alright soo when we first started dating my boyfriend used to wear alot of this amazingg cologne and i really liked it...like i would alwayss want to be pretty much on top of him cause of it haha.. now he wears this new cologne that i don't like at all...how do i tell him this without hurting his feelings? should i buy him cologne i like for the holidays and tell him i'm in love with it or something? decembers pretty far though so idk what to do. help pleasee.
subtle is good. Also I suggest getting him a halloween gift or thanksgiving, that's soon.
he would probabley like it you liked his other cologn!
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umm okay so i looove my boyfriends hair when its medium length...he always cuts it so short though and i hate it short ( i dont tell him i hate it short because i dont wanna hurt his feelings) but i just say i like it better medium length...how can i get him to keep it medium length and not cut it? thanks
Sweet LiL angel is right, it should not matter, but maybey you could just be like 'hey your hair looks sexy today :)' or just a little confidence booster or something.
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16/f
so i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. he's 19 about to be 20 and turning 17 in december...well i can't decide if i want to be with him anymore. he's my first love but it feels like the flame is slowing dying and there's nothing i can do about it. plus he's going into the navy soon and i don't know if i'll be able to handle that. and i'm starting to develope feelings for another guy. and this guy flirts with me all the time. i just feel like i'm only with my boyfriend to make him happy and not myself. he wants to get married right after i graduate from high school but i want to go to college and have a steady job before i think about getting married. i love him i really do i just don't want to regret not seeing if there is anyone else out there for me. i will never regret being with him. it seems like we are always fighting and i think a relationship should be effortless and it's not. i just don't know what to do anymore...
He sounds like a perfect guy... for someone else. It sounds like you should just be friends because, yes, being in a reltionship should be about passion and romance. If your flame is dying don't waste your life trying to recandle it, let him go.
Its not fair to him to lead him on about marriage and a future if there is none.
Let him know your still in high school, then best years of your life! He is going to the navy soon. You two are just on two different levels and its just not ment to be. Your heart belongs to someone else at this moment.
I don't know who this other guy is you feel attracted to but after you breakup with your current boyfriend you should consider dating him! You learn best from your experiences so if you date him who knows what can happen!
Best of luck
-C.D.
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what are signs that mean guy want to give you a kiss or want a kiss?
Guys arn't exactly gracefull, so just as you don't know when a guy is going to kiss you a guy doesn't usually know when to kiss you either.
Some guys try moving a strand of hair then leaning in. Or the more common aproach, gazing into your eyes till you don't relize your both being pulled closer by some unknown connection, then he kisses you or vise versa. Some just wrap their arms around you.
Guys with less experience find awkard moments and try to, or if they really don't know what to do they just look into your eyes like they're waiting for your permision.
Sum it all up its complicated but most girls after a few kisses are aware of it.
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well,to start off,i was dating my ex for about 10 months and we broke up coz of how he treated me.i dont know y i love this guy so much even if he treated me bad.i know there are tons of reasons that i should have hate him and i got no reasons to love him but yet im still in love with this guy.i dont really know if this is right.whenever he would text me and he wants me in his place i would definitely go.i so hate myself for being like this..is this really wrong?
Women every day think that their role in societies involves being with a man, and being in love. Love is such a strong and magical thing, and hard to come by. Obviously this guy isn't in love with you.
I don't know if he hurts you physically or sexually. But your situation sounds like you just need to cut him out of your love life!
So many of us get into bad relationships, and we basically have to learn from our mistakes.
Which is why I am not telling you that its normal to love the guy you shouldn't, or love without reason, but its rather a part of the whole experience of finding that one true love.
I have dated ALOT of duds, but if I had it to do over I wouldn't change a thing because its shaped me to who I am today.
If you think he might be changing then you may want to get back together with him. But if you see no point, no future to a relationship with him then find someone else. My momma always told me there are plenty of fish in the sea. What my mamma didn't know was that I was one of those fish, waiting for my catcher.
So just wait you'll find someone else! Don't get into a bad relationship with no future, things WILL not fix over time!
