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soo it's been a while,
only 22 days then i can talk to him...whatever.
i was at the bookstore today..and i almost bought one of those self-help books to help me..
but i ran outta time.. -_-
i figured if he says i didnt change..i can throw the book at his head..
bahaha. good idea? lol
any ideas for books.. i really wanna buy one -_- (link)
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There are tons of self help books out there.
If I were going to buy one I'd see if Dr
Phil had any. He's one smart dude!
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i had sex for the second time the other day. and it was longer then the first time. we didnt finish, and i dont even know if he precummed. we were wearing a condom and all, but im not sure.
is it possible that i could be pregnant? i wasnt exactly counting down the minutes and stuff, but we were both still really nervous. i have 4 pregnancy tests in my room that my parents dont know about. and i could use them if i dont start my period in a few weeks.
but the thing is i dont track down my periods like im supposed to. i just let them come and go. how would i know if its the right time to try the tests? i really dont want to waste them, and i have a lot on my mind so i wont exactly be paying any attention to that kind of stuff.
i havent been throwing up or anything, and i havent gotten bigger, since its only wednesday and we did it on saturday.
and...this is a really odd addition to my series of strange questions: do girls poop if they are pregnant? because i heard somewhere that they dont, and then i heard somewhere that they HAVE to, or they arent healthy. but i dont know which one is true!!
but i also dont wanna continue thinking i AM pregnant because if i do, i can trick my brain into thinking i am because i can actually do that. i have before. and i dont wanna have a psychological pregnancy. (blugh)
but yeah. any answers to all these questions would be just peachy. ^.^ thanks. (link)
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Anytime you let a penis near you, pregnancy is
possible.
If he was wearing a condom anytime he was close
to your vagina, you are probably NOT pregnant.
pre-ejaculate is probably not going to be seen
by you. It is not something he can feel happening
either. So long as he was wearing a condom. You
are probably not pregnant.
If 30 days go by and you don't have a period,
take a test. I don't think you will need to.
Pregnancy symptoms like nausea do not show up
for 5 weeks into a pregnancy. Missing your
period would come first and be the first sign
of pregnancy.
Pregnant womens bodies function the same as
they always did. Some don't even get morning
sickness. As a matter of fact it is usually
the healthiest time of their lives. If they
don't have bowel movements, then something
is very wrong with them. Pregnant women
can get constipated because of the extra
weight of the baby. If this happens they
need to tell their doctor right away.
Perhaps that is what you heard.
Now, I have a favor to ask. I am not going
to tell you to stop having sex. I did as a
teen and have a son to show for it. :) Its
not a start to adulthood I would wish on
anyone. Have fun before you start a family.
You have plenty of time and will spend MANY
YEARS being a mom someday.
So, I'd like to you go to this website and
learn about sex before you do it again.
Learn about birth control, pregnancy symptoms,
STDs, and just things about your body and his.
Be informed, smart and responsible before you
have sex. You have to protect yourself because
you're the only one who can. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/
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It hurts when I have sex, and sometimes I don't even enjoy it. I CRIED ONCE BECAUSE IT HURT SO BAD. I feel horrible for not being able to let guys enjoy it as much beacuse I'm in pain. What should I do? (link)
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Try using a lubricant. Safe to use lubricants
can be found in Walmart and other stores like
it right there in condom aisle.
If that doesn't help, or you've already tried
that, see a doctor. Sex shouldn't hurt. If it
does then something isn't right.
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My stomach aches for a while and then it stops, then later it aches again.
When I poop my poop is all watery, and it's been going on for 2 days.
Anyone know how to cure this?
P.S.: I ate in a not-so-goood restaurant that I had a bad feeling about and after a few hours it started aching... (link)
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Since this started after you ate in the
questionable restaurant, it can't hurt
to see a doctor. It may be just a bout
of upset stomach or it could be food
poisoning. See a doctor or emergency
room ASAP.
