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13/f
ugh i cant stand the top of my thighs. the rest of my legs are toned, but it just randomly gets biggerat the.you know, the inside and back a little bit thats really noticable in short shorts and bathing suits & whatnot. how can i make it go awayy? i know everyones gonna say excercise and eat healthy, yeah i know, but i need more direction than that. what kind of excersices and stuff. i'm trying to eat healthier, but i don't know exactly what i'm supposed to eat to make the little bit of extra fat go away.
thankks

Yes but doing exercises that are leg/thigh specific will not really help you. The most they will do is tighten the area up a bit. We cannot target fat loss to an area of the body... humans simply do not work that way.

Thats why, unfortunately, the only solution is to lose weight overall and hope that your body removes that fat sooner rather than later. To that end, the solution is eat healthy, eat fewer calories than you burn in a day, eat often, and exercise.

I can give you a link as well, to a site where you can click any muscle you want to exercise. However, remember, training your entire body will be far more beneficial that just focusing on a few specific muscles.

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/exercises.htm

Good luck.

What program do I need in order to open / read files that end in .pdf? Where can I download a program?

Thank you!

adobe acrobat reader:

http://www.download.com/3000-2378-10000062.html

Hello. well i have a kinda strange question. i have been lookin on the net and have gotten more confused, so here i go:: well how do i find out how much things in Romania cost for example, clothes, jewelery, stuff like that. ok thank you

Ok what you ask is not easy. Normal internet searches are really hard in relation to Romania. One of the reasons is that if you get any site that actually advertises in English, it is likely to be more expensive than what things actually cost IN Romania (since its tailored for foreigners).

I have made some searches in Romanian for you (I am formerly Romanian), and put a list of sites. You should note that prices in Romania vary greatly between the cheap and expensive locations (mainstream touristy places have prices very similar to the west, cheap out of the way places known by locals are often dirt cheap).

Oh btw the Rom currency is the leu or lei (plural). It has been recently revalued to the new leu (leu nou) by removing four zeros. Anyway, old currency is abbreviated ROL, new one RON.

http://www.bistritza.ro/senso/
(translation of list from top:pants/jeans, blouse, shirts, t-shirts, vests, skirts, no clue- but for both men and women lol, no clue, suits men, suits women, dresses, clothes made of leather, jeans for kids, ties, wedding gowns)

http://www.originals.ro/
(shoes and t-shirts in known brands: click "adidasi, vestimentatie, altele for product lists)

http://www.bijuteriiaur.ro/

http://www.kirio.ro/inele.php
(menu at the top for products)

http://www.allex.ro/

http://www.tiptopwebsite.com/shopsnetwork
(this one has electronics, not what you asked for but since I found it I figured maybe it is of some use)

Anyway, I hope this is of some use to you. Unfortunately its been a while since I have been in Romania, so I cant confirm these things first hand.

If you have any questions you think I might be able to help you with feel free to drop a note in my inbox.

I'm going to a lake in two days, and I really want to have a great stomach, butt, and legs, so are there any excersizes that I can do for each of these over the next two days?

P.S.-I'm willing to work my ass off.

You cant get fit in two days. Your body will gain nothing from you working out really really hard all of a sudden. In fact, if you overdo it it will have a negative effect.

Anyway I have included a link to a site that shows all sorts of exercises for whichever muscle you want to train. However, I warn you again, you can achieve almost no visible results in 2 weeks let alone 2 days.

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/exercises.htm

How bad is weed for you?
I smoke like.. maybe once every 2 months.. sometimes from a pipe.. and sometimes from a can.. how bad is this for you? I dont even think I get high when I do it though.. How do you know when youre high?

Ok, I dont agree with the first answer. First of all there are degrees in the severity of drugs (aspirin is a drug for Gods sake). Secondly, weed does not kill brain cells (alcohol does, weed does not), but it does slow you a bit. I dont remember the exact process but its an effect that will pass once you stop smoking (I read some reports on this stuff some years back).

