yea uhh.....im gonna be your president someday....and if u got a question just freakin ask it...i don't know your name or anything
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Age: 14
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hi my best friend and her boyfriend have been dating for 5 months and in that time she hasnt hung out with me or any of her other friends because her boyfriend doesnt allow her to and its really driving a wedge in our friendship because shes with him 24/7 and we were supposed to go to the movies tomorrow but when i called her she was at his house and he told her she had to hang out with him tomorrow so she couldnt go with me thats just an example but what do i do about her? (link)
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3 answers.
get a new buddy.
get a boyfriend.
shoot him.
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Well first off i must say that i thought your xanga was real interesting. you seem to be a smart kid. but anyways.... I felt real proud of my body when i weighed less becuase i felt more relaxed to show off my body and not haveing to suck in my tummy.(Its a habit.) I have been through some tuff times... parents,friends,boyfriend and my self estem. I am very slef-conscious. and when their seems to be a problem that might have to include me in any way i will try to find any way possible to put myself down.? and i hate it! i just want to be happy... but i must say im not as deppressed as i used to be.....
cort..... (link)
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im really sorry im answering this so late, my computer hasn't been workin that great....so i had to use a different computer
hmm.....most people say my xanga is pretty weird, but thanx for the complinment lol
1.well to be happy sometimes you just gotta fake it. its commomn sense, if your happy around people then they can't help but be happy with you, so that may solve the not being happy problem
2.it sounds like you need to become more self-aware then self-consious. by that i mean you need to look at the stuff around you that seems to give you tough times, you might be hanging out with the wrong people or trying to live up to the wrong standards.
3.and if you think about it, you don't wanna be around people that don't like you for how you are, so you know what i say about them? screw them. it sounds to me that you want to be skinnier becuase your afriad of what other people might think, it may not seem like it, but unknowingly you are.
4.would you really be so worried about what you looked like if people didn't care? no.
so i know we have all heard that crappy saying,"be yourself" but its possible to be yourself and not act yourself. so im challenging you to act yourself, try to be happy wether you feel like it or not, and try to become more self aware.
and btw, it realy would be easier if i could just talk to you or something, i go try to go by one of the oldest honor systems on the planet, do not lie, cheat, steal....and if i didn't keep your name and all other information confidential then i would be breaking everyone of those, so you would have my word.
ok well i tried to reply to that the best i could...since there wasn't a question in it lol
ok well ttyl cortney and i hope i helped a little bit
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hey again~ i tried writing you earlier but it didnt work...well...first whats ur name and age? i also wanted to say thank you for writing me back. you are good at giving advice, but as much as i hear that im skinny it dont help me any. i dont know why , but i want to become what i was. I felt more proud of my body. OH and i think you misunderstood about my boyfriend he is probully the niceiest guy he treats me perfect. He just gets mad about this stuff... I have noticed that i seem to not eat at all when im depressed.. And i get real depressed sometimes...i dont know im so confused.
cort.... (link)
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im robert moreland and im 14 (freshmen at keller high school, just go to my xanga to see me and such, it's xanga.com/the_billybob182)
ok well i say that the first thing you need to figure out is why you felt more proud of your body when you were skinnier.
and props to your b/f lol
then after you find out why you felt better about yourself when you were skinnier, find out why you feel depressed. when you figure out those 2 things you will prolly find out why you feel that way.
but to me it seems that whatever the reason is that is cuasing you to be depressed is making you insecure about yourself, and thus making you want to be someone who you are not, and try to make you live up to the standards of this world. now don't get me wrong, its good to be healthy, but may i remind you its not healthy to be to skinny.
so basically my advice to you is to find out what makes you depressed, and why just being a couple pounds lighter makes you feel proud about yourself. when you find those things out you could prolly figure out whats cuasing you to think this way yourself, but if you can't im here
and i know it don't help you any but im gonna say it anyway......you are not fat
just thought you should here it again lol
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okay so there is this guy that i met at the beginning of the school year and i liked him. well at least i thought so. well on fall break we went to the movies and other dates. this past week i thought alot about him and if i really liked him or not and i realized the only reason i liked him is because of all the attention that he gave me and i just really wanted someone to care about me. but i cant keep leading him on like this and play some stupid game. so how do i tell him without really hurting him? (link)
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ok well at least you know it isn't right to lead people on, it can end up really hurting a guy.... i would know....well we ain't here to talk about me so back to your question,
all you have to do is take it down a level, back down to friends, and as for trying not to hurt him....ok im not sure if this applies to this but w/e im gonna say it anyway,"you don't know pain until you know love, and you don't know love until you know pain"......yea i don't think that quote really applied lol
(this is how i think it should be, and this is how i do things) if he liked you enough to go out with you then.....wait you are going out right?, well this could easily be solved if you aren't going out, just lay off each other for awhile
ok well if you are going out then back to what i was saying, if he liked you enough to go out with you then he should have no problem doing what ever makes you happy....even if it leaves him outta the picture.....(*sigh* this question is bringin back good memories....)im sayin all of this outta my own exeriance....but i just looked as it as a muscle, you have to rip a muscle before it can become stronger
but i say you should just say that you just wanna be friends but avoid saying things like "i just don't like you anymore" cause thats just mean. say somethin like....well there's really no nice way to put it,say the reason why you don't really like him anymore
but since im guessin you wanna know what to say, i guess you should say somethin like you think of him more as a brother not as a b/f and that you wanna stay friends
well thats really the best i got....if you know me contact me or somethin, i give better advice when im talkin face to face or on the phone or on aim, it doesn't let me think to much....i mess my self up when i do that lol
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hello..My name is cortney. i am 14 and i need to know something.... i am 5'3 and 108 pounds... am i fat? i mean , i dont think im fat i just dont like the way i look. My boyfriend tells me that i have a mental problem.? i have been anerexic befor..during the summer i wieghed 102. i have been thinkg of starting that up again or becoming belimic..? i dont know what i should do...
