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meeting people on the internet
I know not to trust anyone on the internet. But what are ways to find out he is a normal, nice guy? I'm not giving out any information, i'm not that stupid. But how can I get proof from him?
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Webcams are handy, so that you can see that he's not some 50-year-old fat guy. If you have a cell phone, you could give him that number to call, because they're not easily traceable, and talking on the phone is more personal. Once you get to know him more, you'll probably be able to tell if he's sincere and trustworthy, or just some random pervert. On a note, if you decide to meet, make sure it's in a well-lit, public place, and maybe have a friend standing by discreetly just in case you need to make a quick escape. Internet relationships can work out, though, I've heard many success stories. Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Meeting people from the internet can be both a scary and an exciting thing. I've met 6 people that I've talked to online, including my husband. You just have to take precautions to make sure you're going to be safe.
1) Always meet in a public place with plenty of people around and let a friend know where you're going as well as the information you have on the person you're meeting. If you have a cell phone, ask a friend to call in every 30 minutes to check on you and make sure everything is ok. Work out a code so you can tell your friend yes it's ok or no something is wrong, get help.
2) If he gives you his phone number, go to the page below and put it in. Unless it's a cell or unlisted number, it should pull up a name as well as an address. Check it to see if the informations matches up with what he's told you. If in doubt, ask him who the number is listed under. Call when he's not expecting you to just to see who answers.
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3) If he gives you his address, go to the page below and check it out. See if it matches up.
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4) The link below has a couple different ways to find out information. Sometimes it will list approximate age so you can verify that.
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5) If he mentions a school, find out the number and call and see if he's a student there.
6) If he mentions a job, find out where and call to verify it.
7) If you can afford it and have some of his information, you can have a background check ran on him. Usually just a name and date of birth are needed. The site below offers them.
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Good luck. Be safe.
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Well you can't really get proof from him. Don't trust anyone and NEVER meet face to face. He may turn out as a rapist or a killer. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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Never ever meet him for one.. and dont waste your time with him.. people on the internet are so weird these days. eat some cheese instead.
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Ok...one way is to see how much time you talk to the person. A normal person is just like you. They have stuff to do too. If you spend so much time talking to the person, they probably are the bad people because they want you to talk to them so much and then make you trust them. It's too dangerous to talk to strangers too much. If the stranger you're talking to has stuff to do and doesn't talk to you too much, then the person is probably nice and you can probably talk to them, but not too much. Hope I helped.
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To be honest? There is NO way to be sure he is a "normal" and "nice" guy.
Let me just give you ONE scenario.
Because think of it like this: Some creepy 40 year old guy want to use a teen like you. So he finds your screen name, talks to you online, and after a long time (he has lots of patience) you guys decide to meet face to face. He has a son your age and decides to use him, so when you "meet face to face" you're actually only meeting his son. The son and you get along great and it's time for you to go home. And BAM, the old dude was hiding in the shadows and follows you home so he knows where you live now.
Even if you REALLY found a nice guy online and started meeting him in person...the nice guy online could suddenly turn into the raper guy in real life. And it's not just true online...in real life it's like that too. You can lie online and you can lie in real life.
I know it seems unlikely, but that was just one example of how a creepy old guy can use lies to get your guard down. In person or online, there is ALWAYS a risk because in person and online there's always a way to lie about yourself and use tricks.
If you ask me, finding a guy at your school or club, or whatever would be SO much easier and much safer.
Here's more concerning online relationships if you want to read more:
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I know this probably isn't the answer you want, but just keep in mind I only "wasted" my time typing this out because I CARE. Otherwise I'd just ignore this question and not even bother. Keep yourself safe.
