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I seriously think I have a Yeast Infection. I'm 14, female of course. I looked up symtoms, and like I have like a lot of discharge and it smells like wine kind of? Its really weird. And it itches, not bad, but like a little bit for like a couple minuets then it goes away. I'm so scared to tell my mom. And like, I don't know. I don't really want to go to a doctor and have them "look" at it. Are there health risks to getting Vagasill and stuff? Ugh, I don't know what to do. It just itches sometimes, theres pretty fair amount of discharge, and it smells kind of strong. (link)
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Yeast infections are caused by a disruption in the balance of good bacteria in the vagina. Sexual intercourse, antibiotics, using too much soap, tampon usage, and even wearing tight clothing can all cause a yeast infection to occur.
If you have never had one before and you suspect you do now, then you NEED to see your doctor for a proper diagnosis. From there, you can purchase over-the-counter medication such as Monistat from your local store. The 7-day treatment seems to be the best of the bunch. It comes with the medication, applicator, and instructions so you can do it yourself in privacy.
It is VERY important you see the doctor because a yeast infection has the exact same symptoms of a bacterial infection (or bacterial vaginosis). BV infections are very, very harmful and end up rendering you infertile, and causing you severe pain for the rest of your life if left untreated. Women commonly misdiagnose BV with a YI, causing them heartache and physical pain years beyond then.
Until you're able see a doctor, you may want to wear a panty-liner so you don't have wet underclothing/pants. Do NOT wear a tampon as it will further disrupt the balance in your vagina, and if you don't have an infection, you can get one then. You may also want to wear some looser clothing.
Consuming yogurt may help while you're doing the Monistat treatment and in the prevention of another yeast infection but it will NOT get rid of one that you already have. Even better, you could look into purchasing some Lactobacillus acidophilus pills from your local store (Wal-mart, various pharmacy, GNC) to take each day for prevention. L. acidophilus is what is in the yogurt that helps, but yogurt only has a small amount of it so it would be more helpful to purchase some of the pills.
I hope you get yourself to the doctor to confirm your issue to be a yeast infection and all goes well with current treatment and preventative measures.
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please note this has happened to me a couple of times
When im on my period its USUALLY ok, but sometimes the pain is UNBERABLE
i woke up about FOUR in the morning, with aching in my legs, PURE AGONY!! My stomach was just SO sore, and was thumping.I couldnt lay in a position - it was just too painful. I then threw up, tried to stand up but kept falling over because my legs were to sore and weak. I then sort of fainted and then got so hot the sweat was dripping off me and i had to wipe it away..
this happens a few times on my period and its such an unbearable pain.
My question is WHY would this happen? && How can it get better?? I don't really like doctors... (link)
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If you are having debilitating cramps you really should talk with your doctor about this. Dysmenorrhea, or cramping and pain during menstruation, is serious. This is the leading cause of lost time from school and work among women.
There could be an underlying issue within or outside the uterus (for example, pelvic inflammatory disease, leiomyoma, endometriosis, adhesions, adenomyosis, uterine displacement, or a retroverted uterus). Endometriosis is the most common cause of dysmenorrhea.
Endometriosis is a serious condition and can leave you infertile if left alone since it results in scar tissue. This means, the lining of the uterus is growing outside of the uterus, where it's suppose to be. This causes the body to be unable to expel it properly. The tissue still detaches and bleeds but is left in your body.
Endometriosis occurs in one in every 5 females. Usually diagnosed between ages 30 and 40; however, it is not unheard of at younger ages. Here is the Wikipedia page about it (which has the symptoms listed):
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Endometriosis
You should really talk with your doctor about this. It isn't okay to not be able to do anything during your period.
In the meantime, to relieve menstrual cramps try what works best for you:
1. Take ibuprofen (like Advil), or some over-the-counter painkiller such as Midol or Pamprin.
Remember, ibuprofen should always be taken with food or milk. Follow the dosage instructions on the bottle.
2. Start birth control pills.
Many gynecologist recommend birth control pills which regulate and sometimes decrease menstrual cramps.
3. Use a hot water bottle or heating pad on the cramping area. You can now buy ThermaCare HeatWraps for Menstrual Cramp Relief that warms up and is stickied to the front side of your panties so you can go about your day. I've had friends that tried the HeatWraps and they really loved them.
4. Start an exercise routine.
During menstrual cramps, the last thing on your mind is exercise. However, many women find that after they establish an exercise regimen, cramps are lessened. After several months, your menstrual flow may be lighter and less painful.
Try light aerobic exercise, swimming, meditating, or a short jog.
5. Change to a healthier diet.
Try to stay away from eating only junk food or food that does not make you feel better. During or right before your period, make an effort to eat more balanced meals, iron-rich foods (eggs, meat, poultry, fish, beans, nuts), fresh fruit, vegetables, and vitamin supplements.
Taking a calcium supplement daily (all through the month) has helped many women lessen menstrual cramps.
6. Drink lots of liquids (hot and cold).
Most women don't drink the recommended 8-10 glasses of water (or juice) a day. Try and cut down on soda and coffee. If you feel bloated, lethargic, or if you have constipation or diarrhea, be sure to drink lots of water.
Abstain from alcohol. If you tend to retain water during your period, alcohol will only add to your problems.
Cut out caffeine. The caffeine in coffee, tea, cola, and chocolate can contribute to menstrual discomfort by making you nervous. Go caffeine-free. The oils in coffee also may irritate your intestines.
7. Have an orgasm or two.
Achieving orgasm through masturbation or other means temporarily reduces painful cramps for some women. The vigorous muscle action moves blood and other fluids away from the area, relieving pain. If you don't feel comfortable with this method, that's okay. Just do what works for you.
