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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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Is it possible to dream about something you've never done? I'm not talking about like I've never gone for a walk with my mom and my two friends, so I can't dream about it.
I'm wondering more about physcial experiences, like is it possible to dream about kissing someone if you've never actually kissed anyone?
OF course it is. In a dream anything is possible. To put it simply a dream is your imagination and desires in overdrive.
I'm 15 and have asymmetrical eyes, one is bigger and lower than the other one. Will this go away as I grow older? It really bothers me and I am thinking of having plastic surgery when I'm older. I know I sound as if I'm complaining when there are people out there with real problems and I get that I can come across as a whiny, spoilt brat. But this asymmetry has bothered me and I just want to feel pretty for once.
Let me say this about symmetrical. Not everything in this world is symmetrical and there is beauty in the asymmetrical. Now depending just how asymmetrical your eyes are would depend on whether or not I would recommend plastic surgery.
For one thing if it is just cosmetic surgery, meaning there is no medical reason for it. You will have to pay the full cost of the surgery yourself which could run into the tens of thousands of dollars to have a good Board Certified Plastic Surgeon do the surgery. That is number one; you would want a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon as they have the proper training to do this type of surgery. Not all Plastic Surgeons are Board Certified.
Answer this question while your thing about plastic surgery. Take a good look at your breasts. Are they symmetrical? So they sit together on your jest or is one slightly lower than the other.
For most women their breast are not symmetrical and one does sit slightly higher or lower than the other. Trust me this is not a turnoff to any man. The fact that your eyes are asymmetrical is probably more of a turn off to you then to anyone else. I would say it probably make .you look more intriguing, especially with a proper haircut and eye makeup.
Your 15 and unless their is a medical reason to do the surgery no Plastic Surgeon will do this surgery before your 18 and some may ask you to wait even longer. Depending on whether all your growth plates have closed.
My advice is; Talk to a plastic surgeon or two. Find out what is initialed in this type of surgery . How much pain will you have and for how long. Can the surgeon justify a medical reason for the surgery. IF not find out what the cost will be.
Heyy.. i hope you can help me.. So i am ectually a A student but latly all i do is going through my phone or lap top and doing nothing.. This year is my final year and i need to study buti odnt have that motivacion anymore.. When i com from school Im really tired and i always say il go in bed at 10pm and i actually end up going at 2 am and i need to wake up at about 8 am so i can study but then im really tired and not concentarted.. And above all how can i stills tart doing and studying for my exam.. On Saturday and Sunday i feel really lazy and i do everything at Sunday night...
I really do not have a great answer for you. It is possible you biological clock has gotten out of whack, it happens, and you have become more of a night person and you are really not getting enough sleep. Lack of sufficient rest can cause you to be lethargic.
There are two other possibilities both of which require you to see a doctor. There could be an organic reason for the way you feel. If so schedule a complete physical with your family doctor and tell the doctor that you are lethargic and have no motivation. You should also ask the doctor to screen you for depression while your having your physical. The screening is nothing more then questions the doctor will ask you from which a diagnosis can be made.
I'm not saying you are depressed but you may be. The problem with depression is it is the kind of problem one does not know they have. Given your probable age if you are if you are suffering from depression it is probably more of a medically induced depression caused by the lack of hormones to help you deal with stress or stressors that may be affecting you. This type of depression is easily helped with medication and talk therapy to help you deal with stress better than internalizing it.
My advice then is to see a doctor. I doubt you have gotten lazy and I think your family doctor may be able to help you
Really amazed by the you answered my question...please not to bother you...when does ectopic pregnancy start,can someone have ectopic pregnancy and have no pregnancy symptoms by two months...can someone have an ectopic pregnancy and still have a bleeding which is periodic like a period..I.e five days bleeding for three months going without actually ejaculated and wasn't probably in her ovulating period@all
I do not think this is a case of Ectopic pregnancy as they are somewhat rare statistically. I only mentioned it in passing so to speak. An Ectopic pregnancy starts just like a normal pregnancy only the fetus grows outside the womb.
I really don't think you two have anything to worry about. To put both of you at ease have your girlfriend take a home pregnancy test. Or if you prefer a better answer take her to a clinic is as I said she is over 14 and let them examine her. As them if the will do and inter-vaginal Ultrasound. This will allow you to visually see her womb is empty and the doctor should be able to see if an ectopic pregnancy has occurred.
A side benefit of this exam will be the relaxation of her vaginal muscles so you can attempt intercourse again. If you do make sure to have a condom on your penis before you even get close to her. If you are unsure how to use a condom the same clinic will instruct both of you on the proper use of condoms.
The same clinic can offer her birth control medication if she wants it. If she does you still need to wear a condom for other reasons and for the extra protection it offers.
Early 20s/F
I have been married for four years to my partner. Due to some tricky circumstances, we got married very soon after we started dating. We moved in together very quickly, merged finances, etc. I have a kid from a previous relationship that now calls him dad as the child was very young when he entered the picture.
When we first were together, he had jealousy/control issues that he worked on and overcame. We were both sexually attracted to each other and I felt like I was in love.
Fast forward two years from then, I begin to feel that my romantic and sexual attraction for him beginning to fade. Even though he worked through the jealousy/control issues, it was something always in the back of my mind that still hurts me to this day. I speak with my mom, and she basically tells me that I would be an idiot to leave him because he is such a great guy. I pretty much swallowed my "pride" and things seemed okay for a while.
