okay i got my period for the first time this week(on wed night) and today (thursday) is my first full day w/it and i got tampons. i want to go swimming tomorrow and i have the slim fit tampons. i know i'll be fine but on saturday my family and a few friends are going to an amusement park and i want to ride the water rides. can i do this while wearing a tampon? like the ones where you get on a tube and ride down a tunnel? i'll rate high!!!
Yep, you'll be fine. Tampons are handy for that, but be sure that if you have a heavier flow to use a medium absorbency or around there, to be sure not to leak at all. Hope you have fun at the amusement park. :)
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13/f he is 14/m
Theres this guy that i've been talking to online for about a year. We eventually exchanged cell phone numbers and have talked on the phone. He is really nice and I find myself feeling in love with him. I know people probably think internet love is a bust but that's how I feel when I talk to him. He isn't one of the guys that wants to have cyber sex either, just to talk. He's always there when I need him and he's very sweet and he is always looking out for my best interests as well. I want to meet him but I don't know if I should. He lives about an hour away from me and he was planning on taking a train to visit me. I know there are some freaks out there, but I don't think he comes off as one of them and I also know to be careful and if I were to meet him I would bring a friend, of course. I don't know what to do, the train station is public but the town is small so not a whole bunch of people would be there. Please give me advice.
Definitely go for it. If he's willing to pay the train ticket and come to you, and he's never even tried to have cyber sex with you, and you've talked on the phone, it sounds sincere. There's always that chance that he's some freak, but it doesn't sound like he would go to so much trouble if he could just find some girl that he could hook up with more easily. Anyways, it's good that you're bringing a friend, just in case you need to make a quick escape, and it sounds like there will be enough people there if it's a train station; there's always the ones boarding and getting off, right? Anyways, you sound very mature for your age, hope this works out for you!
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I know not to trust anyone on the internet. But what are ways to find out he is a normal, nice guy? I'm not giving out any information, i'm not that stupid. But how can I get proof from him?
Webcams are handy, so that you can see that he's not some 50-year-old fat guy. If you have a cell phone, you could give him that number to call, because they're not easily traceable, and talking on the phone is more personal. Once you get to know him more, you'll probably be able to tell if he's sincere and trustworthy, or just some random pervert. On a note, if you decide to meet, make sure it's in a well-lit, public place, and maybe have a friend standing by discreetly just in case you need to make a quick escape. Internet relationships can work out, though, I've heard many success stories. Hope this helps!
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Carry a change of clothes in case you get put on a bubbler
thanks for clearing this up for me
In our school a lot of the freshman that get targeted for hazing go for "bubbler rides." (An upperclassmen sits them on a bubbler and turns it on ;) ). Pretty fun experience, doesn't happen too often ;)
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sometimes my face would get like really oily, and I'm starting highschool in september, and I really want to get rid of the oil. what can I use or do to get rid of excess oil for a long period of time, or atleast long enough to get me through 7-8 hours of school
Wash your face each morning and put some of that powdered pancake on it to get rid of the oil. I would suggest keeping powder in your locker to use during the day if you need to. A lot of people go through stages where their faces get extremely oily, especially if you've recently (in the last year or two) gotten your period. Using a face wash specially designed to reduce oily buildups can help, too. Watch commercials, and if you get a teen magazine they're on about every other page ;). Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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hi well my mom works with this woman named Faith.And she has 2 sons and there in a band.And they heared I sing.And they need a lead singer.And I would like to now different warm up exrssies to get ready for my try out got any ideas?
Start by inhaling for four seconds through your nose, and then hiss it out four 16 seconds. Make sure you're breathing through your diaphragm, your shoulders shouldn't move as you inhale or exhale. Then, do four head tones (Make your voice as high as you can go and just yell out in a Hoo type thing four times...sorry this is really hard to explain by typing), and then run through a couple of scales or what you're going to sing. Preserve your voice for about two days before your audition, don't drink anything with caffiene in it, and don't yell or whisper. All of these are horrible for your voice. Drink lots of water. Good luck! Hope this helps!
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My mom gave me her old messenger bag and it's in pretty good condition. It's purple. But when we put it in the wash, we forgot that a pen was in there. It leaked on the black part on the inside, so it looks like a copper splotch. Is there any way that I could make this look like it belongs or hide it? We threw away the busted pen.
