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What there to say about me? I'm 27 and a graduate of UCSD. Throughout my life most of my close friends have been girls so I have a unique perspective on relationships and sex. I know a lot about computers as well as random stuff in general. Feel free to ask me anything and I'll answer it to the best of my knowledge.
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My myspace will not let me reply or message people. I press reply, and i type my message & everything goes normal. When i go to my inbox though, it says that i have only read the message, and when I go to the sent link, it says i never sent the message. Also, they person never gets the message. It's impossible to reach Tom about the problem, so does anybody know? (link)
taylorbugg. thats the exact opposite of what toms message said. his said if messages are being sent or bullitnes posted from your account that you didnt do yourself, then you got phished. quite different.

are you sure everything is going normal? ive had a problem occasionally, but it gives me an error. maybe your browser isnt recognizing it, and thinks nothing is wrong. when replying, try deleting all the text in the message first. also, it seems to be triggered by certain mispellings common to spam messages. try using good spelling and capitilization.

you can also try emailing them, i think its support@myspace.com


ok, so i am 14 year old girl and i like this kid *tommy, and my friend amy was talking to him and she IMed me and was like " Tommy says your cute!" and she sent me the convo and all she asked him was who do u like and that was his answer, and know he won't answer when im him, whats does this mean? (link)
with guys, in general, if it seems like he might like you, it means he probably does.


okay so heres the deal.
im a 15/f and i recently met this boy named joe and hes a senior hes 17 and he'll be 18 in january. we've become really close in the past few days, hes drove me to school a few times and hes been over to meet my mom. everything seemd to be fine until i asked to have joe over for a day this weekend. and my mom starts going off on me because hes an older boy! and i've been trying to explain to her that we're just friends and nothing more! and that i kno what im doing! but she wont believe me she cant get over the fact that hes an "older boy". it makes me soo up set! how can i get my parents to approve of me hangin out with joe? please help soon!

thank you (link)
well, you can tell your mom that onces hes 18, if he tries anything with you, shell be able to put him in jail for statutory rape. that might make her ease up a bit.


okay so my boyfriend doesnt know the first thing about girls... he really doesnt open up to me and we are REALLY shy around each other and i still dont know much about him! hes like waht do you wanna know.. its supposed to flow naturally i dont know what to ask him becuase i dont know him! How can i help him without tellling him waht to do? Hes really cute and ive liked him for awhile and really want this to work, but i deserve more attention than this! Help me to help him to help me, lol thanks!! (link)
youre still fairly young, its normal for things to be a little akward in a relationship. but i gotta tell ya, it doesnt get THAT much better. most guys dont know anything about girls, and many have trouble opening up. you can try guiding him, helping him along


I have a male dachshund 3 yrs old (yes the the that pees in the house ) I just had my female fixed 8 days ago. And My puppy(her son) nine month old Piebald,got ran over yesterday ( still crying)I need to know if i can breed the dad with his daughter? As i have 2 of his daughters in the area. And life isnt the same without a puppy ! And hoping for another Piebald.
Thank you N Wade


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it really is not recomended, the way genetics works, you can get a perfectly healthy puppy, but you can also get some pretty major defects. you might also get defects that show up in the next generation. if you are willing to risk that, then you can try it, but you really should find another dog to breed the father with. doesnt even have to be a daschung, you can get a nice mix breed.


The key to pure success when making out.

I need tips.

Im a female, and I need to spice up my making out sessions.

HELP PLEASE (link)
generarly, a guy is so happy to be making out with you that he wont notice if you arent exceptional.

every guy is different. the only advice thats anywhere near universal is your hands. use them. where you ask? well im sure you can figure that out.

you can also use your teeth a bit, dont actualy bite down on his lips, but let your teeth graze over them as you are pulling away.






what is the diffrence between the act and the sat? (link)
well the scale is different, and most school prefer the SATs

The ACT is an achievement test, measuring what a student has learned in school. The SAT is more of an aptitude test, testing reasoning and verbal abilities.

The ACT has up to 5 components: English, Mathematics, Reading, Science, and an optional Writing Test. The SAT has only 3 components: Verbal, Mathematics, and a required Writing Test.

The College Board introduced a new version in 2005, with a mandatory writing test. ACT continues to offer its well-established test, plus an optional writing test. You take the ACT Writing Test only if required by the college(s) you're applying to.

The SAT has a correction for guessing. That is, they take off for wrong answers. The ACT is scored based on the number correct with no correction for guessing.

ACT lets the student decide what set of scores they want sent. The College Board's policy is to send all scores.

The ACT has an interest inventory that allows students to evaluate their interests in various career options.


i have a Kodak easy shake c330 digital camera and when i used to put the mem. card into my computer the pictures would come up right away. now they're not, even after like 20 minutes.

how do i get to see my pictures or download them like i used to be able to? (link)
something might have gotten messed up in your autoplay settings. the simplest solution, just go to my computer, and open the memory card from there.