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i am obsessed with twilight and its kind of awesome but i like it so much it drives me nuts because i want to be the people in the book! its just so darn romantic, and its the first romantic book iv'e read. i used to be obsessed with it a long time ago and i would cry because i wanted their life and romance and blah blah blah. this time its not that bad but i hate that it's not real. what can i do? i dont want to get over it but i do? *NOTE: i am only 13.
hehe ;D
I love writing in about stuff I have had personal experience with! I was the same way about twilight in 8th grade! It was a big thing at my school and so everyone was reading it! And you just want to be Bella, or atleast have her life!!! Yet your just seen as a crazy obsessed teanage girl like the rest of them. The reason your so upset is because you know no matter how hard you try you will just be one in the croud when it comes to this!!!
I remember thinking that I wasn't like all the other fans, but i was different but the truth is you are like them! And you have to accept that, then realize this is fiction. They DON'T exist!!! However your edward is out there but look for yours not hers, make your own love story!!!
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Hey I'm 15 years old... my bff started to be like bff with my ex boyfriend...but that was normal and she talked with me about everything he did with her ex girlfriend (the one after me)... but lately she's been acting really weird... like texting with him (I know it's him cuz I saw once a message), and in her b.day they were acting like bf and gf!! I told her abour that and she said to me that he wasn't her type at all and that she would never date her bff ex boyfriend... but yesterday I found a conversation of them in my computer and they said to each other I love You too much for my likeness... and this week like two days she's been I don't know where because she doesn't want to tell anyone... and the other they she called ME to go to her house URGENTLY... and when I arrived there with another friend he was with her in her house totally alone...I didn't like it at all... and today she ditched us because she was somewhere she didn't tell us (my friends and I and a friend that came from England who is friens with her since preschool!!) all of us are soo pissed with her... but I don't know if I'm more pissed with her because of her dating him even when she told me she would never date her best friend's (me) boyfriend or because she hadn't tell me and it's hiding it from me... :S I'm so confused...xoxo Claire
Your probley feeling really pissed for being left out of the loop, She is your friend for pete's sakes she is supposed to tell YOU everything!
But I've had a situation like your before! My BEST friend dated my ex boy friend less then a week after we had broken up. ( we broken up because he was interested in someone else, i soon learned it was her )
Me and her are, lets just say, no longer on speaking terms! Which is horrible and I don't want your guys relationship to end up like that!
Obviously she is hiding something, and obviously it is the fact she is dating your ex! Which has to hurt a little for you, exspeccially after she promised she wouldn't.
I say that you need to confront her by yourself, since it is YOUR ex she is dating! Just tell her that if your friendship was true she wouldn't hide things like this, and that you want to know if they are in any kind of relationship! Tell her to spare you the details but to be truthfull from now on because your friends, and that is what your supposed to do!
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Okay so I have this guy friend that I've been friends with since like before kindergarden, no lie! We had the whole first kiss in first grade thing, and stayed extremely close! Then in middle school we drifted apart. We were in the same classes in 8th grade and sat next to eachother in every class. We have the same sense of cruel humor, and make fun of everyone, haha. Last week we met eachother at the rope swing by the river (I know that sounds really country haha) swam and did all that, and when the sun was sitting he sang the song Then by Brad Paisley. We've told eachother we have strong feelings for eachother, but can't decide whether or not to stay friends or become an item. Help?
14/f
It is pretty obvious you both care for each other! And you should definatly become an 'item'! Make a pack that if it doesn't work out to go back to being friends! Why not give it a try. Just remeber to be honest, that way if you descide to just be friends, things will be the same as they are now.
-good luck, and by the sounds of it he has already got you your song!!!
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ijust have a quick question: why are(some) guys sweet and nice to you when you're alone and then when they're with their friends and they see you they turn into loudmouthed pigs and then all of a sudden you don't exist but the popular girls do?
also.. why do they think that after they ignore you one day they can go back to being sweeties the next and THEN they wonder why your mad.
please shed some light on the situation for me.
thanks
16/f
Men= 8th wonder of the world.
