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I'm 22 M and 250lbs. My skinniest weight (while I was working out) was 198lbs in June 2010. I feel, look and am fat. Problem is I have little to no idea what I was doing when I lost all that weight. What I'm looking for is a workout regime that I can stick with, one that works and works well. People with a first hand account on these regimes will be given highest priority but all advice will be looked at and rated as to how helpful it is.
Thanks everyone,
Gateway01
Exercise
Are you a member of a gym? If you aren't then that may be a great alternative. Planet Fitness is 20 bucks a month if you want to bring someone along for free. Also best part? They give free personal training classes and are open around the clock.
Hiking - Best cardio exercise
Watch your diet
Make sure you are stocking up on protein! Fish, Chicken, Eggs, Nuts. If you can buy the Whey protein shake. Whey is full of protein and is known to help restore and build muscle.
Skip the carbs - Want pasta? Go for wheat, Grab the wheat bread.
Meat? Make sure it's packed with lean. The more the merrier.
Yes, It's possible to work the weight but you are going to have to push yourself. Walk, Jog, Do free weights. Instead of talking elevators take the stairs. A walk is recommended 4 times a week for 30-40 minutes.
If you don't already have them stock up on some free weights. Do push ups, Sit ups. You got a bike? Ride it.
Need to go to a store down the street? Walk there.
You got this dude but ya gotta want it
I have tried everywhere and everything and have gone above and beyond to get a job. but without any luck. its like i am going to be unemployed throughout my life and i wish to end my life. i moved to a different city for a guy who promised marriage but the relationship ended within 2 and 1/2 months. now am unemployed without a bf and low savings.
So you start over
You keep looking for a job, You go out and put in applications.
You go out and you meet someone else. Volunteer, Join a Gym, Go to church. These are some really good ways to meet someone. Get involved in the community
There are many people out there who don't have a job, Have low savings and that are single. You are NOT THE ONLY ONE. Giving up just because life isn't going the way you want it too is cowardly. Everyone is feeling the wrath of the economy but that doesn't mean that the world is coming to an end. If you aren't doing anything at home then again go out and participate in things. Grab the paper and look weekly for any ads that might pop up. Try going around putting up babysitting fliers etc. Trust me, Just trying to kill yourself over it isn't going to solve a damn thing.
ok hi, my boyfriend and i have been" going out" well heres some details we are in diffrent popularity status he pretty popular im not all yeah people know me but thats it..... well anyway we just text never talk nver call anyone and nver hangout.... could it just be because of the popularity reason or? thanks
Possibly but if that is the case that's extremely shallow on his part.
Popularity should have no effect on who you date, It's not a matter of who is prom queen or prom king. (That was just an example)
Dating someone should be about who you like. Who makes you feel comfortable and you can be yourself around.
Honestly, If I were to compare myself to my partner today from who I was in High School it's off the charts.
In High School I was the perfect definition of a loner. I was the quiet type that had a small group of friends but I also was rebellious and always in trouble.
My partner? Not so much. My partner was popular had a lot of friends and the social butterfly of the crowd.
Again, It has nothing to do with who you are and what your social status is. It's about liking you for who you are inside and out.
It sounds like the guy lost interest, If you were a main priority in his life then he would make an effort to put you first. If I were in your shoes I'd be thankful he passed. I wouldn't want to be stuck with someone who is judgmental and conceited.
Im only 16 and ever since i went from a c cup to a d my breast have sagged a lot more then i would have liked. Is there anyway for me to get them to be perkier again or just less saggy?
Exercise
If you are a member of a gym then I highly suggest you focus on the Fly machine.
Here is a picture: http://ak1.ostkcdn.com/images/products/P11946960.jpg
Push ups will help as well they are focused on the arms and the upper torso. There is an exercise many women do to help lift their breast which is clamping your hands together and squeezing the palm of your hands.
Your breast don't have muscle, They are made of fatty tissue. What helps the perk is the muscles under the breast. Any exercise that focuses on the upper torso will help strengthen them.
I'm a 20 year old female from America. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months, but we've known each other since we were little. But my boyfriend has a dark sense of humor. He'll make jokes about other girls or breaking up with me or other things. He sees them as just jokes, and I'm not the type that can't take a joke but sometimes he does it too much. He tells me he'll tone it down but it just seems to occur again. How can I handle this? Thanks in advance! :)
Communicate, You tell him that you find offense to his jokes and they are insulting and hurtful to you. Men don't read minds, We need to tell them in order for them to get a clue.
