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I don't tan, all I do is burn. I NEVER tan because my body just doesn't do it lol. So I was wondering if there was something I could do to help it besides spray tan or burn. Are there like herbs or something that could help? Also do guys like pale girls? Becuase ir seems like every guy I know doesn't like it...Thanks! :D
I don't know much about tanning but I heard if you put sun screen on before you lay out in the sun it can help prevent burning up and will tan instead.
It hurts to go to the bathroom and I've had this problem before 6 months ago, I went to the doctor and they had to look at me and then they gave me some powdered white stuff to drink. I'm not comfortable with a doctor lookin at me though. Now it hurts to poop and it stings
A couple of days ago when I try to poop there was kind of a lot of blood, but there isnt anymore, it just stings and hurts. What can I do to get rid of this pain?
Comfortable or not you need to see a doctor. We can't really give you any good advice as we cannot give you a diagnosis.
I'm not trying to scare you but there are numerous reasons to why you could be bleeding from behind.
You could of ruptured something and you will not know that unless you get it checked out.
what is a good anal lube? i was thinking astroglide? i think like the watery lubes are better then and more slick then the jelly ones?
also for anal sex does it give a good feeling like vaginal sex does for the girl? also if the guy cums in her during anal sex, does it feel good for her or no?
thanks in advance =]
Well different people like different things. If you prefer the liquid over the jelly then that's fine.
If you and your partner are going to do anal I would recommend using the jelly and not the liquid. The jelly is thicker it will lubricate more. From my understanding jelly is best for anal and liquid is for straight intercourse.
Oh! I almost forgot K&Y Jelly or Liquid ;)
my husband works and i stay at home. he says there is no reason why the house should not be clean and laundry be done etc... he refuses to help in any way says he pays all the bills and
i am responsible for everything else. if its not done, i really get yelled at and im about to have a nervous breakdown
Well, I can't say I disagree with him.
If you don't work then he you should be doing the household work, The guy works, pays the bills and puts food on the table.
Maybe it's not right for him to yell about it but on the hand when one person in the house hold works it can be pretty stressful when the other sits at home all day. If you put your fair share into the chores at least you are doing your part and showing some support.
Hi,
(24/f)
There's this guy that I use to date and recently he came back into my life. Not too long ago, my dad and his aunt got married and now we are technically legitimate cousins. It's weird because now we live in the same house. When we dated many months ago, it was always hot and cold with us. One day, we fought and he said many things that I couldn't get over. So one day, I packed my things and left him. He has terrible character. I dated him with him being a rebound. He told me a bunch of lies when we first met and he tried to get me drunk a few times. He was dating another girl, he cheated on her with me. I fell for his acts and his lies for short periods of time. I think I convinced myself to be in love with him. As I recall, many times I felt no in-love feelings towards him and many times I felt I didn't want him around or I would daydream about fabricated, perfect guys. He was into drugs and going off with his friends and lying about almost everything. There were a lot of times where he said he would meet me at a time and be there hours late. As for intimacy, it seemed he lusted me more than he loved me. If he were acting loving, he would say all these cheesy things that just never felt like they had any emotion backing them. Then there were times where he seemed absolutely in tuned with strong emotion and those times he was also usually distant. I remember many times I tried to get him to show me that he actually felt something. I never got a response I wanted. Truth is, he was never my type and I probably was just a chick to him. He was the rebound that I spent six months with, an absolutely stupid mistake. Now, we try to be friends living under the same roof and all. There are times I want him to share with me the details in his life or spend time at the house with me because I"m all by my lonesome here. Those times, he lies or leaves out details and spends the majority of his free time elsewhere. We had one fight, now it seems like all the time he's withdrawn. Before the fight, he came home drunk upset with me because he wanted to be with me and hated seeing me everyday knowing that he couldn't. I guess I still have some feelings for him but I really don't know what bothers me more: the person I was when I was around him or him leaving me high and dry. I'm sure I don't care about him in that way and it doesn't matter now because our family recently adjoined. I don't like how he makes me feel. One moment, I'm on top of the world and then the next thing I know I'm dropped to the very bottom. He acts like he could care less and it makes me sick feeling that empty vast feeling I get from him. What's wrong with me, am I making this a problem? I just want my life to turn around so I wouldn't ponder on matters that don't matter. Thank you so much for reading this.