Two more years later, I've now reached a point where I don't even want to kiss him or hold his hand, let alone have sex with him. My temper with him has gotten shorter and shorter. I try all the time to make plans with friends or be away from him. I explained to him how I felt about our love life, and he said that he didn't feel the same way and that he would try what he can to make it better. This was two months ago, and I feel the same if not worse. I can tell he is getting very agitated at the lack of intimacy, but I can't bring myself to barely even say "I love you."
I feel trapped, alone, empty and sad at the whole situation. He is a great guy, who loves me and my daughter very much, and I would consider him my best friend -- but I feel that I no longer have what it takes to be there for him as a wife. Our lives are so intertwined: we work together, drive to and from work together, live together, split finances, share parental responsibility. I do not drive, so taking a "break" from the relationship would basically be impossible. I was 18 when we got married and I feel like a completely different person now than I was before, which may be why I do not feel fulfilled anymore.
I am completely lost and do not know what to do. I have reached a part where even going to couples therapy seems makes me cringe. I don't want to ruin his or my daughter's life, or break his heart, but I feel like I am going insane.
Thank you.
I would like to know more about the tricky circumstances to better answer your question. I feel somewhere in those circumstances is the answer and the problem.
It is really hard to answer this type of question without more information. Yes I understand how you feel. What I don't know and is important is how you got there. What happened to cause you to get to this point. This is also what the couples counselor needs to know and maybe you need one on one sessions with him or her to get this out so he or her can possibly help you
Statistically speaking based on your age at the time you married these marriages have a very high failure rate for a variety of reasons. One of the biggest reason is the couples grow apart as one spouse gets a higher education while the other supports them. Then there are couple like you two who, if I understood you correctly, are together 24/7 by working and living together. Being together so much comes with it to much familiarity. as the saying goes; "Familiarity grows Contempt."
You haven't said there is another man in your life. If there were then I might have some advice for you. I would also have to know to know how this man came into you life.
My advice is; if you would like to take the time to explain the tricky circumstance you can do so in a private message to me. I will see if I can offer any better advice. Or as I suggested above ask your couples therapist for a one on one session so you can explain the trick circumstance if you have not already done so. Doing so I believe will open a door that will allow him or her to better help you.
I almost had sex with my girlfriend friend we wer both naked I was trying to penetrate her but it wasnt going in...I tried for 5minutes then quitted....no sperm but my penis was just a little watery not that watery...not sure if its precum or her vaginal gland secretion then she had to rub my dick for like ten minutes while standing and she was fully clothed....she told me she had her last period by September ending not specific....we almost had sex oct9...she had her period 6 days later oct15 which lasted minimum of 3 to 5 days...then she had her next period which was not late by nov10 she said it was heavy nd a bit painful it and it lasted for 5 days...it ended nov16...when I approximately calculate her her cycle I notice it was 27 days cycle nd it shows for her to have had period on oct15...her last period most have ended sept 24 nd her fertile period ended oct3 wic is d day after she ovulated...now in Dec she hasnt gotten her period its gettin due according to my calculation... She feels no pregnancy symptoms nd it has been two months since d day we almost had sex...i havent ejaculated for 3 months before the day we almost had sex...der was no friction...but sperm do come out during excretion but it stopped a month before we almost had sex so is she pregnant or not?
When a women gets her period after having sex it is a fairly good sign she is not pregnant. A woman's period is her body cleaning her womb and making it ready to accept a fertilized egg during her next menstrual cycle. If a fertilized egg does not attach to the lining of her woman during that cycle then she gets her period which includes the unused lining is discarded during her period and a new lining is made ready.
Your girlfriend has had 2 full periods since you had sex or attempted sex. There is no way she could be pregnant with the possible exception of an ectopic pregnancy. In an ectopic pregnancy the egg attaches outside the womb. If this was the case she would have most all the signs of pregnancy by now.
If she were to miss this next period it is most likely because she is stressing over being pregnant. Stress is the biggest killer of periods more so than pregnancy. The best way to put her mind at easy even though I am 99.999% sure she is not pregnant is to have her take a home pregnancy test.
If she is over 14 and worried her mother will find the test kit she can go to any family planning clinic for A test and examination. There is a Federal Law called HIPPA. This law provides for anyone over the age of 14 being allowed to see a doctor for anything to do with their reproductive system without parental knowledge. Furthermore parent can never know of what a child is seen for or treat for as all visits are totally confidential. For a parent to see medical records of these visits the child must give their permission in writing to the doctor or clinic.
If you don't have the money to see a private doctor many of the family planning clinics will see a patient for little or no cost.
My advice then is that first I am almost 100% positive your GF is not pregnant. TO put her mind at easy either have her take a home pregnancy test or if she is over 14 take her to a family planning clinic for an examination.
I really believe you two should just relax and enjoy the upcoming holidays and the next time you try to have sex use a condom and plenty of lubrication. IF you are over 14 the family planning clinic will provide them or you cannot be stopped from purchasing them at your local grocery or pharmacy.
I'm a college student who currently works as a nanny. I've been a nanny for the same family for about a year now and I've really enjoyed working for the Mom and really care about her, her son and pets. She pays me really well for not having to work very much and it's been perfect for my school schedule.