8. Get your feet rubbed.
The foot contains acupressure or trigger points that are believed to be connected along internal energy pathways to your pelvic area. Feel for these spots (which will be sensitive during your period) in the depressions above either side of your heel. Gently press in with your thumb and fingertips. Do the same along the sides of your Achilles tendon, moving up toward your calf muscle.
Try this acupressure technique for a few minutes on each foot. In my experience, this always works for me, especially when I'm having trouble falling asleep because of the cramping.
I hope you find some relief for your killer cramps and get checked out by a doctor. It's better to be safe than to find out years later you may be unable to have children because you let this problem go on too long.
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I'm a 19 year old female. I have a boyfriend and we have sex regularly. I frequently masturbate in order to reach orgasm. (He can't get me off by fingering me or going down on me - but we do continue to try). Recently when I've masturbated I've felt like I peed slightly. Is this possible and if so how can I prevent it. I don't want to do this with my boyfriend - it would be very embarrassing! Thanks! (link)
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I have to say that the closer that some people get to a strong orgasm, the more they feel like they are going to urinate.
Having this exact same problem before, you really need to think about what just came out of your body. Is it liquidy or more creamy? If it's thicker than fluid then it's likely you have ejaculated on yourself.
Here is a good link about female ejaculation:
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm
Urinating during sexual activity really isn't that uncommon if that is what is happening to you. I know a few girls who have full-on peed during sex completely by accident. I also know girls who "dribble" a little here and there during sexual activites.
If you are urinating then you may have a bladder problem. Do you urinate more often than others? I also know a woman who, if she didn't take her medication to help her overactive bladder, would urinate on her partner.
If overactive bladder may be the cause, you should talk with your doctor about this. Actually, if this is really bothering you and you feel it may not be normal (or you want to see if there is something they suggest you do to stop) see your doctor. Your doctor has heard this many times, I guarantee.
I wish you luck on figuring out what it is.
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can u get an std from giving a hand job ? (link)
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Among the risks, herpes (HSV-1 or HSV-2) and genital warts (HPV) are probably the most likely. I know HPV can live under the fingernails and herpes is so easily spread that many people with coldsores even end up having sores on their fingertips at some point. You touch so many things during the day you have no idea what's on your hands or deep in your nails that you cannot reach to wash away.
(For further note: Yes, guys get HPV too and can spread it to females. Guys typically do not show signs of having HPV, only the strain that causes warts MIGHT cause them to have warts on their penis; however, many men with HPV have no idea they have it and there is yet to be a test to see if a guy has contracted it so there is no way to tell.)
In short, yes, you can definately contract STDs and STIs through this activity. When it comes to sexual encounters, you are always putting yourself at risk in some way if you think of it. You always should weigh the consequences of possible actions before jumping into things to further prepare yourself in case disaster arises.
I wish you well and I hope I've helped clear some things up for you. If you have any further questions regarding this subject, please feel free to ask me :)
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im a 13 year old girl and i havent even started my period and i am having sex dreams and i masterbate at least 5-9 times a day and i think it would be fun to have kinky sex so i guess what im really asking is should i have sex? (link)
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I want to first note that just because you haven't started your menstruation does not mean you cannot get pregnant. Many girls end up pregnancy before they've even had one period. This is because you never know when you are going to ovulate (ovary releases an egg for fertilization) and some girls end up ovulating at just the right time--meaning a few weeks later they would have had their period. The average age for women to start menstruating is now 12 so you're due at any moment.
When you are prepared emotionally, physically, and financial to have children then it is the right time to engage in sexual activities. Children can be accidents, birth control is not always effective, and it's best to be completely prepared. A parent-to-be needs to make major decisions while being stable enough to handle the worst. You should be able to answer some questions like:
1. What if the baby has a defect--physical and/or mental?
2. What if I lose my current job? How will I support myself and another being?
3. Am I in a stable environment? Will I have a safe place to come home to with my child?
4. Who would tend to my child while I work to support the family? Who can I trust this well?
5. If I am a woman, can I my body handle being depleted of vital nutrients? Am I in good health? OR--Is my partner in good health? Can my partner's body handle carrying a child to full-term safely?
6. In a few years, will I be able to start answering a child's question about life, sex, drugs, and even responsibility? How would I handle this?
7. If my partner decides to abandon me, becomes extremely ill, or passes away will I be able to cope and remain stable for the sake of the child in question?
Personally, I know many people who became impregnated the same night they lost their virginity. Some were on birth control even so that alone shows the ineffectiveness of it. Some were prepared for such things and some were completely lost and had to scrap their entire life-plans to raise another being.
Personally, I'd like to be prepared so that I could give my offspring the best chance at life possible. I wouldn't want to raise a child that wasn't capable of making it in life because I wasn't ready to put down my life for his/hers.
When you are prepared for the worst and know that with your mate you will get through it together. Many people contract STDs/STIs on their first encounter from a partner that was simply unaware that they were a carrier. Many virgins have STDs from their parents and were never taught that the symptoms they experience are not healthy.
You need to be as educated as possible before engaging in sex. This means knowing all of your facts--good and bad. Many people like to pretend that they are not at risks for STDs and then when they are diagnosed they are confused, lost, and completely uninformed. If they had been responsible and researched beforehand they would have been able to cope a lot easier.
Many people now leave their partners for silly reasons. They may leave the person with all of the burden and responsibility. The person may have contracted an STD from an unfaithful partner that they will now have to live with and inform other possible partners about (embarrassing). They may have to rear a child completely on their own because of the selfishness of their past mate. Many people are in such a hurry now that they don't take the time to figure out if their partner is true and loving to them, and so they rush into things entirely too fast and get caught into a horrible mess.