Now, the effects of smoking are never good. There are risks associated with cancer and so forth, but I guess you are familiar with those.

As for the weed itself, you will usually find two general opinions on it. The first one claims its an evil drug from hell, the other claims its totally harmless.

In my opinion the answer is in the middle. Weed can give you problems. While the addictiveness level is low (since it has no physically addictive properties), you can still get hooked on it. Then, if you smoke too much you risk something called hash psychosis (I am translating this from another language... but you get the idea). This is rare but it can happen (a little like delerium tremens for alcoholics).

If you get addicted it becomes a serious financial burden (unfortunately I speak from past personal experience).

As for the high, its very mild. It also varies a bit from person to person. So, no one can help you there... its your brain that interprets the "high" feeling.

Seriously though, my advice is for you to stop. Particularly if you dont get high, why the hell would you want to expose yourself to the risk? I am not going to bullshit you, as far as addictions go, weed is amongst the most harmless and unlikely.

However, it happened to me, and it happened to a few other people I know. I got out (after 2 years of being broke, of going to my university exams stoned and getting mediocre grades, and finally one day ending in hospital thinking I was going nuts- seriously). I have another friend who has not quit. He is older than me (mid 30s) now, and Im telling you more and more he prioritises the weed over everything else in life. I admit both me and him tend to be exceptions, but the risk isnt worth it.

Anyway here is the sum up to your question: Weed (or the active ingredient THC) is a mildly addictive drug, generally less harmful, and certainly less addictive than other more socially accepted drugs (e.g alcohol and ciggarretes). However, as with any addiction, it carries a risk, and the possibility of problems later down the line. These problems range from general smoking related complications to rare but possible mental disorders.

Ok, this dragged on for longer than I had meant. Thanks for your patience.

I currently work in retail in a mall, I am 19 yrs old, my manager that is 26. There are a lot of things I am troubled about, I don't know how he feels about me.

I am the top sales associate at the store. One day, he told me if I sell $3000 worth of sales (which is IMPOSSIBLE in our store) in one day, he'll take me out for dinner. Later on, he changed the budget to $1500, which is EXTREMELY difficult still. He said he would take me to a very prestigeous/expensive restaurant, the 360 restaurant on top of the CN tower (I am from Toronto Canada by the way). In MY opinion, this is a place where all my friends in relationships go to on special occasions.

Well, an hour before the day ended, I was FAR from the $1500 budget, so he said he cant take me to dinner if i dont make the sales, he'll only take me to Diary Queen, and I made a very disapproving/disappointed *awwww* jokingly, then he said fine.... i'll take you to DQ and a good walk on the beach.

I ended up making $1500 that night!!!!! when he was checking my sales, he had his hand covering his mouth and kinda laughing. He looked nervous, scared, excited, (according to everyone else that was there).

we are going this weekend, first he tells me to dress glamourous!... later on, he said glamourous usually means romantic, flowers and all that, so he told me to dress *fun*.... then i asked *are you gonna get me flowers?!?!?!* jokingly of course. Then he said... *c'monnn christine*... so i told him im only joking..... but he ends up asking me what my fav flower is...

I am extremely confused about this situation. He is extremely good looking, and has a lot of *girl* friends.... but I dont THINK he takes them out to nice dinner like this.

Also at work, he offered to buy me a drink... but he said he *forgot*, but later on, he bought me a drink when we decided to go hang out with his friend and this other girl at work.... i didnt ask for the dirnk... he came outta the convenience store for me...

but just yesterday he said he REALYL wanna see the movie the LakeHouse with sandra bullock and keanu reeves, and he was gonna see it with his friend (a girl)... but she didnt end up calling him... but it SEEMED like... when we saw the advertismeent for the movie he emphasized that he wants to see it again... =/ ... im not sure if he's hinting me taht he wants to see it with me?... or he jsut wants to see it... since he was gonna see it with a *girl* friend anyways....

also... when we were with his friends hanging out.... they were talking about sum girls... and he commented and said they were pretty... >.

