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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

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So what's the deal with diet coke? It's zero calories and no fat, and only 1% sodium of the daily amount. Other than the caffiene, is there something else in it that's not good for you?

It has either aspartame, sacharine, or Splenda.
It has been proven that aspartame can cause cancer, sacharine can cause tumors, and Splenda actually makes you more hungry, which causes you to gain weight. You'd be better off with flavored mineral water or all natural sparkling fruit juice.

how does a doctor check for a hormone imbalance.
i've been reading in magazines that excess hair and an irregular mentruation cycle after 6 months of having your period are signs of a hormone imbalance that can be treated. i am thinking that maybe i have this, but how does a doctor check for this? and how is it treated?

thank you. =).

Have your doctor check just in case, but it's normal to have an irregular cycle for up to a year, and excess hair could just be genetic.

My hair is brown with blonde streaks, but i want to change it for summer, please tell me how you dye your hair with kool aid and tell me how much it works i mean how well it works , like if it gives off a realyl good color, or is really weak ...and can you dye your hair with hawaiian punch?

Don't do it. It turns your hair a combination of green and orange, and looks really awful- my cousins did it and it took a year for it to full wash/grow out. Hawaiian punch probably does the same thing.
Hair dye, especially the temporary kind, isn't that expensive- under $10- go to Walmart or the drugstore and find a color you like. To enhance your color, try John Frieda Color Glaze. If you want a more subtle change, put lemon juice (to make it more blonde), cranberry juice (to make it more auburn), or blueberry/grape juice (to make it more "blue") in a spray bottle with water, spray it in your hair, and lay out in the sun for about an hour.

okay i am dark brunette and im thinking i wanna go blonde. okay is that a good idea? and im going to the beach and im gonna be swimming so will that ruin it?? thanx guys

Very, very, very bad idea. I know lots of people who have tried it...if your hair is darker than light brown, it will turn your hair orange. Try some highlights instead.

Lately, my eyelids have been red and chapped. Does anyone know what could have caused this and how i can treat/prevent this? Thanks.

First of all, it's not pinkeye- pinkeye makes your actual eyeballs red (i just had it). Most likely sunburn or windburn, depending on where you live- apply lotion or aloe vera daily.

Everytime I plug my ipod into my computer, the computer shuts off, and it wont come back on. It's starting to get really annoying and now I can't charge my ipod anymore so now I can't listen to it. I just got the computer back from being fixed and I'm too scared to try to plug the ipod back in. I asked the computer guy what was up with it and he said it was because the ipod has so much power and stuff but he didn't really tell me what I could do. Please help me!
-Jess

If it's a laptop, you're not supposed to plug it in. Otherwise, try your ipod on another computer (if it's the only computer in your house, go to a friend's house) and see if the problem is with the ipod or with the computer. If it's the ipod, go to the Apple store and ask for help; if it's the computer, go back to the computer guy and ask him what to do. In the meantime, if you want to charge it, most ipod speakers charge- if you don't want to buy it a lot of people have them.

How long do hangovers last and is there anything I can do to feel better?

Alka-seltzer mixed with water (use it to wash down advil or ibuprofen), "simple" foods (stuff that you'd have when you're sick), and Sprite. 3-5 hours usually, being active (despite what people say), helps a lot- take a walk.

hey well last night i installed the sims 2 along with the sims 2 nightlife. my computer has a big memory so i guess i could put lots of stuff in it. the thing is when i started to play the neighboorhoods were loading so slow .. actually EVERYTHING was loading slow .. i'm not sure why this happens because when i use the internet my computer loads fast. I have limewire and have about 400+ songs in it so i was wondering maybe that's one of the problems that my sims game is loading so slow? please help .. i rate 5's. Thank You

The Sims 2 is always like that, but what you can do is close background tasks to make it run faster. Open task manager (Ctrl + alt + delete

What`s the best thing to use for pimples that actualy works? & that I don`t have to orde.

Tea tree oil is cheap, natural, and works really well. You can get it at health food stores, Trader Joe's, Walmart/Target, and most drugstores.

so ive been on my period for about..3 days now *first time* and it is getting heavier each day, or it seems to be. and i was wondering if that was normal and if there is anything else i need to know. thnks in advance :]

As it goes on it will get heavier, you'll be able to tell when it's starting to end because it will be lighter and the color will usually be darker or more brown.

i just got my braces off and i am upset about the results, my teeth are straight but they are yellow,i was wondering what the best whitener would work since i can't afford expensive treatments thanks a bunch! also i am a 13/f

Crest Whitestrips are easier to use, no gross taste, and compared to treatments you can get at the dentists office, they're really cheap. You can buy them at Walmart, Target ,most drugstores, and drugstore.com . Stay away from whitening toothpastes (don't work and overpriced) and the "paste" or "gel" that you "paint" on your teeth (same thing).

