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best friend over boys
Okay woah.. i have been havein the worst time at school latley. Okay so here it goes.Me & my best friend have been fighting latley alot this year.Me and her been best friends for going on 3 years now.Okay so theres this boy, lets say his name is BOB , okay well me and BOB were best friends in 7th grade and he really liked me and i liked him. But we never went out we were just really good friends.Well my best friend started to like him so now she really does.But me and BOB stopped talking over the summer and just a few days ago we decided to start getting closer and we wanted to become better friends.Well the next day he sat by me in class and he was flirting with me and my friend said that i was "flirting" back and she told my best friend that. So now she is very upset with me and she got all my other friends to hate me too. So i lost just about all my friends but i have a few still..=[ Like i d k what to do anymore. She had one of my really really good friends to go off on me and she called me a SLUT and a HO & stuff and it just really hurts me.Your probally gonna tell me to talk to her about it but it doesn't work that way. Today i just started crying really bad in 4th hour cause i can just see people giving me glances and weird faces & my best friend was right across the room ignoreing me completly..& it just hurts soo bad.. so i started crying and like my other really good friend started freaking out & was helping me but my teacher told me to go in the hall & i looked up & she was crying too.Like i never cried that hard in my life before.. seriously. Then at lunch shes actin kinda cool with me but i got called to the counselors.. & we worked it out PERFECTLY. She hugged me & said she loved me & she was sorry , & we even called te boy down there . My other good friend went to the counselor to inform her i was going to end up doing something stupid cause of everythings thats happening to me so she really helped me out.But now my best friend isn't calling me or answering her phone & i called her a little ago and she said shes still cuz shes been hearing stuff & its like wtf. Shes been beleiveing everyone but me & it hurts.. Like i d k what to do anymore.. i wanna start to cut or overdose on pills but i'm not sure yet. Too much drama.. what should i dooo ???
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Babe, you are just beginning to live...in fact I am convinced that life begins AFTER highschool. People feed off of rumors, gossip and drama. The best way to get others to move on, is to move on yourself. There is a secret to getting through anything...fake it 'til you make it. It sounds weird, but it works. Start everyday as if good things are going to happen and you will make good things happen. As big as some pains feel, they are just like a grain of sand in the big fun beach of moments that make up your life. Everyone experiences times of hurt and betrayal at one time or another in their life. Someday soon you will see that this was only as big a deal as you let it be. Some people feel empowered by other's pain, so put an end to that power by refusing to give in to them. They might expect you to be sad, so do the opposite. Be happy and enjoy the real friends you have...be grateful for the experience...it has made you wiser and stronger.
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I myself cut, my dear. I'm addicted and I can't not get addicted. IT's a horrible habit and I myself am struggling with it. But really, suicide is a whimps way of facing stuff. I've tried suicide twice in 3 years. Trust me. It won't work. You have too much going on for you. Too many people who give shit about you.
This friend of yours is a really immature person & everyone who is a part of this whole riot against you. Spreading rumors believing it, say it, all childs game. They are the weak ones hiding behind words. Your "friend" seems to scared to comfront you face to face. Only the ones with heart and courage can do that. She is the one who ruined a friendship over a guy. That should never happen. Doesn't she know that it's hard to find good friends such as yourself? She found a good friend and she let the firendship get torn apart and thrown away for a STUPID unresonable reason. I mean if you slept with her guy, then I would understand from her point of view. But you didn't. You like this guy. So what. Flirting. Wow. What a slutty rude thing to do to a friend *mark the sarcasm*
I'm not going to tell you to talk to her because frankly, she doesn't even deserve a bit of your time. She broke you down into pieces and she is the bitch. You don't need people like that in your life. Ignore the rumors. If someone bothers you, just say "I'm sorry, I don't participate in rumors." OR "You're criticizing me and calling me names. That was way back in 3rd grade. I would cry over it then but now, I just laugh because it's just telling me a lot about you. You have no life. You feel better when you try to be immature. You are way to gullible" just don't make a bad come back or get into an argument. They will grasp that and use that against you.
If you really need support, I'm always here for everyone. I've been through that situation, where I got ISS and OSS, where there were about 10 million rumors about me going on, etc. Just IM me at r0cK0nl0seR and I'll be there for you to spill your guts out without having the risk of people finding out. =]
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