I would suggest putting a fun patch on it, or some buttons or a bumper sticker or something. Make it funky. If you have a Hot Topic store near you, they've got /awesome/ stuff that you could put on it, and you don't have to stick to covering the pen splotch. Make your bag uniquely /you/, with whatever look you're into, and the splotch won't even matter. (I think Happy Bunny stickers/patches are fun with great sayings...again, available at Hot Topic, not sure of anywhere else, but I know they're at a lot of places...) Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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ok well i'm 13 and my boyfriend wants to have sex and i really dont think i'm ready for it.how do i tell him wiht out him thinking i dont like him anymore
Tell him. Say that you're not ready for sex, you're just too young, and you don't want to compromise your beliefs and values. Assure him that you still like him and have a lot of fun with him, but you want to wait until you're older or have a more concrete relationship for having sex. It sounds kind of like he really doesn't know what a real relationship is or should be based on, but if he does and he loves you he will understand if you're not ready, and that 13 is too young to lose virginity anyways. Tell him to think about it: Does he really want to lose it now, when you guys are (no offense) probably not going to stay together forever? If he still pressures you to have sex even after you explain your reasons for not wanting to, you should end things with him, he's not worth it. Hope this helps, good luck!
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Nevaeh
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I have the weirdest phobia (Well to me) I can not swallow pills. My sister used to have trouble with it too, but she eventually got over it. My younger brother has ADD so he has to have pills so he it's no problem for him. But when I was little I had choked on something and I blacked out before it was dislodged, and even though I know it's not going to happen just because I try swallowing a pill, I still have a "pill phobia". Anyway is there anything I can do that will help me get over it. Or just ways to make swallowing pills easier? I'm almost 15, and a sophmore in high school, and I'm still telling doctors when I'm sick that I need a liquid or chewable, I don't want to be an adult doing the same thing. It's embarassing. I have friends that won't swallow a pill unless they have to, but even if it was the only way, I'd rather just be sick. So if you have tips on making swallowing pills easier or just getting over the phobia, please let me know!! Thanks in advance!
My sister has this same problem and she's 22; it can take time to get over. It is true with most pills that you're not supposed to break or crush them, sometimes they have a time-release coating on them that releases the medicine gradually into your system, and you can overdose if you crush it and lose the time-release coating. I don't think it's too big of a deal if you ask for liquid or chewable when you're an adult, but if you really don't want to do that, then you just have to set yourself to getting over the phobia. Just get a big glass of water or milk, put the pill in your mouth, and wash it down. If the pill isn't huge, just tell yourself that you've swallowed food chunks bigger than that, and that it's not going to get stuck, and you'll be fine. Just remember not to panic or freak out as you're swallowing it, because that makes your throat contract and you'll feel like the pill is getting stuck. Just relax, and it'll slip right down. Oh, yeah, one more thing, don't take the pill with orange juice or grapefruit or anything citrus, because it lessens the effectiveness of most medicines, and in some cases can cause dangerous interactions. Hope this helps! Good luck!
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Alright, first some background info. Im 16 and im a virgin, never done anything sexual with a guy. Ok now..my period is a week late for some reason and my mom is freaking out and asking me if ive gotten it like every 2 or 3 hours. Recently i have really cut back on like really fatty food, ive started running about a mile and half 2 or 3 times a week, and i started a job..which is a bit stressfull at times. Those things can make it come late right? Ive also felt like ive been going to get it, sore boobs, wicked bad cramps, headache that wont go away no matter if i take tylenol or not. I want to stop freaking out...so if you guy know anything that can help me out or at least help me chill my mom out..that would be fabulous. Thanks in advance.
Your stress is a big factor here, it can even make you skip a period, so my best guess is that's what's going on. Also, if you're in the first 2-3 years of getting your period, it can still be irregular and take a while to even out. The running and change in diet can definitely make it come late as well. Don't worry, even if you skip it this month there's probably nothing wrong. But if you skip it next month as well, you should go see your doctor. Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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Me and my boyfriend (Greg)have been going out for almost 6 months.
Before I had no friends, and at the beginning of this year I started to hang out and become friends with his friends.
Then we started dating.
We are together almost all day every day,
because when I hang out with my friends, he is there too because they are his friends also.
