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Hi, my name is Angela. I'd like to think I'm a friendly person and I've had my share of experiences and knowledge.
My friends tell me I'm great at giving them advice (most of the time) and I like to have fun while I'm at it.
Not sure about something a decision? Need more insight? Have some questions about sex? You should feel free to ask me about anything at all. I check my email all the time and I'll try to respond as soon as possible!
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Do you think there's such thing as ouija boards? Because my boyfriend has told me he's seen a few ghosts. He went outside and yelled "If any ghosts are out there, give me a sign!" And his brother has had some wierd things happening to him. He was listening to his CD's and all of a sudden he just started floating in midair! Is his house haunted?
hehe I've heard of those. Lot's of stories went around about a bunch of freshmen playing around with it and ended up in a mental hospital or something along those lines. How unlikely does that sound?
It's all a load of shit, don't believe it. Ouija boards come from the Parker Brothers ( same people who brought you scrabble and Sorry!). But hey if you want to try it out for yourself no one's stopping you.
there were these kids today that were in my 4 th period class who were lookin at the picture of me and my boyfriend. to be honest he isnt the hottest thing out there but i really dont care i love my boyfriend to death. but they started diss him and sayin all this shit about him. they were sitting right behind me doin this and thought i was stupid and didnt noe what they were talkin about. can i turn that in for sexual harrassment? everything they said affended me and i got really sad and when i get sad i get quiet and that is what happened. i wanted to get up and hit ever single one of them and then show them what is so funny, but instead i thought it through and decided that they werent worth it so i ignored them and NOTHIN changed. they kept going and goin all period. (which was 30 mintuess left) here are my question:
1) could i turn them in for harrassment?
2) tomorrow if they start it again should i stand up and give them a piece of my mind?
3) do u think i should tell my boyfriend about this? (he doesnt go to my school)
p.s
i am a 14/f and a freshman
The best thing to do is just ignore them and let it go. Besides, how did they get their hands on pictures of you and your boyfriend anyways? Just let boys be boys and it'll get old pretty soon. Like girls, they love to nag and pick at other people because they aren't comfortable with something about themselves.
You should not beat yourself down about it because that's what they want. If you're happy with him then that is all that matters. It might be offensive and immature on their part but if you react with outrage then that just gives them even more reason to continue.
If they continue to bother you, confront them and say "Hey, what you're saying really bothers me and I don't pick at your body so don't pick on my boyfriend's." This is not sexual harrassment since they weren't talking about your body specifically, unless they make comments about things such as sexual favors, making up personal information about you and your boyfriend, you get it. This is, however, a form of harrassment. If they do not stop you might want to let your professor know and change your seating.
So my one year is in a month from today... I am stumped on presents. My boyfriend is 19 and likes war, hockey, movies, warhammer (if you've heard of it), and also is a part-time firefighter. His biggest passion is firefighting... so i think i shoudl stick along those lines... but i need idea... i have no idea what sort of thing i can get him. i am terrible with gift ideas... and he is always great. He's already plannign somehting and he has his whole family in on it so it's got to be good. I have up to 100$'s to spend. Help! If you have any questions Inbox me
Awe, I like his idea of getting the family involved. It's an original idea that shows he's working hard to show some love. Involving his family shows that he is comfortable with his family (sometimes a touchy subject to bring up) and is able to mix a perfect blend of family-spouse bliss.
It doesn't matter how much your gift costs to your man but how much he's looking forwawrd to devouring it. The only thing I can think of is cook him an authentic Firehouse meal.
Most of the recipes I found come in servings of 4-8 firemen (8-16 people), so why not make it a family affair and invite the entire family over for a hearty dinner? Here are some of the easier recipes I found that even I would drool over:
YOUR SALAD:
5lb. bag Potatoes
1 large Onions (minced)
1/2 Dozen Eggs
3 Stalks of Celery (minced)
2 tbsp. Mustard
1/2 cup Sweet Relish
1/2 cup Mayo
1/4 tsp. Ceyenne Pepper
1/2 tsp. Garlic Powder
1/2 tsp. Salt & Pepper (ea.)
