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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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Ok i live in jamaica so ye....we have digicel so i need..(i only want one thing for christmas and it is this:
An electronic device that:
works with digicel or cable n wireless but can possibly be bought in america..(but if it can be bought in jamaica thats cool too)
Has IM, preferably yahoo or msn i dont know or both lol dunno
MAYBE Mp3 like i can plug it into the comp and take my stuff off itunes
camera
internet access to go to web pages, and email ...so thanks you if you do..
ALSO it is compatible for like cable n wireless or digicel i guess but you can put a chip in there for it when i go to america so i can have like ..tmobile
please find what you can, it does not HAVE to have mp3 but will be appreciated if found..i mostly need camera, im, email and msn and it HAS to be compatible to an america company like tmobile or something really cheap for bills n jamaica too cause i dont know about this stuff so any really 'worth it' help will be appreciated. or ye and can be bought at walmart circuit city, target, or in jamaica
From what I can understand and think of, I think a computer is the best choice. When you buy a MP3 player, it will come with a cord that you can connect one end to the computer and the MP3 player. There will be instructions with your MP3 and this applies to a camera. Internet is always availiable if you pay for it and for wireless internet access, you need to buy an installation kit for it. As for the messenger like AIM, Yahoo, MSN, and such, you can go to:
www.messenger.yahoo.com
www.msn.com
www.aim.com
and find links to download the messenger onto your computer...and the best part is that it's all free. And I think that's all you asked for, right? Send me a question if I missed anything =]
I didn't know what category to put this in, so that's why it's here.
I'm a part of a secret santa and I got one of my friends. I'm not allowed to spend a lot of money but I would like to get her something nice that she'll enjoy. Any cute ideas? Thanks!
If she is a girly girl:
Get her a cute stuffed animal
Get her a small set of ltion, perfume, body wash, and shampoo from Body Works
Get her a $15 gift card from Claire's
If she likes to read:
Get her a gift card from Barnes and Noble
Get her an interesting looking book
Gift cards are always great.
what is doucheing yourself? when should you do it? how should you do it? what do you use? how long do you do it? where exactly do you do it?
what's its purpose? anything at all!! as you can tell, i have no idea what it is.
thanks in advance
xo
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Douche
go there. it's basically used for after sex. many girls use this method so they don't get pregnant but it's all a myth. whether you do or don't, there is a chance of you getting pregnant.
17/f
Me and my boyfriend live in different countries so to keep things interesting we have phone sex. He's always asking me to tell him what I'd do to him if he were here, and the thing is, I'm not sure. I'm pretty new to the whole sex thing and don't know the 'technical terms' or w.e. I know this is kind of perverted and everything, but can you guys tell me some things I could say to him while he's .. well .. you know to help him well.... Thanks and I really appreciate it guys
Get Yahoo! Instant Messenger, go to a chat room and ask people in there to guide you through the whole cyber scene. Then use that and covert it to the phone usage with your boyfriend. Note that there are many horny perverted guys online and so becareful not to tell them personal info or get addicted to it or what not. Have fun =]
ok well im 13 about to turn 14 and im scared. i cant watch any scary movies and i get scared just watching things that arent even scary for normal people. i cant sleep at night by myself if i see something thats even just a little scary and i cant sleep at night by myself if someone else isn't on the same floor as me even if i didn't see a scary movie or anything..... i also cant take a shower unless someone's in the next room with the door open and even then i can't close my eyes while i take a shower... ive had this problem all my life... does anyone else have this same problem?? and do you think it'll go away?!?!?!?!?! pleaseee help me!!! how do i stop being scared?? and what if i stay this way even when i'm an adult and have to live by myself?!?!?!
Haha, well my guy friend who is gay and is 14 can't watch scary movies...not even commercials so you're not alone in that problem. The other ones, well I don't know.
The only way to overcome this fear of being alone is to conqure [sp?] it. Let me make a wild guess and say that when you take a shower you think of something popping out and killing you or something, right? Just think of other thoughts.
