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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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Well me and my ex broke up about a week ago after goin out almost 2 months, and i saw him last night at a football game and i tried to talk to him but he only said like hey and i gotta go, i mean we kinda talk in school but not really no more i think by us goin out we ruined our friendship, but he's the one who broke up with me so i dunno wats wrong with him. wat can i do to get my friend back ???
Getting out of a relationship and talking to your ex is very awkward. Esp. for the person who broke up the whole thing.
Just give him time to adjust. And no, a week isn't long enough. Give him at least a month to be on his own and then just strike up a conversation. If he still doesn't want to talk to you, then there might be (not saying that there is) a chance that he still has feelings for you and he wants to ask you out but feels its weird because he was the one who broke with you. And maybe he's jsut afraid of developing feelings for you and falling hopelessly in love =P
Erm so yeah. Just give him time to adjust and give him space
y dont you get a life. you filed an abuse report against me. you told me to get lost i thing you should be suspended to. i don't even care if i get banned. this is the worst freaking site ever. get lost
My dear, I never filed an abuse report. I'm sorry if I angered you by saying "get lost" but that is no reason to harass me online for and accuse me for things I did not do and for things that you have no support or proof of.
Promise. I just simply put up the question and a L2 moderator happened to read it. I'm sorry if you're mad because I didn't give you a sugar coated answer. But you sweetie indeed did reply with a "You're a poser. Don't be talking retard" and/or something along those lines.
I indeed to have a life thank you very much and I am not looking for a new one. Look at this way: About 40+ people like my advice. They don't care if it is or isn't sugar coated because they came here for advice. Not just to get people to agree on their ideas. And you my dear are over reacting for this is a great site. But it sometimes get a little pulled down by some people.
You are mad at me for telling you the truth. Yet you label me a poser and a retard and tell me to get lost. I don't label other than in cases where labeling is needed to explain some sort of things. I consider myself just myself. I am not a retard. Infact, retard is someone who is slow at things and my dear, I am not. If you insist that I am, you are criticizing me which I find funny in people because that just proves that they have nothing better to do in their lives and/or it boosts their egos up by calling others names.
If you think I am the rude one that should be suspended, what will you be? For you've done worse. But with no reason. Next time, before you just want to send another question criticizing me or some sort of those things in any way or form, know this: You are harassing me online with words.
How do you get rid of spyware infection? I downloaded ewido antivirus but it only got rid of malware....
And what can happen to my computer if I don't get rid of the spyware soon?
Please help!
Your computer can crash, get information stolen, files deleted, hacked into, slow down your cpu, and more. It all depends on the level of threat of each virus and spyware.
I downloaded EZ Antivirus and windows defender. Also I have pop up blockers installed.
You might want to download the two window programs listed above in order to get rid of the spyware, viruses, etc before it spreads other little ones and cause a big problem.
i really really need to get over my best mates girlfreind they have been going out for nearlly 8 months now and it had taken me this long to love her she knows i like her her bf knows i like her hees kool with it and so's every 1 else the thing is .. i'm not kool with it i gotta get over her as i really just want be best freinds again with this girl because thats all it was up untill now i feel like i am tryin to break them apart because i keep thinkin horrible thoughts about WHEN they break up and WHEN we are going out and so on i dont want to love her please give me a little advice on how to get over her so i can go back to normall life with my freinds .thanks.
Okay, my dear. Do not think about her. Don't hang out with them for a while. Get invovled in other clubs or something like that. Also just friendly talk to her. Be happy for both of them for having each other to go out with.
When let's call him bob. When bob was going out with a girl, I thought the same thigns too. Just talk to her and her bf online and just think of her as another one of your friends
ok im 15/f :) my best friend and i ride the bus. she met her boyfriend on the bus and now shes trying to set me up with her boyfriends best friend. she made sure that i sat next to him while her and her boyfriend were right beside us. she kept telling me to talk to him and i was like i dont even know him. so i asked him a few questions like his name and grade and some stuff. he seemed pretty nice. and hes pretty cute! but i didnt want to seem like an idiot. the rest of the way home tho i ran out of things to say and it was so awkward...how do i \"talk\" with him without seeming weird like because we dont even know eachother. and how do i talk to him casually so he wont think im crushing on him! im pretty sure my best friend and her boyfriend are gonna try to keep making us sit by eachother, so what should i say to him? and also, when my best friend gets off, and her boyfriends best friend gets off, its just me and her boyfriend. i never say a word to him because i dont know him and its awkward, but how do i talk to him without seeming stupid? because my best friend is like what did you and my boyfriend talk about and im like nothing and shes like you should talk to him more! please help thanks!