To help you out some, here are a few links you should definately check out while giving this thought:
Here is a link about pregnancy costs to know about:
http://www.surebaby.com/costs.php
Here is a link that has some really freaky STD facts:
http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm
Here is a link to photos of STDs you should research so you're aware of what they look like on the body:
http://www.healthac.org/images.html
And here is just something simply for you to read and think about. I read it and thought it was pretty neat and gave some good points:
http://www.tagnet.org/adventist.fm/youth/virgin.htm
Here is also a link on some things about virginity. I think it has some neat points and gives examples to explain what they're talking about:
http://www.prolife.com/LICKONA.htm
In short, it's right to have sex when you are prepared in every way possible. Think about all of the possibilities--good and bad--to having sexual relations and answer them all honestly.
I hope I've helped educate you on this and you'll be able to make the right decisions in life. If you have any more questions regarding this matter, please feel free to ask me :)
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My name is Anna. Because of personal reasons I can not afford healthy food which means that I dont get to eat my Vitamins and also certain types of fruits and vegetables. If i continue on eating like this, will this allow me to get Scurvy or any other types of diseases? (link)
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Not getting the right kinds of nutrients can be very harmful to your body in various ways. Many people do not get enough of the right kinds of vitamins so they do get very ill. You may already notice yourself having more illnesses than others--more colds, flus, etc.
You can easily purchase a multivitamin at your local store. Wal-mart, GNC, or any pharmacy will have them. There are some that are better than others and some that are made specifically for certain age groups.
A good multivitamin will ensure your body is getting enough to keep functioning properly. They can be much less costly than purchasing separate foods for your needs and most are only taken once a day.
CNN has a report about how to find a good multivitamin, which may be very beneficial to you at this moment:
http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/08/22/healthmag.multivitamins/index.html
After you found a vitamin you can afford and plan to take, you may want to see if it's listed on this vitamin guide beforehand:
http://www.multivitaminguide.org/MultivitaminGuideU7.pdf
Of course it is still helpful to eat properly but I understand if you are in a financial situation where food is not affordable. You may want to look at your local welfare department for something called food stamps, which would help you purchase healthy foods that you currently cannot afford. Try not to use your money on unhealthy foods if you can.
I do suggest that once your financial situation is taken care of you try your very best to purchase the right kinds of foods your body needs. Taking vitamins does not mean you do not need to eat healthy foods because multivitamins still do not supply everything we need from foods.
I hope all is well and you're able to find a good multivitamin to help you get some of the vitamins you are missing. If I can help in any other way, please send me a question! :)
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how can you make your hair grow faster without using a hair growth thing? (link)
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Your will probably benefit more from taking vitamins orally than applying them to your hair for the actual growth. To strengthen hair, you'll need to purchase some products (shampoos, conditioners, etc) to apply to the hair shaft itself.
A good multivitamin might be the place to start. Here is a list of specific vitamins and minerals you're going to want to take though:
* Vitamin A
* Vitamin C
* Vitamin E
* Biotin
* Inositol
* Niacin (Vitamin B3)
* Pantothenic Acid (Vitamin B5)
* Vitamin B6
* Vitamin B12
# Calcium
# Chromium
# Copper
# Iodine
# Iron
# Magnesium
# Manganese
# Potassium
# Selenium
# Silica
# Sulfur (methyl-sulfonyl-methane or MSM)
# Zinc
From:
http://hairloss.about.com/od/preventinghairloss/a/Vitamins.htm
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http://hairloss.about.com/od/preventinghairloss/a/Minerals.htm
To strengthen your hair you should buy shampoos, conditioners, and leave-in conditioners that include pro-vitamin B5 (also referred to as panthenol). It helps to heal your hair, recovering it from split-ends. It may also help to thicken the hairs if they are thinning and breaking, making it shorter.
Remember that leave-in conditioners are your friend when it comes to dyed, dry, and damaged hair. Also, try to use products that help to protect against heat products if you are a user of blowdriers, curling irons, and even straighteners. Protecting your hair will allow it to be long and not break off easily so make sure you take good care of it.
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Okay, so I have a serious problem. I have been struggling with anorexia and bulimia for 2 years now. I'm surprised I'm not too weak to type. I've been to the doctor, I've been to eating disorder facilities, i've been to group help session, and i'm still the way i am.
i'm 5'9" and i weigh about 100-110 pounds... and i'm getting thinner. When i went for help, i was better for a little bit, but it always came back, after someone would make a fat joke or anything. I know i'm struggling for an impossible goal. I just don't know what to do, my mom doesn't know what to do, my friends don't know what to do. I'm running out of ideas to save myself! help me!
-Save my Soul (link)
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I understand what you have gone through is so difficult but I know you can get through this if you keep trying.
To be anorexic/bulimic, it takes a huge amount of will-power. Every day you deny yourself, every day you force yourself to do something that is completely against nature. You push yourself to the limits each day looking for a new goal.
What you might not HONESTLY realize is that your goal will never exist. Your goal is not real. Yes, you can make it down to 90lbs of bone that cannot function as life, but you will still thrive to be 85lbs then. If you made it to 85lbs, you would still push yourself to get to 80lbs. Your "goals" do not exist, you see, and you won't ever be satisfied. You will ALWAYS be "fat" and all of the untrue bullshit you tell yourself every day.
