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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!

I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I can never go to the toilet, I can only go after alcohol , I have bad stomach acke all the time , full of gas , and my stomach feels like its tensing.on a night my stomach bloats to a size I look at leaste sik months pregnant, and carnt even breath out. My weight up and down I have a under active thyroid , I'm only 22 .it make me feel down .. After 4-7 days I start sicking my food up , find it hard to keep bit portions down ,, I each healthy and drink plenty of water ,
This only started 4 yrs ago after having a child however has got considerabley worse .. However when I go it not a strain it normal ..
You need to see a doctor. Call and make an appointment today. If you can't afford that go to a clinic or something. Don't suffer like this because it will only get worse. Then it will cost even more.

Seriously, call and see a doctor. This is not normal.

OKay so I wont take long I am senior and in the 12th grade and there is this new admission in my school he is in the 11th grade
he is cute and i kinda want to get to know him
but the problem is i am a senior.. and it would be really weird just walking upto him and saying HIIII and conversing
that sort of stuff cant happen
i mean you know i am fairly popular in school and my friends notice. and i know the 11th grade people quite well
and i dont want stupid stuff going around school
this guy is really cute and i really think he might just turn out to be my type
but i dont know how i get to know him!!!!!!! (link)
Sorry I've taken so long in answering, I haven't been able to log in!

I say go say hi. Really, seniors should be welcoming to new people in the school.

If you like him then be friendly. I dated a junior
when I was a senior. Last month we celebrated our
36th wedding anniversary. Go for it!

i woke in the middle of the night it felt like my whole body was asleep only my eyes were open it felt like I was sufficating I just had to sit there and wait till I fall asleep. what causes this mess..... (link)
There is a condition known as sleep paralysis.
what you describe sounds a lot like it. If you
think you may have this, see your doctor for

Here is a search for you. Lots of information out there.

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im 13 female and my boobs hurt....but not growing hurt...everytime i grab them it hurts and i dont even grab them this normal...whats happening??? im confused!!!!! (link)
Does it happen all the time or just now and then?
It could be a PMS symptom. Sometimes when a girl is about to get her period her boobs will get really sore and painful. It can happen as early as a week before.

If that isn't it, and that IS a normal thing, you should probably mention it to your doctor.

My brother has asthma and he doesnt like to take treatments. When he takes breathing treatments he still stops breathing in his sleep. Could he have sleep apnea?
Sometimes he starts breathing again when u pat him on the back (link)
He sure could have. Have you said anything to your parents about it? He needs to get a sleep study done. I have sleep apnea myself & the test is easy enough to get. His regular doctor can probably set it up for him.

He will go into the sleep study place and spend the night. They will put little wires all over him but they don't hurt or anything. Then some people will monitor him while he sleeps. Easy as pie.

If he does indeed have sleep apnea, they will get him a C-PAP machine he will have to wear to sleep in. That can take a while to get used to, but he will get a much better nights sleep.

Say something to your parents.

hiya im 18 and female, for sometime now i have been questioning my gendre and wanting to be a boy. I walk like one, talk like one and i often dress like one as i find it more comforting, more myself. I just dont know how to bring it up with my parents, i am scared of there reaction. I have even researched all i need to know about the operations. How do I start the conversation of? please help me i feel trapped (link)
It will be a difficult conversation for sure. I think the best advice I could give you is for you to ask & talk to others in your situation & those who have been through it before.

Here is a forum I think would have the best advice for you. Best of luck to you. :)

Ok first off
Me: 15/F
Her: 14/F

We got together last year on the 26th December and today she said that she cant take the emotions of a serious relationship when she is this young. She sayd that we're are both to young but she still loves me. She said to wait until she is older (16-ish) or has left high school (18) I love her so much. I will wait until she is ready. She is my first, my one and only true love and I told her I will wait. But I know its gonna be really hard for me. I leave highschool at 16 so ill be introduced to new people after that. I know it's gonna be really hard for me. Has anyone got any advice for me? All advice is loved. (link)
The girl you love is right. You are both a bit young for a serious relationship. I know its really hard to understand that at the moment, but you will one day.

