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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Ok let me go into detail so you can get a good idea its long though.

Just yesterday I had a presentation and I made DIY rainbow roses, they mixed spin some color and started to wilt. They weren't as vivid as I expected but they were fair I got this idea from pinterest. Before that I got another idea ( Pinterest also). It was a confetti bowl, I made it and it basically fell apart not presentable glue glob mess ( only a for fun craft). Then I tried chocolate bowls and chocolate lace bowls both worked until I ruined them myself. So some of the pinterest things work and some don't. All of the posts seem so neat! Even ones that seem impossible are gorgeous. I have a science fair next year had it this year but it is optional. I decided I would enter next year so my decision is made on that. Should I use pinterest for ideas categories vary and I've seen a few intriguing items. But sometimes experiments don't work and even non experimental ITEme to. I know I could try them out before hand but I don't want to try everything. Would I be better off if I just made a volcano or something? (link)
Hello there fellow Pinterest fan!

As you have learned not all the crafts work so well.
There is a blog http://epicpinterestfail.com/ & Even a pin board I believe its called Nailed it! Pinterest fails. If you what to see some hilarious fails. You are not alone!

I don't think you should give up. You have plenty of time between now & then to find one that works. Just do some hard thinking before you try something.
I have seen that rose thing work with just one color.

Do you have Pin boards of your own? If not, you should consider making some. Its a fun hobby. You can even make yourself a board for "Things to try" & another for "Tried these and they didn't work".

Have fun with your experiments. :)


M/17
This girl that like or have crush on,I dont know what to do anymore. This past few weeks we gotten really close to each other,we texted a lot but i dont if thats enough. I mean She knows that i have a crush on her,because I confess it to her,its suppose to be an April fools prank but I lost the oppurtunity to say the "April Fools" so I yeah she knows. Of all the girls that I have a crush on Shes the different one,because I didnt even bother to know those girls more,but this girl shes really different from the others....I dont know. I miss her a lot,because its summer vacation here in the Philippines,and Im not gonne see her at school anymore because were entering college soon (we have a different schooling system here) I think Im falling for her,and this my first time to make an effort to know a girl. Oh and never had Girlfriend before so I dont know what to do...so bear with me...Should I continue this?? (link)
You need to talk to her. If texting is your only way of communication, let her know that you are serious. Make sure she knows she stands out as different than all others and that you would really like to get to know her better. Talk to her in person if that's at all possible. If it isn't talk to her however you can. Just do it. :)


What are some special studies and skills of a dental assistant? (link)
I think I found a site that tells you what you are wanting to know. Check this out. :)

http://www.lanecc.edu/hp/dental/dental-assisting-essential-skills-and-abilities


My ex has been troubling me....he is threatening me that he would upload my nude pics on social media..I don't know how he got those pics...I'm really scared....can I do anything if he uploads those pics??is it punishable??will he be punished by law??I am from india (link)
Oh my. Let this be a lesson for all the ladies out there. No matter how good you think your relationship is, things can change over time.
If you allow someone to take nude photos of you,
it can come back to haunt you in the future.

Yes, if he posts those nude pics of yours online, he could probably get in trouble. The problem is that it could cost you a lot in legal fees to get him to pay up. I suggest you talk to an attorney & ask how you should handle this. If you cannot afford to do that, you might check with a college where they teach law. Sometimes law students (in connection with the school), can help you for free or at very low cost to help with their education. That is where I would start. Good luck
to you. I hope he gets in trouble!






















































































































































































































































































































































what do i do? i am a girl my best friend is a boy and i have a crush on him, how do i tell him it without it being super awkward? (link)
I think it could get awkward if he doesn't feel the same. It could also change your entire relationship if he doesn't feel the same. You need to be aware of that before saying anything. If he doesn't feel the same he could back off & you wouldn't want that to happen.

I do agree that it would be best to discuss it with him when you are alone.

Do you have any reason to think he feels the same? I think if it were me I would maybe just be friends and see what happens. I think if you both feel the same it will become obvious sooner or later.


ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
This site is only for people 13 years old and older. We have to delete your question remove you from the site.

Please tell your parents that you are depressed so they can take you to a doctor. It sounds like you could use some help.


I told my friend I liked him and although he said he didn't like me as a crush, we agreed to still be friends. It's been about three months now and I want to get over him. Therefore I don't message him first anymore now but do respond and talk when he does. He used to message me first but for the last week he doesn't and at school even it seems like we don't talk much anymore. Even though I know I want to get over him, it is kinda heartbreaking when he doesn't message now. Should I message first? Why does it seem like he is kind of avoiding me? How can I get over him as a crush but still have him as a friend? I'm a 11th grade girl if that helps. (link)
I think you may have scared him a little.

I would imagine it is a little tough for him to text you first because he probably isn't sure what he should be doing. He probably doesn't want to hurt your feeling or make you feel bad in any way.
I would say he is backing off a little to make it easier on you. If he were to just continue to text first like nothing had happened, you may not take it seriously that he doesn't have feelings for you like that.