Before this I'd worked at several other places in either retail management positions or graphic design, but none of them worked out. Although I'm a good worker and very intelligent (straight A honors roll student) I've had a hard time with my past job positions. At my first job I did very well and was promoted to management in less than six months, but was forced to quit when I came down with a lung infection that caused me to be hospitalized for a while and took me some time to get back on my feet.
After that job affairs just went kind of south. I took three different retail positions, where I did well at the first, but was laid off six months into it. The second and third jobs I really had a difficult time with. I never seemed to know what I was supposed to be doing and when I requested further training, management at both places acted as though they didn't have time. I would wind up doing my job duties incorrectly due to this and would make myself look bad. The second job I was fired from after three months after I asked some coworkers to help teach me what to do (after requesting it from management and never getting it) and they taught me to do things incorrectly to get me in trouble. I wound up finding this out later on (from a neighbor who also worked there) and that it was because they felt like I was taking their hours.
The third job I was hired on for management and things started out well. Basic tasks were explained to me efficiently and I grasped them right away but then the more intricate (and also important) tasks would be skipped over as the manager didn't seem to want to train me in them or two other managers who were also hired on and quit quickly after. I hung in there but things just got worse, as people constantly quit I was left with more and more tasks to fulfill and just couldn't do it all. I started being held responsible for moving very heavy furniture and decor up and down ladders and onto displays and walls. I'm a very petite female that weighs less than 100 pounds so moving furniture was difficult for me and I was scared to death every time I had to climb an XL ladder to put things away in the attached warehouse on shelves that were 50 feet high. I quit after four months and lots of sprained ankles, swollen knees and cuts on my hands.
The next job was a web design job and I felt I did well there, but the job bored me to death and I wound up getting laid off three months into it after the company's profits took a nose dive and they let go of half the staff.
Then I got my current job which is my favorite job and much less stressful than the previous jobs I took. I love being a nanny and I feel like part of the family as we're all very close.
Here comes the bad part: I'm transferring from my current small college to my dream school in a month, which is several hours away. I'm ecstatic to have been accepted and have also received a nice scholarship that will help with some of the expenses. I haven't told the Mom I nanny for yet as I still need a job (as I have a car payment and insurance to pay) and I loathe the idea of having to find another seeing as how badly my past jobs have gone. I've been waiting as well just in case something falls through and I wind up not being able to go. I want to at least keep this job until the end of the month to save up as much money as I can, but by not telling her I'm taking away time she could be using to find a new nanny. If I do tell her I realize she'll be hiring on somebody new and I'll probably lose out on the money I could have saved up until the point I move. I don't want to be selfish though and leave her high and dry by keeping this job until the very list minute.
I don't think I can continue working for her after I move. It's just too long of a distance and even if I made the drive I don't think I'm going to be available for multiple day stays like I can do now (as I go to school and live locally to her so I just stay at her home and then leave to go to school for a few hours and then come back). I'm also taking on a double major in January so my work load is going to be crazy. I'm also afraid I won't be able to find anything in my new city or at least nothing before bills start coming due, in which case I'll need this job...augh what do I do?!
The very first thing you have to do is inform the lady you are currently working for that you will be leaving at the end of the month. You should have done so at the beginning of the month as finding another Nanny at this time of year is going to be hard and stressful enough on her. Having to do so on short notice is not fair to her.
She may get lucky and find another college student like you to care for her child though she will need time to find her. At this time of year students have plans to go home for the holidays and semester break. This would mean that for the next month she may also have to find alternative care for her child until students return to school. So it is important to tell her now.
As for the other things you write about; they are pretty much non-issues. In that they can be fairly typical for the type "A" personality which I believe you are who likes to over achieve. You take on part-time or full time jobs, you don't say which appear to have a great deal of stress or are not challenging enough in one instance. Yet you are still maintain Honor Roll Status.
This is typical of s type "A" personality person. You will never be satisfied with just getting by. You will have to go the distance then 10 yards more. This will do you well when you finish college and find a job in the career field you have studied for. I do caution you to manage this personality so it does not manage you.
As for working in your new location; have you considered contacting a Nanny agency for work their or the school to see if they might have some requests for a Nanny. You seem to enjoy this work and it will give you the time to study you need while earning money.
Of course there is always the possibility of a small student loan to cover what the scholarship doesn't so you can use what you saved to pay your bills while you look for a new job.
Long story short, the town I reside in is very small and suburban, there are two mediocre colleges (one private and one community), minimal job prospects and just very little opportunity for growth or career success. I've been attending the private college for 8 months for an Associates in Nursing because when I started I couldn't relocate due to a relationship which I am out of now.
I'm an honors student and I've done very well with my nursing classes, but I feel like I was manipulated as the school seemed to glamorize the nursing field, showing nurses (in their info session) with big smiles on their faces casually chatting with happy, social and clean patients as they adjusted their pillows or gave the medication. They promised a high paying and guaranteed job right out of graduation all in just two years. Of course being only 19 at the time, I took the bait and put what I really wanted to do behind me as everybody told me how amazing it was that I chose to be a nurse.
Now I've realized that as much as I find learning about the body interesting that I just don't want to be a nurse. I don't want to work 12-15 hour shifts doing very physically and mentally straining work for pay that isn't that great. I can't see myself changing the dressing on wounds, giving sponge baths, draining sores or cleaning up bodily fluids. I enjoy the company of people, but not people who are distressed, dying, sick or injured. Not to mention the high risk of contracting diseases or being injured. It's just not for me. Then I found out that there's such a huge influx of nursing students that the salary will go way down in the coming years and that job opportunities will be much slimmer.
