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13/F
Okay, here is the thing. I have liked this boy for a while now and he likes me too. I am 13, he is 14, we like eachother, it should be simple right? Well it isn't. He says he likes me, but that he doesn't want a girlfriend. But see, even though he says that, he still acts like my boyfriend. We hang out a ton, we talk all the time, he can get a little protective and sometimes a little jelous when it comes to other boys, and yet he insists that he just does not want a girlfriend. It isn't like he is playing me because I am really the only girl he ever talks to/ hangs out with, besides he is TOTALLY not like that. So what the heck? I mean it really pisses me off because if he doesn't want to be my boyfriend, he should quit acting like one! And I do NOT do the whole Friends with Benefiets deal, that is just not me, and I don't want to do that but I REALLY like him, and I just want things to work, but I can't change how he feels, right?
So what do I do? Should I wait around and hope he changes his mind? I mean there are tons of other boys that would appreciate me but I'm just not interested and I just cant see it... Besides, this boy actually does like me and what if I chuck him and I end up regretting it... Help please! (link)
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In all honesty you are a both a bit young for the whole boyfriend girlfriend thing. His parents probably won't allow him to actually date. He probably doesn't drive so you couldn't go anywhere on an actual date unless someone hauled you around.
At best, he would call you his girlfriend and you would just hang out at school like you do already.
If you feel you really NEED to have someone call you his girlfriend, you will probably have to look elsewhere. Seems a shame to ruin a good relationship over something that is just a title at this point. Not telling the world that you're his "girlfriend" does not mean he appreciates you any less than any other 13 or 14 year old boy.
More than likely you will regret it one day if you go looking for someone to just call you his girlfriend. Hes sure to remember it when your both old enough for it to matter more.
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ok the boy i had been datin dumped me so i guess he really didnt like me and he wouldnt give me a reason he jus said "i wanna just be friends" and now hes datin one of my best friends and I'm kinda mad at both of them but im not sure if i should be mad at her, because I dont think she knew I was dating him. But Im still kinda ticked at her. Should I be mad at her? (link)
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If she didn't know you were dating him, then no.
If she DID know and is dating him anyway, then I know I would be upset.
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okay, so i think i have these massive thighs, but i don't know how to lose the weight in only my thighs. i am 13 so i can't really join a gym or get a fitness coach. i have tried looking up some stuff online, but it doesn't help. i don't wanna tell my mom because all she will say is your not fat ( which doesn't help ). please help me!! (link)
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There isn't any way to lose weight in just one area. Just eat healthy things and exercise.
You can tone up your thighs. That will help how they look a lot. Walking is the best way to do that,
though any exercise will help. :)
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LOL he's on something alright.
but if you saw the actual conversation u'd be all WTF..
like he was going on bout random shit and rah rah. and im like okkay.
and i barely said anything, nor did was i like 'can we be friends' the only thing i asked was 'why are we talking?'
and hes all 'because u messaged me for a genuine reason and not to find an excuse to talk to me..which is why we had a pleasent convo..'
and then i started to really feel better. then he killed it. so my ex/sorta bf.. i dont know what we are.. but thats a whole different story. really wants to slap some sense into him.. because he knows as a guy that he cares about me..and its not that hard to figure out.. that hes just scared and shit.. so yah. i dont know.. he seemed to changed then it all turned against me that i was trying to be all talky again and trying to be something were not.. and he just jumped to far into it he thought way to far into something that shouldnt have been....and yah. =[ (link)
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I think he likes you but is in denial. Maybe he thinks more would ruin the friendship.
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ok so i asked this question a few months ago (http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=557281.) . if you dont wanna read it; basically my bff and her bf had been going otu for 2 months and he obv didnt like her as much as she liked him, he was tagging along everwhere, he had a boring personality, and she acted much more not herself around her friends when he was around.
see, shes still going out with him. my other best friend and i (this girl is her best friend, too) confronted her a few weeks ago because we just couldnt take it anymore, we hate this kid soo much. and you were right. she said she was really happy right now and she didnt want to mess things up, but she listened to what we had to say and let us sound off. shes a great friend and we totally let it all out, uncensored, and she understood our opinions, didnt think we were jealous.
thing is its been nearly 5 months and im ready to rip my head off. i havent had one on one time with my bff in months, since early february. (and i have no classes, lunches, whatever with her in school). its partly because we're busy but partly because her weekends are filled with boyfriend time.
im happy shes happy but i cant standd this kid. hes rude in the way that he ignores us (her friends) when we're around, ive given up even trying to make conversation with him because it gets nowhere. there are no positive qualities in him whatsoever. and this is really damaging my bffs and mine friendships. what should i do?
thanks so much, i really apprecaite it, and sorry for the length:) (link)
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Once boys enter the picture, they become the main focus. I know it is hard for friends to deal with, but it will happen to you guys too. It is normal for her to spend more time with him than with you.