What you have to do is get out there and date other girls. She will date other guys. If you meet again later in life and want to try it again, you do. Just don't spend years waiting on her. I'm sure she doesn't expect you to.

It will hard for a while but it will get easier.

If you read my former questions, you will see all about the abusive relationship I have with my babys father. While he remains jobless, he is getting better at being a father so I am giving him one last chance. He hasnt put his hands on me in a long time. But I feel like the damage is done and I can not love someone I have no respect for. Anyway, I used to talk to a guy named pete before BD and I started dating. I had stronger feelings for pete than BD but I didnt think the feeling was mutual. 3 months into me and BD's relationship, pete told me how much he liked me and how gorgeous I was to him and how he is sad he never said anything. well three years later I have a baby with BD and always wonder what could have been.
I have nice dreams about pete, how it couldhave been but last night I had the most lucid dream about him I have ever had about anything.
We started hanging out again (we still talk bc we work together....but we dont hang out like we used to) and our feelings for eachother returned. We were so comfortable and at peace in eachothers grasp. It felt like he was saving me from the hell I am living in. He loved my daughter. He loved me. But it was all a secret...eventually BD puts the pieces together and leaves me, but I had no sadness, just joy. I am just unsure what this dream meant. I know I would never jump into another relationship right off the bat, and I doubt Pete still has these feelings for me. It was just the feeling of the dream was unlike anything I have ever was just nirvana. I just want to know what it is telling me. (link)
I don't think dreams necessarily hold any secrets about life. However, It may mean you have a need to escape the relationship you're in.

You said that you are giving BD one last chance, but to be honest, you don't really sound like you hold out much hope for the relationship.

I know its hard to just move on when you have a child to raise. But if this relationship is abusive then you need to just move on and be done with it. I think you know that & it may be
coming out in your dreams. It may be saying there is a good guy and a good relationship out there for you somewhere. May no be with Pete, but you can have a good relationship.

Good luck.

He left me giving any reason. why? (link)
Because sometimes guys are just that way. You should ask him why.

i am 16 years old...i luv sumone alot.its been four years.But he doesnt luv me instead i recently found that he luvs my best friend,my sweetheart.But my best friend doesnt..Now i am so depressed.Dont know what to say.i have many other family issues also..i am so fed up with everything.I just luv him so much.I dont want to be indifferent to my best friend due to him.I am so much tensed..Dnt know what to do.Plz help me,what should i do???:(
The sad thing is, we can't make someone love us. I think you will need to find someone else and stop
waiting on this guy. Who knows, if you move on to someone else, he may see what he's been missing.

As for your friend, Its not her fault he likes her.
So don't hold it against her.

The best thing you can do is to move on to liking someone else. Hopefully, someone who likes you too!
There are a lot of great guys out there waiting for you to stop mooning over the one who doesn't like you that way at the moment. Don't waste any more time on him.

Me and my boyfriend had sex last week on a Friday I got my period the day after and it was heavy and I'm not showing signs am I pregnant or no? I'm a girl. (link)
You are probably NOT pregnant if you had your period afterwards.

To prevent scares in the future, if you are going to have sex, never ever have sex without a condom.
It would just cost you way to much emotionally, physically & be to life altering to get pregnant.
Been there done that! :)

Should you develop symptoms in the future, get a home test or see a doctor. I don't think you are though.

Hi, idk if this is the correct category to be asking this question but I sorta figure that this is the closest?

Anyway, I'm 22 year old female and I'm confused about well, if I'm straight or lesbian or bi. (I'm female despite my username.) I found myself looking at other girls a lot lately. I look at their chests and their legs and that's it. I don't have any sexual thoughts about it. I just look.