Anyways, now I've applied to several much more prestigious schools in other locations and got into my university of choice which I'll start attending (and dorming) in January.
I decided that for one, I want to go for a higher degree; a bachelors at the very least, but probably a Masters and maybe even double major. I want to challenge myself and be the best I can be.
I've also decided that I want to follow my heart and major in Government and World Affairs. I want to work in a political, research or analytics position for an international or world wide government agency. Something that requires extensive travel and that will gain me lots of new experiences.
It's something that means a lot to me and is definitely more interesting to me than working in a hospital every day for the rest of my life.
The problem is, I don't know how ideal this field is or if it a degree in it will even realistically land me a job. I also plan to minor in something else that will complement my desired career choice, but I'm not sure what yet.
When I look at it that way though it seems like there really aren't any college degrees anymore that can guarantee you a job because the job market is so bad and none of the baby boomers look like they're retiring any time soon to make room for new hires. So I might as well be going with what I really want to do then right?
The college I'm going to says it's a good career field if I stick with it and that they can get me a paid internship if I put in the work. They have past students working in the white house and other government sites. This is what I really want to do, but am I making a mistake?
Should I be playing it safe with nursing?
Both fields you are looking at offer a wide variety of good paying jobs.
Not all nursing jobs are in hospitals or doctors offices. The nursing shortage is so severe in some parts of the country you will be retired before there are sufficient nurses to cover all the positions needed. Where I live, in the metro DC market which runs from Philadelphia to DC, Nurses can earn as much as from $35. to $60. an hour depending on what positions they work and shift differential. There is a great shortage of ER nurses and OR Nurses which are the highest paying positions.
There are many positions within nursing that are management positions or analytical positions that are available based on your level of education. Once you have your RN, which I believe is the equivalent of a Master's Degree, you can go for a PHD which opens many more doors and higher paying positions.
Not all Government and World Affairs in work in a political, research or analytics position will be in a government agency. In fact governmental jobs are notoriously underpaid compared to the private sector jobs. As for travel that is highly restrict in Government, generally restricted to top management.
Living close to DC I have friends and neighbors who work in government position and even a member of my family works for one of the alphabet agencies. Government positions offer many benefits but no longer offer any guarantees. In fact the government is downsizing and many positions are no longer available although they may be vacant.
I don't wish to paint a gloomy picture for you. All of the career fields you mention are great career fields that have much to offer. Colleges are a business and they have classes to sell. They are going to paint the best picture possible to attract the brightest of students to fill those seats. It is a buyer beware world today with no guarantees.
I would suggest you investigate all the possibilities before you commit to one course of study. You major course of study happens in the last two years of undergraduate school with the first two years concentrating on the prerequisite courses. Those course will transfer to both majors though for nursing you may need to make up a science course or two.
Hello me and my ex had sex on November 2 and 6th than i didn't get my period on the 19th of November and now I'm pregnant and he is saying that his doctor told him he as a narrow urethra but that was 3 weeks later now he's saying it not his when I know it is he was the only one I did it with.
I'm guessing your question is what to do about this. If you are sure you are pregnant. Have taken a home pregnancy test as well as had a doctor verify by examination that you are pregnant then this is what you must do.
You boyfriend is being an asshole. If you do not plan on having an abortion or giving the child up for adoption then you need to see a Lawyer NOW.
There are several reasons why you need to see a lawyer now. First and foremost is to establish by legal means that your boyfriend is the father. I don't doubt you but the law needs verification and that takes a paternity test.
Your lawyer can start the needed legal paperwork for a court ordered paternity test. In some states his lawyer might be able to delay this test until after the baby is born. This is something to discuss with your lawyer. In the end though he will be ordered to give a DNA sample.
Once paternity is established he is responsible for the wellbeing of this child until it reaches the age of 18. He will be ordered to pay child support, maintain health insurance for the child as well as life insurance in an amount sufficient to cover what he would pay in child support. Some states even require his wages be garnished to insure prompt payment of these obligations to the court who in turn see that you and the insurances are paid .
DO NOT take his word at any time that he will do right by you or the child. He has shown his true colors by saying he can't be the father's child because of a small urethra. If he can urinate then semen can pass; it is that simple.
If you have medical evidence you are pregnant go directly to a Lawyer who practices Family Law. If you do not have the medical evidence see a GYN for the medical test then go to a Lawyer. Do not worry if you can't afford one. The lawyer will either work out a payment system with you or refer you to a court appointed lawyer.
Female
So me and my bf have been together for a year. We broke up for a couple of days but got back together. Ever since we have gotten back together our sex life has been different. He's been putting the cookies in the oven before the oven is even warm. He used to give me head all the time but stopped once we got back together. What seems to be the issue?
This is the type of question we can't answer for you . The only one that can answer this is your boyfriend.
You don't say why you broke up. What I can offer is if the cause was anything related to sex or if he feels it was related to sex in any way. Then you might have bruised his male ego. Every male thinks he is god's gift to women when it comes to sex.
In actuality sex is a learned experience one that has to be relearned with every new partner. After that first couple of sexual experiences with a new partner a couple should talk about their likes and dislikes, especially the woman as some women are more clitoral than vaginal in their arousal.