Peel and boil Potatoes until tender, (approx.25-30min.), let cool and dice into bite-sized cubes.
Boil eggs (chopped), add to potatoes.
Add onions, celery, relish, mustard, mayo, and seasonings.
Mix well and let stand in fridge for 15-20min
YOUR CHILI:
INGREDIENTS:
4 CANS HORMEL CHILI WITH BEANS
1 LARGE STICK OF VELVEETA CHEESE
2 POUNDS OF HAMBURGER
3-4 JALAPENOS TO TASTE
2 CANS OF KIDNEY BEANS
DIRECTIONS:
WARM UP CHILI TILL BOILING.
ADD ALL OF THE VELVEETA CHEESE.
BROWN AND DRAIN HAMBURGER AND ADD TO YOUR CHILI AND CHESSE MIX.
TAKE YOUR JALAPENOS AND SLICE THEM UP AND ADD TO THE MIX. SIMMER APPROX. 30 MINUTES.
YOUR MAIN DISH:
SHRIMP CREOLE
2 tbls. margarine
1 green pepper, diced
2 stalks celery, thinly sliced
1 onion- chopped
1/2 tsp. oregano
2 garlic cloves, minced
1/2 tsp. cayenne pepper
1 1/2 cups tomato juice
1 tbls. cornstarch
1 lb salad shrimp
4 cups white rice- cooked In skillet over medium heat, melt margarine.
Cook green pepper, celery, onion, oregano, garlic and cayenne pepper until tender/crisp, stirring often.
Add 1 cup tomato juice.
Heat to boiling.
Reduce heat to low and cover.
Cook 5 minutes, stirring occasionally.
In a small bowl, stir together cornstarch and remaining tomato juice until smooth. Increase heat to medium.
Add cornstarch mixture and shrimp to vegetable mixture.
Cook until mixture boils and thickens and shrimp turn opaque pink, stirring constantly.
Serve over rice.
4 servings
YOUR CAKE:
2 ½ cups All purpose flour (shifted)
4 ½ Tsp. Baking Powder
1 ½ Tsp. Salt
1 ¾ Cup of sugar
¾ cup shortening (Crisco all-vegetable shortening)
1 ¼ cup of milk
1 Tsp. Vanilla extract
½ Tsp. Almond extract (optional)
2/3 egg whites
Sift dry ingredients together (Flour, baking powder, sugar, salt.
Add shortening and Milk and beat 2 minutes.
Add 1 Tsp. Vanilla and ½ Tsp. Almond extracts.
Add 2/3 egg whites.
Beat for another 2 minutes.
Grease cake pan before putting batter into pan
Bake at 350 F for 30 minutes.
When cool, frost with a Butter frosting
These are just some of the recipes I found on the site and there are loads more, check it out for yourself: http://www.firehousechef.com/
His gift:
I stole this off of another website but here goes, fill a metal can (or a small gift box) with the following items:
Band-Aid: In case you need some TLC.
Kisses: Because you deserve them from all.
String: For when you get to the end of your rope.
Mounds: For the "mounds" of courage you need.
Life Saver: To remind you of the many times you've saved others.
Almond Joy: To replace the joy you give to others.
Starburst: For that burst of energy you need.
Paper Clip: To help you "hold it all together".
Safety Pin: To help remind you to stay safe.
Recite 'em in his ear and the next thing he wants to put out is the bedroom lights. ;) Heavy food kills sexual appetite so be sure your sweety saves some room for you.
Here are just some ideas but you can think of others yourself too. Do not buy him cliche gifts or "airport" him, meaning buying a gift from a specialized gift store. Basically don't be a man when it comes to gift giving. I liked the idea of the tin can because it's something special, unique, and will most definitely bring a smile to his face. Think of gifts with a little pizazz because the saying still holds true today; a smile is worth more than a thousand words. ;)
Does anyone know of any ways to get rid (or decrease) of puffyness around eyes? I was crying last night and now my eyes are puffy.
