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Complicated Guy Thing.
Hi,
(24/f)
There's this guy that I use to date and recently he came back into my life. Not too long ago, my dad and his aunt got married and now we are technically legitimate cousins. It's weird because now we live in the same house. When we dated many months ago, it was always hot and cold with us. One day, we fought and he said many things that I couldn't get over. So one day, I packed my things and left him. He has terrible character. I dated him with him being a rebound. He told me a bunch of lies when we first met and he tried to get me drunk a few times. He was dating another girl, he cheated on her with me. I fell for his acts and his lies for short periods of time. I think I convinced myself to be in love with him. As I recall, many times I felt no in-love feelings towards him and many times I felt I didn't want him around or I would daydream about fabricated, perfect guys. He was into drugs and going off with his friends and lying about almost everything. There were a lot of times where he said he would meet me at a time and be there hours late. As for intimacy, it seemed he lusted me more than he loved me. If he were acting loving, he would say all these cheesy things that just never felt like they had any emotion backing them. Then there were times where he seemed absolutely in tuned with strong emotion and those times he was also usually distant. I remember many times I tried to get him to show me that he actually felt something. I never got a response I wanted. Truth is, he was never my type and I probably was just a chick to him. He was the rebound that I spent six months with, an absolutely stupid mistake. Now, we try to be friends living under the same roof and all. There are times I want him to share with me the details in his life or spend time at the house with me because I"m all by my lonesome here. Those times, he lies or leaves out details and spends the majority of his free time elsewhere. We had one fight, now it seems like all the time he's withdrawn. Before the fight, he came home drunk upset with me because he wanted to be with me and hated seeing me everyday knowing that he couldn't. I guess I still have some feelings for him but I really don't know what bothers me more: the person I was when I was around him or him leaving me high and dry. I'm sure I don't care about him in that way and it doesn't matter now because our family recently adjoined. I don't like how he makes me feel. One moment, I'm on top of the world and then the next thing I know I'm dropped to the very bottom. He acts like he could care less and it makes me sick feeling that empty vast feeling I get from him. What's wrong with me, am I making this a problem? I just want my life to turn around so I wouldn't ponder on matters that don't matter. Thank you so much for reading this.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
You move on, That's what you do. You find another source to fill the void of loneliness in your life.
A man who has cheated to be with one will cheat again. People can change don't get me wrong but generally when someone cheats they are capable of doing again because they've done it once before. We cannot change the past, What's done is done. You yearn for affection. You were once attracted to him. However, I'm hoping that you realize now that he just simply isn't good enough for you. You said it, This man has a tendency of killing your self esteem. You can move on and meet someone who is right for you or sit on the fact of debating on old sour memories. When you allow yourself to be put in an unhealthy situation you not only kill your self esteem but you prolong your pain. Acceptance is your first step towards moving forward. Someone who tries to get you drunk so they can take advantage of you is someone who needs a reality check. You are better, You deserve better and most of all you owe it to yourself to think better. Remember 2 steps forward not 3 steps back.
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