Joking about dumping you? I would also not take that one as a joke. It's rude, It's offensive and it's a slap in a face.
I have been married to my husband for almost 20 years I got married when I was 14 yrs old. He cheated on me and had a child with his mistress. I loved him so much that I didn't care I just wanted to be with him no matter what. Now I have realized that I was so stupid to have stayed with him. I stopped loving him about 5 yrs ago but I have stayed with him because I feel sorry for him! I am now gonna be 34 yrs old & want to move on with my life to see if I can find some happiness. I just don't know what to do make him understand that I don't want to be with him anymore??
Simple, You tell him you want a divorce. If he ask you why then you tell him straight up "You cheated on me with another women, I've tried to suck it up and make it work but I can't forgive you for what you've put me through"
You should never stay married to someone who has an affair with someone else. It's disrespectful, It's wrong and it's just immoral. You've pity him but in a way you have caused yourself self pity for being with him for so long. You are young, You are still capable of finding someone else and you will that I can promise you. As long as you allow yourself to hold onto pain you are never going to find happiness in your life.
My advise to you is to file for divorce get it finalized and move on with your life. Go and find happiness, Be free and live to the fullest. In the future never feel like you have to be with someone because you feel bad for them. Your husband fucked up, Damage is done and you deserve better.
So back in November I met this guy named Marcus and we exchanged numbers and we talked literally from the moment we woke up to the moment either of us went to bed. And his college is 4 hours away from mine but over christmas break we were going to hangout. And we were pretty much dating without officially dating. But sometimes he would get cold towards me and we would fight kind of a lot but we ALWAYS talked through it and we ended up not hanging out over break, I got sick and had to cancel and I asked him if he still wanted to and he said maybe but never brought it up again so i took it as he didn't want to. So we both went back to school and it was a week later and I feel like he liked me more than he ever had before by the way he was talking. And then one day he got short and he was like I'm really sorry But I'm going to be really busy so Il text you tomorrow and he never did so i asked him and he was like please don't think I don't want to talk to you anymore because I do I'm just super busy with school. so i decided to get over him and it didn't work. I have never been in so much pain:( he texts me like once every two weeks and its just a short conversation nothing big or like it used to be. Do you think he found another girl? He also never had a girlfriend so maybe i was thinking we were so close and he got scared and just ended it. I don't know what to do I miss him:(
It's hard to tell
Being in college is hard itself never mind trying to juggle a relationship along with it. It could be maybe he does like you but the distant is too much for him. Long distant relationships generally don't work out, They are stressful and the added stress onto school is just not going to mix.
It could also be that he is interested in someone else, He could of met someone during break or even while he was in school. That I can't really tell you
Judging by how he says he is busy with school and the lack of texting and talking to you I'm going to assume the guy doesn't want a relationship or he may already be involved with someone. Either way, I would just move on and meet someone else. Try and avoid the long distance because that on top of college is doomed to fail. Find someone in your local area because Marcus is obviously not available.
ok so basically i've been bullied ever since i started middle school. im in guidance ALOT so i have not really been in the classroom. Im getting 40s and 50s. i also sit alone at lunch and talk to no one at school. The guidance consulers and my parents wont let me go to another school or get homeschooled. School is so bad, I've nearly committed suicide at school but backed out. The only option is dropping out but I dont know what to do. No one understands. they tell me to lighten up and suck up. My science teacher said I ruin class for everyone when all I do is take notes. Everyone at my school is pure selfish, even the teachers too.
There are going to be bullies everywhere you go. You can't avoid it.
Changing schools is not going to solve your problem it will only lead to another problem. Being home schooled is running away from it and here you are allowing yourself to be isolated. Either way it would be a lose lose situation.
Yes, I also say suck it up. Bullies tend to target the ones they think they can get a reaction from. You are allowing it to bother you, You are giving them what they want. If you ignore it and pay no attention to bullying then sooner or later they will get bored.
I admit, I've been bullied and I've also been a bully.