=/
thanks in advance!
Dont you hate it when that happens? What I do is get two cold spoons and put them under each eye and switch when it gets too warm. If it's that bad, put some light toned skin eye concealer, line your bottom eye line (lightly) with a silverish/white eyeliner. If you don't have that, a light eyeshadow will do. Do the smokey effect on your eyelids and people will congratulate you on pulling off the sultry look ;)
I'm a 15 year old girl. I am depressed. And I'm not talking about depression that has been going on for just months. Its been over a year. and it's getting worse by day. The latest thing I hace done to my self when I had gotten angry was cut all my hair off. I'm scared!!! I've tried to commit suicide before. but thank god i made it out alive. I cut and burn myself. I dont do it because i want to or because I wanna try it. I never believed in hurting my body. I always am thankful for being healthy and alive. I never went one night without thanking god for all the good that he has done for me and my family. I go to therapy but i feel as if its not helping me. I have tried asking god for help and still am. But I am not seeing results. I am trying to be patient but it's hard. My parents are diagnosed with depression. but don't take it seriously. They think I am just crazy!!! I thoguht I was too for a while until it really hit me that I had a real sickness. I believe that I got it from them. But I don't care how I got. All I care about is getting effective help. If I don't get some soon I'm gonna end up hurting myself Badly. AND I DON'T WANT THAT!!!! I had a bright future ahead of me. but now i just don't see it. I wanna get my life back and be the person I really am. I know I was created for a reason. I know I am worth something!! but i need help fast. I am not crazy I just need help before I end my life when it's not time for me. I am too young and don't wanna waste every day of my lfe doing nothing. Because every second that goes by brings me closer to the end of my life. I wanna have a story to tell about my life when i get old.I wanna see myself old. inshallah!!! and I don't ever wanna see anyone experience this problem not even an enemy.
I'm glad you realize that this is a problem that is not to be taken lightly. Remember, no one on advicenators can help you deal with this since this is a site for advice, not a site for professional help. It surprises me that your parents have not taken action already. Drastic actions such as cutting your hair, commiting suicide, and self-mutilation, realistically, should have their parental reflexings kicking them over. Since you've mentioned that both your parents are diagnosed with depression, this might be in your genes. It seems as if you're conflicting yourself. In the beginning you stated that you've tried to commit suicide, then said you're thanking god for giving you all the good? And you're not taken seriously but you're hurting yourself and you want to grow older. You shouldn't wish anything like that on anyone but mostly yourself. Why do you think you deserve this? I beg of you to please find someone who can help you if your parents aren't taking this serious. Please let your therapist know, and if you're not seeing her anytime soon call a hospital and tell them. You've got to stop depending on others to confirm your fears when your own are very real.
okay, i know for stomach you do crunches, for legs you jog, but how do you lose that flab on your hips?
Here are some very easy instructions (that work!)
1. Take two weights, preferably 1-2 pounds each and hold them in your left hand.
2. Place your feet, facing forward, no farther than your shoulder width (start by doing this in front of a mirror)
3. Place your right hand behind your head
4. Bend (SLOWLY) to the left until your weights are about knee level.
5. Come back to the starting position (SLOWLY)
Start off with about 20 repititions on your left and switch to your right 20 reps also. (left hand behind head, bend to right) Increase your reps everyday (by one to five). Don't overwork it or your hips will feel sore. And after a week or so, you should see noticeable results. Remember, crunches help.
when a guy asks you to a dance..how do you nicely turn him down?
Just say "Thanks, but, I just want to have fun with friends at Homecoming and not be tied down or anything. Sorry about that and hope to see you there!"
Don't say this in front of your/his friends or he'll feel embarrassed. And dance a number with the poor boy on your special night so he can enjoy himself too.
