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Girlfriend breakup after 4 years..feel lost
Hi,
Im 23 and from the UK and my girlfriend has just broken up with me out of the blue after 4 years. Her reason was "I just don't think you're 'the one'". It seemed like a pathetic excuse. One I didn't, deserve especially after how long we had been together. I didn't beg or cry or anything I just picked up my stuff and left, I then went round the next day (whilst she was working) and took all my stuff home, we havent spoke since either. It's finally hit me now and i feel horrible inside, I can't eat, drink, concentrate at work or anything. I've had to move back in with my parents and I just don't know what to do, I don't get on well with my parents and can't talk to them, all my brothers live at opposite ends of the country and most my friendships have drifted away recently. My only person talk to is her mum, I was really close with her family and she is like a mum to me. Ive not just lost my girlfriend ive lost a family as well. I just don't want to carry on with life anymore, I'm just constantly depressed. I've still got a few things left round her house and I want to meet up with my girlfriend and ask some questions about where this has all come about? Her mum suggested leaving it for a bit and then meeting up, I'd rather just get it over with now, otherwise if i do it in a few weeks time it will bring me back to square one again. I just can't imagine myself moving on, I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with her, I've never felt so happy before than when I was in her company and now that's lost forever. If you can let me know your thoughts I'd really appreciate it, thanks.
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One your are 23 years old. Still young! Two its going to happen. Relationships either will last or they wont. It is called life! Life is all about living and learning, making mistakes and continuing on.
So it didn't work out, move on. Since it was such a long relationship to begin with take some time to yourself. Focus on you, your job etc. Once you feel that you are ready then go back to the dating scene.
Either way it is a learn tool for the future in your life. Don't sit and sulk on it.
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You need to realize that you may never get the real truth. Although you feel you deserve to know the real reason why you should try and accept the fact that you just may never know.
You CAN move on it will just take you time. It just happened, You still need to process it and heal from it. I was in a relationship for 5 years and when I split I never thought I'd get over it. That old saying "Time heals all wounds" is often to underestimated. The best thing for you to do is to move on, Don't try and remain in contact because in the long run you will only make the process much more difficult for you. You do not need to confront her, You do not need your answers and like I said you may never even get the truth. Your best bet is to cut contact with her after you get all your belongings and get on with life. Instead of sitting on it, Get yourself out there. Hang out with friends, Volunteer etc. but don't mope around the house. You will get over it but it's going to take you time, It may not happen in a week or a month but it will happen.
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