Let some time pass. You can still be friends but it may take a while before you can be as close as you have been in the past. To answer how you can get over him and still have him as a friend...it will just take time. Not a good quick fix but that's the only answer.


My fiancée and I were fooling around a month ago and after I gave him a HJ and he came, he went to the bathroom to clean up and I for whatever reason put my finger into my vagina. I did not feel any wetness on my finger from the semen. Two weeks later I got my period, however it was slightly irregular due to recently stopping the pill. Is there any chance that I may be pregnant? I've also taken two pregnancy tests in the past week, both negative. I'm just experiencing a lot of anxiety due to this. (link)
You could probably get pregnant if you had semen on your finger & then put that finger in your vagina.
It wouldn't be a real strong likelihood, but it could happen.

Since you have had a period since that time, I don't think you are pregnant. You have also had a couple of negative tests. Anxiety can cause period irregularity too. I don't think you have anything to worry about at all. Do be careful in the future. :)


Which medicine therapy would be best for a diabetes patient? (link)
Whatever your doctor recommends. Write down any questions you gave before you go to the doctor
and have a long talk with the doctor about your treatment.


How should i trust on ayurvedic medicine for diabetes? (link)
Ask your doctor about the medication. If the doctor feels it is right for you then try it if it sounds like something you need. It can be very hard to get blood sugar under control. Follow your doctors advice.


Hy bro my name is honey I live in Pakistan lahore
I have a good relationship with my girlfriend
From 4 year but I can't do sex with her because she
Don't want to sex from for year ago ? She always
Said me that she's not type of that all girls
Who do sex ? But I want to do sex with her
So plz tell me who I forced her to do sex
With me ? Give me some tips ? Take care a lot
I am waiting for ur ans ? (link)
You don't force women to have sex with you.
That is rape & rape is a crime. If it isn't a crime'
where you are it should be. If a woman doesn't want sex with you, leave her alone. She doesn't like you.
find someone who does.


How to prevent diabetes and which therapy should i use to get rid of diabetes? (link)
There are no doctors here that can help you with this. Every persons diabetes reacts differently to medications. The only one who can hep you with this answer is your doctor.


Sexually speaking hoe do u knoe if a boy loves u (link)
To be very honest, you really can't tell for sure. If he tells you he loves you, its up to you weather or not you believe him. Some people do tend to lie to get their way sexually. So, unless you have known someone a very long time & trust them a lot, there is no way to really truly know for sure.


Hi,
I am working for a company part-time and the way my company keeps track of hours spent on certain projects is through a program. If I spend an hour on project A then I will put it into the system and mark 1.0 hour, etc (And that is the amount that reflects my paycheck). Recently my company has been a bit slow so I have been leaving early. My supervisors don't have anything for me to do when I ask them, so I see there's no point in me staying there. Today I stayed there for 8 hours and was only able to charge about half of my time there because for almost 4 hours I had no work to do, but I was basically told to wait there until something comes up. Personally, I feel that it is not fair of them to ask me to stay for 8 hours and give me work that is only chargeable for about half the time I have been there. The way the system works for part-timers is basically... I will get payed by the hours I've spent on the project, so if I'm sitting there for 3 hours doing nothing on an 8 hour day, then I will only get paid for 5 hours. But I'm only sitting there for 3 hours doing nothing because I have absolutely nothing to do from my supervisors. How can I bring this issue up to my company? (link)
This is real simple. If they are taking up YOUR time
for 8 hours, even if they have nothing for you to do, they better pay you for 8 hours. Like it or not. You were away from home and "waiting" at their request.

Look up the labor relations board for your state. Call and ask them some questions. They will help you out.



22/f
In an ldr for around 2 months now.My boyfriend is moody..he retreats into his cave.
I last spoke to him day before yesterday and he was all lovey dovey.
And yesterday he didn't reply to my messages and later when I asked him if he's busy, he said he's not but unhappy with his uni.
He moved there 2 months back. Things have been hectic for him I'm assuming.
He skypes often.Usually initiates it all the time.
Talks to me well and all that's there.
I do not like the fact that his mood swings get to me.
I asked him if hes unhappy with the relationship, he said not at all,and he had mood swings last week as well (so I asked him if it was me,he assured it wasn't)
So I dunno if this is a way of signalling that hes donw wit the relationship.
I am totally paranoid when it comes to this.
I asked him "if this changes things between us"
Him : no not the relationship
Me : it eventually would,if you stop talking to me.
Him : I wouldn't stop talking to u,my feelings for you haven't changed
I'm having a bad day.

What am I supposed to assume from this?
I'm confused!:(

(link)
Long distance relationships are hard to be in.
Its like texting. Some things you just don't get into because its difficult to explain & be understood. I can't tell you how many arguments and hurt feelings I have had texting my husband. When we can't see someone or hear the way they are saying something, it can get taken the wrong way.
So, talking to someone long distance can be tough.