Ok, I just bought a Dell and Like on Yahoo and Msn on the front page. The Words and stuff are HUGE! Its like it soo close up. What can I go to make the wordz smaller on my computer. thanks in advance.
oh the same exact opposite thing happened to me when I first got my Dell! My roomie's boyfriend told me about a little thing called "Properties". You can get there by right clicking the desktop and scrolling down to Properties (at the very bottom). You can change your font, windows, colors, etc to your liking. :)
I don't know what to do anymore. My little brother thinks im pyscho. Today, my mom asked him to take out the trash and walked away. After she left he refused to do it and stated that I should do it because I never do anything. But, I had helped my mom ALL day with getting ready for this garage sale. So, I told him that he should do it because he was told to. He started screaming and freaking out on me. So after like a half hour of that I punched
him. I just can't take it anymore!!! That's the first time i've ever hit him, and I don't even feel bad about it. He's hit me louds so i guess that's why. I don't want to apologize, but how should I handle my anger from now on???
Your physical reflex to your anger is natural and does not mean you're going crazy. It seems you understand that you should have handled your anger better and hitting someone is never the resolution. It might seem like an answer to your problem by letting your brother have it but the repercussion of your action will be guilt and you'll have to deal with the new problems you've caused, eventually. The first step is (you guessed it) apologizing and explaining yourself. You'll feel morally conflicted since you feel that your action was justified because he has been crawling under your skin for awhile now. If it helps, let him know how tired you were after helping out the entire day and apologize about how angry you got when he made that comment. R
Remember, this is not justifying what you did wrong. Next time deal with your frustration a different way and start by talking about it.
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while..and sure i have kissed him and stuff but i think he is getting bored of always doing the same things with me. i really want to make-out with him but i never have before but i think he wants to make-out with me too. if there anything that guys like? and would he still be interested in me if we did make-out? please help me!! thanks in advance.
There are plenty of ways to keep a relationship alive without having to do what you are uncomfortable with. Maybe the lack of interest is not physical but conversational. Have you been keeping your guy interested intellectually?
Being in a relationship should benefit both of you, not only him. You should not force yourself to do something you're not comfortable with in order to keep him "interested" because that would be going the wrong way. You should be leaving him craving for more, more of your sweet personality or how sensitive you are to his feelings, not only how far you'll be willing to go or how he can tell all his friends about it. You're much too young to be dealing with that kind of stress.
If he turns out to be that kind of guy who wants booty rather than a "cutie" then you'd better bounce on outta there.
Ho come everyone says that you need to wear a condom when you have sex?? ( I mean i knoe why) But what if someone wants to get pregnant... seriously..
Condoms offer protection (99.8%??) against pregnancy and some protection against STDs (sexually transmitted diseases). Obviously if you choose to get pregnant, you'd have a better chance without the condom (depends on fertility, health of both partners, etc.) Shouldn't have fallen asleep in your health course ;) ... seriously.
should you still have sex with your ex??...if you have feelings for him still but arent sure if he has them for you
You can continue to have casual sex with your ex but as you mentioned, you still kindle feelings for him and that might turn ugly in a FWB (friends with benefits) relationship, meaning you already have an idea of what kind of person that person is and although the basic idea of this unattached sex, there's bound to be attachments involved. This will get complicated if the other person's not looking for attachments.
First of all, sex itself is filled with emotional issues and consequences. As you said you still have feelings for him, but you're unsure of whether or not he has feelings for you. Remember, continuing to have sex with your ex is damaging to your emotional health and it is NOT a way to get back together. Infact, it just puts everything on the wrong track. He's might be looking for an easy way to hook up and you're willing, you're hoping for a magic spell that makes him . Neither of you will reach your goals since your intenion will eventually emerge and you'll become frustrated if he doesn't want to continue in a relationship.
If you want to get back together with him, sex is not the way to do it. Remember that sex is not love, its a release of sexual energy. Since you still have feelings for him, you should talk to him, alone, not look to sex as the answer. He might also try to use your feelings against you. Otherwise theres many ways of coping with it and learning to let go. There's plenty of oppertunities out there to find a guy you love and he loves you back, and you'll learn you can have more than just "feelings" for him.
ok i asked this really beautiful girl. and well i asked her out on a date to the movies. but the problem is that well she is going to be the first date i went on with a girl. also its her first date too with a girl. and i wanna know how i cant stop my self from being so nervus and what can i do to make sure i dont screw up this date i really like this girl and i mean alot!
p.s. 14/f and my name is joanne
It's always hard doing something new but to make you feel better, think about it, it's new to this other girl and she's probably having the same thoughts as you.