Uhm ok. You should know I am in no way an expert when it comes to things like this... however, since you put it in the inbox, I will share my opinion.

First of all, I think he is definately flirting a lot. I also have no doubt that he is interested in you, probably very much so.

Now, the part about making you jealous and all that, I dont think there is enough evidence. Guys often make those sort of comments, and women often read far more into them than the guy intended. Same thing goes with the movie comment too, however there I lean more towards that it was a hint of some sorts.

Whatever his intention with the things he said, I dont think you need to wonder whether or not he is interested in you. I think that this will become apparent to you when he takes you out in the weekend.

Anyway, good luck.

Oh, and drop me a line to tell me how it went, I am kind of curious now to be honest.

My friend said the first time she smoked a cigarette, she got "high" and she felt jittery and light-headed. Is that true? I mean, can that happen with a cigarette? I'll rate high for good answers. Thanks

I read through all the answers. The best answer is from girlygirl. What you are describing does not happen to all people. It did however happen to me when I started smoking so I know exactly what she means. Its one of the reasons I kept smoking (lol, I dont need to preach to you what a stupid move that was do I?)

The reason that answer was the best is because she is absolutely right that this is something that will pass. Once your body is used to smoking, that dizzy high goes away completely.

Why is it so wrong to be chauvanistic, but OMG SO COOL AND TRENDY!!!!1! to be feminst?
Why is that it's wrong for a man to hit a woman, but if the chick hits the guy, it's considered cute?
Why can girls get away with calling guys every sexist name under the sun but if a man dare say the word chick (ZOMG!!!1!! NOT CHICK!!!! *gasp*) he is called a sexist, and that is not ok?

Ok, first off I disagree with much of what people wrote below. Frankly its kind of surprising.

Heres the way it stands in my view.

1- Feminism, in its pure philosophical form, and in the form it was originally implemented is a great thing. It stands for equality between men and women. Not neccessarily "sameness" (for lack of a better word) but equality.

Chauvenism implies being superior and in that way is different from pure feminism.

Now, feminism is often wrongly interpreted today and sometimes demands special rights for women. Often, the justification is because women have been oppressed for centuries. This is absolute garbage and a danger to the rights movement as a whole. It is not the men of today that are responsible for the oppression of women in the middle ages, nor is it the women of today that suffered.

To ask for reparations for old sins is no different than picking on a French person for what Napoleon did in the 1800s. Its ridiculous. This form of ultrafeminism is identical to male chauvenism. Its just that few males dare stand against it.

2- You are absolutely right here. Anyone who argues against that it is ok for women to hit men, but not vice versa, does not realise the damage that will do to the feminist movement. It classifies females as a weaker sex.

Think about it, the whole idea of rights movement whether dealing with anti-racism, anti-sexism or anti- speciesm, is that it teaches you not to judge an individual based on the group he/she belongs to. Rather one must judge that individual for who he/she is.

It stands to reason that some women will always be stronger than some men. However, just because of gender, those weaker men are not to be given the same protection as the opposite sex?

And btw, there ARE cases of wives beating up husbands (really). Sometimes however the husbands are not taken seriously... some equality we have here huh?

3- Again you are spot on. I have seen Roseanne Bar deliver the most sexist monologue known to mankind. Again she does not realise the damage she is doing to the feminist movement. True feminists would find this type discrimination disgusting.

Now, remember, feminism is a good thing. It has been wrongly interpreted by many, and it has led some people to believe that they are somehow entitled to special treatment. Do not judge feminism based on those people. They are ignorant and misinformed, and in the end they are commiting the exact same form of discrimination that the early feminists fought so hard against.

im 15 and i have a girlfriend and i slipped my penis into her vagina and took it out... can she get pregnant.