Trust me, If you don't give them a reaction then they get no reaction. What fun is it to pick on someone that doesn't give a flying shit? None ;)
The number one thing that really pisses people off believe it or not is just laughing it off and walking away. Laughing shows them they are making an ass out of nobody but themselves. Committing suicide over something so silly is cowardly. Life doesn't end because of others foolishness. You have a life ahead of you, School is of course hard because right now you are young and in middle school they are ALL immature. It's true
Don't allow yourself to drain in self pity, You are someone and you DO matter. You need to pick yourself up and gain self confidence. If you feel that you need to talk to a therapist about your problems then sit down with Mom and Dad and talk to them about it. I've been to many therapist in the years and I won't lie they really do help. They are just one more person to vent too and THEY LISTEN! It's the best part about it. The bullies are nobody but another source that has insecurity issues of their own. People tend to bully others because they aren't happy with themselves. You need to be stronger then this and stop letting other people win their battles. You have yourself and you need to realize that only YOU have the power to change.
Okay, it's a long story.... I started talking to this guy about three months ago (We are both 17 by the way) He and I hit it off and he asked me to be his girlfriend, but he just wanted to hang out a few more times first before it became official. He even told me he loved me. Well, between the times we hung out, he met another girl and started dating her behind my back and lied to me about it, telling me he was too busy for a girlfriend with hockey and school and everything and that the distance between us was too much (40 minutes away) However, this other girl lives even farther away from him. Now, he did tell me maybe later on he and I could date if things didn't work out for him and this other girl. But I really don't want to wait for that to happen. And, now I have started to develop feelings for this guy's BEST friend. Would it be okay for me to date his best friend since the original guy and I were never technically dating, and he is the one who broke it off with me? What should I do?? What if the guy I almost dated originally tells his best friend bad stuff about me that isn't true, just to get him not to date me?
(he did tell me maybe later on he and I could date if things didn't work out for him and this other girl.)
1, He cheated
2, He lied about cheating
3, He has the balls to say if it didn't work out THEN he could date you?!
Basically, You are nothing more then a fall back in his eyes. You should NEVER allow yourself to be a second option. A cheater is a cheater and they should never ever be given second chances.
Dating his friend is sort of an iffy situation. You are entitled to date whoever you want too date. However, Keep in mind that if the guy is associated with your ex then you may run into drama. It's basically a love triangle....One that often doesn't work out.
I would say give it a clean slate and start over, Meet someone that's not drama filled.
I masturbathed last night around 11 ,had a bath in the morning and even washed my hands at 4 in the evening after that i went to my girlfrnds house,we were home alone we started kiss each other i put my hands in her pants not sure if i put them in the vagina,but was definitely around it for around 10 min,it did happen the next day too,can this in any way make her pregnant?
No, She cannot get pregnant this way.
Also, I don't think it would hurt if you read up more about sex and pregnancy....
I know a couple of people that went to jail for traffic tickets and they said that it was the worst experience ever. They said that they got treated badly but federal inmates get cable tv good food and everything. Why is this?
Federal inmates are not treated any better. They are under 24.7 supervision in a jail cell with a toilet and a bed. That isn't luxury treatment
Sometimes a prison has their "Rules" and with good behavior you get privileges. Why? This is beyond me...
They get cable, That cable is provided by the prison in the community room. Again, Supervised by the prison guards. Inmates have NO freedom they are on lock down around the clock. Also, Good food? No. They do not get good food.
Have you ever watched "Locked up?" Many Inmates spit, piss, wipe shit in others food. This good food comes with a catch. Also, They only get maybe 2 meals a day tops.
I would say the traffic ticket folks are exaggerating a bit much
I love my boyfriend to death and i know i want to be with him forever.Everything is perfect except he is super controlling.
-He hates my friends so i need to get rid of them
-His rule is i only get to hang out with friends once every 2 weeks.(Even though hes always hanging out with friends)
-I need to be texting him the whole time i am with friends
-I need to call him everynight
-I cant keep my nose piercing (i think i should have the right to decide what piercings or tatoos i get)
-He doesn't let me ever talk to any guys even just saying hi
-He thinks everything i wear is so slutty so i can hardly wear anything
I don't know what to do please help! I want to keep him he is so sweet and i know he loves me he is this way because of his past but he can't act like this i don't cheat or do anything wrong!
