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he lost interest.
I've been in love with the same boy for nearly a year. During June, he said he felt the same way and we began talking a lot. He confessed that he really did love me and everything was going fine. He asked me out a week before today and I thought that it was set that we'd have a mostly lasting relationship. It's only been a week and now he says he's lost interest in me and feels that he doesn't have to try anymore. He claims that he only likes me and no longer loves me. :/ I, unfortunately, cannot get over someone that quickly. I asked him how it was possible that someone could just drastically un-love someone that way and he replied with, "Maybe it's the people that judge me." I asked him to elaborate, but he said he didn't know what he meant. Anyone think they can help? How do I get him 'interested' again? It's hard because I'm fourteen and unable to drive, but he lives an hour away from me. I really don't want to lose him for I'm afraid that I won't be able to move on from the heartbreak. Please help. :/
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It may be your willingness to do whatever it takes to make it work that makes him feel like he doesn't have to try! In every relationship each partner wants to feel like they have a balanced role.
But in yours your not allowing him to make up his own mind! Let it cool for a day or two. Then pick things back up a little differently. You just have to make him feel like you do! I know that sounds complicated but love is unexplainable.
If he had loved you then he wouldn't have fell out of love so fast. He probley just wanted to beleive he was in love! Being in love means your head over heals for that person, and it seams he just isn't quite there YET!
Love is a battle feild,
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Okay well my name is Jessica, i am fifteen and once upon a time the same thing happend to me but in a slightly different way there was this guy who i didn't really know but after we "hooked up" i felt like i have known him my entire life. i liked him so much but not even a week later he lost what feelings he may have had for me. but i only had a tast of him and i wanted more i don't know how to explain the way i felt exept that i wanted him more than any other guy i have ever been with and i was only 13 at the time and didn't really know how to work around things like that so what i would do is in a way what he did to me we were still together but he was thinking of ending it because his feelings have changed so every time we kissed or got really close to doing some thing we shouldn't have been doing i would pull away and say some thing sexy to make him want it more then walk away and say not now some other time or some thing along them lines, what i would do in simple terms is tease him... in a way. what i thought was that if was only going to give me a tast i was going to do the same. and it worked, but you have to keep it up but give some at the same time. like being a tease only so much then give in so he thinks he won or some thing because you know how guys like to win, so its kind of like a game, because in a game if you only run away from the person you are fighting with and don't shoot or some thing it will eventually catch up to you. now i am not telling you to go out and have sex with him but you do what you think you should . but don't have sex just to keep him either. if what i said didn't make total sence you can e-mail me at chick_flicked13@hotmail.com hope what i said helped +}
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It's possible what he was feeling (maybe you too) is infatuation (the step before love as they say). Obviously, it was not love if he could easily "lose" the love that fast. I don't know why he said he feel's like he doesn't need to try anymore? I guess he just like the "chase" of girls. No normal person would lose love that fast. I know it's hard to get over someone fast..but this guy isn't worth it. When he said "Maybe it's the people that judge me"..that makes no sense what so ever..he just wanted an excuse for it. If this guy lost interest already..there's nothing you can really do. I would find someone better and not someone like this guy. He obviously likes to play games. Find someone better. If you really want him THAT bad..try talking to him, ask him repeatingly why he lost interest and doesnt "love" you anymore. If he doesn't answer or tries to give an excuse again..he's not worth anything. Please re-think this guy. He's already showing bad signs about himself.
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