You move on, That's what you do. You find another source to fill the void of loneliness in your life.
A man who has cheated to be with one will cheat again. People can change don't get me wrong but generally when someone cheats they are capable of doing again because they've done it once before. We cannot change the past, What's done is done. You yearn for affection. You were once attracted to him. However, I'm hoping that you realize now that he just simply isn't good enough for you. You said it, This man has a tendency of killing your self esteem. You can move on and meet someone who is right for you or sit on the fact of debating on old sour memories. When you allow yourself to be put in an unhealthy situation you not only kill your self esteem but you prolong your pain. Acceptance is your first step towards moving forward. Someone who tries to get you drunk so they can take advantage of you is someone who needs a reality check. You are better, You deserve better and most of all you owe it to yourself to think better. Remember 2 steps forward not 3 steps back.
Well im 15 years old & im bisexual ijust havent let it out to anyone isometimes reject it but im attracted to girls. theres a girl in my school who always stares at me during lunch she's beautiful when i talk to her she laughs and smiles alot but she stares at me always iwas wondering how do i ask her if she's bi or not?
You don't have to come out and just flat out ask her. If you do not know her nor have a close relationship with the person then instead you could compliment her and see how she reacts.
Assuming you both aren't real close, Maybe you could ask her to hang out or exchange numbers casually. Get to more about her without coming on too strong about it. Go out to dinner or a movie, Make eye contact with her and smile drop little hints that you are interested in her and again see how she responds. Once you two get to know one another well enough then drop the bomb by asking her if she ever considered dating a girl.
Is penetration of the penis neccesary to become pregnant,or is it possible for sperm to find their own way to the egg when there is sexual activity without penetration?
Yes it's still possible
As long as the penis has contact with the vagina, It's possible.
i am female 13
well theres this real cute guy and i like him alot and at school i flirt a little but i dont think hes intrested in me. At night i dream about him its really wierd and against my will i dont want to be dreaming about him and it is stopping me from moving on with my life please help me because i cant even not think about him and ive tried to get over him but i cant.
We dream what we think about most, It's true.
You are young and this guy isn't going to be the only guy that comes around. If he isn't interested then you need to try and accept that and as soon as you do you will be able to move on from it.
i like this guy a lot and he keeps telling me that he likes me back... but when ever i talk to him he always has a new girlfriend and he always ends up cheating on them with me and i always feel really bad but i would rather have his ex gf's mad at me instead of him so i don't say no. but then they find out and break up with him and he stays single for about a week and one time i told him how i felt and he told me he felt the same way but then i asked him out and he said no and i don't know what to do he keeps telling me he loves me and he is going to asked me out soon but he never does and i just keep doing whatever he wants me to because i am afraid that i might lose him if i don't and i never want to lose him because he is everything to me. and i have tried to get over him before but every time i actually get over him and everything seems fine then i see him at school and i fall for him all over again... should i ask him out again
" i am afraid that i might lose him if i don't and i never want to lose him because he is everything to me."
You never had him, You don't have him now and you won't have him in the future. The guy cheated, He is cheating and he continues to cheat on his girlfriends. What the hell makes you think that you aren't next in line? You are not the special force that is going to stop his nasty cheating habit. You cannot change a cheater, A cheater must change himself and sometimes they never do change. I am not going to go as low as saying you are stupid like the user below me said but I am going to say simply; He is using you or least trying too. In his eyes you are no more then the next girl to get laid and sweetie as soon as he is done with you he moves onto the next one. That is just what cheaters do, They say and do just about anything to get you to believe them. They are good at manipulation and they are good at cheating....If you allow yourself to fall into his trap well then don't come crying to us later on because we told you so.....
So yeah, facebook won't let me log into my account. They are trying to make me enter a mobile number to get a verification code.... The problem is I don't have a mobile phone nor do I want to buy one so facebook can sell the number to third party sources.... How can I get around the securiy check? Thanks for the help, in advance. BTW I need this info ASAP so I can delete the account.
Facebook will never ask for your mobile number unless you are answering the security questions to recover a hacked account.
I would advise that you hit the "Forgot Password" during the loge in and go through the security settings where you can enter your email, facebook page name and enlist 2 friends that are currently on your facebook. After you successfully answer the security questions facebook will send you an email with a password reset code. Do not enter your mobile number because like you said it can get out to third party resources. Also, With today's privacy concerns I trust no one.....Not even facebook.