Unfortunatley, we don't always like the boyfriends our friends choose. In the end, there isn't much that can be done about it. People don't date, become friends or marry guys based on weather or not the friends like them.
If you don't like her boyfriend, she may understand your feelings, but she will do what is best for her. That might be keeping her distance from those who can't get along with her boyfriend.
Weather you remain friends long term will depend on how tolerant you can be. If the guy is rude then don't hang out with them and hope for the best. Constantly telling her how much you dislike him though will eventually end the friendship.
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has anyone ever felt at random moments like suddenly everything is clear and then you go back to feeling normal and at other times pangs of depression? (i dont have bipolar disorder or manic depressive i dont think) not like sometimes youre happy and sad but im not sure how to say it (link)
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What you describe is perfectly normal for teens.
Depressed one minute and happy and normal feeling the next.
If you think about all the changes, both hormonal and just life changes a teen goes through, it isn't hard to understand why! It is a rough time of life.
Girls get their periods, everyone is thinking about sex, dating begins, learning to drive, peer pressure about drugs and alcohol, peer pressure to dress and act in certain ways, thinking about college and the future...so many things in such a short period of time!
Hang in there. You are normal. :)
If depression symptoms stop coming and going and stick around for a LONG time with no feelings at all of happiness, then you need to see your doctor. Otherwise just know it will be like riding a roller coaster for a while.
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Is it possible for someone to have dysthymia for an extended amount of time, not just 1-2 years? I know if it's serious, it turns into depression, but I don't know if there's a way to get tested for depression, not just checking off the symptoms. I don't know what I am. i have been sad my entire life. I can laugh sometimes at things but i never really feel happy. My life is not as crappy compared to others. Maybe I have a natural chemical imbalance? But how would I know? I can't tell if I lost interest in my favorite activities because I've never really had any hobbies. I dabble in different things for short times, and even if I like it, I give up too easily and never finish what I start. I don't know where or who to go for help and I don't know if I even need it. I am not going to do anything like commit suicide but it is on my mind a lot. I am just very tired.. (link)
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From what I've read dysthymia lasts no longer than 2 years. After that, if symptoms continue, the diagnosis changes to major depression.
Evidently they can do an EEG during sleep to determine depression. I did not know this.
It is common for teens to have depression. Its a problem if it doesn't come and go, but stays long term.
From what you describe, it sounds like you could have Attention deficit disorder. I am not a doctor but it could explain your inability to finish projects etc.
I would recommend you find a doctor or see your doctor and have a visit with him/her. Explain all you are feeling including suicidal thoughts. See if they can't get you on some medication that will help. :)
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i am a 20 year old female. I broke up with my ex after us being together for 4 years. it was a very emotional abuseive relationship. a week after he and i finally officaly broke up i went to meet a guy i had met on the internet he was honest with me about wanting sex..im not into that epecially so soon but after two days we did. it has been a week he hardly talks to me doesnt have interest in me or what i do and openly admits to not careing about me "cuz we hardly know eachother" am i rushing this and is this guy just using me..im so confused on what to do.. so was i wrong to meet this guy and wrong to jeprodize my morals for him?? (link)
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Not necessarily wrong to meet him. Jumping right into sex with someone you don't know isn't such a great idea.
What you need to do now is have enough respect for yourself to not continue the relationship if he can't wait until you both know each other better. You can't undo what you have already done, but you don't have to keep it up either.
Find a guy who loves and respects you. Don't jump into sex until you have those 2 things. Don't go from one abusive relationship into another. You have to break that habit right now.
If a guy doesn't have respect enough for you to wait until you are ready, if he doesn't love you,
then move on. It takes time to develop those feelings, of course, but if he can't wait and just wants sex, move on.
Just because a guy is honest about what he wants doesn't make him a great partner. What do YOU want?. Stick by your own morals and put your feelings first. Find a guy who respects your feelings and isn't using you for sex.