Since the two of you have been together for a long time I think it is permissible for you to ask him why he has stopped giving you head. You could say something like Jeff you use to give me great head and I really enjoyed it. It set me up for great orgasms, Please tell me why you don't do so any longer and if it is me I will do what I can to fix it.
You need to be prepared for his answer if it is you. It could be how you taste or your scent. Both of which are easily fixed. Just as his semen's taste will differ based on his diet so will your taste and scent. Medication can effect both of these as well.
Diets can be changed sometimes, medication not always although you can consult your doctor. OF course there is something else you can do to change this if diet and medication are the cause. If sex is on the agenda just before you start to get all cuddly go in the bathroom and wash you vagina with a nice floral soap. This should fix the problem.
You could also stop wearing pantyhose and switch to stockings which are far sexier than panty hose anyway. If it is not too cold where you live wear dress and skirts more. If it is cold where you live and you can afford it buy a full length parka or wear pants under your skirt to work.
Lastly if he does say something about taste or scent see your GYN as your scent and taste should not be putting him off. This could be an early sign something may need attention.
Now this is only a guess on my part and the only thing I can think of that would cause any guy not to give head. Giving head for a guy is like, I'm sure, giving head for a gal. All part of getting ready for the main event. Without it the main event is lacking.
As a mother, it's important to me to have a good relationship with my children, but having quite a large family, I feel it's important to keep them under control to prevent absolute chaos from breaking out. I need to teach them good behaviour, good manners, and respect, not just to keep them under control, but to help them become the best people they can be.
So listen to these situations and tell me if you think I might have a bad tendency to overreact and take discipline too seriously. If my six year old son, Cade repeatedly asked me during tonight's Christmas parade if he could cross the street DURING the parade and I said no, but he bolted out in front of a float anyway, would it be an overreaction to yell at him and spank him in front of the crowd there?
If my identical twin sons, Dominic and Shane habitually switched places at school to go to each other's classes and do each other's work, would it be an overreaction to make take away Dominic' s contact lenses so he has to wear glasses to school and take away Shane's retainer at night so he HAS to wear it at school during the day. That way their teachers know that Dominic is the one with the glasses and Shane is the one with the retainer.
If my 12 year old son, Trevor was caught the other day with a girl in his room, would it be an overreaction topay my older sons, Nick and Will chaperone all of his interactions with girls outside of school for an undetermined amount of time? That is, anytime I'm at work anyway.
Please give your opinions and advice. I love my kids and I want what's best for them, but I don't want them to feel like I'm some kind of a warden.
These are very good questions. Every parent is going to react differently to these situations. I can only tell you how I would react and let you decide.
Question: If my six year old son, Cade repeatedly asked me during tonight's Christmas parade if he could cross the street DURING the parade and I said no, but he bolted out in front of a float anyway, would it be an overreaction to yell at him and spank him in front of the crowd there?
Answer: One theory says that discipline must be swift and just. To wait until you get home to discipline, as in spank a six year old, he may not truly understand why he is being spanked even if you are telling him. TO spank him in front of strangers is humiliating even to a six year old.
What I would do.: would rescue him, Hug him, tell him what he did was wrong and how scared he made me. Then I would tell him He has lost certain privileges such as a favorite toy or is grounded. Then when we returned home I would remind him of what he did and remove the toy or item he lost the privilege of or send him to his room if grounded.
Question:identical twin sons, Dominic and Shane habitually switched places at school to go to each other's classes and do each other's work, would it be an overreaction to make take away Dominic' s contact lenses so he has to wear glasses to school and take away Shane's retainer at night so he HAS to wear it at school during the day. That way their teachers know that Dominic is the one with the glasses and Shane is the one with the retainer.
Answer: Your answer could do more harm than good as it could cause them to be teased or bullied in school. You do not want to put them in this type of position for once it starts it never ends and follows them through their entire school career.
What I would do: Since this is habitual I would talk to the school principal. I would ask that they be split up and given different class schedules with different teachers. If they have different teachers, even in the same grade, they will have different assignments, different places within the curriculum that each teacher is at. There would be no way could get away with switching places. What they are doing is not unusual for identical twins, they think it's funny to gas light the teachers or other adults in this manner.
If splitting up their schedules won't fix the problem then putting them in different schools may be the best solution to this problem. I might go so far as to threaten if they don't stop one of them will be sent to Military school.
Question: If my 12 year old son, Trevor was caught the other day with a girl in his room, would it be an overreaction to pay my older sons, Nick and Will chaperone all of his interactions with girls outside of school for an undetermined amount of time? That is, anytime I'm at work anyway.
Answer. This is a hormonal problem caused by puberty and is not going to go away no or ever. Your solution to have the older brothers chaperone him will not work. If the 12 year old and the girl are determined to be alone they will find away to ditch the older brothers.
What I would do: I would make sure he understood our sex talk and why it is important not to have intercourse with a girl at this early age. Now this is the tricky part for it may go against you views but guaranteed the older boys are probably doing it.
HE is going into the early stages of puberty and does not really understand what his body is telling him. He has sexual tension and wants relief and for the moment he is only sure he can get it through sex.
Talk to him about masturbation. You may have to go so far as to tell him or have one of the older brothers explain to him how to do it. He needs the sexual relief masturbation will bring. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is not a sin and it will not harm him in anyway. In fact it is good for him as it does relieve the sexual tension.