I have a friend just like the guy you talking about!!! He is nice, and considerate, caring, and sweet whenever its just us but when the popular stick thin girls show up he acts like I don't even exist, then he shows off, and acts perverted!
Some times before he "ditches me" for them he'll use this line ' hey I am going to go talk to "Haylie" and them for a bit, catch up with you later, k'
And then I am left there alone.
Or sometimes he'll invite them to sit at our lunch table and they all ignore me!
Then when I get mad he says " can't I have other friends"
The truth is guys are just a different species, atleast that is what I have come to conclude! The reason they are so stupid around those kind of people, is because he knows he doesn't belong! And whenever you don't belong somewhere your gut is telling you that you should. So he is trying to fit in the best way he knows how. He wants to be popular, and he thinks that is the way to do it.
Also he is trying to impress those girls that he knows won't ever have a real relationship with him, because they're out of his leage.
You can't do anything about it, its the sad truth, he is just a boy, and until he matures that's the way he'll be. But if he is 16, like you then that shouldn't be to long!!
I am sorry they don't have an auto fix for imature guys, but that is just another thing that us girls have to put up with!
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I'm a fourteen year old girl with a rather large problem. I met this sixteen year old guy at one of my softball games. We exchanged numbers and what not, and talked non stop for the first week. I opened up to him about my past which isn't often that I do that. I told him trust was everything to me. Well things got serious, and it seemed like everything was perfect. Until he went back up north. He texted me and told me we couldn't talk anymore and that was it. His younger brother ended up texting me and telling me he had a girlfriend and thats why he said we had to stop talking. So three days later, he randomly texted me and said he wanted to talk so I listened. He basically just apoligized for lying, and said he still wanted to be friends. With my hurt feelings, I said sure and asked why he lied to me. He told me I changed his feelings about everything and that he would break up with her. A week has gone by, and nothing. i don't want to be pushy but I'm getting sick of this. Should I confront him about it? Or just stop talking to him, because after all he did lie. I need help!
-Volleygurl21
So it sounds like before his trip up north your were pretty connected! So I say confront him. Ask him whats up and if he has broken up with his girl friend. Then if he has tell him you want to put all this crap behind you about his ex. and get back to what happened before his trip, and from now on be honest about big things your relationship, such as girl friends, wives, etc. you know.
If he hasn't say he is being a jerk, and your not over him. But you will be and you will move on. Tell him anything that was going on between you was over. And that when he descides to be truth full to call you. Tell then siyanara.
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13/m
is there a kind of a set of stages type thing of what a girl will do when their angry at you because i was going out with this girl for about a week but then she got angry and dumped me because she said i was ignoring her and not paying enough attention and not making her feel special like i should and that is somewhat true but i was always afraid if she would get too creeped out by me telling her that she was beautiful and stuff like that so i hardly ever did now its been about a week and shes still angry at me
but for the first few days she was angry and telling me what i should of done to/for her that would make her feel special and stuff now shes starting to ignore me because i saw her at the movies as i was walking past it to go into the shops and i waved at her and her friend who was with her who is my friend also and she turned around and saw me then just looked away and that completely ruined my day so is there like stuff that she will keep doing for a certain amount of time until she forgives me and ive told her im sorry but she told her friend to tell me that she said im a dick head so im like getting unhappy cause she means alot but i cant keep going on with her being like this
sorry its so long
thanks
Your 13, your not anything she has called you! You shouldn't have to be her slave.
And chances are if you had everything you felt on instinct she would have gotten creaped out. BECAUSE she isn't your sole mate, one true love, or whatever! Find a girl who your comfortable with, and vise versa, then show her how you feel. She won't be creaped out and you won't be a ****
C. D
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I'm 18 and I really like my guy friend we've been friends since 10th grade and he asked me out one day then by a note and I never replied because I didnt' really know what to do and I still like him but when i send him e-mails over myspace he hardly ever responds and when he does it's really short. i feel like he's the only guy i could be with because he's so great but i dont know what to do because i don't know if he's mad at me or something he's just the greatest guy that i have ever met. please help me on what to do. thanks
Find out, if you don't already know where he lives, or his job. Then hunt him down one day, wearing the hottest outfit you know, and tell him just how much you like him, and that you just can't picture your life with out him. And that if he doesn't like you like you anymore to atleast be friends.