Okay, so there's this guy, and we'll call him David. He used to and still likes my best friend, and she never liked him, up until now. Last night she made me call him to ask if he still liked her, and tonight he called me saying yes. Now, I understand that if you like someone you're allowed to talk to other people(female friends in this case), and instead of hanging up right away and having her call him back, he kept conversation with me. Now, we're making plans to hang out and what not, and I haven't yet gotten her approval because she went up to another state for Thanksgiving. Any advice on what I should do? I kind of like him, and he's cool and all, but I would NEVER take him away from my best friend, but what should I do? I have no way of communicating with her until Saturday, so...? Any advice?

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of course it should be ok, and if shes not ok with it, shes not someone hed want for a girlfriend anyways,


I currently live in Virginia but I want to attend an Ohio College. Does anyone know how long you have to actually live in the state to claim in-state tuition? (link)
the general rule is, you should have paid the yearly taxes in that state. it varies state to state, and sometimes even college to college.


hi i need help i am know a high school senior and am trying to find scholarhips. Well my best area is writeing poems and short stories but i dont know where to look to find places to enter to get scholarships or contest money. if you know any places could you please let me know.
Thank you.
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http://collegeboard.com/ is the most official one.


i need to download some applications for my TI-84 Plus Silver Edition graphing calculator. i have the TI connect loaded on my computer. but how do i go about putting the applications on my calculator from my computer? i tried but everytime it just doesnt show up on my calculator. (link)
83 or 84? i assume you have the link cable. are you using TI connect or the one specific to your calculator? with the specific one, you go to file (i think, might be one of the others in the menu) and theres a send application or send flash menu. you cant just send it as a normal program


Well I really like this guy at school but he likes one of my best friends. I also think that my friend likes him but my problem is that she know that I think him . She always flirts with him and sometimes it gets annoying ! she wears his hoodie and writes him notes. He wants me to get them hooked up but I really don't want to. I want her to be happy and he is really nice so I told her that if he askes her she should go out with him and that I wouldn't be mad at her cause it would be something good in her life. I don't know what to do cause I also like someone else but he only talks to me about my friend because they went out before. How come i'm the person people go to ? I want them to like me not to be there advisors ! What should I do ? (link)
if you dont want to set them up then dont, dont stand in their way either though. jsut tell your friend you arent comfortable doing it, its bad enough shes going after ag uy you like, she shouldnt be forcing you to hook them up


Does anybody know if there is a way for me to download a free trial version of the Sims 2 Pets?

thanks! (link)
sure you can download it, just not legaly.


be prepared, its a bit long.


my boyfriend have been going out for about 5 months. he's amazing. it was actually one of those best friends for life, turned love, things er whatever. but the thing is: he has jealousy issues like no other. he always tells me that guys are flirting with me, and he doesn't like it. i admit, i do flirt with guys, but its my nature. i grew up with guys. and i dont see flirting like most people do. i know its bad, but i cant seem to get it through my boyfriend's head that i only like him. and not anyone else. i try to explain i dont mean to flirt. but he just says 'okay' in that sarcastic, i know he's lying sort of way. and to top it all off. he 'flirts' with other girls too. if he wants to say that i do. but i know he doesnt mean it.

[bt the way, "flirting" in the sense. would be me pushing a guy. or pretending to throw him in the water. or the definition of childish flirting. i'm not even talking about like, kissing other guys or anything]

..and i definitly don't want to screw things up with the one guy that i dont have any problems with [well, besdies this].


so, im asking.
could anyone give advice on how i could possibly.
try to stop "flirting" with people.
or how to get it through his head, that i dont mean to.
because i think he only partially believes me. (link)
heres the thing about flirting. when a girl notices a guy is flirting with her, shell think "aww how cute" when a guy notices a girl is flirting with him, hell think "finally! somebody wants to do me!"

the first step to trying to get over the issue? you need to understand where he is coming from. guys are instinctively jelous of their girlfriend's male friends. now, that of course does not mean they should do anything about it, they definitely shouldnt, you should just understand where thats coming from. now, by you flirting with the guys, you are compounding that emotion. you should talk to him about it, explain why you act the way you do, and try to get something better than a sarcastic response out of him. there is an old addage "if you do not accept my friends, then you do not accept me" now, in most cases, this is used when one person has a problem with say, their significant other being friends with an asshole/bitch of the same gender, but, it does apply to this situation as well.

i have many female friends, i am sometimes flirtatious as well, and its something i bring up in the begening of the dating stage to make sure it wont be a problem later on down the line.


Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex soon. Neither of us have ever done it before, so we have no idea what you are supposed to do without getting hurt. I am 13 and he is 14, do you think that it to early, even with protection?? Any advice would help. (link)
well it seems that everyone is telling you that you are too young. pretend like i have reitirated that. the truth is, only you can know if you are trully ready. the average age for the first time, last i checked, was 16. now some people are ready before that, and some arent ready till several years after. 13 is way passed pushing it though, i have yet to meet anyone who was anywhere near ready at 13. there is another thing to consider. while girls sometimes mature very quickly, guys often do not. and even if you are ready, your boyfriend most likely is not. he definitely thinks he is. at 14 all a guy can think about is sex. actualy, thats true of pretty much any age. whats a good litmus test? ill give you a few.