In the good old days when a boy hit puberty dad would take him into town to the Bordello and that would be that. We cannot do that today so masturbation is the next best thing.
As I said in the beginning there are different parenting ideas. These are mine. You need not be a warden to be a parent. But you do need to be a parent. You are a parent first and foremost a friend second.
I'm 24 and so is my boyfriend. We have been dating officialy for a month now. Things have been great there's just one thing that concerns me. He shares a dog with his ex. Its "their" dog not just one or the other. The dog stays at his ex's because thats where he grew up as a puppy and they didnt want to confuse him. Hes almost 2 now. My boyfriend doesn't get to see him much because he's been busy with school and hockey. His ex will text him though when she needs him to watch him. Or if the dog is at his ex's moms house my boyfriend will go over there and let him out and play with him if nobodys home. I just don't like they still have this connection through the dog. My boyfriend said he wants nothing to do with his ex and only talks to her when its about the dog. But his ex will text him random things and it's not only just about the dog. I'm just uneasy about the situation and I've told my boyfriend this and he's asked what I want him to do but I feel like there's no option. I'm not going to make him cut off contact with his ex becuase then he won't be able to see the dog. Any suggestions? He's tried telling her to only text him when it involves the dog but she doesn't listen. I think she's still in love with him.
If you have never owned a dog or a cat then you may not understand what I am going to say. These two animals are like someone's children. When a couple splits up the these two pets can be the cause of a custody battle just as big as if they were actual children.
Would you feel as you do if the situation involved a son or daughter? I don't think so. You need to look at this situation as if this situation was about a son or daughter and react accordingly.
About 4 months ago, I lost my poppop to cancer. As it has definitely been hard for me to lose him, it has been exceptionally hard for my mom because she was very close to her dad. Long story short, I want to make her something very memorable for her this Christmas that she'll love to have forever to always remember him. I remember her looking at something where I could sew a flannel shirt of his on to a pillow so she would still have a piece of him always. She already was gifted a quilt of some of his clothes and pictures of all of us so nothing quite like that, please. I'm just looking for memorable, cute DIY gifts to make her smile and remember the good times with him instead of his last few days suffering. Any help or ideas is greatly appreciated!! Thanks!
There are any number of things I can think of you could make for your mother. The one I like the best, if it is possible would be a photo album.
Hopefully popop kept photos from when your mom was a child and your family has photo's of you and your family with poppop. IF these photo's exist you would start the album of mom and poppop and places and things that were special to her as a child. Then build into places and things she did with you, your family and poppop.
If you know anyone that is good with photography and can then take the album and put it on a DVD for you. Then you can enhance the gift by setting the pictures to music as the photos move past on the screen.
This is the type of gift that can last a lifetime one mom can pull out anytime she thinks of her father and later you can pull out when thinking of your mom and poppop.
The album can also be added to by you for mom as you get older and have a family to add memories for mom to cherish. You may not always be just down the hall or across town. Once you have a husband and family of your own life can take you to the four corners of the world. A photo album always keeps you close for mom.
Hello everyone!
My mother and my ex-boyfriend (whom I am still very close friends with) are both attending work parties on the same day.
My mom asked me to go with her, because my dad's not a huge fan of these events, and because she thought I would enjoy it. Her work party is large, held at a nice hotel, will feature speeches from the founders, will have music/drinks/food, and is formal. Most of her coworkers are are in their late 20s-beyond, and I'm 20, so they're older than me. She told me that my dad would go with her if I decided not to attend.
My ex-boyfriend's party is smaller and not as formal, but should still be nice. It will be held at a restaurant and will also feature music, food, and drinks. His coworkers are closer to my age. I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend, but he doesn't have feelings for me, and because of this tension we sometimes don't get along well. I have wanted to go with him to an office event for a while.
I did tell my mom I would go with her first, but she's understanding of my situation with my ex and doesn't mind what I do.
What should I do?
To me the answer is simple; you go with your mother. There are any number of reasons why this is the better choice.
First: The fact he is your Ex. Would he be inviting you if he had a current girlfriend to invite? I think not.
Second: The tension between you that you speak of. How can either of you, especially you have a good time given you are not on great terms with each other.
Third: You say there will be drinks at this party. Alcohol loosens inhibitions. What if one or both of you have a bit too much to drink, it is possible, and you start fighting with each other. If that happens you can ruin the night for everyone else in attendance.
Going with your mom means no tension which means you are going to have a better time to start with. While moms party may be more formal it is also nice to get dressed up once in awhile. Last but not least dad will owe you one for letting him sit out this party. All in all I think going with mom is the better of the two for you.
I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 24. We just started dating about 3 months ago but recently started becoming more intimate. The thing is that when he fingers me he puts his actual fingers in and is kind of rough which I don't like. I'm definitely clitoral so I just like it rubbed. How can I let him know this without it being awkward or making it seem like I don't like when he puts his actual fingers in me especially so rough? I don't want to make him feel bad.
You are right to be concerned that you could make him feel bad if you use the wrong words. When it comes to sex the male ego is very fragile. All males think they are dynamite in bed. Fact of the matter is sex like everything else in life is a learned experience for the most part. Sure we all have an inherent ability when it comes to actual intercourse, foreplay is a different story.
