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Help with my sex life
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So me and my bf have been together for a year. We broke up for a couple of days but got back together. Ever since we have gotten back together our sex life has been different. He's been putting the cookies in the oven before the oven is even warm. He used to give me head all the time but stopped once we got back together. What seems to be the issue?
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The reason for the break up may shed light on this. Otherwise, a man who has been giving satisfactory sex all along doesn't change so drastically and go backwards in a couple days time if the days leading up to the break up were still good sex. There's another issue and the only one as Adviceman said who can answer that is your boyfriend. I can verify that with all the partners I've ever had for sex, that each one if different, and has to be relearned specifically for that persons likes and such. We all have the same equipment and the round peg goes in the round hole, thats easy. But if a person is unwilling to put in the effort to please their partner sexually, I'd say he's not happy about something in the relationship and It most likely has nothing to do with you. He may have secrets he's been keeping from just stress of a beloved grandmother who is in danger of dying and can distract him from being able to be fully there for you in a relationship, to finding that his feelings for you have diminished over time and it took the break to confirm it for him. So you need to have a good talk with him. If you need someone to talk to after you have some answers or regarding any decision making you need to make, just let me know.
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This is the type of question we can't answer for you . The only one that can answer this is your boyfriend.
You don't say why you broke up. What I can offer is if the cause was anything related to sex or if he feels it was related to sex in any way. Then you might have bruised his male ego. Every male thinks he is god's gift to women when it comes to sex.
In actuality sex is a learned experience one that has to be relearned with every new partner. After that first couple of sexual experiences with a new partner a couple should talk about their likes and dislikes, especially the woman as some women are more clitoral than vaginal in their arousal.
Since the two of you have been together for a long time I think it is permissible for you to ask him why he has stopped giving you head. You could say something like Jeff you use to give me great head and I really enjoyed it. It set me up for great orgasms, Please tell me why you don't do so any longer and if it is me I will do what I can to fix it.
You need to be prepared for his answer if it is you. It could be how you taste or your scent. Both of which are easily fixed. Just as his semen's taste will differ based on his diet so will your taste and scent. Medication can effect both of these as well.
Diets can be changed sometimes, medication not always although you can consult your doctor. OF course there is something else you can do to change this if diet and medication are the cause. If sex is on the agenda just before you start to get all cuddly go in the bathroom and wash you vagina with a nice floral soap. This should fix the problem.
You could also stop wearing pantyhose and switch to stockings which are far sexier than panty hose anyway. If it is not too cold where you live wear dress and skirts more. If it is cold where you live and you can afford it buy a full length parka or wear pants under your skirt to work.
Lastly if he does say something about taste or scent see your GYN as your scent and taste should not be putting him off. This could be an early sign something may need attention.
Now this is only a guess on my part and the only thing I can think of that would cause any guy not to give head. Giving head for a guy is like, I'm sure, giving head for a gal. All part of getting ready for the main event. Without it the main event is lacking.
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