Then there is just everyday life. You both make friends with people the other doesn't know. After a while its easier to just not speak of those relationships. To much explaining to do.

Then there are the get together's and parties. College is a time for getting to know people. It could make someone feel guilty for having fun without their significant other.

Its not the best time to be separated. But it can be worked out if you do a lot of talking about things. Its kinda up to the both of you. If he isn't to far away maybe you need to get together for a face to face in person conversation.

You may also need to take into consideration the fact that it is really hard for some people to be away from home during the holidays. Throws a lot of people into depression. Maybe he is having some of that. A good in person talk is called for.

Best of luck.


My friend has been using her facebook for the last week but did not accept my friend reqwest until a week later why did she wate so long is it a girl thing (link)
She probably just didn't notice it right away. I don't think its a girl thing. Maybe you could just ask her and see what she has to say about it.


I'm 16 and I've had a thing with a guy that's 8 years older than me, since I was 14. He's had the same girlfriend since we started. They have two kids together. He tells her all the time that he doesn't want to be with her though and he tells everyone close to him, including her and his own mother, that he's leaving her when I turn 18, to be with me, since it's technically illegal with me still being a minor. I've known him my whole life, and he's stuck to the same thing since we started this crazy thing. Do you think he'll really leave her to be with me? And if it affects anything, the kids aren't really his, but he raises them. (link)
If you don't love a person, you don't stick around.
You are a fun diversion. He tells you he has told her and his mom & others things, but he is a liar.
When you cheat on someone, you are a liar & a cheat.
To expect anything more is crazy.

You are young and you are being taken advantage of. I'm not wanting to hurt your feelings but, you need to break the cycle now. If you don't men will take advantage of you and hurt you your whole life.

I know you want to believe that he tells you the truth & that he is different from all the other men who pull this routine all the time. He isn't. He is old enough to know better. You won't want to but what you need to do is tell another adult & stop him from doing it to other young girls. If he doesn't have yet another on the side yet, he will have as soon as you wise up.


Ok so im kinda very worried, well have been for about a week or two. So im 14 and i rhink i might be pregnant, but the problem is im still a virgin. I know its probably not posble but i read online on a different medical website its possible for sperm to be on a toilet seat and transfered that way and like 2-3 other possible answers. Im showing all the possible signs of early pregnancy and im pretty late on my period. I dont want to tell my parents yet because it might just be something else or nothing and i dont want to scare them so im seeking medical advice before i ask to take a pregnancy test. (link)
If you have been with a boy and somehow got semen in your vagina, it is possible you can get pregnant.
Toilet seats & things like that...Probably not.

When you are 14 there are many reasons you may not get your period. Stress being one of them, and just being a young teen can mean you miss a period now & then. If you are athletic, that can cause periods to stop too.

All the other symptoms you might have can be caused by other things as well. I think you should just remain calm and see what happens next month. Don't stress out because that doesn't help. If you haven't been with a boy sexually, chances are very good your symptoms are not related to being pregnant.


I have this friend that censures people 24/7 and she thinks it's hilarious but I do not. Recently, she saw my mom, my mom has a small cyst on her face and she made fun of her. It really offended me. She keeps telling me that her whole family criticizes people (as always, she thinks its funny), and I don't know how she can be proud of that. It just shows how immature her family is, and turned her into the immature child she is now. We had an obstacle course test in PE a few days ago (I'm the most unfit skinny person you might ever know) and we had the longest running time cause I'm not used to physical activities and all my groupmates are mad at me including the one that made fun of me, and she has this attitude where you tick her off just a little bit, she ignores you for a really long time. What should I do? I really dont want to go back to cutting myself with shards. (link)
Well, whatever you decide to do with your friendship, cutting won't fix it. So, don't go back to that regardless!

You need to ask yourself why this person is your friend. She sounds like a real piece of work in your question to us, but, its easy to make one sound like they have no redeeming qualities when you are upset with them. :)

If she is really so bad that she is unable to take other peoples feelings into account, then I wouldn't hang out with her or be her friend any more. Does she make fun of YOU all the time? If so, that's even more reason to find a new friend. You need friends who are nice and make you feel good about yourself. Not one who is negative and has to belittle others to make themselves feel good.

So, my advice will be to find a new friend or friends. Just say you have decided it is best for you to find positive people to be friends with. If she wants to make fun of you for that, let her. You will be better off in the long run. Negative people tend to make you negative too. Nobody needs that.

I know it may seem like a hard thing to do but it will work out fine. I am betting there are others who will want to be friends simply because she isn't hanging around with you any more.

And no cutting! Ignore any crap she throws your way. Don't let her win by cutting yourself. Get rid of ALL negative things. :)


What happens if a girl swallow sperm of a girl during blowjob? (link)
Nothing at all.




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