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My family doesn't like my boyfriend because he's a different race

Question Posted Tuesday July 28 2009, 5:49 pm

I have a huge problem! My parents will never accept my boyfriend because he's not Mexican (like me). Actually none of my family approves (cousins annts ect.)! The only person who has accepted it is my older sister and my family is mad at her for it even. I'm afraid this will tear me away from my family,
Is he ever worth that? I'm 15, he's 16, and we've been together for 3 months. I don't LOVE him but I like him a lot. Should I just break up with him because I heard family comes first and I don't want my family to break up because of this!

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DrNeice answered Tuesday July 28 2009, 11:09 pm:
well actually its your choice but i think a guy is not worth for your family so i think you should brake up with him because nobody can replace your family but somebody can replace your boyfriend but talk to your family and tell them its not right to judge somebody of there skin and tell them how u feel

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cheryl_diamond answered Tuesday July 28 2009, 9:24 pm:
Your parents probabley won't get over their opinions and assuptions over your boy friend! They love you and for whatever their reasoning is don't approve. If your not in love and COULD possibley live with out this guy then do so. It is important to have your parents approval. So I say date who the will aprove of atleast till your 18 then you can descide if that is working for you and what to do from there!

Best of luck

C. D

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iwantthetruth answered Tuesday July 28 2009, 7:41 pm:
What a horrible situation. :(

If his race is really the only reason that your family disapproves of him, then there is no reason for the two of you to break up. The saying "family first" does not apply when it comes to things such as racism. You obviously can not force your family to like him, you can however show them that you are a responsible daughter. If you keep up with your grades at school and do your chores at home, your parents will hopefully see that you are mature enough to make your own decisions.

I think that in situations like these you have to fight for what is right, even if that means going against your family's beliefs. This may not be the love of your life, but one day you will meet a person who you will want to marry and he may not be Mexican. I think your family needs to get used to the fact that it is your choice, not theirs.

Anyways, if being with your boyfriend is what you want then just hang in there and do your best to prove to your family that he is a good guy. I wish you the best. <3

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Sweet_LiL_Angel answered Tuesday July 28 2009, 7:39 pm:
I know you are going to hate my answer but here i go. Its your choice. you dont love him but thats a good thing your love you can have plenty of relationships.. my mother is white and dating a black guy.. her father hasnt talked to her since. but her boyfriend is a jerk i dont like him either any who not the point if he is a good guy why not give him a chance.. if you are real close to your family you may be better off with out him. i dont know how your relaionsip is

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