I have watched a lot of videos about eating disorders, searching for material to post here in hopes of helping people going through this problem. I found this woman that really touched me deeply, bringing tears to my eyes. Here is Courtney Blair Cameron a few years back:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=NllpNPoHTI0
She might remind you of yourself now or in the past even. She is so hardcore eating disorder you wouldn't believe her newer videos. You see, Courtney really hated the idea of GAINING weight, and she really hated the idea of getting BETTER. She confesses that she "needs help" in a later video but only so that she can fit into society better, which she claims hates her only because anorexics are beautiful and "normal" people are not so they are envious. She states "...what they don't realize is those [overweight] people are doing as much damage to their bodies as I am doing to MY body..." while trying to claim that she is healthier than "fat" people.
Courtney asks for prayer from viewers in a later video. She makes fun of someone reaching out to her (while the previous video she claims that nobody even tries to reach out) in the beginning of the video, ending it all with asking out to viewers' prayers:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=259k_Pie1to
Courtney was lying to herself, if you haven't figured it out. Most people with eating disorders are lying to themselves, their friends, and their family members because of their obsession. They KNOW the truth, but they continue to lie in hopes of deceiving themselves.
Suddenly, one day Courtney posts a video. Apparently those prayers she asked for came through and God knew it was time for Courtney to change and stop this madness. Courtney, ecstatic, had finally had a break-through...FOR REAL:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=A4iMTEkQWoo
I can't really give you much advice other than to stop lying to yourself and everyone around you. Being honest is going to help you pull out of it now so you don't end up bed-ridden because your body cannot support itself. Yes, I've seen that happen.
Reach out to God and don't lie about it. Don't ask for prayers when you are obviously not seeking help. Surround yourself with God, do His will. Get involved with helping others and I'm sure you'll see how it will become easier and easier to help yourself. You CAN make it through this if you put your mind to it. It's an every day struggle, as Courtney says here while asking for tips on how to get through each day successfully:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=GfZDsLk_S3o
God can help you if you are honest and open to Him. What you are doing is so dangerous and definately does not make you pretty:
1. Hair loss
2. Gaunt, hollow facial features
3. Shrunken breasts
4. Dry skin
5. Bruises
6. Sharply protruding bones
7. Cold and blue hands and feet
8. Delayed puberty: preadolescent females fail to menstruate and develop breasts at normal age. In males, testosterone levels might remain low, leading to impotence.
9. Menstruation: hormone levels drop, alerting the body that it cannot support a fetus; menstruation becomes irregular or stops completely - can result in temporary or permanent infertility
10. Permanent bone loss: susceptibility to stress fractures and osteoporosis
11. Mood changes: impatience, irritability, depression, suicidal tendencies
12. Insomnia, constipation, sensitivity to cold, kidney failure, abnormally low heart rate and blood pressure
13. Cardiac arrythmias, heart failure, death
One day at a time. You can do this. It CAN be done.
Put your control in not eating, to eating on a plan. Plan out your meals each day, a week in advance, with your mother. Pick foods that are healthier than others--like wheat bread instead of white. It's alright to be picky about what you put into your body. Check off each meal or food you successfully had on your list and kept down every day so you can see your progress. Count your calories so you can meet the required amount:
http://www.csgnetwork.com/caloriesfemalecalc.html
...and remember to eat healthy, getting your daily requirements of meats, vegetables, dairy, breads, fruits, etc:
http://www.growingwell.com/bchild/dngrownup.htm
Meat/Poutry/Fish/Dry Beans/Eggs/Nuts: 2 - 3 servings daily
Milk/Yogurt/Cheese: 2 - 3 servings daily
Fruits: 2 - 4 servings daily
Vegetables: 3 - 5 servings daily
Bread/Cereal/Rice/Pasta: 6 - 11 servings daily
Your goal should be health. Obsess about getting and remaining healthy instead of being thin.
It's good to exercise so keep that up if you have exercise routine, but do not push yourself until you get sick. Make your new goal on getting healthier and fit. Be determine to gain so much weight in MUSCLE (which means working out) and then keep your body at that size in healthy ways of exercising and eating. Control your HEALTH. When you need guidance or feel you're being tempted, pray out to God for strength to get through another day.
I am praying for you. I hope things get better and you learn to control your health instead of your death.
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I got my period on May 3rd and then got it again on May 26th. I was not due to get it unitl June 4th. So I got it twice in May. Then I started bleeding again when I was really supposed to get it on June 4th. Its not brownish in color where I would of thought it was just the end of a period that I got on May 26th its very red. Do you know what could have happened? (link)
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There isn't any way we are going to be able to tell you what exactly when wrong; however, we can recommend that you see your doctor about this issue, as it can be a sign of bad things.
Although the first year or two of your menstrual cycles will naturally not be perfect, they should not come dramatically close together. This can lead to serious issues because you are losing blood with each cycle. You can easily become iron deficient (signs/symptoms linked below):
http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/dci/Diseases/ida/ida_signsandsymptoms.html
...but that really is for a doctor to determine. Please speak to your doctor about this issue if you feel you have most of the symptoms.
The 23 days in between really isn't so bad and you shouldn't be too concerned about it; however, going 9 days between periods is not good at all and is not considered normal by any means. If I have misunderstood and you have bleed bright-red for 9 days straight then you still need to see a doctor soon because it is not normal or healthy for your body.
My periods were really messed up for a long time. I didn't know it but I had a cyst on my ovary that was causing my ovary to continue releasing eggs more frequently than it should have. Cysts can actually be cancerous in some cases, and if left untreated may grow until they burst--rupturing your ovary as well. This being said, you need to see a gynecologist about your menstrual issues in case you have the same issue I had.
So, for awhile I had periods with short breaks in between. I remember having two heavy periods with one week of no period in between them. It seemed to only get worse with them and I remember having a period for almost two months straight near the end (before I saw a doctor for the problem).