The key is just to be yourself. I don't know what I talk about but I can talk on and on with guys...but then I'm a tomboy in ways. Just go through the day...what happened. I always have something funny or idiotic happening cuz I have 3 classses with my partner in crime =P. And yesh. The history teacher is EASY to piss off. But I'm telling you to get yourself in trouble...erm yeah.
Just talk about music. I luv music. Guys should too. Talk about tv shows...or something. Talk about what he likes and about himself. EVeryone likes that lol. If you run out of things to say, have him start a convo.
Or just say "Awkward silence" and laugh it off.
Okay I know a lot of people are asking a lot of questions about being a goth or a punk rock emo kid. I would just like to say that I've always been one at heart but I've never been able to wear the style or express myself through my room.
I cant do the following: paint my room. buy anything very expensive as decoration.
I can do the following: buy clothes (but which store is best). Create (but what) stuff and put on my walls.
Any ideas? All will be appreciated!
Thanks in advance.
Appearances are nothing. Anyone can put on tight girl jeans or belts and buckles and all black but really about 67% of them will be posers. About 89% label and about 4% are true at heart. The rest of them consider themselves as something but really isnt.
All I can say is that hot topic is rad. I love that shop. So many pretty clothes.
Okay woah.. i have been havein the worst time at school latley. Okay so here it goes.Me & my best friend have been fighting latley alot this year.Me and her been best friends for going on 3 years now.Okay so theres this boy, lets say his name is BOB , okay well me and BOB were best friends in 7th grade and he really liked me and i liked him. But we never went out we were just really good friends.Well my best friend started to like him so now she really does.But me and BOB stopped talking over the summer and just a few days ago we decided to start getting closer and we wanted to become better friends.Well the next day he sat by me in class and he was flirting with me and my friend said that i was "flirting" back and she told my best friend that. So now she is very upset with me and she got all my other friends to hate me too. So i lost just about all my friends but i have a few still..=[ Like i d k what to do anymore. She had one of my really really good friends to go off on me and she called me a SLUT and a HO & stuff and it just really hurts me.Your probally gonna tell me to talk to her about it but it doesn't work that way. Today i just started crying really bad in 4th hour cause i can just see people giving me glances and weird faces & my best friend was right across the room ignoreing me completly..& it just hurts soo bad.. so i started crying and like my other really good friend started freaking out & was helping me but my teacher told me to go in the hall & i looked up & she was crying too.Like i never cried that hard in my life before.. seriously. Then at lunch shes actin kinda cool with me but i got called to the counselors.. & we worked it out PERFECTLY. She hugged me & said she loved me & she was sorry , & we even called te boy down there . My other good friend went to the counselor to inform her i was going to end up doing something stupid cause of everythings thats happening to me so she really helped me out.But now my best friend isn't calling me or answering her phone & i called her a little ago and she said shes still cuz shes been hearing stuff & its like wtf. Shes been beleiveing everyone but me & it hurts.. Like i d k what to do anymore.. i wanna start to cut or overdose on pills but i'm not sure yet. Too much drama.. what should i dooo ???
I myself cut, my dear. I'm addicted and I can't not get addicted. IT's a horrible habit and I myself am struggling with it. But really, suicide is a whimps way of facing stuff. I've tried suicide twice in 3 years. Trust me. It won't work. You have too much going on for you. Too many people who give shit about you.