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my boyfriend is great and does all he can to get me to my climax point, but i can never seem to let the orgasm release. i've tried pushing, i've tried relaxing but i just never seem to let it out.
i don't know what to do to help release it. i tense my muscles up.. but then do i push?
if anyone could give me any sort of advice it would be greatly appreciated! thanks! (link)
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It could be you're trying to hard. Any tensing will
happen on its own. It isn't something you need to help along. There is no pushing involved.
Here are tips for better orgasm.
http://living.health.com/2008/02/07/12-secrets-to-better-orgasms/
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why is no one asking me anything?
am i supposed to do something and i didn't do it?
i really wanna help people.
thanks (link)
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You mean inbox questions here on the site?
If you really want to help people, just answer
the questions that are out there for everyone to answer.
Inbox questions don't happen that often. If you
wait for JUST inbox questions, you will wait a very long time. :) Every once in a while, once you start
answering those questions asked to all you might get an inbox question. Someone will really like the answers you give and will seek you out for a problem they are having based on the way you have answered questions in the past. They might also be someone who has a follow up question and you were the only person who answered that got what they were talking about.
For the most part, people want all the opinions they can get. So don't wait around for the inbox questions. Answer a lot of the others and you will get one now and then.
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I'm dating this girl at my school. We're very close and such, been dating awhile, exclusive, blah blah blah.
Anyway, I go in late on some days when I don't have class, and I just found this donut place by my house. Would it be too much if I were to show up during snack at school with a donut for her? I don't want to come off as like... overly sweet I guess. So, good idea or no? (link)
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Why wouldn't you want to come as being to sweet?
Come on, buy her a donut and reap the benefits!
Good idea. :)
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I'm dating a man I've known for several years and always been quitet fond of. We were friends first and are compatible on many levels, and we recently slept together. Afterwards he told me he thought of me more as a "friend with benefits." Meanwhile, I'm in love. To put it simply:
Women: compatibility + attraction = love
Men: compatibility + attraction = FWB
compatibility + attraction + X = love
I don't understand what's missing. What is "X"? (link)
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X= Wanting to be with someone sex or not.
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i actually asked him..and he was all im a nice person blah blah i look at peoples pages and i was tired and i accidently did it my bad..and im like >_> then HE was really talky..and im like wtf so it went on for an hour over random crap nothing big then it ended.. then an hour goes by and i go to ask him something..and hes all i dont want u to be upset but im not ready to be talking again.
and im like wtf i made no sign or interest of being friends again i just wanted to know something..so that led back to how i hurt him and what not..and how something in him tells him not to give me a chance.. so it ended badly though him being nice like that actually started to make me feel better...and it all died. so the ex of mine who knows this whole story. who im friends with still since why shouldnt i be?..well hes gonna really kick start his engine now because i was like a wreck afterwards.. though i put no interested in being friends again..and i wasnt the talkactive one and shit..he was.. so yah.. ohh and he admits that he did lie to me and that yeh he does care about me.. and im just like wtf. so yah my wonderful ex boyfriend is gonna go rip him one. :P (link)
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He is one confused and/or confusing guy!
Is he using drugs or something? Maybe he
has multiple personalities. :) Just kidding.
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okay i need advice (well obviously, haha) me and my friends are kinda of in a ''fight''. well i don't really know what to call it because we don't yell, or call each other names (to each others faces at least), and they are really good friends, but they are acting kind of mean. i don't know what to do. please don't tell me to find new friends, because i don't want to . i want these friends. a couple months a go we were fine, but some how it's just not the same. help me please, PLEASE!!
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Ask them why they are being mean. Maybe you accidentally did or said something that offended them. Talking is the best way to fix most problems. You can't fix something if you don't know what is wrong. So just ask. :)
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Well on my Palm Centro, i was texting my boyfriend, and he doesnt get any messages from me. Then he said he was trying to text me, but i never got one message. And its just the same with everyone else that i text or that text me. But then i noticed that where my bars are of how much service i have, theres this wierd triangular shape above it? anyone know whats wrong with my phone? HELP! (link)
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On my phone the triangle means you are roaming.
Basically you are out of your service area. There
should be little bars beside it that tell you how much signal you have. No bars no signal.
You might want to check into a phone service
that gives you a stronger signal in your area.
One that isn't roaming. Roaming costs you extra
money.
Unfortunatley, in some areas like mine, there
just isn't much of a signal without roaming.
If you want to get and send messages, you will
have to actually set your phone to roaming. It
helped me. Mine was always searching for a local
and it wouldn't let me send or receive. If you
set it to roam, it will stop all that looking for signal and probably let you text or receive calls
better.
