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im a 13 year old girl i want to have sex should i?

Question Posted Saturday July 5 2008, 8:32 pm

im a 13 year old girl and i havent even started my period and i am having sex dreams and i masterbate at least 5-9 times a day and i think it would be fun to have kinky sex so i guess what im really asking is should i have sex?

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Jacob88brown answered Tuesday September 17 2013, 7:59 pm:
Just have sex with me I am fourteen and I am from Alabama and yes I am male

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brianmaybloom answered Tuesday January 1 2013, 1:31 am:
yes with me im 13 to and have the same opinon

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Alypink answered Monday July 28 2008, 7:04 pm:
Well i personally am a strong believer in no sex before mariagge so no, you shouldn't and even if i didn't believe in no fornication still sex at 13 is waaaay to young so... don't do it... if you don't have physical consequences which there is a probability then you will have mental consequences (no you won't go crazy) but you will experience regret, guilt, fear etc etc...
so don't simple as that...
anything else inbox!!!

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amber_x answered Sunday July 13 2008, 10:15 pm:
I first had sex at thirteen, I don't really regret it.
I just wish I could take it back, It is kinda early for you to have sex with a boyfriend or just anyone at that matter.
I think your just going through some hormonal changes & your wanting to try everything out.
Think an make sure your making the right descion.

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Peeps answered Saturday July 5 2008, 9:09 pm:
I want to first note that just because you haven't started your menstruation does not mean you cannot get pregnant. Many girls end up pregnancy before they've even had one period. This is because you never know when you are going to ovulate (ovary releases an egg for fertilization) and some girls end up ovulating at just the right time--meaning a few weeks later they would have had their period. The average age for women to start menstruating is now 12 so you're due at any moment.

When you are prepared emotionally, physically, and financial to have children then it is the right time to engage in sexual activities. Children can be accidents, birth control is not always effective, and it's best to be completely prepared. A parent-to-be needs to make major decisions while being stable enough to handle the worst. You should be able to answer some questions like:

1. What if the baby has a defect--physical and/or mental?
2. What if I lose my current job? How will I support myself and another being?
3. Am I in a stable environment? Will I have a safe place to come home to with my child?
4. Who would tend to my child while I work to support the family? Who can I trust this well?
5. If I am a woman, can I my body handle being depleted of vital nutrients? Am I in good health? OR--Is my partner in good health? Can my partner's body handle carrying a child to full-term safely?
6. In a few years, will I be able to start answering a child's question about life, sex, drugs, and even responsibility? How would I handle this?
7. If my partner decides to abandon me, becomes extremely ill, or passes away will I be able to cope and remain stable for the sake of the child in question?

Personally, I know many people who became impregnated the same night they lost their virginity. Some were on birth control even so that alone shows the ineffectiveness of it. Some were prepared for such things and some were completely lost and had to scrap their entire life-plans to raise another being.

Personally, I'd like to be prepared so that I could give my offspring the best chance at life possible. I wouldn't want to raise a child that wasn't capable of making it in life because I wasn't ready to put down my life for his/hers.

When you are prepared for the worst and know that with your mate you will get through it together. Many people contract STDs/STIs on their first encounter from a partner that was simply unaware that they were a carrier. Many virgins have STDs from their parents and were never taught that the symptoms they experience are not healthy.

You need to be as educated as possible before engaging in sex. This means knowing all of your facts--good and bad. Many people like to pretend that they are not at risks for STDs and then when they are diagnosed they are confused, lost, and completely uninformed. If they had been responsible and researched beforehand they would have been able to cope a lot easier.

Many people now leave their partners for silly reasons. They may leave the person with all of the burden and responsibility. The person may have contracted an STD from an unfaithful partner that they will now have to live with and inform other possible partners about (embarrassing). They may have to rear a child completely on their own because of the selfishness of their past mate. Many people are in such a hurry now that they don't take the time to figure out if their partner is true and loving to them, and so they rush into things entirely too fast and get caught into a horrible mess.

To help you out some, here are a few links you should definately check out while giving this thought:

Here is a link about pregnancy costs to know about:
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Here is a link that has some really freaky STD facts:
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Here is a link to photos of STDs you should research so you're aware of what they look like on the body:
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And here is just something simply for you to read and think about. I read it and thought it was pretty neat and gave some good points:
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Here is also a link on some things about virginity. I think it has some neat points and gives examples to explain what they're talking about:
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In short, it's right to have sex when you are prepared in every way possible. Think about all of the possibilities--good and bad--to having sexual relations and answer them all honestly.

I hope I've helped educate you on this and you'll be able to make the right decisions in life. If you have any more questions regarding this matter, please feel free to ask me :)

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surferchick16 answered Saturday July 5 2008, 8:59 pm:
No honestly, you should NOT have sex. I understand that you may want it, and wanting and actually doing it are two completely different things. If you are questioning whether or not to have sex you are not ready. If you do it now, you may, no, you WILL regret it later on. I have watched it happen to people I know well and I 've seen what they have gone through. IT is not a chance you want to take. And also, once you make that decision, you can never go back and fix it, its done thats it. If you decide to ignore everything I have just said, please think about tommorrow what if you the protection doesn't work. So before you go on and make a monumentally life-altering no going back decision to have sex, please know that it forever changes your life.

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Hustle_Rose answered Saturday July 5 2008, 8:47 pm:
No, you shouldn't have sex. Your body is not physically ready for sex until you go through puberty and start your period. You really aren't emotionally or intellectually mature enough to be having sex, especially if you have to ask.
I started having sex when I was 14 and let me tell you, I have lived to regret it since. Even though I'm still with the person I lost my virginity to, we both agree that at that point in our lives we weren't ready, and that we should have waited.
I am a firm believer in the fact that the longer you wait, the better it will be, and the more equipped you will be to deal with the emotional repercussions. Continue masturbating and experimenting on your own, that's perfectly natural. But don't become sexually active until you KNOW you're ready.

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GilbertMar answered Saturday July 5 2008, 8:44 pm:
I find it really hard not to ask, "Are you kidding?" No, at 13 you should not be having sex, masturbating is one thing, sex is a whole other realm.

There is so many things to consider when you enter into the world of being sexually active and you should not involve yourself in it until you understand them.

Sorry, I'm just not going into this any further, because I really doubt the sincerity and validity of this question. I apologize if you have written this in good faith.

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Melody answered Saturday July 5 2008, 8:36 pm:
Should you have sex even though you haven't started your period yet? Is that honestly a serious question? No. You shouldn't.

It's normal to have sex dreams, and normal to masturbate. It's also normal to want to have sex.

That doesn't mean you or your body is ready for that yet though.

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Cux answered Saturday July 5 2008, 8:34 pm:
The fact that you're questioning whether you should or not means you aren't ready. Aside from the fact that you're only 13 and you have your entire life ahead of you to have sex, you just shouldn't have it. In fact, a lot of people regret losing their virginity so early in their life.

However, if you do plan to have sex, please use protection.


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