Work somthing out! Because loosing a friend is loosing alot, I know. I was friends with a girl for 6 years, and then she went out with my boy friend, and even though I know it was wrong I still miss her!!!
So fight for him,
C. D
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I've been in love with the same boy for nearly a year. During June, he said he felt the same way and we began talking a lot. He confessed that he really did love me and everything was going fine. He asked me out a week before today and I thought that it was set that we'd have a mostly lasting relationship. It's only been a week and now he says he's lost interest in me and feels that he doesn't have to try anymore. He claims that he only likes me and no longer loves me. :/ I, unfortunately, cannot get over someone that quickly. I asked him how it was possible that someone could just drastically un-love someone that way and he replied with, "Maybe it's the people that judge me." I asked him to elaborate, but he said he didn't know what he meant. Anyone think they can help? How do I get him 'interested' again? It's hard because I'm fourteen and unable to drive, but he lives an hour away from me. I really don't want to lose him for I'm afraid that I won't be able to move on from the heartbreak. Please help. :/
It may be your willingness to do whatever it takes to make it work that makes him feel like he doesn't have to try! In every relationship each partner wants to feel like they have a balanced role.
But in yours your not allowing him to make up his own mind! Let it cool for a day or two. Then pick things back up a little differently. You just have to make him feel like you do! I know that sounds complicated but love is unexplainable.
If he had loved you then he wouldn't have fell out of love so fast. He probley just wanted to beleive he was in love! Being in love means your head over heals for that person, and it seams he just isn't quite there YET!
Love is a battle feild,
C. D
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So here's the thing. I just graduated high school.I'am only seventeen years old and I'am honestly fed up with my friends. Not to be mean,but i really have outgrown them.I just feel like I'am more mature then them and therefore I need mature friends.All of them "claim" that they are grown now because they are 18 and i just feel like thats bull.To me everybody's in a competion with one another.And I hate to say this but I feel like I dont have strong friends at all.One friend just cant let a boy she dated go.He cheated and he has TWO,yes..TWO kids.I mean,come on!! What will it take.I also have one friend who is so lazy and isnt committed to anything.They are very smart girls but for some odd reason I cant help but to think they have no back-bone.I'am a strong girl and i need strong people around me for support when i cant be.I feel like I'am forever Baby-sitting and i'am the youngest out the group.I forgot to mention that they are all bad influences.They are forever sprung off guys and that cant be good.They only bother with some dudes just to have sex with them and thats not my thing.But they never forget to make me feel like a baby because i dont have sex.My life means everything to me and i dont want to waste it being around negative people.I have hopes and dreams and very important goals and I just feel that they will slow down my purpose.Am I wrong for wanting to hang with a new crowd or Am I a sell out? Fake? Please help me in this situation Becuase I dont feel guilty but Am I being harsh? Thanks for listening,~ladypink
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I know how you feel! I have a similar situtation only one of my friends is and guy and the other is a girl. And in my case they're both perverted, and in love with each other.
You probley feel like a third wheel part of the time. Like they think they are better then you, and treat you like crap! You want to go to college and further your self in a career! You unlike your friends arn't into the whole hoping from one guys bed to the next, right?
Well it is perfectly fine to want new friends! More mature and grown up!
If your old friends ask whats up with you and your new crowd you just tell them that you are grown up and when they descide to be to call you . But till then your going to hang out with people who are going some where with their life, and appreciate you for you who you are, and not your love life!
Stand up for yourself, everyone deserves to,
C. D
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Okay, I know it's stupid, but I have TONS AND TONS OF STUFF in my room, and I just can't seem to clean it- I just don't know where to start. I'm dead serious, you can't see the floor. And my bedroom has 2 rooms in it, and both are REALLY messy. How should I attack it? I've already tried putting everything in a giant pile on my bed and then sorting through it like that, and picking slips with areas, and neither works. And of course, I've tried the classic 'pick it up and put it where it goes.' Nothing seems to work! Can anyone help?