There's no such thing as screw ups on a first date since none of you know what to expect but just hoping for the best. What i suggest to ease those nerves is think about how you want the date to go perfectly, think ahead about what you want to talk about and do. THat way you feel confident that you at least have a grip on what's going on.
On the date, be sure to let her know how you're feeling (excited), like any date compliment, and spend time after the movie to talk. After your date ends let her know how much fun you had with her and say something like "I can't believe i was so nervous about it this morning" and "wow, you're amazing". Anything else after that is totally up to you ;)
I hope your date goes well!
My ex boyfriend was cheating on me, so I kind of exposed the truth about him cheating on me to all my friends and now hes really mad at me. I feel bad that I dumped him and exposed his "secret" because the truth is, i still like him. But don't you think i have the right to be mad at him? Because he cheated on me, lied to me, called other girls behind my back, and blew me off in the hall last friday....
I'm so confused. Should I call him?
Girl, there are plenty of fish out there in the sea and i don't see why you're stuck on this one who CHEATED on you. It's bad enough the boy cheated on you, lies, and needs a watch. Hell, you have more than a right to be mad at him now. That turns him into a prick without the balls to take responsibility for his own actions. When a person commits infidelity it's possible to work it out but you gotta be asking yourself "what the hell!?" when he gets mad at you for blowing off steam or telling your girls what's bothering you. Personally, when a guy cheats on me hes gone. No second chances, no nothing. How DARE he accuse you of being in the wrong!
He's lucky you're not planning on running him over or telling the girls "the night he went limp" stories. He deserves all the rage you got coming at him when he knew what was going to happen as a result of his actions.
This guy does not deserve your time of day (again) or any girls for that matter. Teach him a lesson and tell whatever to whoever you want.
I can tell that you're a kind and sweet girl but don't waste your time thinking about him. There's plenty more guys out there who knows and wants to treat a girl right. :)
i have this pain behind my eyes and its like a headache but behind my eyes. It comes and goes all the time like sometimes it can be twice a week and then other times i can get it twice a month. sometimes i have to be sick because its that bad and have to sleep it off. I have no idea what it can be but i have been told i have a tiny perscription to wear glasses but that its that slight i probably won't even notice.
I know exactly what you're going through since the same thing happened to me. During freshman year I kept feeling a throbbing pain behind my eyes that bothered me constantly. I was already recommended for glasses (I couldn't see things far away as clearly) but I put it off for awhile before seeing an optemologist. After my eye tests he asked me if there were any other questions or concerns. That's when I told him about the eye pains I've been having. He said that there was no problem, as long as I keep using my glasses driving, watching television, etc. I switched over to contacts awhile ago but I never experienced the behind the eyes pain again.
why do people say that you need to use a sponge for when you have sex? what do you use it for?!?
usually its to "wipe off" after unprotected (or protected by something other than a condom) sex to remove secretions that might have flowed out.
Overall the "sponge" technique really doesn't do you any good in the after-sex hygiene category.
Here's usually the rules amoung me and my girls:
oral sex -- mouthwash and brush your teeth
sexual intercourse (and any other form of genital to inside the body contact) -- wash COMPLETELY the areas of contact with antibacterial soap (hands, genitals, etc).
and other techniques that i'm not going to got through ;) but those are the essentials. Hygiene is important because it reduces the the transmission of STDs which is always a priority no matter how wild, rowdy, or exhausted we are. You cannot even imagine how fast STDs spreads amoung sorority girls and frat brothers when people have multiple sex partners. It's really a case of whether you want to be safe or sorry.
hey this is a quistion for all those guys out there-
do you prefer girls with or without makeup? thanks:-)
It really depends on what kind of facial features you have. Strong facial features can handle heavy make up and look good while softer more baby-like features can't mix with lots of overdoing (such as for prom night) without making them look like a clone of jon benet ramsy.
how exactly do you scrunch your hair?