Dump him
1, He is controlling the shit out of you, He's manipulating you, He is ABUSING YOU mentally and emotionally.
Everything isn't perfect if he has this much power over you, He does NOT own you. You are NOT his property. Nobody should ever tell you who you can and can't be friends with. You are a human and you are entitled to have friends and hang out with them without your "boyfriend" breathing down your neck every damn second of the day. This is not love and this is not what a relationship is about. "He is this way because of his past" There is NO excuse for mentally abusing someone! I've had a very bad past does that mean I'm going to go and abuse my partner? No! The guy treats you like shit, You are not his dog. He does not throw a stick while you fetch for it. A relationship should be 50/50 there should be communication and RESPECT, TRUST and LOVE. There is none of that in what you've described. You are so blind sided, You do not see how this is wrong at all??... Reread these "rules" that he made for you. That is WRONG
A relationship is not about "rules" and it's not about keeping someone on a leach. I'm going to be blunt....Your boyfriend is a jerk and you should dump him and move on. You deserve much better then that flaming piece of shit.
13/f, bf/16
The other day I gave my boyfriend a blow-job cuz he normally asks me for one, but this time after I was done he asked me if I wanted to have sex and I said no cuz I know i'm not ready. Now he won't stop asking me and he'll try to like touch me in my private place,kiss my kneck and put his hand up my shirt. How do I tell him I don't want to have sex with him in a way he will stop asking and touching me.
Speak up
Be straight forward with him. "I am not ready for sex and you need to respect that or I am moving on" It's true. If your boyfriend is pressing you and not excepting no for an answer then you need and should move on. Pressuring someone is NOT love, People who care about YOU will respect you and wait. In my eyes all he wants is sex. The guy is young and generally that is all they think about at that age. Please wait you are way to young! If he isn't willing to listen to you then sweetie dump him because obviously that is all he wants in the first place and that's not right. Dating isn't all about having sex with someone and doing it because they want you too is exactly how you end up regretting it in the long run. If he wanted a blow job and your not ready to do that then tough luck you tell him you are not ready!! Don't do something you aren't ready to do and don't ever let someone talk you into it. I honestly think you should just dump the jerk and move on. Meet someone who wants to date you not just get in your pants....
So i like to talk to many different people. There is many different things i can do on the computer. One of them is chatting. I go on chat and another guy started calling me a slut because i had vampire in my name. Then i changed my name but he still did it. He called me many hurtful nicknames and i felt like it was true. But i also was very angry at him. He is a lot older. once when i went on he got four guys to gang up on me and harrass and insult me. Then two guys went on my username and started saying bad stuff. I tell them to stop but they don't. Please tell me what do I do?!
Change your user name and block them. Chatting online doesn't mean everyone you meet or talk too is going to be nice. There are many creeps on the internet and I really recommend that you don't talk to anyone you don't know. People can say and do anything to get you to believe them, The internet is FULL of weirdos. Never talk to someone you don't know and don't except IMs or emails from an unknown name.
I asked a couple days ago if like a slippery or jelly lube was better for anal sex. Everyone said jelly but to me jelly lubes aren't as slippery as regular lube. In pornos that I watch they seem to use a watery lube in them from what I can see? I was thinking of astroglide? Is that one good
I recommended using Jelly because it is more lubricated and would be more comfortable for anal sex. Jelly is for anal and liquid is for straight vaginal intercourse....
Again, K&Y Jelly I am not familiar with astroglide but if they come in a jelly form them I would assume it would be just fine.
I'm a fourteen year old girl. How can I get my boyfriend to give me a hickey? Should I give him one first? What would be the best place to give/receive a hickey?
I'll be honest but hickeys really aren't attractive.
I remember in my high school years I had hickeys on my neck. It's gross, It's not attractive and it's certainly no way to get attention. It's not what you want to hear but thought I'd say it anyway.
hi, i am 19/f.i feel very insecure about my body, i have picked up alot of weight since i had my child 2yrs ago. my boobies arent firm anymore,it is hanging down their already..when my husband and i watch a movie together and their is sex scenes then id rather look away coz i see how he looks at their boobs.. i am too shy to even stand naked infront of my husband, my hips are wide and ive got alot of love handles,whenever we about to make love i make sure that it is dark befor getting undress. i cant even look @ myself in the mirror anymore it breaks my heart to see my body like this.what can i do about my insecurities?