Most men are not aware that many women cannot be aroused through vaginal stimulation. This is because everything we have learned about sex comes from what we read in porno magazines or see in porno films. Most parents do not tell male children how to make love. They tell them about sex and pregnancy and to keep it in their pants until they are married.
You do need to have a conversation and tell him about the fact you are clitoral not vaginal. I would suggest this conversation take place when you are pleasing him. Ask him where he likes to be kissed and touched. Ask him if he likes his nipples sucked. Yes some men do have sensitive nipples and tell him it is okay if he does like his nipples sucked and nipped it doesn't make him gay. Ask him if he likes the way you stroke and suck on his penis. Is there anything you could do to make it better for him. Does he like his sack and testicles sucked and licked.
If your into it does he like to have his anus licked. Will he let you penetrate him with your finger and stroke his prostrate. You can give him a mind-blowing orgasm if he let's you should you want to do this.
If he is smart and you ask these things of him he will ask you the same questions of you. This is when you can tell him you really get of having your clitoris stoked and licked. How you like it done and that vaginal stimulation doesn't do it for you but clitoral stimulation does get you up for intercourse.
Just remember one thing when you do talk to him. There's nothing weird that happens in the bedroom between two consenting adults. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.
This includes the fantasies most of us have. If you trust your partner there's no reason not to explore your fantasy with them. These are the things you should to get across to your boyfriend when you do talk to him. He may not be the man you marry but if you have an open and frank conversation about your sexual needs you will be doing both of you a favor. This is a conversation every couple should have before having sex or shortly after entering a sexual relationship.
My wife and I did and that was 45 years ago.
My boyfriend is 25 years old (so am I) and we have recently started dating. After becoming sexual I've realized one thing - he's having trouble getting hard. We haven't had sex yet, well because he hasn't been able to get hard. We will be making out and he will be fingering me and still nothing. Last night he even tried to do it himself and it didn't work. It's frustrating for both of us but he says he just needs lube and he can get hard in seconds. Is this normal? I've never had this problem with past boyfriends. He said he swears its not because of me he's just always needed lube to get hard.
No this is not normal for someone his age. He is in fact suffering from some form of erectile dysfunction. Just what my be causing this is anyone's guess. It could be medication for say high blood pressure. another cause could be low testosterone or anything in between.
What your boyfriend should do is see his doctor. If he is on blood pressure medication the doctor can adjust the medication or change it for another medication. If he has low testosterone that is easily fixed in several ways. A complete physical is in order to rule out organic causes.
If lube allows him to get an erection the go with the flow and keep lube in your nightstand. But also encourage him to speak with a psychologist about why he can only get an erection if he uses lube. There may be something he is suppressing that needs to come out and be dealt with so he can have a more regular sex life. Note I said regular not normal as using lube is not really all that abnormal in the grand scheme of things.
I understand this is frustrating for both of you. what he needs right now is your understanding and support. Not only is his libido harmed by this but his ego as well/ Having to admit to this problem even to a male doctor is going to be quite embarrassing for him.
You can help him by being supportive and offer to go with him to his doctor. Your being with him may make it more comfortable for him or you may even have to fill in some gaps for him. What ever is the cause of this problem I believe with your support it can be overcome.
If a boy Fuck to girl for 2 minit, then the girl can got pregnant
Short answer is yes.
It does not matter how long intercourse takes. What matters is whether or not any semen are discharged during that intercourse. A boy does not have to have an ejaculation to emit semen. Most boys/men will emit semen in a pre-emission as a form of lubricant. There is enough semen in this small amount of emission to make a pregnancy if all other factors are right.
I am 17, female. I have been relatively inactive physically for the last couple of years. I ride my bike a bit in the summer, and use it as a way to get to work in the summer as well. I walk about 2 km to get to school on average 4 times a week.
However, I am finding that I am much less physically fit than I was a few years ago. Climbing stairs sometimes puts me out of breath(generally only if its more than one floor though). I am much slower on bike as well. Also, I am losing a ton of flexibility.
I am wondering if anyone has suggestions on ways to work on my fitness. I do not have lots of time, nor am I willing to pay for a gym membership. I also do not have an exercise bike/treadmill available to me.
There are some things you can do that will cost you little or no money at all and may even save you some money. First you have to identify what you may be doing wrong and change it.
Let's start with exercise. You cannot afford a gym membership though you have a bike. See if you have a friend or relative who may be good with their hands. Ask one of them if the can build you a sturdy stand you can lock your rear tire into off the ground. If someone can do this for you then you now have a bike you can ride to school and work and one for stationary riding. If no one can build one for you check online or go to a bicycle store and purchase one.
Part of being physically fit has as much to do with diet as it does with exercise. I'm serious about this next item. For the next week carry a small pad with you and write everything you eat down on the pad. Every meal and every snack even if it is just one cookie or one piece of candy and when you have them.
The results at the end of the week may be surprising. Too much sugar, to many carbs or too much of anything is not good for you and can make you feel sluggish. You may believe you are eating a balanced meal each day and you may very well be doing so. When you look at your meal plan over a week's time and see just what those meals consist of it is surprising.
Once you have done this you will know how many bad snacks you are eating; cookies, candies and other things. since you are not dieting I suggest you look for healthier snacks, fruits, vegetables and other snacks that are not loaded with sugars and other things you don't need.
Next look and see what you consume after 7 in the evening. Heavy meals are not good to have after 7 as the body does not have time to properly digest them before going to bed.