cortney (link)
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hey coutney(im guessin i don't know you)
and hell no you ain't fat, my 11 year old sister is prolly around your highth and she weighs round 120-130
and it sounds like your b/f is a dumbass, thats just mean to say to anyone they have a mental problem (unless its all in good fun)
and who does like the way they look? i take that back, everyone likes the way they look BUT it is other people that make you rethink the way you look. don't let other people affect you
and please don't become anerexic all your doing is denying food to your body (and if i recall that is what the nazis would do to jewish prisoners) its a weird metaphore, but it is just as bad. you are torturing youself wether you think so or not
and being belimic....do i even have to say how bad that is? that can do you pretty bad bodily harm
if anything you should prolly eat a tad bit more, i mean you live in the united states of america, the country where we have more food in a gas station than they do in all of africa lol
but just to restate what i said, you are not fat
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ok heres the situation...i love a girl but she doesnt love me. we are like best friends but she has a boyfriend now and we are getting farther apart. what do i do? (link)
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refer to the answer below
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ok heres the situation...i love a girl but she doesnt love me. we are like best friends but she has a boyfriend now and we are getting farther apart. what do i do? (link)
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ok since i didn't feel like thinking here are some answers to your question (this is the only time i havn't personally answered the question)
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=382929
or just to sum it up here are some options
1.tell her how you feel or regret later
2.you may not really be in love
3.keep talkin to her and be there for her and when she breaks up with her b/f that the guy she wanted was u all along
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I fantasize about other guys and penises when I masturbate. Does that mean I'm gay or bi? (link)
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im assuming your a guy...so im gonna answer it like your a guy
first off you didn't say you liked girls...so if you don't like girls than that would make you gay
but if you do like girls than that would make you bi
and i wouldn't mind knowin who this is.....
usually i would think this is aaron...but it was posted today while i was at school...and he was here today.....
but really it would be nice to know who this is..cause it's lookin like you got some problems lol
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Does anyone know where I can find song codes from the band BAYSIDE to put on my xanga?? Very, very thankful for anyone who takes the initiative to help! (link)
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try http://www.xanga.com/music_galore that site has so much music it ain't even funny
and if don't know how to put music on your site it tells you how to
well, hope i helped a little bit
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my cousins nd their dad are racist! soo much! like its so mean and i hate when they make fun of people! its really upsetting. theyre a LOT older than me (senior in hs and 3rd year in college) but were SOOO CLOSE!!! like they live at home and whatever so yea. but what should i do? theyre like the best cousins everevereververvEVER besides that!
should i just get over it? (link)
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lol join the club my family is just like that
but...what my family says is sorta the truth lol
but lookin at history, messin with a mans beleifs have started a lot of wars....
so i really don't think there's much you can do about it
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Okay, Im kinda big if you kno what i mean but im not like huge and i cant get a boyfriend..but all my friends say im really pretty and everything but i dont think i am..is there anyway i can change how guys look at me ?? I wanna do it for me and not for them. I rate 5s
14/F ( if that helps ) (link)
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im a 14/m and i say u just need to work on ur personality....but thats just me
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ok,my dream is to become a singer,or an actress.I am 13/f. I really think im good at convincing people,but my voice isnt the best it could be. I really want to be an actress,but i have no idea how to get noticed!I dont have enough money for an adjent,so any ideas that i can get into the acting world? (link)
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get to know a lot of people
now a lot of actors are gonna get on my butt for sayin this, but in the actin world, to tell you the truth it really doesn't matter how good you are....
