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F.W.B. vs L.O.V.E.
I'm dating a man I've known for several years and always been quitet fond of. We were friends first and are compatible on many levels, and we recently slept together. Afterwards he told me he thought of me more as a "friend with benefits." Meanwhile, I'm in love. To put it simply:
Women: compatibility + attraction = love
Men: compatibility + attraction = FWB
compatibility + attraction + X = love
I don't understand what's missing. What is "X"?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Sometimes even if we have known a man for a long time, it does not mean everything will go smoothly when he becomes our man. You are in love with him but he thinks of you only as a friend. You can choose. You can stay and wait for him to finally think of you as "someone he loves" or you can let him go and just continue with your friendship minus the sex. Before you choose the first one, ask yourself though, are you willing to wait? what if he never loves you back? You see, whether you stay or not, if he will fall in love with you, he will. Think about this for awhile.
And as for your question, I think-
compatibility + attraction + right person = love.
Best of luck.
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usually it takes longer for guys to mature than girls. most of the time,girls are more into emotions while guys are more into f.w.b. It can always be flipped though. To me, the "X" could be personal preference. You know how when you don't even know a guy,you could say "Wow, i couldn't imagine doing that with him!" or "I would sooo do him!" the second meaning,you just think they're hot-but wouldn't want to date the person. "X" can be different in everyone and the possibilities are endless. The equation for love is different for everyone :D! So, find a guy who is the answer to yours;obviously this guy isn't :p. hope i helped, good luck!
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X= Wanting to be with someone sex or not.
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This isn't math class, it's real life.
There are many people I am compatible with and attracted too, it doesn't mean I'm in love with them.
There are also people I have been in love with who I was definately not compatiable with.
The heart doesn't do what makes mathematical sense.
Forcunately, your real-lfie problem does have a simple enough solution:
Talk about it.
If there is something you want from your arrangment with him that you aren't getting, speak up.
When he tells you what he does or doesn't feel for you, listen to him.
I would suggest you not beat yourself up however. Remmeber that if you love him, and he doens't love you, you aren't actually compatiable.
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