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I want to try anal
My fiance and i are really considering trying anal. Im sooo scared of this because ive heard different things from different people. I really want to do it to show him that i love him more then he already knows. Whats the best way to approach this. Is there anything i can do to make it hurt less? Any stories? Experiences?
Please Help? :(
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It's your choice, but I don't recommend it. And you shouldn't have to bare pain to show your fiance that you love him.
From my experience, even if you are totally not sober, it still hurts really bad.
But if you do do it, make sure you use some kind of lubricant. Without it, it can be really bad for your health.
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That ranks in the top 5 WORST ideas I've ever heard.
Let me get this straight; you think him putting his schlong in your ass will make him just feel the magic of love? A) You should be able to express your love in ways that won't tear your rectal lining and B)This whole mentality shows your relationship might not be the strongest or most stable.
Don't do it, and get some marriage counseling.
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Well in my opinion I don't think you should have to do anal sex to show your fiance that you love him more. Having anal sex doesn't prove anything like that. From experiece, It hurts REALLY bad. My boyfriend and I tried it a few times because I just wanted to see what it was like doing it and if it hurt as bad as everyone said it does. Well the truth is, it hurt 10 times worse than what I thought it would. Still to this day, he has never been able to go all the way in with it because it hurts so bad. I guess using KY and other lubs could help but it's not my cup of tea if you know what I mean. ♥
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Yeah, you have been given lots of info. on the many risks, so I will only add this. You do not need to try so hard. Don't do something or be talked into anything just to "show him that i love him"...blah blah blah. That is so typical of the girl who is insecure and the guy that takes advantage..it is really a boring old story. There is nothing about any sexual or non-sexual activity that "proves your love" or any other ridiculous notion. If he pushes you or bugs you about doing anything you really are not into, but feel obligated out of "love" then you need to do yourself a big favor and call off the wedding. Your fiance is most likely wanting to have anal sex because he is either gay or has been watching porn. Find out which it is before trying on white dresses.
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First off, anal sex is very risky and there are many dangers of participating in such activities.
Among the diseases with which anal sex is associated are HIV, anal cancer (seriously), typhoid fever, and various diseases associated with the infectious nature of fecal matter or sexual intercourse in general. Among these are: Amoebiasis; Chlamydia; Cryptosporidiosis; E. coli infections; Giardiasis; Gonorrhea; Hepatitis A; Hepatitis B; Hepatitis C; Herpes simplex; Human papillomavirus (HPV); Lymphogranuloma venereum; Pubic lice; Salmonellosis; Shigella; Syphilis; Tuberculosis. Using condoms will decrease these risks; however, they do not protect 100%.
Physical damage to the rectum and anus are serious and hemorrhoids, anal fissures, and rectal prolapse may occur. Damage is more likely if communication is poor or if technique is clumsy; condoms do not help protect against this sort of damage. Basically, if you don't know what you're doing or you end up doing something wrong by accident you may end up in the emergency room having surgery or stitches.
You need to ask yourself some questions:
Can you imagine being rushed to the emergency room? Who would take you? How embarrassed would you feel? Can you deal with paying for them to sew you back up properly? Heck, can you imagine trying to use the toilet after such an experience?
Small tears that can happen during anal sex can easily become infected. The membrane inside the rectum is VERY thin and fragile so it tears very easily. Even if there seems to be no complications the tears can be very irritating and can become inflamed later on. It doesn't matter how "gentle" your partner is, your will probably suffer some tearing and possibly even some bleeding. It can also become uncomfortable for you to pass a stool afterward.
It is also very easy to get a vaginal infection from anal intercourse if your partner enters the vagina after being in the anus. Even if he knows not to enter the vagina afterward, he may accidentally slip. The infection would be bacterial can actually do major damage to you--rendering you infertile. Really, anal sex is more likely to result in an infection than vaginal sex would.
As a note, the vaginal infection could be something simple like a yeast infection, but is usually a bacterial infection. If left untreated, these sorts of infections can cause serious problems later in life and can also render you completely infertile.
It's also common for urinary tract infections to occur after anal sex. Yes, they are curable but they can become serious if left untreated and are, overall, rather uncomfortable to deal with. Condom usage would help your partner to avoid this complication.
Incontinence has also been reported from engaging in anal sex. Basically this means that the anal sphincter loosens up from the activity. This also means that anal leakage can become an issue for the receiving end. It also may mean the inability to completely control your bowels when needed.
Sex doesn't show love is you think about it. I know it may seem like a loving activity; however, prostitutes have sex with random people every single day and don't feel a bit of feeling toward their customers. Show your love by doing something non-harmful, non-sexual and something immensely special. If you do something unique then it'll be something great to look back on in your old age and say, "Remember when...!" and you can tell grandchildren and such.
Many girls on here claim it hurts a lot. There really isn't a way to make it not hurt because it is endangering your body. Your body sends signals of pain because it is being HURT and you do not want to hurt your body. Serious problems come out of things like this--wanting to do something special with a partner and winding up on a hospital bed for a week while the doctor tries to sew them back together properly.
I hope you become better informed before making a serious decision like this so you don't put yourself into a harmful situation.
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