Ok so now I'm 11 turning 12 in june and my boyfriend is 12 he wants to do sex with me and I think I'm 2 young but he says he'll brake up with me if I say no and I don't know what to do! Please help me!
If he is threatening you then you need to break up with him.
A boy who pressures you into doing something is not a good boyfriend at all and sweetie when people care about each other they don't force you to do something!
This boy only want sex that's it. Basically he is just trying to use you to get what he wants. You are too young for sex! You are way better then those girls that fall under peer pressure. Please dump him because he isn't worth it trust me. A good boyfriend will respect you and wait until you are mucher older then 12 to have sex. You are still way to young!!
Is it okay to soak in a hot bath with bath salt? I heard that it can help you lose weight?
I'm wanting to lose weight, but I also wanna try new things that can help out too.
What kind of salt would I use??
How many times a week would I use it?
what is master cleansers?
where can I purchase both salt and cleansers?
any other remedies for losing weight that I could do around the house?
I have the Wii fitness plus, and I'm not eating after 7. I don't drink cokes, just water and gaterade.
tips? remedies? advice? pointers?
Thanks!
lol, Bath Salts don't make you loose weight. Whoever told you that one is just pulling your chain.
If you want some tips on how to loose weight here are some actual tips that really work ;)
Try eating with your other hand, You are more likely to eat less.
Instead of eating food off a large dinner plate, Try using a smaller plate.
Eat foods high in protein (Fish, Chicken, Almonds,)
Wii fitness is good but if you can try to get a 30 minute walk in at least 4 times a week.
Skip out on (Rice which is high in sugar) and go for wild rice.
Any pasta do wheat, Bread do wheat. Meat - Make sure it's go lean in it! The more lean the better. Fruits and Vegetables are always good! Apples are known to give you a more full feeling.
Try these and I promise you that you should see a difference.
another stupid argument tonight, of all things, about a piece of paper that fell on the floor.
I asked mike what he did with the paper that was on the desk. he said he never saw if, come to find out, it fell on the floor when he put his papers on the desk... its that mike always move what every he sees... does'nt tell me he move that item... when I do find what I am looking for, well he says he doesnt remember... I am just sick of this, he said that i should pack stuff and live somwhere else.. if i knew where to go, I would... dont want to say anything to michelle
i just want this all to stop.. he argued with me. said that he did not want to be in the same room with me, that he was going to bed.. saw him reading the nook... he can say mean things to me, then go and read the bible... just dont get it.
I have taken 5 viadin,,waiting to get sleeppy so I can close my eyes and never wake up. I knew that mike does not love me, nor has he been in love with me for a long time, it is not easy living without love. i told mike that i would not ask him for anything again. he said yea right,, my shoulder hurts so very bad and the pain is going into my fingers.. if i said anything he would just say what else if new,,,, im tired of alll this... what am i going to do.. i want to die now,,, I am female. my age is 63.. i should be past these feelings but they are very real and just help me DIE NOW.
Okay,
I'm a little bit confused. Is Mike your husband? Who is Michelle?
If Mike picks up your papers and puts them somewhere carelessly. Then you should talk to him about how these papers are important to you and to put them aside for you encase they are important documents.
You and your husband need communication. Stress is playing a factor in your marriage. I'm not entirely sure what exactly it is your fed up about whether it's the fact that he is forgetful or if you and your husband have other issues as well. Forgetfulness can be a sign of many things.
As I am not a doctor and I cannot give you a diagnosis I do know that one of the signs of memory loss could be caused from Dementia. If your husband is having trouble with his memory then he needs and should see a doctor.
This can all be resolved but trying seek suicide isn't the answer to your problems. I would give more advice but I need a little more detail on what is happening.
13/f I have guy troubles. There was this guy I didn't like but he was cute. He likes to insult people a lot. He does it every day. So I was new and he started to insult me too since I was in the same elective with him nxt to his table with my friends. We laughed and threw stuff at each other and sometimes pissed each other off. It wasn't until a few month I started liking him. I know stupid right. Summer vacations and we ended up in the same class. I never sat next to him. The only time I sorta sat next to him was in math.he usually complains alot when teachers put us anywhere near each other but he didn't complain this time. His friend was between us. We fooled around a lot. Laughed like crazy at silliest things. And than I started to think he might like me too. But I didn't want to find out. Cause every time we "talk" its only insults it if we have to. We never had a good conversation ever. Than I notice a lot how he kept staring at me and we are in dance together. He calls me really mean words and i try to ignore and sometime I say something back or just punch him. And he addmited it hurts and still does it. I like him I don't know why but I do and I don't know if he does. And if u advice for me is to talk to him. Than its not going to work trust me I tried
Well I'm just going to spill the beans...
