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I dont know what I must do
Saw my ex bf 2 weeks ago havent heard from him for a week texted him twice but no response and he is almost always online texted him yesterday but i lied and made up a story cause i wanted to see if he was going to mayb reply i told him that he must let me knw when he wants the learners bonks cause im moving today and then il just fetch it at home (this was a lie) few minutes later he replied saying that that he wl be needing it soon i then said ok he mst let me knw then il drop it off during his lunch time he then asked where im going (i had to continue the lie) i told him 3weeks in PE he then said i must njoy it and im going to misS the mountains alot i then said that the time will go kwik and me going away will do everyone good including myself he then said I must let hm knw how sucky it is i told him yeah i will,text hm once a week and if it dont suck he must make me coffee for the last time he then said yeah u do that and his allergic to coffee i then asked him since when and he told me since i dont feel like making for you i then said so i guess thats a bad thing right he then said for you i guess so i then asked why so he said coz your not getting coffee duh i then said oh thought he was going to say something bad he read the message but didnt reply so i havent heard from him since then...do you think that even though he knws im 'leaving' will he miss me cause i dont think i will text him..i dont know what to do cause lately he would ignore me so much it gets to me i would text him so bad eventhough ie dont reply but then a few days later or whenever he would randomly show up and stuff..should i just stay away and not text him do you think i would ever hear from him again..we exs we broke up twice but last year april started speaking again its been a year and 7months we see each other ona monthly basis once or twice but this past few months us taling everday went to us speaking wheneva i dont knw why he changed yes we do have sex but when i saw hm two weeks ago we kinda ddnt have..dnt knw whys he acting so if the is someone else why not tell me wheneva i mention him gttn a gf he kinda gets worked up says he dnt have time for woman so what does that make me a booty call i just dont know anymore he was never mine but my heart is broken do you think im just overthinking things any decent advice that would help please im kinda scared he will forget bout me i want to let go but my heard will not allow me to cause mayb therz still hope i dont know..what do u think
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When a female is into a guy, she wants to talk often and see him often, and guys if they are into her, are the same way. However they priortize things of importance to them as to how to spend their time. If a guy makes you one of his top 3 priorities, then nothing is wrong as he will be giving equal time and energy to whatever else is most important, school, job, friends or family. So if he's in school, and working, those will likely be the other rwo spots. Spot #3 should be you if hes crazy about you but if its filled with friends or family, then you are not as important to him as you think or wish for. He's been around you long enough to determine if you are the only one for him. Although seeing each other only 2x a month if I understand correctly is not enough to build a relationship. If you find yourself lying to have opportunity to just talk to him, you are weakening your own true self and that is a sign that something is wrong within you. Not that you are a terrible person, just that something is a bit off balance. My guess would be that either you don't feel complete as a person if you don't have a boyfriend in your life paying you attention or something else is missing in your life, maybe a past hurt or something from childhood, something you have lived without but want alot and so subconsciously, your mind makes you choose to desperately go after him, unable to let go of someone not showing much interest anymore. I can't say why he changed and there isn't a way to make someone who's lost interest in you to miss you and want you back. If its not meant to be, you can try to win him over til the day you die and it won't make a difference.
You ask why he wouldnt come out and tell you if he's no longer interested and he's found someone else. Heres some of the biggest reasons, the guy is a coward but to give men credit, many have already learned that there are more weak and desperate emotional women out there who can't take the truth and in their wish to avoid an emotional outburst of tears and crying and desperate pleas from the girl to stay with them, they avoid saying anything at all. I can understand that. I am a confident woman and instead of chasing after guys, I spoke bluntly and to the point in a dating site, saying what I was like as a person not hiding even traits that can drive some people crazy but others like, I listed what I am looking for in a guy, specific like non smokers as I am allergic to the smoke. And I had guys applying for the job to be the new sweetheard in my life. I was the one in control. Right now, you don't think you can find anyone else. Maybe it's what your heart feels. Women get feelings and emotions wrapped up in a guy, whether he's right for them or not, even if he's lost interest, all because of having sex with them. That is something we all seem to do that leasds us off track. You have to rely on morethan that to determine if theres a chance with him or not. By what you've written, I'd say there is no chance cus even if busy or separated by distance, two people in love will find time to talk and meet and thats not happening so its likely him hoping that this subtle way of non interacting with you is getting the message across. It does with woman who are in desperate mode but my guess is its time to take the hint. Sorry it didn't work out.
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