Also, I have a boyfriend(whom I love very much) and when we make out, I do get turned on though the overall experience in bed is just ok. I enjoy it but sometimes, I don't know if I'm just faking it or am making myself enjoy it. Plus, we don't really talk that much about what we like. I get more aroused when we like talk about our fantasies when we chat or when I read heterosexual erotic literature. Idk if it's just that well, I'm the first girl he did more than kiss and me, him, so we're both inexperienced.

And lastly, I remember panicking when my boyfriend asked me if I liked gay guys. I didn't immediately hear the guys bit. My brain stopped at gay and I panicked. This also happened when my guy asked me if I was dressing up to impress other girls. It turns out he was quoting an article but yeah, I sorta panicked for some reason.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated. (link)
While you may have some fear of being gay, I don't believe you are. There is nothing wrong with finding people of the same sex attractive. It doesn't mean you are gay.

You aren't having sexual thoughts about the same sex. You say you enjoy sex with your current partner. I think it is just a matter of his being inexperienced.

Stop panicking and try to relax. I think all the feelings you are having are perfectly normal.

So me and my ex have been dating for almost 2 years. We havent exactly had the best relationship because he has just began to overcome a drug problem and when he was on pills, he would break up with me a lot saying that he loves me and wants to be with me in the future but knows right now he isnt whats best for me. That would be understandable I guess if he meant it, but whenever he would dump me he'd come back within a week. He's been almost a month clean now but hestopped trying in our last friday, I actually ended it. The only problem is I have never felt this sad and alone. I work and am taking summer classes so I dont see too much of my friends and most of them are mutual friends so I feel depressed seeing them. I was really sweet In my breakup text(text cause he wouldnt call or see me) and he just said ok. But then later at night he said um sorry. But that is the last time ive heard from him. I miss him so much and since its been a week, im doubtful that he will come back. I dont even know what id do if he did come back because I want so badly to be with him but I know its prob not whats best and my family hates him. Im just looking for some insight and hoping maybe you guys have a similar situation and can lemme know if u think he will come back. (link)
To be honest I think it is over. Its always sad and lonely after a break up but you need to find a way to move on. Many times a clean and sober person has a need to leave behind all people who were part of their former life. If he is doing that then he probably will not be back.

Do your best to keep busy. You will find someone to have a healthy relationship with. Just take your time and you will soon see this breakup was probably for the best.

Hi, everyone. My boyfriend who is 18 just got a ticket for being with a minor who was in posesion of weed. Although my boyfriend did NOT have anything on him he got a ticket. Can an officer really do that when he had done nothing wrong? Or could the ticket be from being with the minor? Also, my boyfriend has a past record, could this have somthing to do with it? And will he go to jail? (link)
Well, unfortunately they can. Its hard to prove he wasn't going to be sharing the weed I suppose. If he has a past record, that doesn't help him any.

I would imagine if he just got a ticket he will pay it and that will be the end of it. If he were going to jail I would have thought they would have arrested him on the spot.

Keep in mind I really don't know what the laws are like wherever you live. This is simply an educated guess.

Hi! I am from Pakistan. I am 19 years old boy. From few months I mostly do masturbating daily so I want to ask that whether it effects me or effects my body or power or not..?? I heard that by doing masturbating, we lose our power or sex ability and also effect our sex life Is this all correct or not?? Please tell me about this as soon as possible... Thanks (link)
Masturbation is a perfectly healthy and safe way to have sex at 19. It will not have any ill affects at all.

Its a great pregnancy prevention & it keeps you safe from sexually transmitted diseases. You will not lose any power or sexual ability at all.

Im 24 yrs old and I have a 3yr old daughter and I am ready for the next one. My boyfriend of 5 yrs is on board but we have been trying since febuary and nothing! Im getting a little impatient, what can I do to speed things up. I need advice on how to get pregnant soon,i dont want my kids to far apart. Please help..... (link)
I wouldn't get to concerned just yet. If you have been taking birth control pills, it takes a while for all that medicine to get out of your system. I'm
not sure how long it might take for you to get pregnant, but you could make an appointment with your doctor and get advice on how long it may take.

