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bff's douchebag boyfriend.
ok so i asked this question a few months ago ([Link](Mouse over link to see full location).) . if you dont wanna read it; basically my bff and her bf had been going otu for 2 months and he obv didnt like her as much as she liked him, he was tagging along everwhere, he had a boring personality, and she acted much more not herself around her friends when he was around.
see, shes still going out with him. my other best friend and i (this girl is her best friend, too) confronted her a few weeks ago because we just couldnt take it anymore, we hate this kid soo much. and you were right. she said she was really happy right now and she didnt want to mess things up, but she listened to what we had to say and let us sound off. shes a great friend and we totally let it all out, uncensored, and she understood our opinions, didnt think we were jealous.
thing is its been nearly 5 months and im ready to rip my head off. i havent had one on one time with my bff in months, since early february. (and i have no classes, lunches, whatever with her in school). its partly because we're busy but partly because her weekends are filled with boyfriend time.
im happy shes happy but i cant standd this kid. hes rude in the way that he ignores us (her friends) when we're around, ive given up even trying to make conversation with him because it gets nowhere. there are no positive qualities in him whatsoever. and this is really damaging my bffs and mine friendships. what should i do?
thanks so much, i really apprecaite it, and sorry for the length:)
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Once boys enter the picture, they become the main focus. I know it is hard for friends to deal with, but it will happen to you guys too. It is normal for her to spend more time with him than with you.
Unfortunatley, we don't always like the boyfriends our friends choose. In the end, there isn't much that can be done about it. People don't date, become friends or marry guys based on weather or not the friends like them.
If you don't like her boyfriend, she may understand your feelings, but she will do what is best for her. That might be keeping her distance from those who can't get along with her boyfriend.
Weather you remain friends long term will depend on how tolerant you can be. If the guy is rude then don't hang out with them and hope for the best. Constantly telling her how much you dislike him though will eventually end the friendship.
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I was in a similar situation! I hated my bff's boyfriend because he was an a-hole to her and a liar But here's what I found out no matter what I said as her friend she had to see the situation 4 what it was on her own. Basically there's nothing you can do but be her friend and be there for her and it super sucks! To you ole boy is not the truth but something he is doing feels right for her and really its not his responsibility to make sure you guys as her bff's are happy just your friend. So try planning a girls day w/out him and try to keep it going so you can spend time with your friends w/out males.that will help! But in the meantime its a grin and bear it type situation. I'm sorry honey! Much Love!
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