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my friends started talking about it and since im a guy and the friends that were talking about it are girls but i know it comes out of a girls vagina lol but thats about all can anyone tell me what it is and im 18 btw (link)
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Here is a great article that explains discharge
for you.
http://www.livestrong.com/symptom/273-vaginal-discharge/
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my bf and i have only had sex twice, but we havent ever really gotten to finish. A) it takes him forever to get it in, and B) his family always calls him down to do chores and stuff even if im over there.
but thats not really the point...i lost my virginity on the 26th of last month and then we did it again today and both times he didnt seem to be getting any pleasure at ALL. i dont expect me to get any considering it just NOW got to where it doesnt hurt as much, but is there something wrong with me "down there"?? like, am i doing something wrong? i have no experience and neither does he, really but all im doing is laying there and i dont think he minds doing all the work. but i dont do oral sex or handjobs.
but like is there something i could do (besides the above) that would make the experience a little more pleasurable for him? is there some medication i can take or something?
or is it because we're kinda young? (we're both 15) or does it have something to do with your "soulmate" or whatever?
im confused and i need answers, so any advice is appreciated!! :) (link)
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There is nothing wrong with you at all.
In order for sex to be pleasurable it
can't be rushed. You can't be in a
position where you could be caught
at any moment.
When you have a place you can be alone
with out him having to listen for
footsteps or worry about those things,
it will be pleasurable for you both.
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I'm 13 and i cut myself,drink, suffer from depression, and have suicidal thoughts. i need help but i don't want to speak to anyone because no one knows. and i want to stop without some one even knowing i had this. how do i do this?? i'm a mess.
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*EDIT*
Sounds like a worthwhile thing to do!
Hope it is a success. I meant to write
boyfriend/girlfriend. I got carried away. :)
Good for you! Admitting you have a problem
is a great first step. The hardest one for
a lot of people.
I understand you wanting to fix this by
yourself. But it may not be possible for
you to do it completely without help. It
is not a bad thing at all to ask for help.
Let me explain a little.
You are 13. You have a long road of
temptation ahead. The teen years are
probably the hardest years in the world
to live through.
Everything seems so huge and important!
Other kids can be cruel and thoughtless.
They all want to drink and act the fool.
For someone with a drinking problem,
those are the very things you'll have
to avoid and learn to deal with. There
are other kids in your age group who
have been where you are and can help
you deal with the pressures.
You have depression problems and life
is full of obstacles you may need help
dealing with. Especially at your age.
There will be boyfriends, and breakups
and all sorts of things you may need
help dealing with.
Not saying you can't do a lot of it
on your own. You will have to be strong
and you can do it. The goal is to keep
it up when life gets tough. So, if you
need the help, there is no shame in
asking for and taking help. We all need
it from time to time. :)
Best of luck.
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14/F
Everybody in my school and everybody in the world knows what sex is and all the works of art that goes with it, right? I know most of it since I'm only 14 and my family doesn't talk about it. If I say the word sex at home and my dad is near, he'll yell and me and start saying, "Go to your room or wash your mouth out!"
I don't get why, but I ignore it. I actually think sex is like art and that it's normal, so say people I meet and things. Well, I was searching on the computer for something and I got this pop up. For some reason, my computer only blocks pop ups of laptops and things, but not porn pop ups. So I got this porn video as a pop up as I entered a site searching for a certain guy from a TV show. So, anyway, the pop up scared me. I freaked out and started whimpering and trying to turn off the computer screen. I was a dark red color when I looked in the mirror! I wasn't feeling any kind of turn on, either! Just freaked out! I don't get why! I swear I could handle that kind of stuff, but when I saw it, it freaked me out! I didn't know what I saw, but it was kind of scary! Luckily, my speakers are broken and I couldn't hear anything, but it was scary! Why did I suddenly have a change?
Then, today it happened again! A pop up came up when I was going to my friend's profile on a certain site. Well, I got this pop up of a guy and a girl, but mostly the guy's genitals. I was confused at first, but then that thing started up again. I started getting terrified and I snapped the computer off. I keep telling myself that it's nothing, but then I started thinking about it. I can't possibly be immature about it. I mean, at school when someone says penis, I don't laugh. I just listen to the teacher, then ignore it for the rest of the day. Someone says 69, I don't laugh. I mean, if you say it a hundred times, then maybe I'll laugh then, but that's different...
Anyway... My question is: Why do I get so scared and nervous when I see a guy or even a girl's body?! I have things a girl has, duh, because I'm a girl, but I still get scared and panick. Then my next thought was: How the heck am I ever gonna have sex when I'm married if I freak out like that?! I might end up smacking my own boyfriend! Can someone please help me?! I'm so confused and kinda freaked out! > (link)
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Don't worry about it. There is nothing
wrong with you at all. Real life is much
different than having it pop up unexpected
on your computer screen.
Like Sunshineshow said before me, a lot
of it was embarrassment. Maybe a little,
OMG I have to get this off my screen before
someone sees it!
