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I suspect my bff is dating my ex boyfriend!!
Hey I'm 15 years old... my bff started to be like bff with my ex boyfriend...but that was normal and she talked with me about everything he did with her ex girlfriend (the one after me)... but lately she's been acting really weird... like texting with him (I know it's him cuz I saw once a message), and in her b.day they were acting like bf and gf!! I told her abour that and she said to me that he wasn't her type at all and that she would never date her bff ex boyfriend... but yesterday I found a conversation of them in my computer and they said to each other I love You too much for my likeness... and this week like two days she's been I don't know where because she doesn't want to tell anyone... and the other they she called ME to go to her house URGENTLY... and when I arrived there with another friend he was with her in her house totally alone...I didn't like it at all... and today she ditched us because she was somewhere she didn't tell us (my friends and I and a friend that came from England who is friens with her since preschool!!) all of us are soo pissed with her... but I don't know if I'm more pissed with her because of her dating him even when she told me she would never date her best friend's (me) boyfriend or because she hadn't tell me and it's hiding it from me... :S I'm so confused...xoxo Claire
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thats messed up in her part, if she like him she should have told you from the begining. to me thats not a true best friend because a BFF wouldnt do that..seriously you dont need her,,shes a lier and a man stealer..i mean if you can forgive her and still be friends with her then thats cool..if not then hang out with your other friends and stay away from her.
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I would talk to your friend about that and pretend like you know they are together. then if she says no and all that crap then you should talk to your ex ( even if you hate him it will help) so he might answer hope it hleps
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Well I mean he is your ex boyfriend right? Do you still have feelings for him? If so this may be hard but if not then why does it matter? I mean I'd be mad that she lied but if you don't like him then it's not that big of a deal. You should tell her that you're fine with it (if you are) but you don't like the fact that she lied to you. Tell her that lying isn't right and you rather her just come out and say it. If she still says she isn't then maybe she isn't. She may be flirting with him but not dating him. I hope this helps.
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In my opinion, you're overreacting. Your best friend can date whoever she wants and you can't tell her who she can & cannot date. You can say someone isn't right for her because you have her best interest at heart, but to tell her flat out not to date someone because it makes you unhappy is selfish. What about your friend's happiness?
I can see why you'd be mad, and I think you should be mad that she's hiding something from you, but you can't be mad at her for liking someone. You also can't be mad that it's your ex. I understand she said dating him just wouldn't happen, but feelings develop and things change & you have to understand that.
Another thing, you don't own her, and you don't own him. If they want to date each other then let them. You're not their mother so if they want to date, then that's their problem, not yours. You're making something so tiny into something so huge. She doesn't have to tell you anything if she doesn't want to and if she wants to keep something to herself for once, then she can. You have the right to do the same thing. So if you'd like to date someone, you don't have to tell her, and if you wanna keep something to yourself, then again, you don't have to tell her.
Nobody has to tell anyone anything. It's their business and if they want to tell you, then they will but you can't be pissed because they leave you out of a few things. You shouldn't be going through her phone either. I assume you were snooping because if you hadn't been, you'd had never known about this whole thing. Her relationship with other people is none of your business so stop snooping and stop being nosy. You're not being a good friend to her. Acting the way you're acting is unfair and being mad doesn't justify it either.
Grow up. There's other guys out there for you. And there's guys out there for her. Let her date whoever she wants because I'm sure she lets you do the same. You're causing drama for no reason.
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Your probley feeling really pissed for being left out of the loop, She is your friend for pete's sakes she is supposed to tell YOU everything!
But I've had a situation like your before! My BEST friend dated my ex boy friend less then a week after we had broken up. ( we broken up because he was interested in someone else, i soon learned it was her )
Me and her are, lets just say, no longer on speaking terms! Which is horrible and I don't want your guys relationship to end up like that!
Obviously she is hiding something, and obviously it is the fact she is dating your ex! Which has to hurt a little for you, exspeccially after she promised she wouldn't.
I say that you need to confront her by yourself, since it is YOUR ex she is dating! Just tell her that if your friendship was true she wouldn't hide things like this, and that you want to know if they are in any kind of relationship! Tell her to spare you the details but to be truthfull from now on because your friends, and that is what your supposed to do!
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