Your body created a life, It went through a lot. It did an amazing thing and your body may not be what it used to be but you need to realize that it is NOT a bad thing.
There are ways to fix it, You could look into exercising. Zumba is amazing (Dance) You can get Wii fit or even join a Gym. Take your baby for walks in a stroller and start walking 30 minutes 3 times a week.
To start off with, I'm not a dad... but I'm prepping myself for the day.
My question revolves around this article I read tonight... and I would like to get opinions from real world perants, or, well, from everyone willing to state whever they have kids or not and their reasoning behind it.
Would you consider manipulting your child into doing something that you want them to do?
No, Manipulation isn't love. Children need to grow up they need to learn from their mistakes and they will make them it just happens.
We need to provide proper parenting skills to teach our children right from wrong. As parents we are their role models and their support system. We need to give our child freedom and free will, The ability to grow and make choices as we stand by and guide them in the right direction. We lend support and we help them when they need help. Our job is to raise them right to grow up to be good and independent people. If you raise a child by manipulation then that is all they are going to know when they are older and it's just not right. Manipulation is a form of control and abuse in eyes depending on how you use it. Using a manipulation technique can cause damage to your child later on in life. It can do more harm them good and the child can end up resenting it in the long run.
i'm 17 and i was with this 21 year old guy on and off for a year, we broke up and he had sex with this girl that he's been hooking up with for three years and she's pregnant with his baby and is 100% sure it's his. he tried getting back with me before i knew and i found out by someone else and asked him and he admitted to it. him and this girl have no feelings for each other and he doesn't want the baby but she's keeping it, he loves me and i love him but if he really loved me would he not have hooked up with her in the first place? and is he just keeping me around to have someone there for him!? help do i stay with him?
1, The guy is a package deal, He went and knocked someone up while he was briefly broken up with you. Sounds to me like he may of even cheated and by what you said I wouldn't really be surprised.
2, He didn't even tell you about it you found out from someone else. Clear proof that he was hiding something or didn't want you knowing about it.
Yes, I would say move on. The women that is pregnant of his child is now always going to be in the picture. The guy will be paying monthly child support etc. The fact that he didn't even want to keep the child should already tell you that he is heading for some serious trouble. Likely, He will be taken to court for possible unwillingness of wanting to pay child support in the first place. You being with him are only allowing yourself to be caught in the middle of his shit. The kid is liar and I think your best bet is to move on and find someone who isn't tied down and racked up in baby drama. Is he just keeping you around? Well, Isn't it kind of obvious? Think about it... Cut contact with him and move on and let karma do the job.
I had a dream last night I saw a black snake. Me and my friends were scared. It went down the steps into the backyard. My friend went behind it and killed it. What could mean?
Snake
To see a snake or be bitten by one in your dream signifies hidden fears and worries that are threatening you. Your dream may be alerting you to something in your waking life that you are not aware of or that has not yet surfaced. Alternatively, the snake may be seen as phallic and thus symbolize temptation, dangerous and forbidden sexuality. In particular, to see a snake on your bed suggests that you are feeling sexually overpowered or sexually threatened. You may be inexperienced, nervous or just unable to keep up. If you are afraid of the snake, then it signifies your fears of sex, intimacy or commitment. The snake may also refer to a person around you who is callous, ruthless, and can't be trusted. As a positive symbol, snakes represent healing, transformation, knowledge and wisdom. It is indicative of self-renewal and positive change.
To see the skin of a snake in your dream represents protection from illnesses.
To see a snake with a head on each end in your dream suggests that you are being pulled in two different directions. You are feeling overburdened and do not know whether you are coming or going. Your actions are counterproductive. Perhaps the dream represents some complicated love triangle. Alternatively, the dream signifies your desires for children. If you see a two-headed snake in your dream, then it refers to cooperation and teamwork in some relationship.
To dream that you are eating a live snake indicates that you are looking for intimacy or sexual fulfillment. Your life is lacking sensuality and passion. If you vomit or throw up the snake, then it may mean that you are overcompensating for something that is lacking in your life. You may be rushing into something. *View Dream Bank; "Two Snakes", "Snakes Everywhere!", "Raining Snakes", and "Snakes Jumping At Me"