It's better to be safe now than to be sorry later. Please see your health provider and let them know what has happened with your cycles. If they are like my doctor, they will do an ultrasound to make sure everything is alright in there. It's ALWAYS best to get your health checked even with little things to ensure a good life ahead so please make a doctor's appointment as soon as you can fit it into your schedule.
I hope I've helped you to know it's important seek out professional help for your menstrual issues. I do hope everything will be alright and the doctor says you're healthy with nothing to worry about.
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I have a long story and at this point i've resorted to advicenators to try and help me sort it out...pathetic, i know but hey...i'm not above it haha. it's really long and all and I sort of prefer to keep it private so let me know if there's any way you can help!
you can IM me on aol instant messenger. my screen name is bubbly1282 (link)
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You shouldn't feel that coming for advice on Advicenators is pathetic because it isn't low at all. People come here for all sorts of advice because they know they can get multiple opinions and ideas that may be just what they were seeking. Yes, there may be an over-abundance of sexual related questions but it doesn't meant that other questions, which may be like yours, are inappropriate or unworthy. Advicenators are here to help you out as best we can. A lot of columnists try very, very hard when giving input and doing research for questions that are probably very similar to yours.
I'd really appreciate it if you posted your question so we can all have a chance to ask. I do not have an AOL instant messenger and have no need for it, but I would really love to have the chance to help you to the best of my ability. I'm sure a lot of Advicenators feel the same in wanting to help you.
You are completely anonymous here on Advicenators. We can't see your username or column so you're safe from us finding out who you really are unless you tell us in your question, which I believe is against the rules even. Even paid account users cannot see your columnist name--that's how much privacy you have.
In addition, it's alright to post long questions. It's good to give as much detail as you can so we can understand what has happened and what you're seeking assistance with. Personally, I enjoy it when people add in as many details as they can about a major issue they are having so I can see it from their perspective.
Please give us the chance to help you and take some time to post your situation. I'm not the only one that feels this way, I'm sure.
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you see, my mom, she just had another child like august of last year. now, she thinks she might be pregnant again, but she took a pregnancy test, and it came out positive. she also went to a doctor, but they said she wasnt pregnant. but she swears she felt something move inside of her, and her stomach really seems to be getting bigger. is she really pregnant? if not, what else could it be? if it helps, shes 49 years old right now . (link)
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Your mother should really go back to the doctor's office soon, for many reasons regarding her own health.
Home pregnancy tests are RARELY ever wrong when they show up positive. There are so few cases of a home pregnancy test showing up positive but being wrong (although, many of them do show negative during a pregnancy). Reasons for them showing up positive, but the woman NOT being pregnant, would be:
1. A tumor of the placenta with death of the fetus
2. Ovarian cancer (and other types of cancer in some cases)
3. Blood or protein in the urine, which can interfere with the result
4. Use of medications to prevent seizures, drugs to treat Parkinson's syndrome, or phenothiazine drugs, such as chlorpromazine, by the mother
Although blood tests are about 99% accurate, there is always that 1% of complete inaccuracy. Some reasons why a doctor's blood test for pregnancy would show negative while a home pregnancy shows positive would be:
1. Ectopic pregnancy (meaning the fetus is growing inside of a fallopian tube)
2. A very recent miscarriage or abortion
3. Human error (lab mix-up with the drawn blood)
Your mother may be having serious complications that she is not aware of. If she is having an ectopic pregnancy, her tubes can rupture, leading to the death of her and the unborn child. As you know, cancer is highly dangerous, and blood in the urine is a sign of something very serious going on that needs to be treated. What I'm trying to say is this is NOT common or normal and she definately needs to see a doctor as soon as possible about it.
She probably should request that the doctor does an ultrasound, that way they can tell if there IS a baby inside of her or not or if she has any tumors that may be interfering with the pregnancy results. She needs to tell the doctor her signs/symptoms--that she has felt fluttering, her abdomen is enlarging, and that she has been pregnant before and feels that she is pregnant from her usual signs in previous pregnancies.
Please let your mother know that seeing a doctor is highly suggested for her own safety. Many doctors do not do further testing after a blood test shows negative but this really sounds like she needs to be seen again.
I wish your mother well and pray that all is okay with her health. I hope I've helped you out in finding information for her about her pregnant/not pregnant results.
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ok i've read about how there are different times of the month when your vaginal discharge is different. right now mine is really thin and milky/creamy. i was wondering what this means? (i'm due for my period today if that means anything)
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Discharge is to help cleanse your vagina from bad bacteria (which is being secreted) and to help provide lubrication for sperm to successfully make it to your egg to fertilize it. Every woman has discharge.
Different Discharges:
Before ovulation- There will be a small amount of clear discharge.
Closer to ovulation- Discharge is moist/sticky and is white or lightly cream colored. There is some mucus but it isn't as stretchy as it will be during ovulation.
At ovulation- There will be a lot of discharge at this point. It will be like egg whites and is stretchy. You are most fertile here (high risk pregnancy) and sperm entering your body at this time will be able to survive slightly longer than normal. You will notice this discharge lasts for a couple of days and your internal temperature will raise slightly.
After ovulation- Discharge is sticky but not stretchy. Mostly clear and will dwindle back to the "before ovulation" state.
Also, vaginal infections, medications, and birth control can all change the appearance of your discharge.
Vaginal yeast infections can cause itching and burning, the white discharge may look similar to cottage cheese, there could be pain during sexual intercourse, and some swelling of the vulva. The discharge smells somewhat yeasty from what I've read but not always.