He is immature and he is young, Many boys don't actually somewhat grow up until they are in their late teen years. Even then sometimes they STILL don't grow up.
Are you attracted to him or maybe you think you are attracted to him? Honestly? Sounds like the kid is a bit of a bully. Someone who goes around insulting and putting people down constantly isn't a friend. Why would you even want to sit next to someone like that? I wouldn't. Nobody likes to be associated with someone that acts like an ass. No, I'm not going to suggest you to talk to him because at his age and state off immaturity your right it won't work. I would just advise you to stay from him and give him some time to grow up. The way he acts is childish
What are the best websites and methods to finding a job? I don't have any skills and I only obtained a high school diploma.
I wouldn't recommend looking for a job through a website, Many of them are outdated. If you are seeking a job I suggest picking up the local paper and looking in the help wanted section or job section.
Either that or go out and grab applications. Sometimes when a business is not hiring you can still get your application in the company and when a position becomes available they will give you a call. Doesn't hurt to try
Well im 20 and have this phobia called venustrophobia or watever they call fear of women.im too damn scared to look at girls,even if i gather guts to look at them,the first thing they do adjust their shawl(a part of an indian attire which women wear with salwars) so that it covers their breast properely.Im not the ogling type,but when women do this i compare myself to a sex starved pervert(thats what women think of me,thats why they adjust their shawl).other than my mom,sis and female lecturers there s no women whom i talked to and certainly wont.is there a solution??????
Have you ever been told by a doctor you have "Venustrophobia" or are you just assuming you do?
From what you've posted you sound the average male to me. Some males just have a harder time talking to females then others do. Do you have a facebook? That is a start of trying to talk to women...
Honestly? Sometimes women are just as nervous as a guy is. Women show confidence because in our minds that is what turns a man on but does that mean we all have confidence? No. You only allow yourself to get out of control if you let yourself. If people are portraying you to be a sex freak then you should try and acknowledge it and gain control of yourself.
I'm not entirely sure what you are a referring to, As your title says "Fear of women" then your paragraph pretty much says you view women as a constant sex icon.
If you have a problem with sex, Then you should seek therapy for it. Professional help will help you gain self control.
If you are referring to be scared of talking to a female, Well dude you will never know unless you try and you got to start somewhere. Just pretend you are talking to a dude and start off with saying "Hello, How is your day going" and there ya go..you wait for them to say something. Then try complimenting them and talking about the weather or something.
My boyfriend has changed. We haven't been together long but we were talking for a couple of months before he asked me to make things official. I think he lied to me also. On valentines day he claimed he couldn't see me because it was going to rain and his tires are bad, then later that day he said he couldn't come because he was sick and at the doctors. I was so sad because this was my first valentine's day ever and I had things planned and bought him a gift and everything. I am 20 years old by the way. I asked friends who live where he lives and they said it didn't rain that night and i checked the weather and it wasn't suppose to rain anywhere near his city. And we've been talking less and less everyday. I don't know what to do. Should I dump him? Does it seem like he was lying? And when I confronted him, he talked about breaking up, and when I asked him if we should break up he said no. He swore that he wasn't lying but everything he said just didn't add up. He doesn't call me, only text, and not often and it's not like he's busy, he's always on Facebook posting pictures and status updates. He doesn't call me baby or boo or babe unless I say it to him first. He doesn't say he misses me. He used to before our argument on valentines day. I don't know if he's just going through something and need some time or something but I don't like the way things have been between us. I feel no love at all. And my feelings for him are fading away rapidly!
Think about it, He isn't showing interest in you at all.
It's pretty obvious the guy doesn't care about your relationship. The biggest holiday that couples share together and he didn't even take the time to acknowledge you never mind even call you. You want my honest opinion? It sounds like he is cheating.