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the internet can be a great way to meet people..its also a big danger zone.
if you talk on AIM and he has a buddyprofile and when you read it it has like "Yeahh Monticello high school football is gona be awesome this year!!" and he has people signing his guestbook like "hey (his name) your awesome remember that time we went crazy in math class last year? " and if he has shoutouts to his friends talking about school..sweet 16's..etc its safe to trust hes an actual teenager..although i can see the sickest pervert 50 year old going through all the trouble of making a buddyprofile and stuff up
another good sign is if he has a myspace and all his friends are teenagers from his school..its safe to trust that yes he is in fact an actual 16 year old (or whatever) because he has all these friends from his school on his myspace
if your in a chatroom with his friends..look at their profiles also. if they have stuff like what i described to look for in this guys info, then thats a good sign
those are things i would look for..
be very careful though and take things slow
-melissa-
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1. Take your time. Don't get into any heavy commitments. Phone and cyber are NOT a good idea if you don't really know the guy - and at this point, you don't. He could be a 50-year-old pervert. Or a good-looking liar. Or even the real thing! But you HAVE to be careful.
2. Google him. See what you can find out.
3. After you've known him online for a while - several weeks at least - you might exchange phone numbers and talk. But listen carefully. There really are some bad people out there.
4. After a while, meet him! But do it in a PUBLIC, well-lighted place that you know well. When I first met my wife-to-be after meeting her online, I arranged to meet her in person for the first time at my local public library - and I was 33 at the time! :D
It's usually a good idea to agree up front what you're going to do on that first meeting. Lunch or coffee or something at a public restaurant is an option.
And apart from that, just keep listening to what he says and think carefully. Don't let yourself get swept away too quickly. It's too easy to lose your head, so DON'T!
I hope it works out as well for you as mine did for me. Good luck!
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Well sadly you can*t trust ppl nemore. He could say he wus 16 and turn out to be like 40 year old convict. They can give you fake pix and even try talking younger on the fone. After you*ve talked to him for a couple months suggest meeting him at the movies or a restaurant with one of your friends and one of him. A lot of times if they don*t just talk bout meeting and they mention their friends and stuff they aren*t older but you can*t always be sure! just make sure if your gonna meet him it*s in a public place with one or more of your friends!! hope i helped!! xoxo, chelsea
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The best thing to do is if you acaully found out yourself. He might act different at times. His personallity can change just like any other persons. Keep talking to him and see how he is && if hes being nice and polite then good. It might take some time to acually see how his personality really is but thats fine. So try to meet him && keep in touch a lot.
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u get him to give his number to u after talkin to him 4 a while be like hey can i call u nd be like i feel more comfortable calling you than you calling me is that ok....he probly won't care..then you cxan talk to him nd see if he's who he sais he is!! hope i helped x0x!! ♥
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There really isn't any way, other than meeting him yourself. But, as you should know, people aren't always the same, they do change moods and personalities. Be careful.
<b>♥</b> Melissa
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My advice is just not to trust anyone you do not know on the internet because these days it is just too dangerous but you can always be email pen pals onlne and stuff!
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I must say, that is a very difficult question to answer. The only way you could get HONEST information from him, whether he sounds sincere or not is to find out for yourself, meaning physically going to meet him and finding out. Even if he IS who he says he is, his personality can change and he could be some nasty, violent boy who could end up hurting you. That's why meeting people on the internet is SO difficult and dangerous. What I tend to be more assured with is if the person lives close to you. Possibly a few towns over. If that person lives a few towns over, you could ask to meet at the movies or a mall and BRING FRIENDS just to be sure. Make sure it's a public place so nothing will happen. Then you should be able to find out from there. But if he lives a few states over, then that's never something you could trust. But I'll tell you one thing, boys will LIE and lie and lie and lie and tell you everything you want to hear just to get what they want. It's all about YOUR judgement on the situation. You have to really be smart about things like that. And finding a nice, normal guy is hard enough as it is. I hope everything works out for you! Good luck.
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even if you dont give out any info they can still find out where you live by tracking you connection back to your house but ne ways hes bad if like the first thing he asks you your asl that means hes thinking something but dont give to him first as him for his cuz guys usally change their age to be near the girls so get his asl first before you give him his and if he asks you to cyber or something just be like bye or if he asks you if you have a bf hes thinking about being your so be like bye
well hope i helped and if you have ne more questions just drop em in my inbox
~kelly (plz rate me)
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