Yeast infections are caused by a disruption in the balance of good bacteria in the vagina. Sexual intercourse, antibiotics, using too much soap, tampon usage, and even wearing tight clothing can all cause a yeast infection to occur.
Sometimes women mis-diagnose themselves with a yeast infection when they really have something else wrong (such as a bacterial infection that can render the woman infertile and cause a lot of pain for the rest of their lives).
As a note about discharge, you can become pregnant at any point in your cycle, not just when you are ovulating. In short, you are equally as fertile throughout your whole cycle, but when you reach ovulation you are a bit more fertile than usual. This means you should ALWAYS be using some for of "protection" if engaging in sexual activities.
In addition to the ovulation information, you ovulate, roughly, halfway through your cycle if you have a normal cycle. If your periods come whenever then you cannot really even guess when you would be ovulating.
I hope I've helped you learn a bit more about your body!
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I see that some columnists have an extra gold star next to their name, what is that for, and how do i get it? :) (link)
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I believe the gold star is actually for paid accounts. You can purchase a paid account for only $10 a year. To me, it is way worth it simply because you no longer see those crazy ads all over the site. You get a bunch of extra features, as in being able to see the questioner's gender, age, feedback score (how many people they have actually rated), average feedback (what they usually rate people), and all of their previous questions. You can also see if they have any unread answers, so you have a better idea if the person has read your answer yet or not. The only thing you can't really see is their username, but being able to see their past questions is a huge help in giving good advice!
You can get a paid account here:
http://www.advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php
...or by clicking the "Get MORE Stuff!" link at the top of Advicenators, and even the link to the side of the website under Miscellaneous labeled as "Paid Accounts."
Oh, and I almost forgot, you also get access to something called "Supporter Discussion" so you're able to communicate on a board about Advicenators with other paid-account users.
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http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=243jm12&s=3
is this a fat or slim psp?
i cant tell.
hahahaha i feel stupid asking this.
thank you! (link)
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This photo is of the original (or "fat") PSP and not the slim version.
I went to this website that had lots of photos of both PSP to compare to:
http://www.gamepro.com/news.cfm?article_id=122128
...and noticed that in the third comparison photo that the headphone jack is located in a different area on the PSP Slim/Thin. The PSP Fat/Original has the headphone jack hole located under the cord handle insert while the slim version has the headphone jack hole located beside of the cord handle insert.
The photo you provided clearly shows that the headphone jack hole is not beside the handle so it must be under it.
It seems the real difference between the two PSPs that everyone is crazy about is that the newer, 19% slimmer version has better screen quality and brightness. I own the original/fat version and feel it's a very nice hand-held gaming system so, if this is your PSP, I hope you enjoy it!
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hi from 17 yrs old i started masterbution now i m 27 yrs guy next month is my marriage but now a day i feel that my penis is not awaking it is loose & fell sperm in a min. please help me out (link)
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Your English is not perfect which leads me to believe you are from another country. This being said, the next time you ask a question you should add in where you are from and what your native language is (example: "Hi, I am from India. My first language is Hindi."). This will help us understand you better because we will know to read your question slowly to get all of the important details you supply us with.
As for your question, masturbation is unlikely to be causing your sexual problems with your penis and your ejaculation. It sounds like you really need to see a doctor and tell him about what is wrong before your wedding. Your doctor may be able to give you medication to solve your problem if you tell him clearly what is happening during masturbation.
So, in short, we can't tell you how to fix your problem but a doctor probably can help you. Contact your local doctor so he can see you soon so you won't be embarrassed on your wedding night.
I also want to suggest that maybe you are nervous about the wedding coming up and are noticing things you had not seen before regarding your penis and masturbation. It may be possible that this has been an on-going problem but you have not really noticed it because you have never be in bed with a woman and are now nervous about your wedding night and how your wife will feel about your penis.
Please talk to your doctor as soon as you can.
Welcome to Advicenators, we are glad to help you.
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my hair is really damaged. It drives me nuts! I hate that I have to dry and straighten it for it to look half way decent. I know the blow dryer and straightener damage my hair a lot, but i can't not use them, you know? so i guess my question is, whats a really effective shampoo (and conditioner, of course) to repair the damage?
also, is there anything I can put in my hair after i take a shower to make dry a little smoother? you know, less of a giant frizz ball.
tall order, i know. but i appreciate any help you guys can give me! (link)
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I read in a book (like a guide to vitamins and stuff) about an ingredient in some shampoos and conditioners that is really important to look for.
It was called panthenol. It is suppose to be the B5 pro-vitamin and helps to strengthen the hair by filling in damaged areas, leading to less breakage and a smoother feel. It is suppose to help retain moisture (helping to keep it shiny) and thicken hair strands as well. Look for all hair products containing this.
In addition, the book I was reading suggested finding a leave-in conditioner that had panthenol in it (some are even labeled on the front of the bottle) to help repair the hair follicles. The book claimed that this was the best method to repairing damaged hair and, if used properly for an extended period of time, would eventually "heal" the hair completely. Some brands have special leave-in products that also help against heat styling so you may want to check them out.
In addition to leave-in conditioners, there are also shampoos and regular conditioners especially made for people who use a lot of heat-styling products. I have some super duper great shampoo from Charles Worthington called Results Moisture Seal (it says, "Revitalizes dry, damaged, brittle hair with re-hydration, gloss, and protection from heat-styling.") that helps to protect against heat.
So, if I were you, I'd head to the store and look for some products containing this--a lot of times the things you are looking for are right on the front of the bottle. Remember to pick up a good leave-in conditioner with it as well. A good leave-in conditioner is your friend! In addition, always use products that help protect against heat styling products (like blowdriers, curling irons, and straighteners) to help prevent more damage being done.