This friend of yours is a really immature person & everyone who is a part of this whole riot against you. Spreading rumors believing it, say it, all childs game. They are the weak ones hiding behind words. Your "friend" seems to scared to comfront you face to face. Only the ones with heart and courage can do that. She is the one who ruined a friendship over a guy. That should never happen. Doesn't she know that it's hard to find good friends such as yourself? She found a good friend and she let the firendship get torn apart and thrown away for a STUPID unresonable reason. I mean if you slept with her guy, then I would understand from her point of view. But you didn't. You like this guy. So what. Flirting. Wow. What a slutty rude thing to do to a friend *mark the sarcasm*
I'm not going to tell you to talk to her because frankly, she doesn't even deserve a bit of your time. She broke you down into pieces and she is the bitch. You don't need people like that in your life. Ignore the rumors. If someone bothers you, just say "I'm sorry, I don't participate in rumors." OR "You're criticizing me and calling me names. That was way back in 3rd grade. I would cry over it then but now, I just laugh because it's just telling me a lot about you. You have no life. You feel better when you try to be immature. You are way to gullible" just don't make a bad come back or get into an argument. They will grasp that and use that against you.
If you really need support, I'm always here for everyone. I've been through that situation, where I got ISS and OSS, where there were about 10 million rumors about me going on, etc. Just IM me at r0cK0nl0seR and I'll be there for you to spill your guts out without having the risk of people finding out. =]
theres this guy, "jake". jake & i talk alot online and stuffff and he's completley normal and fine when we talk online. but then in school, when i see him or we talk, he acts really shy. why is he doing this? and how do i make him feel more comfortable around me?
teehee. he seems to like you. well that's the same case with me. but then i did go out with him before. erm yea. so i talk to scott online a whole lot but he rarely talks and is uber shy at school. hunter said that it's probably cuz he likes me =P. haha. ASK him out. lmao
me and my one of my friends were friends since kindergartin...and noweveryday she follows me around doing the same exact things i do.All my other friends say you should tell her to act like her self and not be me.I really need help.what should i say?
softballbebe1
My dear. Same exact thing happening to me. I suggest that you tell her that you need your own space and life without a shadow following her 24/7. NICELY. And if she doesn't resepect your wishes, ditch.
what do i tell my friend. to make her stop. im worried about her. becuase her boyfriend jsut broke up with her . her dad hasnt talked to her in a month . and im really worried. i dont no what to tell her! please help!
She can kill herslef. Tell her that she needs to stop this dangerous behavior before both of you guys get hurt. Yes both. She will hurt herself--even to death. And she will emotionally and mentally scar you for life having you know that fact that you didn't stop her when you had the chance.
Warn her that she needs to eat regulary and exercise regulary without vomiting. And tell her that you'll give her a month to stop (you can't make her quit in a day. It's impossible. I know) and if she doesn't, you're going to have to tell someone. Talk to a counslor. Not the parents first though. Or actually. No counslors...or that cheesy line "An adult you trust"
It's better to lose a friendshipo then the friend herself.
ONLY answer this if you HAVE the knowledge
I want to be a punk rock goth. What are my necessities. For room, personality, and clothes.
Thanks in advance.
Oh my goodness. Not another question like this. I don't lke to label but I have to in this case.
Being yourself is the key my dear. You can't just say I wanna be a punk by putting on clothes and decorating your room. You can't just say I wanna be goth by buying black clothing and listening to Marilyn Manson. You can't just say I wanna be a rocker chick (dude) by buying a guitar and taking pics with it. You can't say I wanna be emo by buying stripes and "cutting" with paper.
About 89% of the people label themselves. About 75% of those people are labeled. About 4% out of the 89% people are truely what they say they are. And it's really hard because people don't get the concept. I've been labled emo, goth, metal head, punk, etc. And I don't go flaunting around saying "Oh my god. I'm emo/punk/goth/rocker chic. I'm fab. I'm cool. My clothes are rad." Because all thse things are not about what you wear. Not what you listen to...(partially is). Not what your room looks like. Not what you type. It's about understanding it. It's mostly about music. You can't go I like Metallica. *listens to music* I'm rock yo. No, because you don't look at the deeper meanings of the lyrics. I listen to My Chemical Romance. I'm emo. NO! You don't have a clue as to what they really mean. PEople find it "depressing and suicidal and random" No. They don't look at it. It has a deeper meaning. They are against suicide and drinking. You can't say I'm straight edge. I'm cool. No. Just because you odn't drink, smoke or do drugs doesn't necessarily means you're straight edge.