If you have to stay alone or in the shower or whatever, just imagine about chocolate filled donuts.Haha or just really off topic random silly things. Think about your crush or your friends or that new CD coming out or whatever. Once you relax, you'll feel better about taking a shower by yourself with no one around you. Or distract your mind about all that homework or the boring school and chores and what not.
About the scary movie, don't worry too much about it.
ok...
14/m
i have my first gf ever, we've been "together" for about a couple weeks now...we went to go see a movie today, and i sat next to her and everything, but i was too stupid to do anything...i.e., i didn't put my arm around her or anything...i know from her friends that she really likes me and i just am too nervous to make a move i think...i dunno tho...any advice?
thnks,
Sam
Haha. I have to say this:: awww that is so cute XD
Anywhos, note that when you go to a movie, you don't want to sit there not touching her in one way or another (keep in mind I'm talking in G rated way) Next time you go to a movie or go out on a date or something, hold hands with her, put your arms around her shoulder or waist or just talk to her a lot. And if she says she's cold she means to keep her warm by either putting your arm around her shoulder or giving her your jacket. Don't sit there and say that sucks or say i'm cold too. lol
Just be sweet and nice and nothing perverted like grabbing her thighs...XD
Don't be nervous because she is as nervous as you are and if you don't make a move, she might get fed up with that. If she puts her head on your shoulder, let her. If she leans back, hold her. Just make a move or let her make a move but you should really make a move frist. Don't be nervous because no girl in their right mind wouldn't want their bf to hug them
Have fun!
my laptop is not really like glass and not shure what my sreen made out of and yet i got like dell and hp, window xp, i use glass cleaner i hope that ok but there something else that works?
i don't suggest you use any cleaners on laptop screens. It's unprotected so touching it itself isn't very good. Just wipe it with dry tissue or if there is a stubborn thing on there, wipe it with a tissue wet with water...notice i said tissue like kleenax not a kitchen towl or something. Just wipe it with a soft cloth. Also go to a store where they sell all computer or electronic stuff like Circuit City and ask if they have a screen thing that you can put on top of the laptop screen to protect it.
i dont know what you would call it.. i guess discharge..? im 14/f and the white matter that comes out of my vajj is mostly whitebut it is like glue.. i dont kno how to explain it.. its not runny but like the snot.. is this right? and i get alot of it inbetween my periods.. its so unconfortable.. i always fel wet. it has never been like this before.. and it stinks.. is that normal??
Yep yep. Same here. I don't know why but google it. Anywhos, just wear pantyliners [sp?]
lol. the joys of being a female!!
id like opinions on this... just what does this say to you, like whats it about? --
head spinning and i go numb
you used to be the only place i could turn
everything that once was, brought down by a lie
inside, a burning feeling like my heart has bled and died
i could feel it every touch, every smile, every kiss
perfect memories now feel like false bliss
its still what i want and i want nothing more
see the light, dry my tears, and pick me off this floor
my breath is frozen in me as my heart turns cold
locked in this feeling forever while the world grows old
if i could see it in your eyes would it make it more clear?
was this for real or just the happening reality of my fears?
how could something so perfect just be ripped from my hands?
you beg me to believe but i question how i can
my perfected dream turned into a chilling nightmare
now watch as my heart breaks open and tears freefall in the air
ive lost sense of direction and i dont know where to go
was she right and is this just false hope?
well now its my turn to beg
i want to live again and i want to fly high
so save me please and dont let this die.
It sounds deep and meaningful and written out of sorrow and grief.
In my opinion I think you're reflecting on your experience where someon you held dear to your heart was either ripped away from you abruptly or went away by themselves. It seems like that you relied a lot on this person and now that this person is gone away, you're completely lost and you wish that this someone would come back so that he/she could preserve the wonderful feelings that you had when you were with her/him.
