only one that can really tell you what's going on down there.


I want to get Sims 2, but when I was reading about different Sims games, I read about The Sims Stories which said it could be played on a laptop. I gathered this meant other Sims games couldn't be played on a laptop. Do you know if Sims 2 and it's extension packs can be used on a laptop?

Thanks, xxx (link)
Yes, Sims 2 can be installed onto a laptop. I play mine on my laptop and I believe I also have three extension packs installed as well. Your laptop must meet some requirements for the game to be functional though.
Here is a good link to tell you what your laptop needs to have (including a link to test your computer for compatibility):

http://compsimgames.about.com/od/thesims2faqs/f/systemrequireme.htm


I just got a male betta fish, and was wondering what size tank is best for them?

I got a kit that includes a 1/2 gallon aquarium, food, water conditioner, and gravel. I think that should be okay, but I've read mixed things about tank size.

Any information on caring for Betta fish is appreciated. (link)
Bettas' natural habitat is actually in rice patties in Asia. The rice patties are shallow and usually murky so there isn't much room for them to swim around in. I've read that they have even been found living fine and dandy in small bits of water similar to puddles!

This being said, Bettas are happy and healthy living in small tanks of water. However, if you choose, you can give your Betta a little bit larger tank (I'd say a 5 or 10 gallon tank would be okay).

I use to have a Betta who lived in a 10 gallon tank alone for years before passing away but most people don't see the point in devoting an entire tank to one fish (and cleaning an entire tank like that for just one fish).

Remember that they will "fight" eachother to the death too so please do not put another Betta in the tank. I've seen some people think it's funny to watch them fight for awhile (but not until death) before separating them only to see the fish suffer for hours before passing on.

So, your tank size is just fine and dandy but you can "upgrade" in the future if you choose. Make sure you always treat the water before placing the fish in though.


well my butt smells really bad. even like right after i take a shower its like that. i've already seen a gyno about it, and he said everything was fine. But do you think other people can smell it. me and my friends sometimes lay down on top of each other if we are like watching tv or something. so i have to put something over me to block the smell. i don't know if i'm the only one that can smell it though. plus, perfume doesn't completely cover it. and i tried putting some on everytime i smelt it, but that made me smell a little cheically from all the perfume. any idea what i can do?? can other people smell it?? (link)
I understand the embarrassment this must cause you if you fear friends are smelling the odor too. I'm sure the perfume isn't doing any good for the smell and it's probably best you discontinue that method. It is good that you have gone to a doctor about this issue already but it is probably a simple hygiene issue.
First off, a shower a day may need to be upped to two showers daily--some of us just sweat more than others and that sweat lays in creases of our bodies.

Pay more attention to your bottom when washing.

Secondly, I suggest going to the store and purchasing some flushable wet wipes for after you poo. There are many different brands like Kleenex Cottonelle, Charmin Fresh Mates, and even Scott Moist Wipes. The Wal-mart off-brand kind is fairly good and has a pleasant odor to them.
After you poo, wipe with regular toilet paper like usual. Then take a wipe and wipe the area thoroughly--pay attention to the actual anal opening. Try to clean the opening as best as possible with a wipe or two (or however many you feel you need). Do NOT wipe your vagina opening with these wipes as they can cause yeast infections by disrupting the balance of good bacteria in there.

Also, make it a point to go poo at least once a day to clear out your system and not have things sitting down there waiting around. If you feel this is still not enough, you can look into purchasing some acidophilus which will promote the growth of healthy organisms in your bowels and such. You can find this at your local pharmacy, GNC, and maybe even Wal-Mart. It's best to refrigerate the capsules and take one right before you start eating a meal so that it will be pushed down before the food.

I wish you luck on solving your odor issue.


My throat has been swollen for like 3 weeks at first it hurt and was swollen then it stoped hurting but stayed swollen then a few weeks later it started hurting again and got a little swollener then it stopped hurting again the whole back or my throat and my tonsils are swollen is it possible i have an STD (link)
Actually, some of the first symptoms of HIV/AIDS are:

Weightloss
Sores in mouth
Sore throat
Swollen glands
Night sweats

Sometimes no symptoms appear, sometimes only one will appear, and sometimes all symptoms will appear.

Oral gonorrhea also has a sore throat symptom, by the way.

You have the throat issues that we know of, which may mean absolutely nothing, but it's best to be on the safe side, don't you think?

If you have reasoning to believe you may have been with a partner that could have possibly transmitted something to you then it's in your best interest to get tested.
At any case, a swollen throat for three weeks should be checked out by a professional--as it could be an infection.




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