I'm not familiar with your phone, but you might try going to settings, options and set it on roam.
See if it gives you some signal bars.
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i thought of making a new account and a new sn and all that shit..but why should i wash away memories and moments with others all because he wants to be an ass and check on me? idunno. :-\ (link)
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Well, that is true. I don't know much about facebook. I guess you just put up with him as
best you can. LOL
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so...my friend decided to turn around and ask for another shot on the whole thing, and so i was a bit skepty and she knew i needed someone to listen and not judge, so she did that..and she realized the good in me..and said she would help me get through this so she was by my side for a week.. then i started talking to one of my friends more and more and we ended up in a relationship that lasted 2 weeks..and we broke up over mutal feelings that we can only just be friends (and i realized today i did my resolution for this year and went into a relationship, took a risk and ended up closer with him) but he had learned a lot about nick..and even said that he knows guy talk and that he cares about me and that hes gonna kick start his engine..as in kick his ass and make him talk to me..and yah yah.. its been 22 days i havent talked to him.. the longest ive gone..and i want to make it a month so i can really say i made a month.. and im only 5 days short from that.. and i dont know.. i feel so lost and alone.
when we broke up on wednesday my mom asked me if i wanted to slit my wrists and shit..and it hurt that she said that because i knew she was refering to the nick thing.. and i dont know what to do.
i know hes trying to prove to me that i can survive without him..but i cant..and everyone sees that..and i have to fake and hide it and act like im okay.. he checks my away messages, my profile..my facebook.. hes watching me..and it hurts..and i dont know what to do. :-\ (link)
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You can survive without him and should totally ignore him. He is messing with your mind with his constant checking up on you while saying stay away.
He is the one with the problem, not you.
Start new facebook account and don't tell him anything about it. Same with any other accounts he knows about. This person isn't your friend.
You are not alone. Stop obsessing about this one guy and you will be able to see that. The relationship is not normal or healthy for you.
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20/f
This is kind of a legal question... but I put it into Etiquette because that's the closest.
I got my licence a couple of months ago (I'm not from America so I'm only a couple years late getting it!) and a month into getting it I accidently reversed into someone in a car park. I admit I wasn't paying as much attention as I should have been, and it was entirely my fault. Anyway, I got out of the car and apologised to the woman about 4 times. She was really nice and said it was fine, there was more damage to my car than hers (I had a tiny scratch on the bumper, and she had no damage.. it's a tow bar afterall) So since there was no damage, I got in the car and drove away.
A couple of weeks later my boyfriend (whos car I was driving) gets a phone call from the police. They heard about the incident and want to clear it up. I call back and the policeman who is dealing with the incident is on leave for a month, so I can't clear it up.
I haven't been able to rest ever since this happened, I'm so stressed out because I'm worried something is going to happen to me. I don't know what I've done wrong, or what is going to happen.
Should I go in and give a statement even though the policeman isn't there, just so it's off my head? Why would this woman go report me to the police? How much trouble can I get into? etc.
Hoping someone can help. Thanks. (link)
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Like Witty said, call them and ask what you need to do.
More than likely she needs a police report so her insurance company can get her car repaired. Even minor damage can cost a lot to repair these days.
She may have been fine with it, but maybe her husband wanted it fixed.
I doubt you are in a great deal of trouble. If you were they would have shown up at your door. :)
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i like being there for my friends, ill try to listen and give advice when my friends are in trouble. but the thing is im not good at advice because im more of a listener so its not really helping my friends so i feel really bad when it wont solve their problem,people say i dont need to fix their problem i know that, but i wanna at least know what to say when they're in trouble how can i be better at giving advices? (link)
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The adviser before me is right. Sometimes listening can be the best and most helpful thing you can do.
The best advice on giving advice is ...do not attempt to give advice on a subject you know nothing or very little about. Sometimes friends just need to say something out loud and have someone listen to what they have to say. :)
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okay, i'm a 15 year old female. i'm still in school and i need help on finding out what i wish to be. i really really love english and writing (and money (lol), so i think i want to go into that feild. i dont want to be a teacher, and im not really into the whole write for the newspaper as a job. i also love to read by the way. i would love for someone to give me some help or give me a couple choices on jobs including english/listerature. I am going to go to college for this. (link)
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Wow! Looks like you could do a bunch of things with an English Major. Here is the site I looked at. Has a very impressive list.
http://english.unc.edu/undergrad/careers.html
For even more lists and info, here is the search I used. I didn't look at them all, but there are a bunch of them. :)
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