1. can you talk about it without using euphamisms?
2. you are going to need birthcontrol, you should most likely go on the pill, which in some states you cant do without parental persmision, can you talk to your mom (or dad) about it?
3. is he going to be able to be mature enough to go to a drug store and buy the condoms?

without knowing you, id have to play the percentages and say that you most likely shouldnt, but again only you and your boyfriend can know for sure. but one thing i must press, is the importance of protection, you will want to use both a condom, and the pill. and remember, the pill doesnt become effective until (i think) a week after you start taking it.


I don't do very well on tests and so I need help on studying...and don't say, Take Good Notes...be more specific...life crisis!

my tests are normally a C or under...not good and I do fine with homework...it's just the tests!
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well you havent been specific at all, how old are you? what subjects? multiple choice or not? ill try to give you some generic advice.

this is one i used to do pretty often for vocab like tests. make a cheatsheet, nice and small, and write down all the words you dont know, the day before the test. keep it with you, glance at it occasionaly and see if anything sticks in memory. the next day, make another cheet sheet, this time it should hopefully need less stuff. now since you dont actualy want to cheet, just leave it in your pocket (or better yet throw it out) before the test. it does help you retain the information.

with multiple choice tests, its not about figuring out what the answer is, its about figuring out what the answer isnt. and then guessing from the remaining ones.

with studying, its important to study under the same conditions as you will be in when taking the test. so sit in an uncomfortable chair at a tiny desk and read through your book.


I went out with a group of friends, one of them was a girl who knows a bunch of upperclassmen (this was my freshman year, last year). She invited this one junior named Steve. This friend, Maddy, left to go home first.

Afterwards, as we were waiting for two of our other friends to be picked up, we were talking to Steve-this was the first time I had seen him in my life.

We were walking under the stars talking, the most romantic thing ever. He was so nice, and he was so protective (we were walking around horse stables at night, and my mother is paranoid). I instantly fell for him.

Fast forward just over a month. We were at a holiday party for a club that we are both in. I was sitting upstairs talking to a friend, and he says, to me, "It's good that one hot girl is still here!" Hot is NOT how I would describe myself.

Again, fast forward, but this time about 3 months. This club that we are in had a huuuuuuge performance. My part of the club was in a downstairs dressing room, everyone else was upstairs. In essence, he had no reason whatsoever to be down there.

People saw him come downstairs, look for me, and then when he didn't see me (I was upstairs, looking for him :] ), he would go back up. As I wa coming back down and he was going back up (after my part of the performance), I stopped and asked him if he had seen me mess up that night, and he said no, bu asked m e where I stood onstage and asked me to hug his teddy bear for good luck (His part of the show involved stuffed animals). I did.

In short, I still like him, and he doesn't really like me. He is two years older (15/17) and is graduating in June. I've tried getting over him, but every time I see him, my heart melts.

Any advice or comments about this? (link)
sounds like does like you. ill even stake my rating on that. tell him you like him, and then if he doesn't like you, rate me a 1.


ok well heres the thing ive been going out with my boyfriend scence last tuesday. and i feel kinda distant from him i guess. also im kinda worried because i heard this rumar recently that with every girlfriend he's had, he's had sex with. and im not that type of girl, i think he might know that..but still i dont want him to be takin it too slow. i mean we dont hold hands we havent kissed yet. we've only hugged. i just want him to know its ok to kiss me.. what shoyuldi do to give him the hint?? (link)
i just want him to know its ok to kiss me.. what shoyuldi do to give him the hint??


kiss him


I am very sad!!

Last night my bf asked me if I think that I was ready for marriage ..I was surprise and happy of course .He just pop up with the question if I love him and if I want to marry him one day .
I said yes ...I was really happy.
After that we kept on talking about marriage and stuff than I told him that If I ought to marry him I want to keep my own lastname ....He got really mad and told me that he doesn't like my desicion.

The real reason why I wouldn't like his lastname is that his parents has the same last name and they really hate me and do really bad and nasty stuff to me .THEY HURT ME A LOT,
It's really hard for me to go around with the lastname of my biggest enemies
I love my bf ..we had been A LOT to be togheter ..his parents did the imposible things to seperate us ..They are really jealous about their son.
The second reason is that my dad has more than 5 childrens and he only gave me his lastname ..I'm proud to have this lastname and I really don't want to change it..

Can anyone understand me ?????
I don't want to hurt him but how to explain to him this strange feeling ?
I'm really sad .. (link)
marriage is all about compromise. the simple solution is to hyphenate, use your last name first to make it stand out more. as for his parents, well i can relate. but you have to ask yourself this question, which feeling is stronger? your hate for his parents, or your love for him? since you do not want to take his last name, it would seem that the hate is more powerful, and he is understandably upset. as for your being proud of your last name, well that is more understandble, but hyphenation takes care of that.




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