People frustrate me with these quesitons. Well hon this is what I have to say: It's not a fashion statement. It's a lifestyle. It's not about the clothes. It about who you are. What you've experienced. How much you understand the music. How much music, art, literature, photography means to you. Why you cut. Why everything. How much everything. If you think you've had bad experiences this is what I have to say: You don't know peace until you've been through hell. Many people thing this is soo depressing. Well for a lot of people it is peace. It's about your true feelings showing. Not about "Look, I'm wearing lbakc and converse. I'm emo/goth"
So basically what I'm saying is: Stik to who you are. Don't fit yourself into a mold because you like the outfits. And sweetie, you're asking online people what you should buy to be punk rock goth. You don't know what it means. You're not any of those.
hi.ok
what are some good songs that explain like a teenage love or any love where the girl has like a crush or whatever but he has girlfriend...blah blah blah.. yeah
is there even a song that can describe that?
if so can i have the name and the artist
Hmmm I'm guessing you're feeling down because the guy you like is taken...am I wrong?
Listen to Simple Plan: Addicted, I'd Do anything
Idk..but I like this song..but haha anywhos: I Write Sins, Not Tragedies by Panic at the disco
And this indeed is STUCK in my head: All The Things Shes Said by t A T u
Three Days Grace: Over and Over, I Hate [Everything About???] You
Those are all teenage love songs basically
can any one give me AIM profile sites? thanks a ton ♥
subprofile.com
is the bomb love.
13/F
Since leggings are suddenly "in" now, I was thinking of getting some. I was wondering what colors/styles would look good on someone with a curvier shape...any advice?
Thanks in advance!
Horizontal stripes all the way hon. WOO! STRIPES!
13/f
Ok, I have just gotten out of a 1 year relationship with someone. [We'll call him Jay.] We are still best friends and all, but that isnt my problem. You see, I like this other guy now, and I think he likes me. But when I say I like someone else, Jay goes all sad on me and says stuff like, "I know you hate me and I understand that you want to be with another guy" Which isn't totally true. Because I still want to be Jay's friend. How do I tell him to back off without being mean?
Hon, you're 13. OUt of a year long relationship...wow. Interesting.
Sweetie, you just need to go out with that boy you like. Go out with him. Jay is probably feelingjelous because another guy is gonna have a girl that he still has some feeligns for.
Tell him that "I know that you're feeling jelous that I'm gonna go out wiht (whoever) but you need to let go. You're my best friend and no one can take that spot but boyfriends...well life jsut moves on like that"
Or something like that
uhm, ok. i started smoking last january and i really didn't want to start but my friends were doing it and i didn't want to seem uncool. well, i kinda got hooked on it and smoked whenever possible. i got caught one day and swore i would never do it again but my friends still smoke around me and i find it harder and harder to turn away from taking a drag or something like that. how do i stay off smoking for good?
Hon, if they smoke, they are not your friends. You really really need a new crowd to hang out with. Every smoke you take cuts off 11mins of your life. SERIOUSLY.
Sweetie, get new friends. They are not worth getting cancer for!!!!
Ok…..I have a boyfriend that used to be just my friend, and then we started going out!! I mean I love being in this relationship but sometimes he acts different not mean but different! You know how sometimes just the tone of his voice or things he dose, just make you feel like he is acting different? And then you ask him what’s wrong or why are you acting different, he says how am I acting different? And you can’t really tell him! Because its just the way he’s acting not the things he dose. So dose every man do this?
Sweetie, moving from friends to relationship is very awkward and you guys need to give each other time to get used to it. HE's probably feeling awkward having u as a girlfriend and doesn't know what to say, how to act, etc. I know that I indeed am like that my dear. But then I am not a boy...
that i like but she likes someone else and this other guy. This other guy could be me but im not sure and im not prud to ask her upfront. What should i do?