Last but not least look at what you are consuming at meal times. Fish, Beef, Chicken, Pork are all good proteins but to much of any of them are not good. Fish is best, followed by skinless chicken, then pork and beef. Pasta is high in carbs and will make you feel sluggish and should be consumed in moderation. Salads and green vegetables are also very good.
Consult a nutritionist if you can to work out a proper balance in meal plan if it is possible to do so.
IF you will try this you will be healthier so you will feel healthier.
My father is turning 55 on Sunday and he lives alone in his house with 60+ cats. He thinks it's a cat rescue, but I'm pretty sure it's hoarding. He just bought the house a few years ago and it's a complete mess with cat feces, urine and vomit everywhere.
Every time he gets rid of a cat he takes in 5 more and I'm sick to death of him living like this.
My dad is NOT healthy. He has had cancer, lung problems, multiple spinal disc bulges, hernias, and severe arthritis. On top of this he spends all day working and then comes home to "take care" of 60-100 cats.
In reality they just run around further ruining his home.
He makes okay money at his job (40K/year), but it all goes to his cats so he lives in poverty. He doesn't even have a couch, he sits on a little old plastic lawn chair and watches TV.
Animal hoarding is a felony in my state so I don't want to report him to the authorities and have him wind up with criminal charges but I do want to get rid of them all and clean up his house.
I can't do it with him knowing about it because he genuinely thinks what he's doing is a good thing and I know he'd refuse. I would have to get him out of the house and then do it.
I don't know where to even begin though?! Who would help me with this? He's estranged from everybody including family and has no friends.
Help!
The only legal way to help your father is to call the Health department and animal control for the county where he lives. To have that many animals in his home is probably illegal and they will come and rescue the animals.
If the house is as filthy as you say it is The Health Department will contact Adult Protective services to relocate your father for the house will probably be condemned until it is cleaned up and made habitable again.
This is not a project you can do for him as the house will be considered an Environmental Hazard zone. In order to clean it up special contractors licensed to work in that environment without contaminating other homes will need to be hired.
The house will then need to be inspected by the health department before a use an occupancy permit is reissued.
My advise is you do this right away as the environmental hazard is not helping your fathers health problems and is probably causing more problems for him
I am in Grade 12. I am currently taking four courses, three of which have super heavy workloads and the fourth is moderately heavy. I also currently have at least 5 projects on the go between the 4 classes. I work 2 or 3 times a week and I am involved in our school choir.
I am super stressed right now because for the last couple of weeks I have been working on homework until at least 12 almost every night, whereas before this November, the latest I had done homework was 11:30. I also take almost 1/2 hour to fall asleep and get up at 6:30 every morning, so I am super behind on sleep. I don't even get to catch up on weekends at all because I still have homework, and I have to get up on time for work on Saturdays and church on Sundays.
I also am trying to work on university applications and scholarship applications at the same time.
I am so tired and just done with school right now that whenever I sit down at the computer to do homework, I get distracted really easily and start reading random articles and checking social media. I have no motivation, even though I know that I need to get good grades to get into university and actually apply if I want to be accepted....
So I guess I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions. Please don't tell me to quit my job or my school choir. I need the money to pay for university and the choir is about the only thing I do that I enjoy.
Thanks a lot in advance :)
Time management may be your problem. The projects may be managing you instead of you managing them. This is a problem many people face with time management.
I could help you better if I knew when each project was due? What each project was and how much time you felt was needed to be put into each project to get the grade you want. I'm also sure you have other homework that is assigned each day and probably chores that need to be done at home when you get home from school.
With all of this weighing on your time you need to manage your clock better. Really and the sooner you learn how to do so the better for it will pay dividends in University and when you go out into the adult working world.
You start with getting a daily calendar with the hours of the day printed on it, Block out the time you arrive home from school for a half hour or maybe an hour to relax and decompress. Maybe you take a bath and relax in the tub or have a snack whatever as long as it has nothing to do with school work.
Next block out the time each day you need for daily home work and chores. On the day you have Choir practice block out the time you need for that.
Next the 5 projects. With the remaining hours before bedtime, bedtime should be 11pm, start with the project due first. How much time do you need to complete that project. Then each of the other 4 projects in order of when they are due.
This is an example: Let's assume you have 7 hours not including dinner. You need 2 hours for daily homework on average. Block those out. You now have 5 hours left. Depending on how many hours the first project needs block out 1/6 (there are 6 days you will work on these projects)of those hours for every day not including Sunday until that project needs to be submitted. Do the same for the other four. You can adjust these hours giving more to the project due first if need and less to the projects due last.
On Saturday you work only on your projects and only the amount of time you block out for them, the 1/6 of the hours each week needed to work to time of turn in. Hopefully that will leave you with most of Saturday afternoon and evening to relax and go out on a date or with friends.
Sunday is a day of rest. Time for Church and Choir. Time to relax with family and friends.
How to compute the hours needed to complete the project is harder to give you an example fro. Right now I'm thinking you are working to get them done and not working to a completion date. If so as the saying goes you are working harder and not smarter by overload yourself and not doing your best work.
By computing how much time different projects will take, how much time daily assignments take and blocking out hours in a day for those things. You can then have hours to do other things for yourself.
Like it or not from now until the time you retire or during a vacation period. The clock will be your worst enemy. Learning to manage the clock is going to be your best asset.