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Uhh this is an awkward question, but for those females that go to the gynocologist for birth control and such, do you shave or not? Also, what is the process like? I'm going to get birth control soon so I'd like to know how it will be so I'm not shocked or anything. (link)
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A papsmear is usually an annual thing for all women. It's best to start having the tests when you begin having periods but most women tend to wait until they become sexually active.
Pap smears can be incredibly uncomfortable. Some women experience pain while others go through it like a breeze. It really depends to on the person and how skilled the doctor is.
In my personal experience, they are extremely uncomfortable and I have been known to cry during the procedure. I know that it's something I need to do each year to make sure that I am healthy so I continue with my check-ups. The procedure doesn't last very long at all and ensures that everything is working properly and is healthy so I endure it.
In short, the doctor will take a urine sample from you first to run a pregnancy test, usually. After taking your blood pressure and asking you a few questions regarding your sexual status (be honest, they've heard it all and are not allowed to inform anybody else of the information you provide them).
They then usually send you to a clean room to completely undress and lay on a table. The table has foot rests for your heels. You will be instructed to position yourself in a manner that is helpful for the doctor to work at. They will let you know how to lay and such. You may feel uncomfortable and embarrassed at this time but it is fairly normal and the doctor has seen plenty of naked bodies.
Your doctor may do a breast exam on you to begin with. He/she may also listen to your heart and lungs and press on your body and ask if you feel any pain anywhere. The doctor will then simply look at your vaginal area for signs of infections or visible STDs after switching on a very large, bright light at your vaginal area and gloving up. They may ask a couple of questions while doing this.
The doctor then will separate the walls of the vagina with a speculum. The speculum is a slender metal (or plastic in some cases) instrument that looks somewhat like a duckbill. It may be warmed or lubricated before being gently inserted into your vagina. With the speculum in place, they can visibly see your cervix.
Your clinician will then insert a special swab, brush, or stick to wipe off cells from inside the opening of the cervix and from the outer part of the cervix. The cervix can be very tender and this scraping can cause some bleeding and discomfort. It is not unheard of for this scraping to cause your legs to twitch.
The doctor will next place two gloved fingers into your vagina while their other hand gently presses on your lower abdomen. This identifies the size, shape, and position of your uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. It can also let them know if you have any masses growing or any abnormalities.
The doctor may also do a rectal exam at the end of this procedure. Not all doctor's do this but it is no big deal either. They simply slide a finger or two into your anus to feel for masses and to check the back of your uterus.
The more you relax, the smoother things will go. It's okay to ask questions throughout the entire thing and your doctor already knows you are nervous so they are prepared for all sorts of things. If something is painful, it completely acceptable to inform the doctor about it.
In addition, you do not need to shave before the appointment. Some women do, some women do not. The doctor has seriously seen it all--including slimey green vaginas (think about it: they do help you when you get infections and STDs). So nothing really grosses them out or even looks bad.
I hope the doctor's appointment goes well and you are healthy.
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I know this is an issue that many people deal with and i have tried just about everything that i know but nothing seems to work....I think i have an addiction to porn and i dont know what to do...i went a whole month and a half without doing it and it was the hardest thing for me....i dont know how to get it out of my head,.i pray about it just about every night and im tired of being this way please help (link)
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All you need is will-power and faith in God.
First off, YOU are ALLOWING yourself to do these things. You CAN make yourself stop doing this if you honestly put forth the effort. Addiction is hard but the first step is admitting that something is wrong with what you are doing. You are there. The next step is start making changes.
You should throw away all of your porn. THROW IT AWAY. Don't second guess or keep one or two things hidden from yourself. Completely get rid of it. The trash is sitting in the other room, most likely, so go shove your porn items in it and take it out to the trash bin and leave it alone from there. (In addition: This applies to going on your computer and completely deleting all pornographic material your have.) Spend your money on more useful things--even if that means giving people in need your own money, which is called charity (and we know God wants us to give more to others).
In regards to television and movies, watch for the rating beforehand. Do not sit down and put yourself in a situation where you will be seeing sexual contact, which may trigger your addiction. Check out the rating system for television broadcasts:
http://www.tvguidelines.org/
...and for movies:
http://www.filmratings.com/
Alter your lifestyle. If you spent 2 hours online looking at porn, block porn websites and images (child-safety block yourself just to help fight off urges) and try to lessen your time online. If you absolutely MUST be online then do not ALLOW yourself to stray from your work. This means if you need to get a paper done then only do the paper (and don't sign online), and if you need to research information for that paper then ONLY research that information and then disconnect.
If you're getting tempted then get up and take a break and do something to help others (or even pick up your Bible). It may also help to get down on your knees and pray to God, asking Him for strength to fight the urge for the moment and to lead you in the right direction.
Spend the time on God and His will that you had spent looking at porn. Become an active member in a church you believe is doing right. This may be helpful in finding that church:
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=matthew%2025;&version=9;
Spend your time doing these things listed in the Bible. Spend time at soup kitchens helping the hungry, volunteer at shelters, visit the elderly in homes so they're not as lonely (not everyone has visitors and just about everyone has neat stories to tell), read Bible passages to younger children, donate your time to what needs you, and do whatever you can with that time. There are so many things you SHOULD be doing with your time that you are neglecting because of your addiction.
If you STILL feel you need help because you think temptation is still going to get the best of you (which means you are not putting your time to GOOD use) then maybe you should look into some sort of therapy. There are therapy groups for a lots of varieties of addicts (seriously, you can Google up Porn-A-Holics Anonymous or Porn Addicts Anonymous and find some).