if you know the right people then you got you a part
so what i would suggest is adition for a lot of stuff and even if you don't make it your name would be out there
well hope i hoped
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I mean.. what kind of personality, looks, ect. do you like?? (link)
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lol thats like the exact same question you asked last time
personality wise, i guess it would be someone i know i could trust, or something along those lines.....idk i guess
and as for looks, i guess don't be fat lol
to tell you the truth, i would just have to really know you to like you
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So what makes a guy attracted to a girl? personality, looks, and style wise. (link)
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well for me its just personality....and don't wiegh 500 pounds lol
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what do you do if you are going out with this one guy, and youve been going out for 8 months and youve only been on one date and he says he still likes you but he is always busy with drumline and stuff so you can never do anything together except talk to each other once a week for five minues??? im sooo confused...and when you do talk he never asks how you are or what youve been doing??? help!
ps im 14, hes 14, and im a girl (link)
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well if you never talk on the phone or anything like that and you only talk for that 5min. than im gonna have to say that you should prolly break up...
but if you do wanna try to stay with em than you gotta work on your communication skillz, cuz after awhile i foud out that thats pretty important lol
but if you do wanna break up just tell em that you don't know em as good as you used to and so on so forth, and that maybe you should just go down to the friend level, but if you got better reasons than use those cause i don't know the circumstances
but since you only go on a date about every 240 days.....yea....its not soundin to good
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okay, so there is this guy and i met him through his kinky xanga. and we talked a lot and i really liked him. but we lived like far away and i told him how i felt and i made myself soud really desperate and i am never like that. and he said that he liked me but it was too far and i got mad and upset and i am not that kind of girl and now i dont know what to do?!?!?! (link)
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wow it was pretty easy to guess who this was lol
hey its ok i know your not desperate or anything like that
and i do like you, its just that us livin in two complety different states that aren't even near each other would just be to hard
and don't worry i know your not that kind of girl
we can still talk and all, im just sayin it would be hard to go out and never ever see each other in person
but knowin you, im sure you can get somebody else thats better than me
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okay so am i so bored with life. I am sorry if this is geeky but its true. i want to live in a fantasy with dragons and stuff like that. if you read the book eragon or the sequel eldest thats what i want. i hate life b/c its boring and thats the only thing i really ever will want. first i want to know if there was ever any evidence that dragons were alive and if so by chance could a scientist make them live again by some cloning technology. if you have anything else you would like to add please halep. i am really serious abou this. (link)
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sorry to crack it to ya but dragons (as far as we know) have never excited
but dinosours on the other hand do...and it looks like sometime in the future we can clone them
(JURASSIC PARK)lol
but if you love fantasy that much then hell write a book or something...its incredible what people can acomplish when they really set their mind to it
and as for life, its the longest thing you ever do, so enjoy it. never look at the bad in life, look at the good
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my question is how can you tell that guy is a virgin or not girl you can tell pop cherry but what about guys do they have some sign taht they are virgin? thx (link)
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im a 14yr old guy
and im pretty sure you can't tell, at all
but uhh if i had to make somethin up...than i would say that they would get nervous or somethin
i wouldn't know im a virgin and proud of it
and just some extra advice, stay a virgin till your married. thats what im gonna do
all pre-marrital sex does is bring pain and guilt, just thought you should know lol
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ok well this guy. bob* i really like for some odd reason and i dont know why i just like him. but i never really talked to him. he is the greatest thing i swear well kinda. anyways my friend joe* was like i will just ask him to homecoming for you and i said no. and he was like ok whatever. then the next day my friend told me he said no to homecoming. and bob* said no because he only liked me as a friend thats all. and now i don't know if i should call him and talk to him about it. I am kinda a shy person when it comes around the guy i like. but what should i do?? HELP!!! I am 14 he is 14. I am a female. he is a male. Plus bob* always looks at me at lunch and in pe.
* names have been changed (link)
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well there's always that chance that he's just shy too.
but i wouldn't call em, that sorta make you look clingy, and guys don't like that
and act like it never happened, just act like you never asked (which should be easy cause you didn't ask) and just talk to him and such
if your afraid that you might act stupid or something than don't be. if you do something stupid and just laugh about it and not be embarassed than some people would say what you did was kool. i mean think about it all the "popular" people always do stupid stuff (not thar im sayin you should always act stupid) just when you mess up, laugh about it
but i wouldn't talk about it cuase for all you know it never happend ;) lol
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kk well theres 2 questions n this:
1. how can you tell if a guy really likes you??
2. if you like a guy, how do you tell him w/o looking like a freaking idiot??
kk thanks!! (link)
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for question #1: i would say if he is always tryin to be around you and when your in a group of people he always tries to stay next to you than he prolly likes you and if he looks right at your face, right into your eyes when you talk and not looking around or anything....than chances are pretty damn good that he likes you
for question #2: being an idiot or not is all in your head. for example: there are really cool people out there that are popular and such for just being stupid. but when you feel its right to tell him that you like him make sure you two are alone as possible and just plain ask em in one of those werid cute little voices that make us guys do anything lol.... and besides if he likes you back than nothing you say would make you look like a "freaking idiot"
and ya know.....it would be sorta nice to know who you are of if i know you or something...
just tell me if you know me....or not w/e lol
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