Ahh, finially a question I have had actuall experience with!
Alright lets get this mess cleaned up:
. find some boxes or bins, or organizing containers ( cost 1 $$ at store)and label then with a plain old sharpie.
*Clothes/ purses/ shoes
*Office
*Books/Mags.
*electronics
*ETC.
Then turn up some music with a fast beat, put your hair up, and get in the mood to clean. After you sort through everything and classify it to a box catagory, then sort through the boxes, wash dirty things, through out stuff, whatever needs to be done.
Dust, sweap and your finished
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I have a huge problem! My parents will never accept my boyfriend because he's not Mexican (like me). Actually none of my family approves (cousins annts ect.)! The only person who has accepted it is my older sister and my family is mad at her for it even. I'm afraid this will tear me away from my family,
Is he ever worth that? I'm 15, he's 16, and we've been together for 3 months. I don't LOVE him but I like him a lot. Should I just break up with him because I heard family comes first and I don't want my family to break up because of this!
Your parents probabley won't get over their opinions and assuptions over your boy friend! They love you and for whatever their reasoning is don't approve. If your not in love and COULD possibley live with out this guy then do so. It is important to have your parents approval. So I say date who the will aprove of atleast till your 18 then you can descide if that is working for you and what to do from there!
Best of luck
C. D
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I'm 17/female and it may seem mildly out of the ordinary for a site like this, anyway, I have been struggling with falling in love with this guy who is probably gay that I see maybe two or three times a year. I think about him on a daily basis and creep on his facebook and twitter. He's 25.
I know it's probably my naivety shining through, but it has been two years since I first met him and I have had feelings for him every single day.
I haven't had a real relationship - ever, not counting the stupid things I did back in junior high. Guys don't particularly like me, I never make moves at all, and I always end up being friends.
Help!! :\
Eight Years is a big differense on alot of levels when dating, or even friendship! He has experienced things you havn't and your not on the same thinking, or maturity level. You hardly ever see him.
It sounds like your just in love with being in love, or the idea of it anyways. So keep this guy on your friends list and drop him from love intrest! As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea! And it just so happens you havn't been caught yet.
Keep searching and you'll find mr. right or whatever. This just doesn't seam like the guy to be it.
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14/f
My parents are divorced. I've learned to accept that years ago. They have been divorced for almost ten years. Both of them are remarried and I love my step parents. I am very close to my mom, I think every girl is. I am also close to ny dad. I see him Wednesdays, Thrsdays, and I live with him every other weekend. I like how things are. However something has come up. You guys seem to get that I am close to both parents. They don't talk much, but when they do they are very responsible, respectful and they don't fight. My step dad works at NCR and his busnuiness is moving to Georgia. In two days we will get a letter saying if he is asked to move to Georgia. He has been looking for a job for about two months now. Since of the economy it is really hard to find a good job. He can't take a bigpay cut and he gets paid good. My step sister has asked me what would happen if he gets asked to go. I wasn't about to lie so I told her the truth, that he would move down there and my mom and I would stay in Ohio intill the house gets sold. When I told her that she got defensive, she said that I was NOT allowed to move sincemy dad lives here. I told her that my step dad couldn't go unemplyed and he is trying all he can to provide for my mom and I. I do not want to movie, but I know that we have to do whatever we have to do. All of my family lives up here. But I am trying to stay strong in all of this. A few weeks ago I was listening to my step mom on the phone to my dad's mom and she said that there was nothing to worry about because I wasn't allowed to move. Based on the law, I technically don't have to go to my dad's anymore since I am passed 13 years old. I turn fifteen in four days, I think that I am almost depressed. I cry everyday just thinking about this. I'm going through a hard time by myself, let only the fact that they don't support me. It's hard to stay strong when people tear you down. I am a christian and my moto is to live by gods will. I know that everything happens for a reason, so why can't they support me. Im going through a really hard time and it's hard to think that I might be moving away from my dad. I don't know what to do. My mom has told me that we would drive up here a lot, and I would get a job to pay for a car to drive myself and plane tickets. We may not even have to move, we will find out in two days. Whenever I talk to my step mom or step sister about it I go to the bathroom and cry. What should I do? I know they don't want me to leave, but I am old enough to not to be selfish and I relize that my step dad would have to make sacrifices too. My mom told me that I have the option to stay with my dad, I love my dad, but I couldn't leave my mom. I really need help. How do I talk to my step family and dad about somethng that makes me cry, and I know it makes them sad too, but to face the truth I may move. It wouldn't even be intill late 2010. That is over a year. I really need to talk to someone. My friends don't understand, please help. I'm sorry that this is long. But I needed to tell my side of the story.