Overall I love this poem =] IM me sometime if you want
i got this friend he is bi but he dont wont to come out the closet what should my friend do
It's okay for your friend to be bi. I'm bi and so are all of my other friends. I havent come out either though mostly because of family and school.
My family is a huge homophobe and that dissappoints me. My friends can't keep secrets so there is no way I'm going to tell them and the school, 80% of the students will mentally or physically abuse homosexuals so yeah.
But your friend should come out only if he is ready. Don't pressure him to come out or don't go around saying he's bi --not sayng that you will just saying. Just keep it a secret for him, have him come out when he's comfortable and if his parents are strict and don't accept homosexuality in the house, wait untill he's off to college or something to come out...
Have him IM me at r0ck0nl0ser if he wants to
my 14 birthday is in 2 weeks and idk what i wanna do.
i don't want a huge party.
i want to do SOMETHING because i want presents and lots of them.
do you have any ideas?
I love murder mystery parties. Assign people to characters and they have to dress up as them. Someone would be the murderer and blah blah. There should be a kit for these kinds of things.
Also try laser tag, ice skating, movies, or whatever
So, I've been friends with this guy for about almost 3 years now and we've been dating almost for 2. I'm really in love with him and I trust him and he's the only one I can turn to knowing he won't let me down. He's always been there for me, except recently he mentioned something that kind of scared me, he said he wanted sex. This really surprised me, we're both virgin and I know that sex should be with someone you trust and love and he feels the same way, but at first we both wanted to wait for marriage. I'm positive 100% he's not only dating me for sex because if he was he would've asked a long time ago, right? Well, I really don't know what to do and we both agreed that we want our relationship to graduate to a higher level and we want to give each other our first time but I don't think I'm ready. Any help would be much appreciated! And thank you in advance!
There are two parts to this:
If this guy is really understandng and loves you and trusts you as much as you trust and love him, he will understand if you don't want to have sexwith him just yet. Just tell him that you're not quite ready and you still want to wait and see what happens. If he truly loves you, he'll understand and still love you. You on the other hand shouldn't be pressured into giving up your virginity. You decide when you want to and no one else. Just have sex when you're ready. Either wya both of you guys should understnad and still love each other no matter the outcome of this.
i dont get it.i dont know why i cant get a guy.i mean i try so hard am i really that un-likeable?seriously.
guys help me tell me if i at least sound attractive.
tall.
light brown hair.
green eyes.
intellegent.
loves to laugh.
ugh.
the guy i like [whos like my best frind,ive liked him for like 2 years] likes my other best friend [whos a girl] everyone likes her. and i hate to admit it but im jealous.
how can i make guys see me as girlfriend material rather than friend material.
Don't step into the friend zone.
Don't act like the bestest friend because that will cause the guy to see you only as a friend--for life. So just play hard to get sometimes and flirt with guys instead of just laughing. Touch them like their arms or hands, link arms, hug, etc.
13/f
i have this skin disease called "pityriasis rosea" [theyre like itchy spots all over your body!] and the dermatologists have said theres nothing to cure it so wait patiently for it to fade away. and i cant wait for it to be gone! and im most especially w0rried ab0ut n0t getting to wear nice clothes like for graduation, my high school prom, weddings, all that. i always have to wear long sleeves or turtle necks. And i feel embarassed with my skin so i always have to cover it up. D0 you know anything about this disease? maybe you can help me with what to do and still feel like a normal person. please help and thank you very much .
I really don't know a single thing about this disease but here's a site that might help:
http://www.aocd.org/skin/dermatologic_diseases/pityriasis_rosea.html
just google it and see what you can come up with.
Also sooner or later, people are going to have to deal with problems like this in their life time and it really does suck. But really, you didn't bring this upon yourself and you didn't make it happen. So there is nothing to be ashamed about. But since there is school and all that jazz with kids that are just immature and insensative, it's gonna be a little tough to remain "cool" i guess.