I'm not saying I'm tired of this, I love being able to see my boyfriend all of the time. and I love him more than anything.
I can't help it if we have the same friends.
Is seeing my boyfriend every day unhealthy for the relationship?
It's not unhealthy if you still pursue your other interests, and have time to yourself and are living your own life seperate from his as well, just make sure that you're not getting 'lost', like losing who you are and your own identity, in the relationship. If you think you're spending too much time with him, then you are, and just tell him that you think you'd like a little more time to yourself, and that it's nothing against him, you'd just like more time to your interests. Tell him that a relationship can be improved if you don't see eachother /every/day, because you won't know every little thing that happens to eachother right away and will have more to talk about and share feelings about. Hope this helps :)
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Nevaeh
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i make such a big deal out of little things with me and my boyfriend.. he thinks kristin from laguna beach is so hot so we fight wen he watches it.. its not my fault im jealous, but what can i do?
How long have you guys been dating? Trust is a major foundation in any relationship, and if you trust eachother, I'm guessing that your boyfriend feels that you and he can discuss the physical characteristics of another person (i.e. 'Kristin is hot') without having you get jealous, because if you're in a good relationship, it's /you/ he likes, and not your looks. And he knows that a person's looks mean very little. Have some faith in him, if you love eachother, there's nothing to worry about. Hope this helps :)
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Nevaeh
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Hey, you know the neospharen (spelling) stuff people use to prevent scars? Well my acne is actually finally clearing up and i have some scaring (i think) on my cheeks, can I use it after i wash my face and put my medicine on, or will it just make it worse?
Thanks will rate high=D
Neosporine is excellent, clears up minor cuts, scars, etc... in a few days if you put it on about twice a day. But if it's acne, or scarring from acne, I would suggest using Cortizone-10. It's a cream that you get over the counter, and it /really/ works. I light acne and heat rash on my arms, and it cleared it up in like 2 days, and I'm using it to take care of any scarring. It's awesome. :) Hope this helps.
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Nevaeh
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Do you think that it is wrong to talk to an ex while dating someone else? I am with this guy right now and he doesnt trust me so he went into my cell and checked my text messages and found that an ex had been text messaging me. We are in a big arguement now about weather or not its ok to talk to an ex. Please help
Relationships are built on trust. If your boyfriend went into your cell phone to find text messages, he doesn't trust you, and that's borderline controlling relationship. You should be able to talk to whomever you like, and unless you give him a solid reason to distrust you, your boyfriend should always have faith that you're loyal to him only. Even if he doesn't trust you, he needs to talk to you about it, not check the text messages on your cell phone. I suggest you ahve a serious talk with your bf about trust, and make sure you tell him that if he's going to keep tabs on who you talk to, that's not alright with you.
Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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0k so i just got back from the beach with 3 of my friends and our other 3 guy friends were there too. we hung out with them alot. one of the guys (lets call him Jimmy) has a girlfriend and they've been going out for like 10 months. i know his girlfriend pretty well and stuff. then one night me and Jimmy were in the lobby while all our other friends were in the bathrooms. we were both on the couch and he leaned it and we just started to make out. hes soooo hott and i wasn't thinking so i just gave in and didn't pull away until like i dunno like 10 seconds? lol yeah so now i feel reallly guilty cause his girlfriend has no idea he did this and they are like in love. i don't want to tell anyone cause it would like RUIN me cause his girlfriend has a lot of friends and so yeah. i dunno if i should tell anyone?? please help!
Nope, don't tell anyone. It was poor judgement on Jimmy's case, and he's likely regretting it as well. Don't ruin a ten month relationship or your reputation for one kiss. But, if he makes any more advances on you, remind him of what his girlfriend would think and ask him why he's staying with her if he likes other girls.
Honestly, don't say anything, and don't let it weigh too heavily on your mind, just don't let him do anything else. Hope this helps.
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Nevaeh
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ok there is this guy and we went out befor but he cheeted on me and broke my heart but now he is saying he is sorry and that he still has feelings for me and i dont kno what to do cuz i also still like him but i dont want to get hurt......and i am also a cutter and last time we went out i cut alot cuz of what i was hearing about him and stuff...... but i think he has changed and he tells me how soory he was and that he owes me for what he put me though....what should i do? should i trust him again> or should we just be friends?
