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Fear of women (venustrophobia)
Well im 20 and have this phobia called venustrophobia or watever they call fear of women.im too damn scared to look at girls,even if i gather guts to look at them,the first thing they do adjust their shawl(a part of an indian attire which women wear with salwars) so that it covers their breast properely.Im not the ogling type,but when women do this i compare myself to a sex starved pervert(thats what women think of me,thats why they adjust their shawl).other than my mom,sis and female lecturers there s no women whom i talked to and certainly wont.is there a solution??????
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Have you ever been told by a doctor you have "Venustrophobia" or are you just assuming you do?
From what you've posted you sound the average male to me. Some males just have a harder time talking to females then others do. Do you have a facebook? That is a start of trying to talk to women...
Honestly? Sometimes women are just as nervous as a guy is. Women show confidence because in our minds that is what turns a man on but does that mean we all have confidence? No. You only allow yourself to get out of control if you let yourself. If people are portraying you to be a sex freak then you should try and acknowledge it and gain control of yourself.
I'm not entirely sure what you are a referring to, As your title says "Fear of women" then your paragraph pretty much says you view women as a constant sex icon.
If you have a problem with sex, Then you should seek therapy for it. Professional help will help you gain self control.
If you are referring to be scared of talking to a female, Well dude you will never know unless you try and you got to start somewhere. Just pretend you are talking to a dude and start off with saying "Hello, How is your day going" and there ya go..you wait for them to say something. Then try complimenting them and talking about the weather or something.
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I have a suggestion,
Try chatroulette.com
or any online chat sites.
Talk to women on the internet.
The more you engage with the other sex, the more comfortable it'll get. You're like Raj on the show 'The Big Bang Theory'. He was Indian and couldn't talk to women, he whispered in his friend's ear when he had something to say. One episode he takes pills to help his problem. Another, he drinks alcohol. On one episode, he thinks he's drinking alcohol and it's going perfectly good with him and the girl until his best-friend tells him he's drinking non-alcoholic beer then he freaks out and becomes instantly uncomfortable. Loosen up.
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From what you've said in your question, I assume you and the women you mention are of Indian/Asian background.
I think they're just as scared of you as you are of them.
We live in a patriarchal society where most things are geared towards men. Indian women's lives especailly are controlled by their men, be it father, husband, brother, son whatever. For one of them to be judged as being indiscreet would probably result at least in disapproval.
Are there any groups/clubs you could join to meet other people of your own age? Try to find something that you're interested in, so you'll enjoy the group as well as the individuals there.
Go with an open mind and enjoy yourself.
When talking to strangers, try to relax, focus the talk more on them, ask questions about their life. Hopefully, you'll forget your fears and become absorbed in the conversation.
I really hope this helps, let me know how you get on? Best wishes X.
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