Just wear what you're wearing right now and don't feel too self concious about it. I don't know where you live but where I live it's starting to get really cold so just say that you're cold. And feel thankful that it appeared in the cold season =D
Sorry I couldn't provide any help or make any sense among my rambling up there....
15/f
OK. So I dunno if I'm just insecure or stupid or something. Like I'm single.. but when I go out with a guy I feel held down and like I can't trust them. But when I'm single I feel alone and worthless.. then someone rescues me and I become someones girl and I just feel like my freedom has been overtaken. Also a while ago.. (this was my longest relationship) I was dating this guy for 10 months.. we had "it" and everything.. but the day after our 10 months.. he dumped me. He told me he would've dumped me at 8 months but thought I'd go all "emo" so he didn't. It just so happens that he cheated on me.. So now I feel like I can't trust any guy..
What's wrong with me?
You're not stupid my dear. When a guy cheats on you it's like bleh. I wanna kill him. Then you can't trust the next guy you're going out with because you're afraid the same thing will happen again.
Everytime that I go out with a guy, I feel tied down and I wanna break it with him really soon. It may be because I'm just not ready to have a "boyfriend" but rather a guy friend that acts like my boyfriend but we can still flirt like crazy with other people...
So there is nothing wrong with you. Just chill and learn to trust guys. There are only few coldhearted guys like that guy you went out with for 10months and unless you're having really bad lukc, I doubt you'll get a guy who cheats.
one of my friends had unprotected sex, and she thinks shes pregnant. She got her period for like four hours but it hasnt come again. shes really worried that shes pregnant. i just need to know whats going on with her?
The only way to be sure is to go to a clinic or take a pregnancy test. It's normal to bleed after sex and I'm guess that the 4 hr thing was that.
Just have her chill out and take an EPT thing every week for at least a month to make sure. If all the test come out negative, she should be glad and rethink about having unprotected sex.
why is it kinda weird to me about giving my boyfriend oral sex? People say that it can taste funny and yeah..
Well, if it's your first few times, that can cause the awkwardness.
It may also signal that you're not quite ready. You should feel comfortable and have no doubts with the person you're gonna get sexual with.
how wide is the average penis? like the diameter
While results vary across studies, the general consensus is that the average human penis is approximately 12.7-15 cm (5-5.9 in) in length and 12.3 cm (4.85 in) in circumference when fully erect. The average penis size is slightly larger than the median size. Most of these studies were performed on subjects of primarily European descent; worldwide averages may vary.
A research project, summarizing dozens of published studies conducted by physicians of different nationalities, shows that worldwide, erect-penis size averages vary between 9.6 cm (3.7 in) and 16 cm (6.2 in). It has been suggested that this difference is caused not only by genetics, but also by environmental factors such as culture, diet, chemical/pollution exposure[1], etc.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis#Size
ok im almost 17 and last night i had sex with no condom i live in Albany Oregon do any one have any tips on how long to wait to take a home test, any free clinics, and any other things.
please help me and my boyfriend need ur help.
Well, I don't live anywhere near Oregon so I don't know anything about clinic locations but yeah, having sex without condoms were probably not the best idea.
Anywhos, don't stress out about it too much because that can delay your period and cause to you spaz.
Wait a week, get a pregnancy test (a reliable one like EPT) and if it turns out negative, relax. take another one every week for a month or more if you want.
But usually, if you don't get a negative result for a month, it'll mean that you aren't pregnant.
I use to be friends with this girl last year and then we became total enemies. I met this girl over the summer and she came to my school this year. I warned her about the girl but shes like bff with the girl. she has been acting a lot different since shes been hanging around her. We use to be BFF but now shes like everything i do is like weird or something. What should i do?
If she's truely your BFF, she would respect your warnings and since you guys are enemies, she should probably know better than to become bff with this enemy.
I say..since you warned her, you've done what you could do. Let her be and go make new friends. This girl you met over the summer will soon know why you are enemies with the other girl