Just be friends until you can figure yourself out more. If you cut yourself, that should be your number one priority to change or get help for. Identify the source of your depression, and get help to move past it. Only when you truly love yourself and who you are can you give that love away to another person.
Just take a look in the mirror and see what you've come to be, and how incredible a person you are. However much pain you have in your life, cutting won't solve it or take it away. You have to find healthy ways of dealing with depression, such as focusing more on your interests, like playing a sport, instrument, or reading. Talk to a family member you trust, like a sibling or an aunt, to help you get through a time like this.
Once you decide to turn your life around and change your perspective to catch more of the good rather than the bad, you'll be able to see if this boy has really changed or if he's just playing you, and you'll be able to forgive him if he's sincere. Hope things start looking up!
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im a freshman in like two weeks. i want to ask if its really going to be as bad as some people say it is (acedemically & socially)
thanks for the advice!!
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Nope, it's no big deal. Bigger place, more people, same old school. Nobody antagonizes the freshman, they're all too wrapped up in their own lives and schoolwork and social life to really care. Academically, it's a cinch, as long as you're not in like hugely accelerated classes, cause then it gets tough. Socially, you have to work a little harder to keep close to your friends, but you get to expand your horizons and it's manageable. And fun!
On a note...homecoming week is the killer. If they haven't yet outlawed hazing at your school, watch out, if any upperclassmen have grudges on you ;) Carry a change of clothes in case you get put on a bubbler. If you're rarely noticed or have upperclassmen friends, don't worry about it. But homecoming week is kinda fun, too :)
Enjoy high school.
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Nevaeh
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I'm 13 and never been kissed all my friends have. and all my friends have boyfriends and i don't, is there something wrong with me. I think it might be because I take things slow with guys. please help!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't worry, it will happen in its own good time. If you take things slow with guys, I'm guessing it's because you're not into dating just for the game of it, and you actually like the /person/ that you're with. That will simply help you form better and longer relationships than simply going out with someone for the physical aspects. Anyways, don't worry about what "everyone's" doing, you're only 13 and you have a lot of guys to pick from! Hope this helps :)
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my friends and i are really close in lik two weeks we're going to b freshmen im so nervous we'll fall apart anyways to prevent this even if are schedules are totally different??
I know where you're coming from here, next year I'll be going off to college and I don't think that the boy I love more than anything will be going to the same one, and it will be really hard...but...
True friends will always stay together, don't worry about falling apart. You'll always have after school and during lunch to chat and share stories, and you'll still be in the same high school. Chances are, if you're both freshman and neither of you is in very accelerated classes, you're going to end up in some classes together, even if it's not all of them. Everyone makes out freshman year to be a huge change and a really big deal, but trust me, it's not. It's just like middle school, except bigger lockers and a bit harder classes. You'll have some great times with your friend, going to football games, dances and the like.
Oh, and by the way, use your school's system to your advantage. I always went in to see the counselor to change around my schedule if I didn't like it, that's one of the great things about being able to pick your classes and the times that you want to have them. Sometimes you can't, because some classes are only offered at a few times per day, but you should be able to get a few classes with your friend.
Hope this helps, have fun in high school!
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Nevaeh
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okay so its summer and im really not in shape anymore. well cheerleading starts august 15th, what do you guys think i can do to get myself back in shape before then becuase the first 2 weeks are all condtioning and those practices are from 9-11 and 12-230..which is a long time and i dont want to be hurting bad after the first day because im so out of shape. any suggestions??..thanks a bunch.. ill rate high!
Stretch before you do any kind of exercise to warm up your muscles and limbs and help prevent muscle tears and stress fractures. You should try to briskly walk or jog for at least ten minutes each day, or you could bike. Health experts recommend aerobic exercise for 20 minutes three times a week to keep your cardiovascular system in shape. Also, leg lifts, (Like lay on your back or side, and one leg at a time, /slowly/ raise and lower your leg) work great for toning your legs, and crunches work well for your stomach. I do pushups for my arms, but if that doesn't work for you, try lifting 3-5 pound weights, I know it's not a lot, but it helps to tone your arms. When you get done with your workout, march in place for about 5 minutes and stretch again as a cool-down. Good luck with those practices, they sound intense. :)
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