I would tell your mom or someone that it
keeps popping up on your screen. You need
something to put a stop to it or it will get
worse. :)
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my side hurts on my right side of my stomach. i dont know what is causing it, but hurts really bad. today all i ate was waffles with peanut butter and carrots and celeri, plus i took my daily 20g fluoxetine pill. then i took an alieve. and im really hot right now, burnin up. i dont know whats wrong but its killing me. please try to help. any guesses, suggestions are appreciated. (link)
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Ideally you should go to an emergency room
to be checked out. It could be nothing serious
or it could be appendicitis. At the very least,
call you doctor for advice, especially since you
probably have a fever.
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i was just wondering, it has never happened to me thank god but if a girl or guy was to get raped 3 yrs ago. can they still do anything about it now.
i know that if someone hits you and you dont report it right away cops cant do anything about it if you report it later down the road with or without witnesses.
when we say rape does it mean the guy or girl has to have intercourse with the victim or can it be the taking of clothes off and almost having intercourse? (link)
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You need to report any crime right away.
If you want to be sure the person doing
all this is taken care of the right way.
If you wait until later you not only risk
getting hit again, but they will probably
get away with it. People will wonder why you
didn't report it at the time. It also keeps
people from reporting something at a later
time should they just get mad and decide to
get back at someone.
Of course reporting it later can also be
useful. They keep reports on what gets
reported and it may be used at a later
time should they do it again.
There are also times when a person may have
been afraid to report it earlier, or it
is a minor child who had no way to report it
earlier. So go ahead if it ever occurs and
report it. It doesn't hurt a thing.
Intercourse has to take place before you
can actually call it rape. However, there
are other things they could get charged with.
Attempted rape, sexual assault etc. Depending
on circumstances.
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I had an affair for a few weeks and we did have sex 1 time. It blew up horribly when my spouse found things. She does not know we were intimate and I really do not want her to know. She is a wreck and so am I. I am afraid that this will kill her - she is a little unstable right now. Why does she even need to know these details? I can carry this secret to my grave. If this were known, I believe we will end up in a divorce and our home w/kids will be destroyed, and I do not want that to happen! It seems like I remember Dr. Laura mentioned once that a one-time affair (not a long lasting one) didn't need to be disclosed. Why burden your spouse with this. Why dump these rocks on them. Its your burden to carry. Help. (link)
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I'm sure you know this now, but I will mention
it for others who may read this. The time to
worry about hurting someone and destroying a
home and family is BEFORE you have an affair.
If Dr Laura has said anything about affairs
and not telling, it would probably have been
about something that happened before marriage.
Have you ever listened to Dr Joy Brown?
She is the one who says that telling is
cruel. It is done only to relieve YOUR
conscious and make YOU feel better. All
it does for your spouse is hurt them
horribly, leave them with fear and
insecurities.
That would be in a case where it was a
one time thing, your sorry you did it
and don't intend to ever do that again.
Your wife had no clue at all and would
be shocked that you had done it.
In your case though she does know a
little about it. Already suspects you
of it. In your case your wife needs
to know what happened. She needs to
hear you are sorry and that you will
never do this again. You need to talk
and hope that you can resolve this.
If you love each other it is possible.
Keep in mind she won't trust you again
overnight. It will take time and patience
on your part.
If you love your wife let her know it.
If it is easier, write a long letter.
Best of luck to you.
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Ok so ive never been to the gyno..... im scared idk what to do or to expect..... I havent had a period in over a year and well i just dont know what to do... mine is a guy and I DONT TRUST GUYS so any advice...
Thnx Military45 (link)
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I understand your fears. I know I had them
at your age too. Since your mom probably made
the appointment for you, you're kinda stuck
with the doctor she got for you.
It really won't be that bad. Just remember
he is a doctor and seen it all thousands
of times. There will always be a nurse in
the room with you. You will never be alone
with him unless it is to talk afterwards
or beforehand. Being nervous is perfectly
normal. Your doctor will know you are
nervous and will do his best to put you
at ease.
If you have questions about anything never
hesitate to ask him. Write the questions
down before you go, then you won't forget
to ask. Sometimes when your nervous its
easy to forget what you wanted to know!
As far as the actual exam, here is a site
that will tell you exactly what will be
going on. Lots of other good information
on the site too. Should you see something
you have a question about, ask your doctor.
