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how can i be better at giving advices?
i like being there for my friends, ill try to listen and give advice when my friends are in trouble. but the thing is im not good at advice because im more of a listener so its not really helping my friends so i feel really bad when it wont solve their problem,people say i dont need to fix their problem i know that, but i wanna at least know what to say when they're in trouble how can i be better at giving advices?
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k well.
im terrible at giving advice too
but dont try and give advice on a topic you dont understand or no nothing about
try and help them with what your heart is saying
dont make it to complicated thou
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The adviser before me is right. Sometimes listening can be the best and most helpful thing you can do.
The best advice on giving advice is ...do not attempt to give advice on a subject you know nothing or very little about. Sometimes friends just need to say something out loud and have someone listen to what they have to say. :)
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Actually, you ARE helping your friends by just listening!
A lot of people don't really WANT advice, they want someone to just listen to them and agree with them! lol
Ask questions ... as they answer the questions and talk through the problem, they work towards figuring out what it is they want to do. They probably already KNOW what to do, but are hoping to come up with a different solution.
Also, give your friends confidence affirming statements. Let them know they can handle whatever is bothering them, and that they will feel better/do better soon.
I also suggest reading some self-help books...watching programs on TV (like Dr. Phil)to pick up hints and tips on how to help someone work through an issue.
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advice on how to give advice? haha nice. well you can practice answering questions on here :) and i find it better to go home and think about the situation after a friend tells me the problem so i can give them the best possible advice i can think of, instead of just saying the first thing that comes to mind. try putting yourself in their situation and thinking of what YOU would do.
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