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harrasment? or what should i do?
there were these kids today that were in my 4 th period class who were lookin at the picture of me and my boyfriend. to be honest he isnt the hottest thing out there but i really dont care i love my boyfriend to death. but they started diss him and sayin all this shit about him. they were sitting right behind me doin this and thought i was stupid and didnt noe what they were talkin about. can i turn that in for sexual harrassment? everything they said affended me and i got really sad and when i get sad i get quiet and that is what happened. i wanted to get up and hit ever single one of them and then show them what is so funny, but instead i thought it through and decided that they werent worth it so i ignored them and NOTHIN changed. they kept going and goin all period. (which was 30 mintuess left) here are my question:
1) could i turn them in for harrassment?
2) tomorrow if they start it again should i stand up and give them a piece of my mind?
3) do u think i should tell my boyfriend about this? (he doesnt go to my school)
p.s
i am a 14/f and a freshman
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sorry but no. there are always goning to be people who like to she you hurt. but you just have to ignore them. maybe ask them to stop or something. well hope that helps!
good luck!
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im a 14yr. old guy (freshman too)
no thats not sexual harrasment so you can't use that (unless they said somethin bout you that was sexual)
how to handle this all depends on your school but the fact that your b/f goes to a different school doesn't help make this easier to stop
if your school has a zero tolerance rule for bullying thats what you got to turn em in for...but like i said your b/f goes somewhere else so all i can come up with is that you just tell the teacher to make em stop (don't give em a piece of your mind that will make things WAY worse) and as for tellin your b/f bout it...thats up to you
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1) You cannot turn them in for sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is more like "Hey, nice ass" and unplesant touching. They were teasing.
2) You can give them a piece of your mind, they may stop - then again they'll know it's bothering you so they may continue to bother you about it. The best thing to do is ignore them and maybe tell them to get a life and find something more valuable to do with thier time.
3)Why tell your boyfriend that someone was making fun of him? That doesn't seem exactly right.
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The best thing to do is just ignore them and let it go. Besides, how did they get their hands on pictures of you and your boyfriend anyways? Just let boys be boys and it'll get old pretty soon. Like girls, they love to nag and pick at other people because they aren't comfortable with something about themselves.
You should not beat yourself down about it because that's what they want. If you're happy with him then that is all that matters. It might be offensive and immature on their part but if you react with outrage then that just gives them even more reason to continue.
If they continue to bother you, confront them and say "Hey, what you're saying really bothers me and I don't pick at your body so don't pick on my boyfriend's." This is not sexual harrassment since they weren't talking about your body specifically, unless they make comments about things such as sexual favors, making up personal information about you and your boyfriend, you get it. This is, however, a form of harrassment. If they do not stop you might want to let your professor know and change your seating.
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thats not sexual harrasment.* sorry. but it`s good that you control yourself in that kind of situation because if they see that it doesn`t bother you [[even though it does]] they will get broed on trying to make you mad. so they will talk about someone else. i`d tell your boyfriend. but don`t take it too seriously.. it`s just stupid highschool drama. you`ll get used to it
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Sexual harassment is more....you sleep with me and I will give you a pay raise, good grades etc.
Or, if someone is wanting sexual favors for something. So, I don't think they could be in trouble for that. I don't know what they said though.
I think your best bet will be just to ignore them. They are idiots and not worth wasting your time on. If they know they are bothering you...you'll never get them to stop. :)
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First off, Kudos on controlling yourself. It was the most sensible thing to do. Why? Because they might have been doing and saying all that to see how you would react, to get to you. If they realize it does get to you then they will obviously not stop. That also shows you are smarter than they are and not react so quickly.
If this continues, I think you should turn them in for harrassment. As for how you would do so...thats up to you.
Giving them a piece of your mind wouldn't be a bad idea, but it depends on how you go about it. Of course if you are, do it peacefully and calmly. Try not to show too much emotion, like pain or sadness; if they are doing this intentionally to hurt you, then you can't let them know they won. Ask them why they are doing and saying all those things.
Yes you should tell your boyfriend. He might not mind, but any and all relationships should be 100% open. Don't present it in a way to make it seem like you need him to do something about it. Tell him what they've said, what you think about it, how you feel, and that you don't care what they say because it won't change your mind.
Again, if you are going to do something about it, it doesn't have to be violent or big either. Simply telling them to stop or something might do. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Well i dont think they could get in trouble for sexual harassment unless they were like touching you in an inappropriate way or saying they were going to. Sadly many people get made fun of each day but there isnt much of a punishment for it. If you think it is safe to stand up to them then i think u should tell them you dont like what there saying and to keep it to themselves. You could tell your boyfriend if it is bothering you unless you think he might get really hurt by this. Sorry this is happening! Hope i helped!
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