The thing is you dont need to have an orgasm to expose her to the risk or pregnancy. Males secrete some small amount of sperm at most stages of arousal. So, while the chance is small, it is most certainly still there whether or not you climaxed, and whether or not you did it quickly.

15/m
ok, I haven't masturbated in 3 days and my balls are kinda sore. Is that a direct result of not masturbating or is my mind just messing with me?

I would say that might depend on the person. If you were very sexually active (and I am including masturbation in this category here), and then suddenly stop you might experience that. Particularly if you are one of those guys with a very strong sex drive, and particularly if you have had some sort of exposure to something that might have turned you on in recent days (ahem... e.g. porn, close encounters with a girlfriend etc.).

So I would say it is definately possible.

my cousin aleshia started smoking I know that since she is 18 she's considered an adult and can smoke if she wants to and iam afraid if I tell somebody she will get at me in fact she said she would what should I do?Iam really worried.Iam only 17 and I don't know what to do.

The only thing you can do is try to make her aware of the problems associated with smoking. Mind you Im not saying it will work, it didnt on me when I was young, but its your greatest chance. Ratting on her wont produce the desired effect, since she will probably find a way to smoke anyway.

On the bright side... she still has some time in which she can quit without any major health risks. There were a couple of studies done in recent years that concluded that if you quit by the age of 30 or so, you will avoid most of the major health risks from smoking. Now, of course sooner is always better, but at least theres a brighter side to the situation.

The worst part really is the habit. The longer she smokes the harder it will be to quit as she will begin to identify smoking with daily activities (e.g as a means to relax, as something you do after eating etc). Try to convey that to her.

Unfortunately most smokers dont realise the power of the addiction until they are already hooked. They dont understand the health side, the financial side and even the esthetic side (they dont imagine themselves a few years on coughing up slime at random).

If you can make her understand some of this, then maybe she can stop in time. If not she will probabaly smoke for a few years before realising the need to quit... and then it will be a real test of character on her part to quit.

Anyway I know i wasnt much help, unfortunately there isnt all that much you can do. Good luck.

what excersise can i do to make my legs thiner?

thx

Exercises cannot make your legs thinner. I realise that practically no one on this site is aware of this (or they choose to live in denial), but humans are incapable of targetting fat loss. Our bodies simply dont work this way- crunches dont make you lose stomach fat, squats dont shrink your butt etc. If you dont believe me check out this link (it deals with popular exercise myths):

http://www.exrx.net/WeightTraining/Myths.html

The only way running can help slim your legs is if it is incorporated as part of a general weight loss routine, together with proper nutrition. However, in that case you will not be losing weight specifically from your legs (as thats impossible), but rather from all over. Similarly its not the running that is doing this as such, more the fact that you are exercising (it could just as easily be an arm intensive workout).

The choice is really quite simple, lose weight or dont. Good luck.

I weigh about 117 and I am about 5'4, not bad at all. I am completely happy with my body except for my "love handles". They stick out past my underwear, bathing suit, or any low rise jeans. But it's weird because the rest of my body is basically thin. I just want to thin out the sides of my stomach. How should I go about this, and how long do you think it will take?

Ceres is right. The key is in proper nutrition and overall exercise. For general weight loss best workout is a combo of weights and cardio. However, the key thing is to exercise.

The reason why 100 situps/ crunches/ side bends/ hail marys or whatever will have absolutely no effect whatsoever on your love handles, is because fat loss cannot be targetted to an area of the human body. Fat "spot reduction" simply is not a reality. Humans lose weight overall or not at all. The order of things is unfortunately not in our hands.

As for how long it takes, that really depends on how your body emphasises the weight loss. You will notice that some people naturally have larger body parts than others. So I cannot say if you need to lose 5 pounds or 20 pounds before your love handles are gone. However, if you are slim already then I doubt it would take very long.

Remember though, proper nutrition and a small calorie deficit is the way to do it. Good luck.

16/f
Hey, I know this will probably be a really silly question.. i just need some reassurance..