It really won't last very long. It will Be
over before you know it. :)
http://www.livestrong.com/article/12465-pelvic-exam/
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I am a 25 year old woman who for the past year has been involved with a married man. He is 20 years older then me and has 2 kids...both of them in their teenage years. He has been married to his wife for 20 years. Our affair started off drunken sex and now its I love you, I wish I could be with you. I do have very strong feelings for him and I believe he has the same for me. He says his wife is pulling away from him and he feels like she wants someone different, as does he. He says that once his youngest kid goes off to collage he really thinks things between him and his wife will end and that the only reason he believes they are still together is the kids. I don't know what to think.. Can there ever be a future between us? Is he using me for my body? Is he seeing other girls too? Also, I'm still very young, I want children and marriage. He has already done all that, will he be willing to do it again? I'm just very confused..And I know I brought this on myself but please any advise would be great!! (link)
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Hes not going anywhere. A man really in
love would no more wait until his youngest
is off to college than you would. When
the son goes off to college there will
be another excuse.
I honestly think you will be better off
all around if you put an end to this
affair and found someone who can give
you the type of relationship you want.
This one may be a nice guy, but he is
still using you.
I could be wrong, but I doubt that a
man his age will be willing to start
over from scratch and start a new
family. After being married for 20 years
he will probably pay a big chunk of his
income to his ex wife.
I have to advise moving on. You don't
want to wake up one day and realize
you don't have a family of your own
and its to late to start one. You've
already wasted a year on this guy.
Good luck.
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Okay, I was late for my period the month of June. The I had sex on the 28th of July and started bleeding for like 2 days but it went away... We didn't use a condom (yes i know stupid move) but it just kinda happened, but the bleeding stopped and i am pretty sure the bleeding was just my hymen, but that would mean i never got my period the month of July. I know it is always possible to get pregnant, but how likely is it that I could be pregnant now? (link)
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If you had sex without a condom it is
very likely you could be pregnant. Time
of month is not a factor. Take a home test.
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Ok me and my boyfriend have been having sex hes 17. my mom found naked pictures of me in my camera that i took of myself that no one else has seen but me, and now my moms putting me out to be this big slut. And shes treatening to take me to the doctor and if they see im not a virgin then shes gonna have my boyfriend Aressted. me and him have been together for 2 years. I love him sooo much annd idk what i would do without him PLEASE HELP!! (link)
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Girls hymens can be broken by things
other than sex. However there may be
other ways to tell. Sperm for instance.
The fact is if your boyfriend is over the
age of consent for your state, and you are
under, your parents can get him in trouble.
17 year olds CAN be tried as adults.
Sex with a minor by law is defined as not only penetration, but masturbation or showing of any sexual body parts to a minor, including breasts.
The best thing to do would be confess and
hope to talk them out of pressing charges.
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i'm sixteen years old and i just found out that one of my best friends had sex. we are really close and i was surprised to hear it, especially because i thought she would tell me something like that. i don't know if i should bring it up to her because i don't want her to get angry that i found out or be embarrassed or anything. should i say anything about it or forget it? (link)
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As people get older they tend to keep
some things just between themselves and
their boyfriend. You're getting to the
age where some things are private.
It doesn't mean she doesn't trust you
and she still likes you and is your friend.
Shes just becoming an adult. You can tell
her you heard about it, just don't be hurt
she didn't tell you. Her boyfriend may have
said something to a friend (some of them
mature later than girls!)who told thier
girlfriend etc.
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sorry i didnt know under what category to put this.
i have hair around my belly button and its soooo anoying. i shaved it but it grows back quite fast. i was thinking about waxing but im not sure if waxing on stomach is healthy? (link)
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You can safely wax your stomach without
worries about your health. It won't
cause any harm at all. Waxing does
hurt some but it is not dangerous for
you to do it.
:)
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My 12 year old son has a neighborhood friend (who spends alot of time at our house). He is a very nice boy, who doesn't have alot of friends because he can be "a pain in the neck" (according to my son) and we believe because of his hygiene. His odor is very offensive and we don't even like when he sits on the furniture in the house. He has been in the car with us on a few occasions and it is necessary to open the windows to cut some of the smell. Here's the really tough part... how do we handle this. I would like to pull him to the side and speak to him about taking showers and wearing clean clothes, but the other part of me thinks we should speak to his parents. The problem with this is his mom is not very "clean" either. What should I do?? (link)
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I agree with the others. If you tell anyone,
tell the parents.
However, I have another suggestion.
Your son must notice his friend not
smelling very good. Maybe he could
kind of "teach" his friend good
hygiene.
