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does my manager like me?!?!?!
I currently work in retail in a mall, I am 19 yrs old, my manager that is 26. There are a lot of things I am troubled about, I don't know how he feels about me.
I am the top sales associate at the store. One day, he told me if I sell $3000 worth of sales (which is IMPOSSIBLE in our store) in one day, he'll take me out for dinner. Later on, he changed the budget to $1500, which is EXTREMELY difficult still. He said he would take me to a very prestigeous/expensive restaurant, the 360 restaurant on top of the CN tower (I am from Toronto Canada by the way). In MY opinion, this is a place where all my friends in relationships go to on special occasions.
Well, an hour before the day ended, I was FAR from the $1500 budget, so he said he cant take me to dinner if i dont make the sales, he'll only take me to Diary Queen, and I made a very disapproving/disappointed *awwww* jokingly, then he said fine.... i'll take you to DQ and a good walk on the beach.
I ended up making $1500 that night!!!!! when he was checking my sales, he had his hand covering his mouth and kinda laughing. He looked nervous, scared, excited, (according to everyone else that was there).
we are going this weekend, first he tells me to dress glamourous!... later on, he said glamourous usually means romantic, flowers and all that, so he told me to dress *fun*.... then i asked *are you gonna get me flowers?!?!?!* jokingly of course. Then he said... *c'monnn christine*... so i told him im only joking..... but he ends up asking me what my fav flower is...
I am extremely confused about this situation. He is extremely good looking, and has a lot of *girl* friends.... but I dont THINK he takes them out to nice dinner like this.
Also at work, he offered to buy me a drink... but he said he *forgot*, but later on, he bought me a drink when we decided to go hang out with his friend and this other girl at work.... i didnt ask for the dirnk... he came outta the convenience store for me...
but just yesterday he said he REALYL wanna see the movie the LakeHouse with sandra bullock and keanu reeves, and he was gonna see it with his friend (a girl)... but she didnt end up calling him... but it SEEMED like... when we saw the advertismeent for the movie he emphasized that he wants to see it again... =/ ... im not sure if he's hinting me taht he wants to see it with me?... or he jsut wants to see it... since he was gonna see it with a *girl* friend anyways....
also... when we were with his friends hanging out.... they were talking about sum girls... and he commented and said they were pretty... >.<.... is he trying to make me jealous?... or he really doesnt care about me...?
plus... he's been single for 2 yrs... he can be a little flirtatious with other girls sumtimes... do you think he is extremely flirty with me? or just normal flirting?...
OH man!! that was long, thanks for reading it!!!!! Please lend me your opinion on my situation, I am very confused...
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Uhm ok. You should know I am in no way an expert when it comes to things like this... however, since you put it in the inbox, I will share my opinion.
First of all, I think he is definately flirting a lot. I also have no doubt that he is interested in you, probably very much so.
Now, the part about making you jealous and all that, I dont think there is enough evidence. Guys often make those sort of comments, and women often read far more into them than the guy intended. Same thing goes with the movie comment too, however there I lean more towards that it was a hint of some sorts.
Whatever his intention with the things he said, I dont think you need to wonder whether or not he is interested in you. I think that this will become apparent to you when he takes you out in the weekend.
Anyway, good luck.
Oh, and drop me a line to tell me how it went, I am kind of curious now to be honest.
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he sounds to me like the type of person that just likes seeing different girls- theres realy nothing wrong with that unless hes doing it just to get in their pants or sumthn. id take things very slowly- and do what your gut tells you to do. if it tells you to get away- then be sure to do it. and vice versa. but have fun- it seems like hes just the type that wants to have fun!- so give in a little bit- but dont do anything unless you know its what YOU want- and not what HE wants.
good luck!
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wooooowww. welll i think he likes you... maybe the other girl not calling him was just to make you jealous. i think he wants an excuse to take you out... makes it a little unrealistic to see if you will try hard to get him to take you out? or he could be using you to make more money but that's not what it sounds like. i think he's a little overly flirtatious with you. go see the lakehouse and see what happens from there. <3
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From the way you described it, I would say he definitely is interested in you. It sounds like he's "fishing" to see if you are interested in him as well. Using a fancy dinner with him as a reward for reaching a goal is probably his way of seeing how much your interested, If it was just a sales motivation tool he would have made the "prize" something less personal, perhaps a day off or an extra sales bonus.
As far as commenting how pretty these other girls are, I don't think he was trying to make you jealous. Guys don't think like that. He was probably just making conversation.
I would be carefully though if your job is important to you. Having a relationship with a direct supervisor can bring on all sorts of issues. Especially if you aren't both mature enough to keep your personal relationship out of the work place. Also, if things don't work out it could be very awkward at work.
Good luck what ever you decide.
~Rick
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