Next, you should start right now--not later, not tomorrow, not next week. Get up and make some calls to see see where you would be allowed to volunteer at a couple of nights a week. Find out when visiting hours are at nursing homes and hospitals. Get your information.
Make yourself useful.
Help others the way God wishes we all would.
Picking up the Bible and taking time to read it is also very wonderful so you may want to set aside time each night to read a bit. Any way it is, the time you spend looking at porn needs to be redirected to time you spend doing God's will.
This will be a tough path at first but you will definately get the hang of it if you hold your ground. Don't give into temptation and disappoint God when he has big plans for you. He wants to see you in the Kingdom of Heaven.
I hope I've helped you kick your addiction; however, it's mostly up to you and how much effort you are willing to putting into discontinuing your previous activities. If you aren't honestly serious about kicking your habit then you aren't going to succeed so when you start this be serious and strict with yourself.
I wish you well and hope to see you answering questions here down the road, helping other people stop with their own porn addictions.
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my hair is SO dull! I mean, I like the hairstyle and stuff, it just doesn't have that extra "glow" to it, ya know? I use fructis{sp?} shampoo and conditioner currently. Any suggestions? Thanks so much!!! (link)
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I read in a book about an ingredient in some shampoos and conditioners that is really important to look for actually.
The ingredient was called panthenol. It is suppose to be the B5 pro-vitamin and helps to strengthen the hair by filling in damaged areas, leading to less breakage and a smoother feel. It is suppose to help retain moisture (helping to keep it nice and shiny, which is what you want) and thicken hair strands as well. You should really look for hair products containing this.
In addition, the book I was reading suggested finding a leave-in conditioner that had panthenol in it (some are even labeled on the front of the bottle) to help repair the hair follicles and help retain moisture even more so it stays shiny.
So, if I were you, I'd head to the store and look for some products containing this. Remember to pick up a good leave-in conditioner with it as well. In addition, always use products that help protect against heat styling products (like blowdriers, curling irons, and straighteners) to help prevent more damage being done. The drier your hair is, the less shiny it's going to be because it won't have the moisture in it to be healthy.
I hope I've helped you out in finding some products to use in making your hair healthier.
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My fiance and i are really considering trying anal. Im sooo scared of this because ive heard different things from different people. I really want to do it to show him that i love him more then he already knows. Whats the best way to approach this. Is there anything i can do to make it hurt less? Any stories? Experiences?
Please Help? :( (link)
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First off, anal sex is very risky and there are many dangers of participating in such activities.
Among the diseases with which anal sex is associated are HIV, anal cancer (seriously), typhoid fever, and various diseases associated with the infectious nature of fecal matter or sexual intercourse in general. Among these are: Amoebiasis; Chlamydia; Cryptosporidiosis; E. coli infections; Giardiasis; Gonorrhea; Hepatitis A; Hepatitis B; Hepatitis C; Herpes simplex; Human papillomavirus (HPV); Lymphogranuloma venereum; Pubic lice; Salmonellosis; Shigella; Syphilis; Tuberculosis. Using condoms will decrease these risks; however, they do not protect 100%.
Physical damage to the rectum and anus are serious and hemorrhoids, anal fissures, and rectal prolapse may occur. Damage is more likely if communication is poor or if technique is clumsy; condoms do not help protect against this sort of damage. Basically, if you don't know what you're doing or you end up doing something wrong by accident you may end up in the emergency room having surgery or stitches.
You need to ask yourself some questions:
Can you imagine being rushed to the emergency room? Who would take you? How embarrassed would you feel? Can you deal with paying for them to sew you back up properly? Heck, can you imagine trying to use the toilet after such an experience?
Small tears that can happen during anal sex can easily become infected. The membrane inside the rectum is VERY thin and fragile so it tears very easily. Even if there seems to be no complications the tears can be very irritating and can become inflamed later on. It doesn't matter how "gentle" your partner is, your will probably suffer some tearing and possibly even some bleeding. It can also become uncomfortable for you to pass a stool afterward.
It is also very easy to get a vaginal infection from anal intercourse if your partner enters the vagina after being in the anus. Even if he knows not to enter the vagina afterward, he may accidentally slip. The infection would be bacterial can actually do major damage to you--rendering you infertile. Really, anal sex is more likely to result in an infection than vaginal sex would.
As a note, the vaginal infection could be something simple like a yeast infection, but is usually a bacterial infection. If left untreated, these sorts of infections can cause serious problems later in life and can also render you completely infertile.
It's also common for urinary tract infections to occur after anal sex. Yes, they are curable but they can become serious if left untreated and are, overall, rather uncomfortable to deal with. Condom usage would help your partner to avoid this complication.
Incontinence has also been reported from engaging in anal sex. Basically this means that the anal sphincter loosens up from the activity. This also means that anal leakage can become an issue for the receiving end. It also may mean the inability to completely control your bowels when needed.
Sex doesn't show love is you think about it. I know it may seem like a loving activity; however, prostitutes have sex with random people every single day and don't feel a bit of feeling toward their customers. Show your love by doing something non-harmful, non-sexual and something immensely special. If you do something unique then it'll be something great to look back on in your old age and say, "Remember when...!" and you can tell grandchildren and such.
Many girls on here claim it hurts a lot. There really isn't a way to make it not hurt because it is endangering your body. Your body sends signals of pain because it is being HURT and you do not want to hurt your body. Serious problems come out of things like this--wanting to do something special with a partner and winding up on a hospital bed for a week while the doctor tries to sew them back together properly.
I hope you become better informed before making a serious decision like this so you don't put yourself into a harmful situation.
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