I was kind of messing around with my boyfriend and his precum sorta seeped through his shorts (he was wearing thin shorts) and underwear and i was wearing only my underwear at the time. Is there any way I couldve possibly gotten pregnant from that, or is the chance so small its nonexistant? I thought it was pretty impossble but then i started reading artcles online and I got a little worried..

even re-reading this now, it seems kind of ridiculous. i just need to hear it from someone else.

trust me, im never going to do this again after this. i really cant risk getting pregnant now.

thanks!

Sperm dies immediately upon contact with air? As far as I know (from biology 102) sperm dies as the fluid dries up. That could take hours. If sperm died immediately upon contact with air, it would be really hard for fertility clinics to make a living (since the man ejaculates into a cup which presumably is filled with air...).

Anyway, the chance is really really small. I have googled around a bit and found similar queries, all of which were told that the possibility of pregnancy is negligable.

What is the name of that one movie that is western and that one guy has that giant robot spider that he controlles???

Wasnt it Wild Wild West with Will Smith and Kevin Kline?

Is anyone on here Muslim? I have a very important question that I want to ask and talk about. I'd like it to be someone older, but anyone that is religous will do. Thanks.

I am not a Muslim (or religious), but I have a few close friends about my age (30 ish) who are. One of them is quite a bit of an expert on Islam. If you like I can pass your question on to him...

what's a fast way to trim arms..... weights? or do weights make them look muscleish? lol xoxo

You cant trim the arms or any other part of your body without losing weight overall. Fat cannot be spot reduced (i.e. targetted to a specific area). The human body does not work this way (despite what you might hear on this site).

Weights will build muscle on the area that is all. This may tighten the arm up a bit, but the fat will remain. Of course, if you are doing weights in the context of a weightloss program (involving proper diet and perhaps some cardio), then the weight will eventually come off your arms. Unfortunately however, you cant really tell your body to emphasize your arms.

Dear Wise Al

I have a question for you that I think you'll be able to answer better than most of the younger teens on this site- I've been very emotional the last two weeks and could cry at the drop of a hat and you seem like a nice person who wouldnt be too harsh on me.
Well I have been friends with a married man for about 3 and a half years. We have been close friends and nothing more. We've never crossed the line. His wife knew we were friends and was okay with it because I've made it clear I'm a virgin and saving myself for marriage. He has not been happy in his marriage for a long time. They have many problems- including that she is older by ten years and has two grown kids that steal from him- they have nothing in common, they fight constantly; and she has many addictions. There marriage has been dead for years. Anyways; about a year ago he was asking me leading questions like where was I going to meet mr right and that if I was still single in 5 years I wouldnt be happy. He also asked if I wanted kids (he has never had any of his own). So I was sort of thinking that he was eventually going to leave his wife for me. Well about 8 months ago they moved to another province for work. He gave me his old computer before he left. We had been messangering each other. Well we got into a huge fight- I told him I missed him and then he said "I'm a married ma" (with a smiled face). I told him I knew that and that I meant as friends _ and then I said I was worried that I thought he thought I wanted an affair! Now he wants nothing to do with me- he even took me off his contact list for messanger. I said I still wanted to be his friend. I tried phoning and he won't answer.
Now I'm beginning to think that he was never going to leave his wife and just wanted to have an affair with me! But why would he be asking me all those leading questions a year ago? I'm wondering if that was he way of manipulating me? Do you have any insight into this?

Im really sorry, but I dont think I can be of much help. Heres a few thoughts I had though.

First of all, while it does sound like he really liked you, I am not sure why you believed so strongly that he was going to leave his wife for you. Im not saying he wasnt thinking about it, but it is equally conceivable that he was trying to save his marriage. In that case, what he had with you was simply a friendship.

Perhaps, if that line of reasoning is right, that might explain why he reacted so strongly when you began talking about affairs. Could it be that the questions he asked you a year ago were not leading? That maybe he asked you them as a friend might ask a friend he cares about?