When is it like the 'ok' age to have sex? My friend, I believe shes rushing into it way too quick. Since shes only 14. She hasn't done much yet. But, I'm worried about her. Health wise, & 'reputation wise' What age is the ok age? & what should I say to her, & her boyfriend/best friend [there on & off. as a couple. -__-] about it?

Most girls I know started at 15 or 16. My personal "ok age" is 16, and if I've been going out with the guy for at least six months. Parents/law say 18 and most religions say wait until marriage but realistically the average age is about 16, at least people I know.

i dont want to tell my doctor im sexualy active but i want birth control. i think im going to tell him my period has been going on for 15 days for the last times i had it and that i normally only get it for 5 days. or if i DO tell him i am sexualy active will he tell my mom or is it between me and him?

I know you don't want to tell your doctor, but you need to- just ask him first if he will keep it confidential.

Im 5'8" ish.. and i LOVEE high heels.. but i never buy or wear them because i feel so HUGE with them on.. im only 16 and i dont want to be intimidating (especially to boys!) Do guys find tall women attractive or do they prefer shorter (5'5", 5'6") more attractive? By the way..the way to describe my body is muscular.. my thighs are really toned and im about 151 lbs. Oh, and i have big boobs. Should i stick to flip flops or go with high heel strappy sandals which id LOVE to wear and feel confident!?

I'm about that height too and I wear heels anyway...it makes your legs look longer and helps your posture, which will make you look better too. There are lots of tall guys out there so don't worry about it...the only thing I don't recommend is wearing like 5-inch heels, I had a pair of heels like that and I felt awful in them. But don't worry about it...most guys I know don't mind...

which is better an Ipod or an Mp3 player and y?

Ipods are much easier to work with (add music to, etc) and have better customer service. Mp3 players aren't much cheaper anyway. Get the Ipod video if you want something to entertain you on car rides, plane trips, whatever. Nanos are better for running or exercise/dance and carrying around with you everywhere. Also make sure to get applecare (it's like insurance for if it breaks) and check with your regular insurance because they do get stolen or lost a lot.

My girlfreind want me to eat her out after we have had sex .We dont use a condom as she is on depro needle. My question is if i like doing it and knowing im eating my own sperm does it make me gay

No. Being gay means you are attracted to other men. Having your sperm in your mouth has nothing to do with that. (Although I guess it could be considered masturbation).

Sorry if it's not in the right category.
For my theatre program I'm in, my music director taught us a warm-up that goes (and this spelling might be wrong): pamininy pamininy pamininy po, bully bully bully bully bully bully bah, digeree digeree digeree do, hamininee hamininee hamininee hah. If anyone knows the song, the show its from, or who wrote it that would be beyond spectacular, but if not does anyone know of any way I can search the internet or a lyrics site with just knowing some of the words. thank you so much!

Lyricssearch.com you can look for lyrics- but almost all warmups are not "real songs" or from a show.

I just found out that there is going to be a ten year highschool reunion for my grad class this august. I said I was going to go and already sent the check in the mail. Well I looked at the website for who is already signed up to go and this guy that was really popular who I was madly in love with is going to be there. He knew I liked him and treated me like dirt. I still get nightmares sometimes. I've changed alot since school. My question is how can I be less nervous when I go and have to see him? Also how should I act around him?

This is your chance to make him sorry. Get a cute dress, do your hair and makeup...and then ignore him. Pretend you have no idea who he is, no matter what. Don't let him ruin your evening. Be proud of yourself for realizing what a jerk he is and try your best not to worry about it.

My face gets so oily so quickly. I wash and wash and wash my face constantly, and it never ever stays oil free. My face never drys out because it's always so oily! Is there a certain scrub/wash that I can use that really helps and makes my face stay dry and clear all day?! Thank-you.

Part of the reason it's so oily could be because you wash it so much. Oily actually means that your skin is dry and so produces extra oil to make up for it. Wash your face when you wake up and before you go to bed and use a light oil free moisturizer each time (http://cleanandclear.com/products/facial_moist/dual_action.shtml) . During the day carry around oil blotting sheets (http://cleanandclear.com/products/finishers/oil_absorb.shtml) and pressed powder. Also, remember oily skin isn't necessarily a bad thing: it means you'll have less or no wrinkles when you're older!

My friends are always talking. And recently, they have been talking about the different types of sex. I thought there was only one. Are there more and what are they? Does making out count as sex?

Oral (mouth)
Fingering (hands)
Anal
"Regular"

Making out- no.

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