Should you break up with him? Yes. When someone is in a relationship usually you become a main priority in the relationship. People don't just "forget" to call their girlfriend/boyfriends. Is he lying? Well...Isn't it obvious?
Yeah your red flags are right there.....Dump his ass and call it a day.
Hi,
Im 23 and from the UK and my girlfriend has just broken up with me out of the blue after 4 years. Her reason was "I just don't think you're 'the one'". It seemed like a pathetic excuse. One I didn't, deserve especially after how long we had been together. I didn't beg or cry or anything I just picked up my stuff and left, I then went round the next day (whilst she was working) and took all my stuff home, we havent spoke since either. It's finally hit me now and i feel horrible inside, I can't eat, drink, concentrate at work or anything. I've had to move back in with my parents and I just don't know what to do, I don't get on well with my parents and can't talk to them, all my brothers live at opposite ends of the country and most my friendships have drifted away recently. My only person talk to is her mum, I was really close with her family and she is like a mum to me. Ive not just lost my girlfriend ive lost a family as well. I just don't want to carry on with life anymore, I'm just constantly depressed. I've still got a few things left round her house and I want to meet up with my girlfriend and ask some questions about where this has all come about? Her mum suggested leaving it for a bit and then meeting up, I'd rather just get it over with now, otherwise if i do it in a few weeks time it will bring me back to square one again. I just can't imagine myself moving on, I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with her, I've never felt so happy before than when I was in her company and now that's lost forever. If you can let me know your thoughts I'd really appreciate it, thanks.
You need to realize that you may never get the real truth. Although you feel you deserve to know the real reason why you should try and accept the fact that you just may never know.
You CAN move on it will just take you time. It just happened, You still need to process it and heal from it. I was in a relationship for 5 years and when I split I never thought I'd get over it. That old saying "Time heals all wounds" is often to underestimated. The best thing for you to do is to move on, Don't try and remain in contact because in the long run you will only make the process much more difficult for you. You do not need to confront her, You do not need your answers and like I said you may never even get the truth. Your best bet is to cut contact with her after you get all your belongings and get on with life. Instead of sitting on it, Get yourself out there. Hang out with friends, Volunteer etc. but don't mope around the house. You will get over it but it's going to take you time, It may not happen in a week or a month but it will happen.
My boyfriend loves sex! I do to, don't get me wrong, but it's hard to enjoy it when it's so painful, and sadly my boyfriend loves the painful stuff. We did anal one time and I was practically screaming in pain and crying the moment it started. Not once, even when I was crying and trying to hold in the screams of pain did he stop or ask if I was alright. After that he promised he wouldn't put me through that again, but we've done it twice since then and it was the same everytime.
Then there's the "Blowjob"... I throw up every time. After he's finished I run to the bathroom to throw up what he's done to me, and he just watches me throw up from the bedroom like he's watching tv and my pain is nothing to him. I love him so so much but I don't want to have to be in pain to please him.
Judging from your rating with Nascar, I'm just going to give you the heads up that I completely agree with them. They are right
It's alarming if you are in tears and in obvious pain and he doesn't stop and express any sort of concern. That right there should tell you that he doesn't give a shit about your feelings nor whether you are enjoying it or not.
I am not even going to jump into how you should please him, I'm actually going to advise that you should break up with the guy. When someone is inconsiderate of your feelings especially to the point where you are in pain then the hell with him you need to move on. The guy is using you and he showed his true colors pretty well that he doesn't care that much about you.
I am also curious too, If giving blow jobs make you throw up then why do you do it? If someone ever dared to treat me like that I would pack my shit and walk. I don't tolerate abuse like that and you shouldn't either. The guy has already broke his promise too you 3 times. He promised he wouldn't put you through it after the first time and he kept doing it and doing it. WHY are you still with him? Don't you see how he is controlling and abusing you? Sex should be enjoyable and pleasurable with someone that loves you not someone who thinks of you as a fuck toy. Why aren't you standing up for yourself? Why don't you tell him that you aren't enjoying it? Sounds to me like maybe you are a little intimidated by him? Trust me, Maybe you don't see it now but somewhere down the line it is going to suck the energy out of you if you continue to be with someone like that. You are NOT his sex slave, He does NOT control you, He does NOT own you! You need to get out of the relationship and meet someone who is right for you and that will treat you the way you should be treated. However, You will never find that as long as you allow yourself to be held back and stuck in a hell trap.