Sweetie, ask her to go see a movie or go bowling with you and some other friends. Talk to her and be friendly to her but there are some limits to what you should or shouldnt do.
1-DO NOT STARE AT HER
2-DONT FOLLOW HER/ STALK HER
etc. Yesh. That just freaks the shit out of us. Anyways. Just go hang out with her a lot and just ask her out when you feel like she likes you.
agh! sorry but yes its another one of these questions
ok so this guys! agh is soo confusing!! agh but who isnt! what are some ways to make him think that im interested?? because we flirt a lot but i guess he doenst get the point or hes just like that and doenst think of us talking as flirting! but i do! cuz he calles me babe and love and stuff.! well anyway i need some good flirty come backs to tell him to show him that im interested!
ASK HIM OUT WOMAN! WHY DONT GIRLS ASK GUYS OUT!
Yeah. erm..haha. Anywhos just invite him to go to the movies with a bunch of your frineds or go bowling and such. And just link arms with him, hug, etc. And later on if you feel that he REALLY does like you (he might just be like htat) tell him that you guys should go see a movie. ALONE
16 female
soo me and this guy kinda hooked up. well all we did was kiss and makeout and he like rubbed my boobs? haha..through my clothes! but anyways...he is WHIPPED over this girl. he is absolutely in love with her. and i cant accept that. they've been on and off for like a year and a half!! =( and like when they break up he wants to talk to me and hangout and like do stuff..because he is attracted to me! he even said so himself. his girlfriend treats him like crap..she has cheated on him like 5 times, gets mad over the stupidest things..like when she does something really bad its like nothing for her but then when he does something its like the worst thing in the world to her??? and she hangs out with other guys and all this crap! and when we madeout they werent going out and he was telling me that he was trying to get over her and was asking me who i liked and asked me why i thought he asked me that? (hinting he was starting to like me) but then i dont know? i dont know if i just didnt seem interested or if he is still totally in love with his girl. hes always like i love my girl..let me check with my girl..i love you! blah blah...and its like now they were suppose to be going out "secretly" probably so she can go cheat on him again..but he treats her like a QUEEN and she treats him like crap..and he still loves her and wants to be with her so badly. in her profile its like im single and im staying that way and in his its like i love you! i wish i was his GIRL. =( but i dont think he will ever get over her and it hurts me really bad. its like i dont want to get involed because i dont want to get hurt in the end and i dont think he will ever be over this girl if they ever break up again for good. i try not to think of him but whenever i hear someone say his name i get like frustrated and like mad at him for putting me through this! leading me on and then going back out with her? but then at the same time its like i cant hate him because i cant get over him..
What do i do?! i try hangout with other guys but i dont have many guy friends and im very shy!! i think he just wants to do stuff with me..which hurts but i wish we could be more..and talking to him doesnt work! he will just be like i cant help it i love her..sorry. i try and say why do you love her? she treats you like crap and hes like i just love her so much i cant help it. im like ugh. and i havent talked to him since like we did this stuff like 3 weeks ago.
Sweety, here is the thing you need to know: He is probably on rebound.
I've had avery very good friend of mine in the same situation. She would cheat, use him, treat him like crap, manipulate him yet he crawled back to her over and over again until he realized what a bastard she was and how pathetic he was being.
You need to sit down and talk with him, set boundries and rules. Tell him what's going on. The whole view. What he's doing. Tell him that she is a manipulative person who's using him to get what she wants and lies and cheats behind his back as a "reward"for him. Tell him that he deserves someone WAY better than a lowlife like her. That he's hurting you by using you as a temporary replacement. Tell him that you want a boyfriend. Not someone who makes out with you and ditches you for another girl that treats him so bad. He can't use you to fill the void temmporarily and when he thinks that he has a chace with this other girl he runs off to her and then comes back. TELL him that he's really hurting you and that he's treating you somewhat like what that girl is treating him like. Hon, what that boy and that girl has going on is not love. He has an infatuation for her. And she's not worth his time.
If he doesn't want to respect your feelings, just ditch him. Let him know what he's missing out on. What true love and girlfriends are