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guys are pigs. why?
ijust have a quick question: why are(some) guys sweet and nice to you when you're alone and then when they're with their friends and they see you they turn into loudmouthed pigs and then all of a sudden you don't exist but the popular girls do?
also.. why do they think that after they ignore you one day they can go back to being sweeties the next and THEN they wonder why your mad.
please shed some light on the situation for me.
thanks
16/f
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I have no idea what your situation was, but I swear I was about to just ask this same question.
I've been thinking about this for the entire day. I'm pathetic, I know. Hahah ugh.
I HATE that whole ignoring you and then being a sweetie the next day. That's exactly what this guy just did for three weeks. I even tried flat out asking him why he'd be all different and he was like, "I don't?" and laughed it off. Sorry if I'm venting over here instead of answering your question. Haha my bad. I think we have a right though. I mean, you can't just ACT like you like someone and be super sweet and then the next day completely forget about them and go back and forth like that. I don't even think they realize they're doing it though. Or maybe we just overreact. Or both.
As for the whole you-don't-exist thing, they just want their friends to think they're cool. That's all. Yeah, guys suck. Well, not all of em. Just most of them.
I probably didn't help you any, but if I did, woo. :D
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Guys do that because they are jerks. Stay away from those guys.
If he isn't the same around his friends as he is with just you, he's trying to be cool.
Why do they ignore you one day? Because a guy can go a day or two without having communication and be completely fine, while girls think there's something wrong if he doesn't call and text you every day.
But, in all honesty, I think a text a day is nothing too large to ask, so I always do, and I think if you don't at least send a "hello!" text, you don't really care about your girlfriend, unless of course you're very busy and there's like no time. But, a simple text isn't too much to ask.
Why do they wonder why you get mad after they don't talk to you? Because girls get mad about stuff like that. Have you ever seen a guy freak out because his girlfriend didn't call him today? Ok, maybe a few times, but not often.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Dear guys are pigs. why?,
Okay well first of all, admit it, you love boys. Even though they're smelly sometimes, and they annoy the crap out of you, you love em anyway. And most of them really aren't that bad. But trust me, I know that some of them are. Every girl has their run with jerks. In fact I just went through one. I started hanging out with a guy who was only interested in me physically if you know what I mean, and then started hitting on my best friend. Yeah. It sucks.
That being said, girls kind of suck too. I mean look at some of us. We string guys along like they have a chance when we really aren't interested, we just have low self esteem and like to have them around to make us feel better. Well, maybe you don't do that, but SOME girls do, just like you said SOME guys are sweet and nice to you only when you're alone and then when they're with their friends they turn into loudmouthed pigs. Its just boys trying to fit in with society, and when girls act like brats, we are only tyring to do the same thing. We are all just jerks and brats, but if it really bothered us so much, why do we put up with eachother?
So yeah, some guys just go through phases, maybe their having a rough time, and some guys are just mean. But girls are too. Trust me, there are decent boys out there honey. If someone could tell us where they are, it would be pretty nice but, hey, where's the fun in that?
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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He either does it just to piss you off, to fit in with his friends so he's not seen as whipped, or just because he's a jerk.
Either way, it doesn't sound too much like he's the right guy for you. :(
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It's because you're young and everyone is feeling out their place in the world. Think about it, you are asking questions on a advice site... guys at that age with you like to be sweet to you, when there friends are around however, they are under pressure to be under the whole "wolfpack" sort of mode they've been in since they were younger. Sooner or later though, the pack slowly disenegrates (never totally) so the cubs can sniff out chicks.
But here is a chance for you to also display your womanly power too. Be careful though, as a girl you wield power that you may not be ready for, but the next time he tries to talk to you after he has been rude or a jerk, give him the cold treatment and tell him why your pissed. Because he is one way with you and another with his friends. Tell him you think he's cool, but if he acts that way, you don't see the two of you being cool for very long.
I'm a guy... we are not really pigs... we are dogs. Being a dog isn't a bad thing. We can be loyal and playful. But we are also big dumb dogs, if you don't tell us, we dont know what we do wrong and we'll keep eating people's slippers
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1. Because most guys suck and think it's ok. When they're around friends, they want to be "cool" or whatever. Everybody goes through this, though, not just guys.
2. I've been thinking about this a lot the past few days, and my conclusion is as follows:
They ignore us one day and love us the next, because us girls take things way more seriously and way more personal than guys do. They think it's ok to not talk for a day or two, but girls don't. I know exactly how you feel; I get super upset when my boyfriend and I don't talk for even a day, but he thinks it's not a huge deal. Girls are just more sensitive than guys, especially when it comes to things like this.
-Laura (17-f)
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Men= 8th wonder of the world.
I have a friend just like the guy you talking about!!! He is nice, and considerate, caring, and sweet whenever its just us but when the popular stick thin girls show up he acts like I don't even exist, then he shows off, and acts perverted!
Some times before he "ditches me" for them he'll use this line ' hey I am going to go talk to "Haylie" and them for a bit, catch up with you later, k'
And then I am left there alone.
Or sometimes he'll invite them to sit at our lunch table and they all ignore me!
Then when I get mad he says " can't I have other friends"
The truth is guys are just a different species, atleast that is what I have come to conclude! The reason they are so stupid around those kind of people, is because he knows he doesn't belong! And whenever you don't belong somewhere your gut is telling you that you should. So he is trying to fit in the best way he knows how. He wants to be popular, and he thinks that is the way to do it.
Also he is trying to impress those girls that he knows won't ever have a real relationship with him, because they're out of his leage.
You can't do anything about it, its the sad truth, he is just a boy, and until he matures that's the way he'll be. But if he is 16, like you then that shouldn't be to long!!
I am sorry they don't have an auto fix for imature guys, but that is just another thing that us girls have to put up with!
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Because a majority of guys are very immature and are all about the "visual" of a woman. Yes, maybe you'll have some sweet guys here and there who like you for your personality..but, that rarely happens often. I once had a guy go off on me because I was annoyed that he ignored me for a week although I texted him twice. He told me not to be mad at him because he doesn't have to talk to me all the time and that I should just get over it. A few days later, when HE wants to talk and flirt, he's all sweet and say's sorry. Guys (even some girls) are basically all about playing games. However, when men get closer to their 30's, they mature a lot. I know..it's a long wait.. but, you can't expect guys to mature at a young age any time soon. Why do guys go for popular girls more often? Well, why do girls like popular guys? It's somewhat the same thing. They basically hold the "power", or whatever you want to call it, in the school. When guys are at a young age, they often only care for sex. Annoying, but true. Some girls are even like that. In front of their friends, guys do like to "show off". It's an ego thing..put them in their place if needed :D. If they ignore you for the popular girls then just forget about him! He's not worth anything! Go for someone who actually cares for you and isn't going to act different in front of his friends. I don't like being one-sided..but I do agree with you on the fact that SOME guys are pigs. I assure you, however, that not all are. :)
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Just to bother you.
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