I don't know how exactly, but if he is
teased at school, and school is starting
soon, maybe it could be a "you know they
won't tease you so much if you do this
and this. Here I have a new can of
deodorant you can just have. Put it on
every night/morning after you shower."
That sort of thing.
The problem is probably with his parents.
If his mom isn't clean, she probably isn't
teaching him how. He's embarrassed but
don't know how to fix the problem and
may be to embarrassed to even ask. If
your son brings it up somehow and if he
looks up to your son, it may be the best
way. Maybe he will ask questions.
I've seen this type of parent before,
I'm afraid if you mention it they will
go on the offensive and not allow him to
come over to your house anymore. If your
son is about his only friend, he needs that friendship.
Very touchy subject. I hope you find
a way to help the boy.
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I recently lost my virginty with a guy who was my boyfriend at the time but now ex! But when I was supposed to get my period I didn't. I was just wondering if your period turns "irregular" after your first time or not. Please help!! (link)
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I don't personally know anyone who
IS regular all the time. It varies
from month to month. I can tell you that
no. Having sex will not cause any changes
in your period. UNLESS, you get pregnant.
Then you won't get it at all.
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22/f
I probably wouldn't even ask this, but I told my best guy friend what I did, and he told me that what I did was very wrong to the point that even a Satanist would have problems condoning all of my actions.
It really has messed w/ my head since he said that, so I wanted your opinion on if you think I did the right things or not in this instance.
I was in college this past semester, and had 19 hours worth of classes. I also was working two jobs, one of them on campus for the housing dept., one off campus. I had been engaged to this guy I'd been w/ for 5 years from back home, but it was long distance by then because he didn't go to college. I had gotten pretty bored w/ him, and I had found a friend w/ benefits on the side, and the more that went on, the more I felt like I need to break off the engagement, so I did that over Christmas break.
Well, about 3 weeks before the semester ended, my ex fiance showed up and surprised me at my apt. He had a gun, but he didn't threaten me w/ it. He said that unless I got on his Harley w/ him and ran away, he was going to kill his self right then and there. I did call my little sister and I told her that I was running away w/ my ex-fiance, and she was the only person I would call while I was gone. I told her to tell our parents for me, so they'd know I was ok, but not to tell anybody else. So then I left w/ him, and we headed out west. The plan was that we were going to Vegas to get married. We were on the road for like 4 weeks, and the longer I was w/ him, the more I remembered why I had broken up w/ him to begin w/. We were somewhere in west Texas, I forget the name of the place, and he had gotten really drunk at our motel room and passed out. I looked in his pants pocket and got his wallet, and I slipped out the door. I used what cash he had to buy a bus ticket to Dallas, because he didn't have enough cash on him to buy a bus ticket for anywhere closer to home. On the way to Dallas, I ripped up or cut up everything from his wallet because I was bored, plus I didn't want someone to do identity theft on him, ya know? So when I got to Dallas, I found this strip club and asked if I could dance there for one shift to make money for bus fare, and the manager was nice enough to let me. (I had worked in strip clubs where I go to college at before.) So, I was able to use that money to finally make it back home. When I made it back home, I found out that I had fired from both of my jobs when they didn't hear from me, and also that I was on academic suspension because they had given me F's in all of my classes when I didn't show up for finals. Also, when I didn't show up to move out of my dorm room, they cleaned my room out, so I lost everything in there. In short, I lost my whole life on that trip. But still, in my mind, I did the right thing b/c he would've killed his self otherwise if I hadn't have left with him. I can rebuild what I've lost, and I've already found one new job.
The thing that my best guy friend has the biggest problem w/ was that he said if I was going to steal my ex's wallet, then I should have also stolen his gun and thrown it away or pawned it so that he couldn't use it to kill his self when he woke up and saw that I was gone. I really didn't think about that at the time, and now that it has been pointed out to me, I am a little bit worried about it.
So, did I really handle things as badly as my best guy friend said? (link)
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The only place I can see that you really
screwed up, in my opinion, was that you
didn't call the cops at the first
opportunity. He basically kidnapped
you at gunpoint and took you out of
the state. You may have gone along,
but he had a gun!
So long as you got out of there, it
doesn't matter what you took. It was
all his drama. Its not your job to
keep anyone alive by giving into
demands.
Should he contact you again with the
same story call a relative or friend
to take the responsibility for him.
If they are to far away call the cops.
They will take him to a hospital and
have him held for observation as being
a threat to himself or others. They will
contact a relative.
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