I found this website with some tips on how to scrunch your hair. It's more UK based but i'm sure you'll have no problem translating. http://www.raddan.com/scrunch.htm
I haven't tried it myself since i have no confidence what-so-ever in my hairdressing skills and require professional help of my stylist Mhronda and Gee, but hope it helps.
Ok, here's my question. I REALLY like this guy that I met in math class last year. He wrote in my yearbook last year "can't wait to see you next year!!!" Do you think he likes me?? I don't see him this year so I can't do anything. I asked a couple of friends to say hi to him because they have classes with him. I've never ever felt like this about anyone before. I really miss him. I think about him constantly day in and day out. I WILL rate high for any good answers!! thx
I'm going to say the same thing to you as i do to any of my girls, don't get your hopes up over something that was written down.
If i leafed through my high school year books I could probably find hundreds of entries stating or relating to that statement, doesn't mean they're hoping i'm their chance at true love. I can't say those entries are totally meaningless but i really can't be in all of their classes the next year or keep in touch with all of them during summer and still hope to have a life.
He must have been pretty special for you to continue persuing him, even after several months of unattached oppertunities. If you don't have any classes with him this semester, maybe next semester? I would suggest asking for his phone number, meeting up at school events, etc. so you can do all the cute catching up personally rather than through your friends. He might also find it strange that you're having your friends talk to him, he certainly did not write "can't wait to see YOU next year" in their yearbooks. I'm sure you'll see him in the halls or during lunch period at least once a day or so. Don't be shy to talk to him so you can know for sure what he really thinks.
gonocologist --how bad is the first visit =/
I assumed you mean gynecologist?
It might be uncomfortable on your first visit to have a stranger examine your more intimate parts but soon your gynecologist will become more like a best friend that comes with a full read-out of your genital health.
Remember everyone's private regions are different and they vary like our facial features. Gynecologists won't are sworn into secrecy. How else can they gain your trust and your money? Gynos have seen everything from a gonorria infection to genital warts, and know what they're doing, so they aren't examining and taking tests for no reason. To become a gyno it takes 8 years of schooling and 4 years of residency. After that its pre med programs, MCATS, USMLC (3 parts), not to mention you need to score high enough to even get a chance at a residency, and up to 10 years up to that (depending on how far you really want to take this gyno business). So they are very serious and professional about what they're doing.
Before you ask, you should be visiting on a yearly basis which greatly increases the chances of finding any problem in its early and often treatable stage and you should have your first visit by 13-15 (around when your menstrual process begins) regardless of whether or not you're sexually active.
Here are the types of examinations you'll probably be receiving (you do not need a pap smear until you're 18):
Pelvic Exam (remember this varies according to your age):
Checks for redness, discharge or other abnormalities
Manually feels the size, shape, and position of internal organs
Views the Cervix, using a device called a speculum
and the breast exams to check for abnormal growths or lumps.
And the pap smears when you are over 18 involves collecting cells from the cervix to check for inflamation, infection, and cancer.
Importantly, do not worry about any pain!! The doctor will use two lubricated fingers to check your inner organs. Be prepared to be asked questions during the examination. Please answer these questions honestly, or else he or she cannot offer you the best possible care. I've gotten so comfortable with my doc where i actually have a conversation with him about his family and the news. You are allowed to have a friend, family member, or even a nurse be in the room at the same time to lift a bit of pressure off of you.
My first visit was a little awkward since i wasn't sure what to expect and thought i would be yelled at for waiting so long to schedule an examination. When arriving i remained tense and did not feel calm until the actual examination began. My words were carefully selected and limited to just answering the question since i was still feeling a bit exposed and embarrassed. Other than that there was no pain, just pressure and made me more confident to schedule my next appointment.