I have no idea of course, and this is somethig you have to decide. However, based on his reaction, the only other possible explanation that I can think of is that he changed his mind somehow. However, that makes very little sense, and does not explain his strong reaction to your statement.

I can see how the situation can be very confusing and I am by no means an expert on such things (I would never have answered such a question if you had not dropped it in my inbox). However, consider the following things:
1- He never said anything that directly implied he wanted to leave his wife.
2- He never directly said anything that could not conceivably be said from one friend to another.
3- He never made a pass at you in any way -if he wanted an affair, I am sure he would have tried something.
4- He seems resolved to work out his problems with his wife... he even moved away from where you were.
5- He reacted almost violently when you talked of having an affair

My conlcusion from all this is that I am almost certain he never wanted to have an affair with you. I am also leaning strongly towards that he never wanted to leave his wife either.

Of course, I can only go with the text above, you have more personal experiences to rely on. Whichever way it is, I do have some advice. Move on. Do not sit around for another year trying to read in between the lines. Good luck.

Is god real im confused

Typical "God is real" arguments rely on the following type of statement:

1- How else can you explain -blank-? (life, the universe, miraculous healing, the Cosby Show, etc)

2- Examples of people who have strayed from "the path" and found their way back, examples of strange miracles etc

3- An argument that goes something like... God naturally does not want to become too apparent to you, and therefore he does not give you proof of his existance, however you can feel him or something.

Let me start by saying that I am an agnostic (one who has accepted that we do not know, and do not have enough evidence upon which to draw any sort of conlcusion). Here is the problem with the type of arguments claiming God exists:

1- The fact that we do not know something in no way whatsoever proves the existance of anything. If I dont know how life began that does not mean God created it. In the past people attributed all sorts of things to various moods of God, things later explained by science. Not knowing proves only one thing... that you have no freakin' clue.

Now, let me also add that even if not knowing were to somehow strengthen the existance of a God, it would in no way strengthen the existance of a specific God (which is what most people usually want you to believe... we dont know hence the Christian God exists... try to make that argument stick in court)

2- Personal examples are completely biased. People have all sorts of experiences (very real to them) which are very much influenced by the society they grew up in, what they have been taught etc. People tend to be so blinded by their religious beliefs that they forget how many other religions there are out there. Each one of these has their collection of amazing happenings and personal stories of regaining ones faith (also these religions are mutually exclusive- each claims to be the "true" faith). Its odd how people tend to have religious experiences that correspond to the religion they grew up with isnt it?

3- This has been cooked up a long time ago to make people stop asking questions. Why isnt there proof? Because God does not want to give you any.

Think about it, if something happens that is great... it is Gods will. If something happens that is bad... God works in strange ways. If a miracle occurs it is proof of God. If you find holes in the miracle... God does not give out proof of his existance. Very very handy this line of argument.

In the end the most important thing is to think for yourself. If you truly begin to "feel" that God exists, fair enough. However, beware dodgy arguments and false logic, it will get you nowhere. Again, to me, the only reasonable conclusion is that we simply dont have enough evidence. If people had acknowledged their lack of insight centuries ago we might have averted hundreds of years of wars, torture, oppression, murders etc... all in the name of a God that offers no proof of his existance.

hii guys. my boyfriends birthday coming up, and im just wondering what i should get him. Its kind of the first time ive had to buy for a guy.

help?

Guys are really practical creatures. I know we say we "love" the symbolic gifts girls give, but its more our fondness for the person (in most cases we dont give a rat's ass about the gift lol).

If you want to get him something he will really like look at his hobbies and interests. If he likes sports you might get him something sports related. If he is the humourous type perhaps a funny book or video. The cd idea below is also good... just make sure its with music he likes, not just random love songs for example. The closer you get to something that he can really use the better it is.

Good luck, and dont stress too much about it. In the end of course he will appreciate the thought.

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