In the mean time, keep trying! Good luck. :)

What is it called when your mouth must be in constant motion ? Whether it's chewing on ice, chewing gum, talking, grinding your teeth...
I know it's considered a nervous habit, but I think there's a specific name for it. I go through a pack of gum every two days. Is there anyway to stop it ? (link)
I think the term you are looking for is oral fixation. There are sites that claim to have cures.
I recommend talking to your doctor about it for the best advice on cures.

Here is a search for you...

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16/f last moth my boyfriend and I had sex. I was kind of worried because I was supostoo have my period on the 10th (its always on that date) I ended up starting my period around the 28th about 1-2 weeks ago I had sex again (unprotected) afterwards I noticed I was spotting and this continued on and off for a few days. We had sex again 3 days ago (some of the cum that was on his stomach got on my vagina) and I'm still spotting. I ended up not haveing my period on the 10th again so maybe I'll start around the 28th again. Is this normal. Could I be pregnant? And my boobs have been kinda sore but only if I touch them around the nipple. I don't feel sick or anything What could this mean? (link)
If you are having unprotected sex you could be pregnant. NEVER have unprotected sex. If he can't afford a condom, he can't afford to support you and a baby.

Always insist the guy wear a condom. Go to a clinic, planned parenthood or a doctor and get on birth control as soon as you possibly can.

I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Here recently, a couple days before our 4 year which was like a week ago I went on to my boyfriends Facebook, just to randomly check up on him. I go through his messages and come across a conversation that my boyfriend started up. It goes along the lines of " Hey so I just wanted to let you know I had the biggest crush on you back in BCIS class and I thought you were cute" she said aww why didnt you tell me? i feel the same kind of thing. and he mentioned he STILL thinks shes cute and that the vodka helps. Gave his number to her and the next morning puts "even sober I meant all that" After that, I was BEYOND pissed and confronted him about it. He claimed he got drunk with a couple friends and left his Facebook up and his friend talked to a couple people. Obviously I don't believe him and his friend called me up and wanted to make sure he told me he's the one who talked to her and sorry for getting him in trouble and that he thought it was funny at the time. Also, I went ahead and messaged that girl, and of course she didn't respond like I thought. Which makes it seem more supicious. With all that said, I am not sure how to approach this issue. I often bring up I am still upset with him and he continues to deny it all. I feel as though it is never-ending. I don't know if I should either brush it off or end it between us because I don't think I could trust him after seeing that.

Any ideas? (link)
Is this the first time something like this has happened? If so, I'd be more inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt. Even though the story is a little fishy sounding. Out of curiosity, was it his number given to this girl or the friends number?

If you decide to brush it off, you have to stop bringing it up. I mean forever. Bringing it up all the time will just cause arguments & will do nothing to help your relationship. Its not only a reminder that he MAY have done wrong, but that you did too. You didn't trust him.

If you don't think you can ever forgive him enough to completely put it behind you and trust him, then end it. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship where you always worry & suspect someone of cheating.

im 20/f and i've never been on a date, not even one. however there's this friend who i would like to go on a date with. we're not that close but he's really friendly when we see each other. I don't wanna go on a date because i like him. i just wanna go on a real date for once. is it okay for a girl to ask for a date, or should i just be implying it? and how should i do that? im also reaaaaaaallly reaaaaaaally bad at flirting! plz help! (link)
If he isn't currently dating someone, there is nothing wrong with you asking him out. Simply ask him if he would like to go to a movie with you, or whatever you would like to do.

There is one thing that I'm not sure about & maybe one of the younger advisers could help with. Who pays? I'm thinking you would probably both pay your own way. Though would it then really be a date? I wish I had an answer for you on this part.

As far as flirting goes, if you aren't good at it, don't do it. I think flirting just comes naturally to some people & for others it just doesn't. So you are better off just being yourself.

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