I am so sorry your going through this! It really does put your in a tough place, you mom or your dad! Because it is clear you love both of your parents very much! But I think that if you will just look at your heart for a minute its probley telling you that you need to go with your mom! Your only 14 ( almost 15) and a young lady at that! You will need your mom more then you know it for your crazy mixed up teenage years! Not to mention college!
So I suggest this:
. Have a mope day. rent some sappy movies, chick flicks, then comedy. Just for YOU. Then enjoy your best mope entres' popcorn, ice cream, pizza! Cry if you need too! Your only human
. Then organize your thoughts and plans. Go with mom, visit day periodically.
. Call dad arange a date with your dad ( just him no step family intruding) and tell him how much you love him... and will miss him. He loves you, obviously, so he will not care if you cry, it may be a bit akward at first cause he is a man but not for long. Then arange ways to keep in touch. Daily emails and nightly phone calls. Maybey convince him to get a web cam so you can see each other. And visit every other weekend like you do now, just exclude the week days!
. Dont forget your family love you and will be there for you. As will god. God has given you the strenght and faith to deal with this you just have to except it!
I hope everything works out alright with you and your family, I will keep you in prayers,
lake_218 at live.com if you need to talk to someone!
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Okay for starters I have a two year old son who will be 3 when my second child will be born. I have a step son but isnt living with us right now. Is there any way possible to prepare your 1st child for a second child? Also why do I always fell sick when I am getting ready to climb into bed?
My cousin has a newborn and a newly turned 3 year old, both girls. I can remember before the pregnancy she would always sit down and try to explain things to hannah (the oldest). She would tell her that a baby was coming out of her tummy, and then they would practice taking care of the baby doll my cousin bought for hannah when she found out she was pregnant.
They would feed and change the baby, and then it would sleep in its crib in hannahs room. So it was almost as if it was her own baby sister. However she didn't like the actual baby, Ella, as much as she did her doll. Of course you can't prepare your kid for the attention span the baby will receive.
So you just have to do your best! For example you have to keep some things constant in your 1st childs life, like bed time routines. If pre-new child your always read your 1st born a story and tucked her in at night then you need to continue to do that.
Another trick my cousin did was photos. Hannah my cousins first born was always having her picture takens so, instead of taking all the spot light of her and onto Ella she took pictures of both. For example the day when she went into labor and had Ella she took pics. of hannah in the waiting room eating lunch being brave those types of things, so she would have some attention too!
Hope all goes well.
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OK my friend asked who I think she is going out with?And I told her the person who I think she is!And she wont answer me and I like this boy alot and I have for a long time and she knows that!!! and I dont know if she is lieing or not and if this boy even cares about me?
Once upon a time I was dating a scum bag who dumped be for my BEST friend. In the end and to this day I lost both of them!
This isn't your situation but it is an example of how men can walkin and take everything from you if you let them. SO. You have a few options:
Opt #1: Choose the Boy over your friend. This means you fight for him. Confront him ask him out, ect. Just so you can have him and not your friend.
Opt #2: Ignore your feelings and watch painfully as your friend dates the guy of your dreams
Opt #3: My personal choice: Tell your friend somthing along the lines of " I like him too, and I know that sounds awfull but I do. However I wouldn't give up our friendship for a guy. So... Lets make a pack whoever he likes best can have him no questions. Because guys will come and go but friens are there forever!
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